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how do i?
my best friend is really kewl and everything but she's stubborn and she wants to have sex but she just turned 14 and she doesn't even have a boy frined but how do i talk to her about the dangers and stuff?
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confused
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well one day just be like look i think we should talk about this b4 u do it! n just tell her the danger and stuff..tell her it's really not so safe becuz u can get aids n stuff like that!
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well first of all u need 2 confront ur bf. tell her wat u think about her and her problem. then work out a agreement but make sure u respect her decisions
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Ok im only 14 and i have had sex before..tell her to wait till she falls in love with the right guy and when its right it will just come dont just let her give it up to anyone.!. Hope i Helped.
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Ah, this one...
All you can do is tell her flat out about all the dangers and for good measure, I suggest you tell her there's a lot of pain involved the first time.
Hell, I actually cried, and I never cry. Lol. Remind her of all the STDs out there and...just tell her you don't want anything to happen to her.
If she's absolutely set on losing her virginity, there's nothing you can do about it, aside from talk to her.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Well I went through the same thing with one of my friends. It isn't always a fun conversation to have. But you just need to tell her that it is a very special moment and that she wait untill she is absolutly sure that she is ready!
And let her know that there is a lot of pain involved....maybe that will cathc her attention. But if she is determined to have sex than she will do it, but don't worry there is nothing you can do about it after she has already had it.
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tell her about STD's and how if ppl find out they'll call her a slut and a whore...also about how she might get pregnant and her other friends might get mad at her. and if she sayz lemme do wut i want..say "i hope your parents dont find out", so your kinda scarin her outta it...
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jus kinda scare her outa it..tell her about STD's n stuff n tell her shes gunna get a bad rep. but in the end if she decides 2 b sexually active theres rly nuthn at all u can do.but jus try 2 make her scrd!
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That's a really hard position you're in. Sometimes friends can block out help from people because they trust their instincts so much. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't value your opinion or help.
You have to just be totally blunt about speaking to her. The next time she brings it up, just plain out tell her "Yeah, we need to talk about that."
Yes, sex does have some pleasurable qualities, but they should be saved for when people are in love. Because if they're not, there are other qualities about sex that will make her regret it BIG TIME. I think that you should just set them on the table for her. Show her that there are some major issues she would have to worry about after she's done it:
~She'd probably be labeled as an "Easy Target" for most guys. And trust me, that may sound like a good label at the time for her, because of all the action and attention she'd get, just that's a horrible thing to be known as.
~She would have to deal with the threat of teenage pregnancy. Ask her if she would really want a baby at the age of 15. Yes, there are some birth controls that can be used, but none of them are really 100%. Condoms break. Birth control pills are 99.9% affective. There is a chance that the other .1% will slip up. The only truely affective and safe birth control is not doing it all together.
~Is she ready for the risk of death? Believe it or not, sex can kill you. AIDS, STDs, there are so many health threats that come along with the package. It only takes one time for a disease to pass through. You have NO IDEA where your partner has been, so you don't know how many people he's slept with and, unknowingly/indirectly, you've slept with.
If your friend knew that, I doubt that she'd still consider it. You have to bring some of these issues up with her before she does anything drastic.
There is a possiblility that she won't listen, but she can never say that you didn't try or care.
Good luck!
<3
~A.Good.Lie~
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Wow, only 14. Just sit her down and say hey, it could really ruin your life! Do her parents know? Thats not even the worst part-she doesn't even have a boyfriend! Tell her that she could pregnat and other things. Plus, people could call her a slut or whatever! Hope I helped!
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theres not really that many dangers. But, 14 is very early. Probably the earliest anyone should even consider it. Try to convince her to not do it, tell her that she has the rest of her life to do it. If it looks like she's going to do it anyways, try to hook her up with your best guy friend, he'll probably like you more for it, and if its a really good guy, then maybe they can have a strong relationship afterwords. Also, encourage her to use as much protection as possible and make sure her and her partner know how to use a condom properly (read the back of the package, you'll be surprised how much you didnt know)
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well just start talking bout guys then bring up the subject and then tell her she should understand and if she is going to keep acting that way then find a new friend who dont want to be a slut when you have sex you want it to be pecial for the first time so yeah just do what i say if you think that the advice is good
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Well, ultimatly this is her desision. She probably already knows alot of the dangers, but ask her if she's doing it for the right reasons more so. Like ask her if she's doing it just becuase everyone else has done it (so to speak) or because she feels insecure and she feels like she needs something like that. Remind her not to do it with any random guy, becuase I gaurentee ya'll are at that age where the guy WILL TALK. And of course tell her about the dangers, and how easy it is to get infected with an STD, and get pregnat, ect.
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Dear Confused,
alright, so your friend wants to be sexually active and it makes you uncomfortable. You should tell her how you feel and that your worried about her. You should tell her that she's to good to throw away something that important on any boy. She should wait until she finds the perfect guy to give it all up to.
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