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uncomfortable relationship
He's 20. I'm 16.
My current boyfriend started as a crush. We didn't rush into things we started out as just friends. Now that we are together he has changed. I think he tries too hard to please me and becomes irritated very easily. He seems so insecure and ...well ... just different from the person I knew when we were just friends. Our phone conversations have become a so unbearable I hardly return his calls. HE senses that there is some tension but I don't think I can explain to him exactly what's wrong. How can I get him to be himself around me again?
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I wouldn't date someone 4 years older than you at your current age. Remember the Age/2+7 rule.
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Theres a pretty big age gap there. Things always go wrong with big age gaps. If you really want to stay with this guy then try just having fun with him, don't take the relationship so seriously. Go play pool with him or shoot hoops or something, and most of all make sure he's happy. Every now and then ask what he wants to do. Maybe make a day for him. Dress up nice, make him dinner and just make sure he's comfortable. It sounds like he doesn't relax enough when he's around you also. Maybe you should go over to his house and cuddle while you watch a movie, something like that. Leave one in the inbox and let me know how things go.
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wow insecure of course since hes dating a lil kid
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The first thing you need to do is talk to him about it..i know its going to be hard but you have to..something like this may help you come closer. well i hope i helped. if you need anything else just IM me @ MiAssIzLykeWoh13.
Oh yeah and if the age has ever had anything to do with it. just know that age is nuttin but a number and its nothing big.!.
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Maybe tell him about what your thinking or drop some hints like how come ur not as funny anymore and maybe when he hears that he'll realize its ok for him to be himself when hes with you..hope i helped
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hey...well fiRst off, u can`t just let him stay like this..yOu bOth knOw he`s nOt beinq himself. sO maybe it`s because he likes u and want`s tO impreSs yOu? but, he prObably knOws he`s nOt actinG nOrmal..sO yOu shOuld talk tO him abOut it..he`d prObably be mOre cOmfOrtable beinq himself arOund yOu and maybe he needs yOu to tell him that =) hOpe i helped
*mariia
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I think you should talk to him and ask him wuts up with his behavior towards you now that you two are goin out..and ask him if he could start acting normal towards you..
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well i think you should start to give him hints about what u like most about him and if he doesnt get it then you should just tell him the story!!!
I hope it works out
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I suggest you tell him what's on your mind - what you just told us. "Now that we are together, he has changed," and you think he tries too hard to please me and becomes irritated easily, etc...
Just let him know stuff is bothering you and you think he needs to relax a little.
Communicate!
I hope everything works out!
-Siren =)
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you can tell him that u r startin to feel uncomfortable, and it feels as if he's actin like sum1 else, and u miss the old him
just try to talk, i kno that u don't think u can explain it, but practice talkin to him by talkin to a pillow or sumthin, eventually it will get easier for u to explain, just tell him kind wut u told us
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