I think you need to tell your guy you're sick of this break up, make up thing.
It would drive me nuts, I know. Tell him what you're feeling, and that you think you really love each other, but you're getting tired of this.
It sounds to me like he's sending you mixed messages. One day he loves you, one day he hates you...that's not good. He needs to know that, and you need to tell him.
I hope this works out!
-Siren =)

It's entirely possible that she feels the way you do about this. I don't think sex becomes less special the more a person's done it, really. To me - even though I've only been with one guy - it's always special 'cause it's kind of a bonding thing...
Ask her if you're curious. Tell her what's on your mind and ask her if the same kind of thing is on hers. ^_^
-Siren =)

Well, I have nothing published yet, but I started by going to the library and checking out a copy of Writer's Market 2003 and Writer's Handbook. I took the newest version (2004) and wrote down a bunch of agents and ways to contact them, etc. Look for agents who are actually looking for new talent - pay attention to the ones that have a high percentage of new writers.
Beware of agents that ask for money first off. They're not agents!
Real literary agents will get like 15% of your profit when you sell.
You might want to publish a couple of short stories first if you can - Doug Allyn told me he did that, and agents like writers that have been published, but it's not a necessity.
I can write 300 page novels, but I can't write short stories! Lol.
Be prepared for rejection - I'm sure you knew that already, though. Someone will bite, but it might not be the first person you talk to!
The Writer's Market will help you loads.
Good luck - lemme know if you get published so I can read your book! Lol
-Siren =)

Ah, this one...
All you can do is tell her flat out about all the dangers and for good measure, I suggest you tell her there's a lot of pain involved the first time.
Hell, I actually cried, and I never cry. Lol. Remind her of all the STDs out there and...just tell her you don't want anything to happen to her.
If she's absolutely set on losing her virginity, there's nothing you can do about it, aside from talk to her.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

They can tell. I think you can beg them not to tell your parents, but they're legally supposed to if your parents ask. I THINK. Don't hold me to it - This is what my friend told me when I was panicking about the same problem.
Good luck, and I hope everything goes okay.
-Siren =)

You shouldn't worry about a "popularity factor" if you like this guy. I mean, I'm not dating Mr. Popularity, but he's the sweetest guy ever, and I couldn't have picked a better guy.
Let them make fun of you if they want. Your opinion in this is all that should matter to you. You like the guy, he likes you, sounds like a good relationship to me!
Let what happens happen. Don't turn him down because he's not popular. You'll regret it if you do, I can promise you.
Go for it!
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Just be really gentle about it. Make the boy melt...Lol. Maybe wear a lightly flavored lipgloss (my personal trademark ^_^(bonnebell is great for this)).
Just a few suggestions!
Set the mood for it...at night is probably best, when the two of you are alone.
People don't usually forget their first kiss to begin with, but it's understandable that you'd wanna make it more memorable. Have fun!
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Well, if you have your period that day, wear a tampon. If not, then you don't even have to wear a pad. Your period might not come if it's just your second. Mine took four years to almost regulate itself, and that was after I went on the pill.
I was a pad wearer, too, but I discovered after awhile that tampons rock, lol. They're much more comfy and one hell of a lot less messy!
If you don't have your period before you get to the party, don't wear a tampon, but take one with you so you can remedy the situation if you end up with your period at the party.
Good luck/have fun!
-Siren =)

There are a few different types of birth control. The most commonly used is the pill.
The pill can have some nasty side effects, like nausea, headaches, breakthrough bleeding (like you have your period when you're not supposed to (I had this problem. I bled for three weeks, then it stopped. Lol.)), and in some really rare cases, it can cause blood clots.
It can also lighten your period, relieve some PMSish stuff, etc. It takes a month to start working. It's like 98% effective against pregnancy, which is why they tell you to use condoms, too. Those can sort of protect you from HIV, and help up the % effectiveness against pregnancy to about 99.9%.
There's another one, the shot - I'm not sure about the side effects of this one, but this one works, too, about 98% effective.
There's also a patch now...I don't know much about those side effects either, but I think this one's about 98% effective, too.
Your mom or dad might be able to help you decide.
I picked the pill because it's easier to remember to take a pill every day for me than it is to remember to change my patch every week, or get a shot every month or something, lol.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I think you do still have a chance with this guy. He dumped you because you never saw each other? He couldn't have expected to see you every day. Most relationships don't work that way. My guy and I have been dating for over 8 months, and during the summer, we didn't see each other every day. *Shrug*
Though this guy does sound a little indecisive. Think about if you WANT to be with a guy who'll dump you after two weeks because you didn't see each other every day. I wouldn't, but that's just me.
Good luck with all this!
-Siren =)

Ooh, this is a nasty situation...
To avoid tension between your sister, I suggest you find another guy. If you don't care that much about the relationship you have with your sister, then let the guy decide who he likes better.
Or - talk to your sister and tell her what's on your mind. If you two both like this guy equally, I suggest you both find another guy. The last thing you'd want is sisterly tension.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I suggest you tell him what's on your mind - what you just told us. "Now that we are together, he has changed," and you think he tries too hard to please me and becomes irritated easily, etc...
Just let him know stuff is bothering you and you think he needs to relax a little.
Communicate!
I hope everything works out!
-Siren =)

Mandy,
That's great that you're getting out. It always helped me not to mope around. ^_^
I can understand your worry completely, and it's totally valid. I worry about my guy cheating, but I know deep down that he loves me and wouldn't cheat on me.
All you can do is trust your guy.
We talk on the phone every few days, and he knows I'm worried. I tease him about "going off with some sexy Las Vegas showgirl" and he just tells me that he doesn't even see other girls.
It's not like girls don't hit on him, though, lol. He told me they did himself, but he also reassured me that the first words out of his mouth when they do are "I have a girlfriend," and he ignores them.
If you can contact your guy in any way, it'll probably help both of you. He'll be able to reassure you that he won't cheat on you. Your guy sounds like a sweetheart, and you sound like you have a good relationship. Just keep trusting and let him reassure you that everything's good. We all need that little extra bit of confidence. ^_^
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I don't think it's okay for a guy to check out other girls. There's no excuse for it.
My guy doesn't check out other girls, but if he did, it would probably bother me, just like it would bother him if I looked at other guys.
Girls and guys both get hurt easily (the sensitive guys, anyway.) Girls are just more open about it.
That's why I always urge people to open up to their significant others. Miscommunication = baaaad.
^_^
-Siren =)

You're not doing anything wrong. Guys are generally stupid (no offense, guys) and never realize a good thing when they see it.
I was pretty and all that in tenth grade, but no guys approached me in a school of over 2000 kids.
One guy liked me this past year, and we're still dating. *Shrug*
You just have to find a guy who likes you. Don't go looking for them - chances are you won't find the one you're looking for. He might pop up somewhere unexpected.
(I found mine in math class...Lol)
Just be patient. You don't have to have guys flocking after you.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Mandy,
You need to chill with your girlfriends. My guy left late June for Vegas and he's not coming back 'til late August. I was really depressed for a few days, then I decided I needed to stop it, and went and hung out with my friends.
The best way to make time fly is to have fun while waiting.
I know you don't want to leave, but you probably should. He's not gone forever, just for a few months!
Oh, and a month and a half is not too soon to fall in love. I fell head over heels for my guy in almost less than a month, and our nine-month mark is on the 14th.
Go out with your friends. It'll help. Trust me on this.
Hope you feel better and all that!
-Siren =)

Hey Jessica =)
If you're going out with him, wouldn't that imply that he likes you?
If you don't like him, then you should drop the relationship before you end up hurting him.
To me, it sounds like you're both a little young to really be getting into this kind of stuff. It also sounds like you're not really going out, if he never answers the phone, and you even think you're not ready for a boyfriend.
If that's the case, then you need to tell him that.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

If there's something bothering you involving your boyfriend, you HAVE to open your mouth and tell him what it is.
TELL the boy that it bothers you that you check out other girls, and all that stuff.
Your worry is totally valid. I mean, if my guy was going to a different school, and told me he checked out other girls, I'd get pissed...Lol.
I hear about so many problems that could be fixed just by opening up and telling the other person what the problem is...don't become part of that. This may be fixable.
Hope I helped - good luck!
-Siren =)

First of all, I think you should tell your friend the truth.
The heart wants what the heart wants, and you can't help it.
I had a friend date one of my exes - it hurt in the beginning, since I wasn't over him, but then I got over him and I thought they made a cute couple.
Explain to her your situation. She may get a little pissed, but she has to understand that you can't help who you like.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Well, there's no telling what will happen, but it sounds to me like your affection is diminishing. Sometimes if people hang out every day, they do get sick of each other.
I can only hang out with one of my friends for three days in a row without her driving me nuts, for instance.
If you think taking a break from the relationship - by break I mean like not hanging out, calling each other, or anything - is a good idea, then go for it.
If not, tell him you don't want to, and just try hanging out less.
I hope it all works out!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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