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I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

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I mailed out a box/pagae 2 weeks ago. Been tracking it and it says this. what does this mean though?

Label/Receipt Number: 0306 1070 0002 9365 5113
Status: Delivered

Your item was delivered at 7:50 AM on November 13, 2006 in BURBANK, CA 91510.

Wird because I sent it to a 91523 zip code and it says 91510.

It means that it arrived at a large post office in Burbank on that day and time. Smaller post offices in smaller towns won't be involved with tracking services. I'm sure the package made it to the right post office. If not, they would send it back to you. It could also just be an error in the report. Mistakes happen. They wouldn't deliver a package to the wrong person. :)

If you are really worried, I'm sure there is a number you can call. If you can't find anything, just ask the person you sent it to if they got it.

is it normal that i am like DESPERATE for a bf? i mean i would take any guy that had a good personality. i just want something real and a commitment. Is this normal or no. If he ain't gonna give me the real deal though i'd rather have no one......what's your opinions on this?

Yeah, it's definitely normal to feel that way, especially as teenager. However, don't let your feelings control your actions. If you feel desperate for a boyfriend you will be more driven to make dumb, hasty choices. Keep a level head and you'll be just fine. Good luck. :)

my boyfriend wants me to give him a lap dance. i would but i feel kind of weird. any suggestions?

There's no harm in trying if you are comfortable with it. If you're bad at it oh well. If you're good then great. If you aren't comfortable with something like this yet, then tell him so. Don't worry about it so much. Just go with it. Good luck. :)

there is this guy who i like and he did the weirdest thing he went up to me put his forehead against mine and then blew in my face and walked away...what the hell was that about????????????????????????

Who knows. Guys can be really strange. Maybe he likes you. Maybe he was trying to figure out if you liked him. Maybe he was flirting. Maybe he was just trying to annoy you. Only he knows. Ask him. :)

ok soo im a girl and im on my period and im getting sick of it because im allergic to a lot of stuff in medicines so i really cant take anything for bloating or cramps. so as far as cramps go i try to use the heating pad and sometimes that helps but like when im at school i cant. and as far as bloating? i have no idea any ideas?

Nobody (that I know of) on this website is a doctor. Any advice you get on here is probably going to be totally useless. Ask your doctor! Your doctor knows exactly what allergies you have and will probably have a very good knowledge of the possible things out there that could help you. Asking your doctor is your best bet for finding something that will actually work! Good luck. :)

This may sound really dumb but I get really nervous just before I see my boyfriend. Like I start shivering and not feeling hungry or sick and I get a weird feeling in my stomach. I usually have to pretend to my bf that I'm cold so I'm shivering. If someone asks my a question my voice trembles ans I have to swallow about 3 times during the time I'm talking. I hate it, it feels awful and I really want to be able to see him without feeling so nervous and edgy all the time. Please, does anyone know what this is and how I can fix it???

Thanks

It's probably being caused by adrenaline.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adrenaline

I don't know of any ways to reduce adrenaline other than using some stress-management techniques. Take slow long breaths, relax all the muscles in your body one at a time, go for a quick jog, talk yourself down, meditate, and more. Good luck. :)

14/F

please help! okay so 2 nights ago i masturbated for the second time and again felt absolutley nothing. i mean i felt it but it didnt feel good or bad it didnt feel like anything. i stuck my finger up there and nothing happened. whats wrong with me!!

my way of masturbating really taht feels good is making a fist and doing a hitting pounding motion on my bladder lower area. it feels really good.

whats wrong with me. any ideas why i cant feel anything and why the "hitting pounding" feels good!!!!!

Many women aren't stimulated by vaginal sex. They only feel pleasure from stimulation of the clitoris. The clitoris is located close to where you are hitting. Look at these websites. They explain what the clitoris is, where it's located, what orgasms are, and how to make them happen. There's a whole lot of other information on the site, too. Good luck. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/vagina.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation_howto.htm

Ok so i need help.Theres a boy i like.And we flirt alot but im not pretty to like make him want me.(as in going out). So i just need some tips.What should i do?

Thanks!!
Lindsey

Never think that you aren't pretty enough to date someone. If he's flirting with you he probably likes you too. Remember that you are your worst critic. I'll bet you're attractive. Give yourself a little more credit. :)

As for what to do, keep flirting. Try to make it more direct though. Test the waters a little and see how he responds. If you get good results from that, it would be a good idea to come out and tell him that you like him. It would be his move from there. Be confident in yourself and you might end up in a relationship with him. Good luck!

I AM LIKE FREAKING OUT RIGHT NOW! Last week I was 120 exactly, and all of the sudden I weighed myself and I am 129! I am on my period so I dont know if that affects anything, but I am about to go on an exteme diet. Does anyone know why this happened all of the sudden? 14/f, Im not pregnant or anything like that..

Don't be so concerned with how much you weigh. The number means nothing. It's how you look that matters. People don't go around with signs that say how much they weigh. All that is presented to others is the appearance of your body. If it doesn't look like you gained 9 pounds then what does it matter? Keep in mind that your weight can vary up to 5 pounds within a day and that yeah, menstruation can affect it even more. You'll probably go back to 120 after your period. 120 is a very healthy weight, so don't be so concerened with it. There's no need to weigh yourself every week. Just take a look in the mirror. I'm sure you look great! When you do weigh yourself, say once a month or so, do it in the morning after you've gone to the bathroom and before you eat anything. That will give you the most accurate measurement.

i think im asking for too much for christmas. im not sure if all the gifts im getting are neccesery. hes my list of gifts that my parents are buying and tell me if im asking for way too much.

1. new digital camera $200-$250
2. ipod nano $150-$200
3.psp $200
4. psp games about $40 each
5. abercrombie clothes $105
6. stuff from bath and body works $15
7. movies $40

and more that i forgot. honestly, is that too much for my parents to buy? i dont wanna seem like a spoiled brat. my parents are wealthy - they wont have trouble affording it but i dont know.

Its perfectly okay especially if your parents are wealthy. It's not like they HAVE to get everything on the list. It's just a list of some of the things that you want. I always used to ask my parents for a lot of expensive things. My lists looked much like this. I usually got one or two things off of that list and other, less expensive things that they got on their own. My parents aren't wealthy. If they were, they probably would have gotten me a few more of the things I wanted. I see no problems at all with this. People that are wealthy get more stuff. That's just the way it goes. If you didn't something would be wrong. If you're spoiled, which I don't think you are, your parents are at fault, not you. You're not spoiling yourself. Ask for what you want and let your parents do with your list what they will. You're just asking. You're not the one doing the buying. The decision is always up to your parents what they get. Good luck. :)

i think about what my husband did to me all of the time, i can't stop. i know i need therepy for it but in the meantime...
i found out about an affair he had through finding love letters written to a co-worker that he claims is just a friend. what makes me even angrier is she came to our baby shower and baptism. what a lot of nerve! i would love to have it out with her too. she is married with two kids as well. i know it wouldn't give me the satisfaction that i want because if she is that low to come to our family functions, well..
how will i ever trust my husband again, he is so secretive i hate that more than anything. i have talked about everything with him but i just can't trust that the answers he gives me aren't just a waste of my time. what am i going to do? i want to fix our marriage esp. for our child.

Marriage counseling is the best thing you can do right now. You're not going to just start trusting him again. He needs to earn that trust somehow and a marriage counselor can help this happen. Only with help, can you get through this. It sounds like you want it to work out badly enough, so I believe that it will. You need to be confident that it will too. If you seek the help that you need, you'll have every reason to be confident. Remember that it's okay to get help. Sometimes even married couples aren't on the same page. You would still be solving your problems on your own. The counselor would only be giving you guidance. Good luck. :)

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, and i am 16 and he's 19. But it's alot different because we've known eachother for like all of our lives we have grown up in church together and he's a really good clean christian guy. And i am a really good clean christian girl and he's everything ive been looking for. And i know he's the one for me and i know without a doubt that i love him with all of my heart. But he used to smoke ciggarettes and he quit like 2 years before we started dating but he still does it like once every two weeks and i didnt know that...so he's basically been lying to me for like 4 months??? And i had to find out he was doing this from his brother...he had no intention in telling me! But i know or at least i feel 100% sure he hasnt lied to me about anything else but i just cant believe he would do that. And we got into a HUGE argument yesterday but we kinda made up, but things arent the way that they used to be you know? I just dont know what to do? I never thought he would keep something from me?? What do i do?

One of the most important things in a relationship is not to accuse the other person of anything. That's what causes most arguements and depletion of trust. You need to have a lot of respect for the other person and always give them the benefit of the doubt in every situation. It's all about how you go about approaching a situation. Instead of attacking him by telling him that you found out and you don't trust him anymore, make it a very calm conversation. Make him tell you himself. Ask him directly in a nice way. If he asks you why you want to know, say you're curious. If he lies, then you tell him what you found out, but you don't accuse him of lying. If he asks you if you trust him tell him that you do, you just want to get everything cleared up. Make him come clean himself. Give him as many chances as he needs. You need to realize that there's always a good reason why a person does anything. Think back on your own life. Lets say you didn't do your homework once. There was a good reason why you didn't. It might not be a good enough reason for the teacher, but it was a good enough reason for you or you would have done it. Since you knew that your reason wasn't good enough for the teacher, but didn't feel like you should be punished for it since it was a good reason, you might make up a story or add something else to the real story so you could get away with it. That's what your boyfriend did. He was afraid of what you might think and that you might not accept it. Right now he needs you to be supportive of him. Talk about his problem. Smoking isn't okay. Don't let him use the excuse that he needs to relax. There are tons of much healthier ways to relieve stress. Since he was a smoker in the past, tell him your concerns about him becoming one again. If he wasn't ashamed in some way of his actions, he wouldn't have hidden them from you. That shame usually means that he would want to stop. You can help him stop. Be as kind, caring, and as understanding as you can. I know that what he did hurt you. He knows it too. Next time instead of arguing with him, tell him how his actions make you feel in a kind, calm way. If you are calm about it, he'll get upset that he hurt you instead of angry because you are yelling. People make mistakes, but they always learn from them. He will think twice, maybe even three or four times now before hiding something from you. This will make him even more trustworthy than he has been. So, in a nutshell, have a calm conversation with him about his problem and try to come up with a solution. Your relationship is on the rocks only if you put it there. Be positive and confident, and you can easily get through this. Good luck. :)

i really like this guy but he is 19 and im 15 he really likes me too and i know that im young but i really have never felt like this in my life and i feel soo comfortable with him he makes me laugh and gives me hope in life like no other could i reall would like to call this love but im just not sure anyways to the part about the whole sex thing i have had sex with him 2 times sine we have been together im on birth control and we use condoms am i a slut or a whore for having sex at so young of an age and i dont regret doing it either because it feels soo right with him please answer my questions i just need to know :/

Others may think so if they hear about it, but no you're not a slut in any way. However, what you are doing might not be a very good idea. Maybe you feel all those wonderful feelings for him, but he doesn't necessarily feel the same about you. The age difference makes the chances of this higher. It's very unhealthy to love someone as much as that and share physical intimacy when they do not feel the same way about you, especially at a young age. It's hard to separate lust from love. You could just be being used and that is an awful experience.

There's always a possibility that he really does have feelings for you of course. Ask him. Remember that sometimes people lie. Don't let love make you blind. If he says he does tell him he needs to prove it. You don't have to be mean about it, try to make it cute. If he's just in it for the sex, he'll sweet talk the crap out of you. Don't fall for it. See through to the real him. As amazing as he might appear, it's what's on the inside that matters. Try to look past your strong feelings for him for a minute and make sure that he's good on the inside too.

It's very good that you are using birth control and condoms, way to go. You seem really smart and responsible, so I'm sure you'll be able to make the right decision. Good luck. :)

i need a list of famous people named james fast! helpp!

Here's a whole slew of them. Good luck!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James

sixteen/female.

what happens when a girl gets off by being fingered? my boyfriend did this to me twice, once just "feeling around" and the next actually trying to accomplish what's supposed to happen, haha. but neither of us knew what happens when a girl does get off, so we stopped. this may be a rediculous question, but i never masturbated and we're both inexperienced because our realtionship has never been about "doing stuff". help pleaseee.

This link explains it very well. Browse around the website, there's a ton of must-know information for you on there. Good luck. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm

I'm thinking of getting a new hairstyle but I don't really know if I can explain it to the barber well. I want to have my hair staight up and spikey with red stipes. Does that certain style have any kind of name or something?

The best advice I can give you is to find a picture of someone with that hairstyle and bring it with you, or if you are artisically inclined, make a simple drawing. It probably doesn't have a name. Just give a good description to your hair stylist. Good luck. :)

So today i was at play practice and i tried to throw up after i ate like 3 or 4 times but i couldnt do it. But after i tried my stomach just hurt like no other. I dont want to do it but i cant help it. I feel like its the only thing i can control

If you are not bulemic yet, you are on your way to becoming so. You need to realize that you are not in control. Can you control yourself from wanting to throw up? Can you control the feelings that make you want to hurt yourself? Please look at this website and seek help.

http://www.coolnurse.com/eat_disorder.htm#bulimia

If you'd like, these hotlines should be able to help you get started.

Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention
1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8am-noon daily, PT)

Eating Disorders Center
1-888-236-1188

Good luck. :)

The guy that I am dating, his older sister was involved in a car accident early this morning. Her collarbone is broken, she has a sprained neck and a messed up hip ligament. One of her friends who was in the car with her, was killed. So today he had to drive to his sisters dorm room, (which is right next door to the girl who was killed) to get some of his sisters things because she is comming home until she gets better. He told me "i saw some faces, and heard crying that i never want to hear again." and I know he just feels completely horrible and is going to be really down for a while. So I thought I might make him a care package to help. The thing is, I always make care packages for girls, so I'm not exactly sure what to put in it for a guy? I thought since its getting cold, hot chocolate, and maybe some movies. but i need more things in it, and I don't know which movies would be the best for this situation. If you have any ideas, please let me know! I appreciate it!

Popcorn, movie tickets, cookies, a video game, a baseball cap, one of those daily rip off calendars with jokes, inspirational quotes, or something he would like, and an inexpensive book about his favorite team or sport are some of the ideas that I could come up with. Your ideas were all great. Finding things for guys is hard. I'm sure that he will love whatever you get him. At this time, the thought is just as important as what the gift actually is. Good luck. :)

IF you are not using your runescape account can you plz send your account user name and password. To my email it is Candyman335@hotmail.com

Thank you guys who send me it and have a good day

Please read the information given on the websites below and reconsider your request.

http://kbase.runescape.com/lang/en/aff/runescape/viewarticle.ws?article_id=2076
http://kbase.runescape.com/lang/en/aff/runescape/viewarticle.ws?article_id=2073

Also, delete this question or I will personally report you to Jagex as should anyone else that uses Runescape and sees this. Have a nice day. :)

okay a couple questions...
i have a bf
i love him
and we have had sex b4
but with my bra on
ijm scared cus i have inverted nipples
and also.. i dont kno if i should shave my pubes or not
please help

If you are that uncomfortable with your body you shouldn't be having sex. I can see why you are though. What you need to do is come to terms with how you look. If your boyfriend loved you as much as you loved him he wouldn't care. He may think they're cute, he may think they're cool, he may even laugh a little. You need to be able to handle any kind of reaction. If he laughs it probably doesn't mean he thinks it's funny. Many people laugh out of shock or surprise because they don't know how else to respond. Don't let his reaction hurt your feelings. He will accept it much easier and faster than you have. Build up the courage and talk to him about it first. Tell him about your condition and tell him how it makes you feel. I'm sure he will be veryyy understanding. If you feel comfortable enough at that point show them to him. Don't do it during sex. Make it separate from sex. You don't want to surprise him with it while you're having sex because his reaction will probably be much stronger. Shave your pubes if you want. I mean gosh, he's already had sex with you so I don't think it really matters. If you want to know what he prefers just ask. Good luck and make sure you are using a reliable type of protection unless you are trying to get pregnant. :)

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