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Why do people think..
Why do people think "well this is what all men do deal with it" when it comes to porn? Honestly, does every man in the world watch it? Isn't any woman confident enough to believe she is enough to please her man's sexual desires? In addition, why should one have to deal with something they feel is disrespectful? That's like saying that it's okay to be disrespected. While some people feel that it's okay, shouldn't those who feel otherwise have their wishes respected?
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Razhie is a perfect example of how men and women differ in this respect. Most men are visual learners, as well as, visual in nature. Since the early days of humans, men have relied on vision for survival; it takes a keen eye to be a hunter. Women have relied heavily on the minds and hearing to keep them and their children alive. So why is it so hard to understand that men are turned on visually and women are turned on mentally. Men choose there mates by what they see, women choose the mates by what they know. Your man has chosen you in large part because you turn him on, why do you question this? I have porn playing on our TV in our bedroom while we play for several reasons. The light from the TV allows me to see her, (remember, men are stimulated visually), with out the bright over head light. Two, it is less distracting then Everybody Loves Raymond.
Be well and stop trying to fight nature, be smart, use it.
P.S. As a side note and don't take this personally. Any women who does not pay attention to what her man's preferences are when it comes to porn is insecure beyond the point of foolishness. Your man revels himself in the porn he prefers to watch and read. If you want to know your man and his fantasies, watch and read with him, you may learn something you didn't know.
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I don't think that porn is something all men enjoy.
I know a good number personally who don't like porn at all.
I also know a good number who do.
Both the dos and the don'ts are good people, who I am happy to have as friends.
I've also been happy to have either as boyfriends.
Although you are probably right that many women over estimate the prevalence and meaningfulness of porn because of their own insecurities and their feeling of not being good enough, I don't think that if all women were more confident that men would look at less porn.
The two factors are simply not connected.
The simple truth is my boyfriend isn’t enough for me. Really he isn’t. I need other friends whom I can talk to about my other interests. I need Jane Austen novels for regular does of romance. I need mushy movies and anything with Brad Pitt in it. These things satisfy me in a way my boyfriend can’t, and ways that I don’t want him too.
I can’t expect my boyfriend to the fill the fantasy aspect of my mental health the way Brad Pitt or Mr. Darcy does. I don’t expect to be able to fill the fantasy aspect of his mental health the way the Vita Von Tease does online. In fact, I don’t want to fulfill that for him, but as long as his fantasies stay where they belong and in a way that is acceptable to me, I want him to enjoy them without guilt or shame. In the same way that I want to watch the last 30 minutes of Pride and Prejudice over and over again without him thinking that I am madly in love with Colin Firth and therefore don’t respect him…
If you feel disrespected in a relationship DUMP THEM. Period. End of story.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with a woman who says she doesn’t want to date someone who enjoys porn. I don’t feel the same way, but she is totally free to make that choice! What I do have a problem with is a woman who whines and bitches about pornography and tries to force their mates to change instead of simply saying what they really feel: It’s either them, or the porn.
You shouldn’t stay in a relationship where you feel disrespected. You shouldn’t date someone who enjoys porn if you are morally opposed to pornography just the same way you shouldn’t date someone who makes nuclear weapons for a living if you are morally opposed to bombing foreign countries.
Absolutely a partner should respect the opinion of the other but respecting something does NOT mean agreeing with it.
If you don’t like porn, and your partner does, they MIGHT choose to stop using it for your sake. OR they might not.
Either way, that is their choice.
Your choice is whether or not you can live with their choice.
Our power in life, is not to change others, it is to change ourselves and to either accept or reject to arrangements we have with other people.
So, if anyone out there doesn’t want to date someone who smokes or drinks or owns a cat or like Dr. Who or watches pornography it is THEIR JOB to stay out of those relationships and away from the people who they cannot reach a happy compromise with. It’s not the job of anyone who dates them, to agree with their opinions or just go along with their wishes.
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Probably 95 percent (random figure I just came up with) of guys with a computer watch porn. Porn was there before you were, and it will be there long after you're gone.
It's not a matter of pleasing your man's sexual desires; you could be banging him every hour on the hour and he would still watch porn. It's just the way guys are different from girls.
No one is forcing you to deal with something that is disrespectful. Unless he's addicted to pornography, there is a nothing wrong with it, and it would be disrespectful to try to get him to stop because of your own insecurities.
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1. Not ALL men watch porn.
2. Women watch it too.
Men probably know these porn stars aren't only fake, but set a bad example as to what sex "should be like". It's also a good reason why women shouldn't feel inadequate - It's not like men will compare you to them.
If a man you're with watches porn, it doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive or he doesn't love you any more. It's just sex. and sex is fun, right? Watching it and doing it are different.
If a guy you happen to be with watches porn, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. He could cut it out all together or do it without you knowing.. but would you rather it be what you don't know hurt you.. or would you be upset he's doing it behind your back? Is it even worth to get into arguments about? Not really..
People will have different views on this. Some people mind, some people don't.
Whilst I don't feel watching it is necessary, I doubt I'd get annoyed. over it. Heck, some couples even watch porn together.
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