Aww, poor guy, had his heart broken...
If he trusts you so much, stick with him. You need to reassure him that you won't hurt him. I have a friend in your situation.
I suggest you ask him yourself if he likes you. I say never go through friends while dealing with a guy you like. With a shy guy like this, it's hard to tell what he's thinking - unless you ask him.
Once you figure out what's going on in his head, decide what to do. Just friends, maybe more...etc.
I hope everything works out!
-Siren =)

I really, really doubt it.
Your period occurs when an unfertilized egg desintegrates, and all that stuff. If you were pregnant, the egg would be fertilized and not disinegrate.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

It's totally understandable that you'd want both your parents approval. I made my parents go to dinner with my guy and I so my dad could get to know him.
I suggest you sit down and talk to him about the fact that you really want his approval, and you're not sure why he doesn't approve in the first place.
It could also really be a father thing - his little girl is really growing up. I mean, you're having a baby! It must be hard for him to grasp.
Give him time - he'll come around.
Fathers always take more time, I hear.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

When a tampon is in right, you shouldn't feel it at all.
It MIGHT be that they're new to you. I remember feeling uncomfortable at first when I first started with tampons, but you should be feeling the string, not the tampon itself.
If you feel the tampon, push it in a little further.
You should also be using the regular - or slim - size tampons if you haven't been using them that long. If it's the wrong size, it could also be uncomfortable. I reccomend Playtex Slimfits, or Tampax Pearl (regulars). Those are what I use.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

It depends on the person. When I was 14, I was too young. I wasn't ready.
The only person who can tell if they're ready is the person. If they can take all the risks and everything, think everything over and decide that it's a good idea, then they may very well be ready.
I have a friend who lost her virginity at 14, and she was ready. Some people are ready sooner than others. *Shrug*
I would really urge the person to wait 'til they're legal before have sex, but it's not really a HUGE issue.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

You're young - you can afford to wait to do things with a guy. I mean, making out is fine, but sex is another issue entirely.
Kissing comes pretty naturally, so you don't have much to worry about there. Just don't use too much tongue...Lol
Sex can definitely wait 'til you find the right guy - or at least a guy you can really trust. Sex is a very, very intimate thing, and you've gotta really care about the guy - and be able to trust him. I urge you to wait until you're legal - the age of consent is 16 in a lot of places - so you can get birth control, and you won't have to worry too much about getting pregnant.
Wait for the right guy. He'll come along. ^_^
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Just chill. Hang with him every day if you can before you leave. You don't have to do anything super special - my boyfriend and I had been together 7 months before he left for Vegas. We hung out every day for a week before he left, and so far we've both been faithful. *Shrug*
If you're determined to do something more...interesting before he leaves - try a strip tease, lol.
Music, layers, tease him...the guy will never forget it. Lol.
It's only two weeks - not too long. You two will survive. ^_^
Hope I helped a little!
-Siren =)

Convince your mother that your friends are totally responsible. Maybe let them talk to your mom and explain to her that they're safe drivers, etc.
Explain to your mom your reasoning for wanting to ride around with your friends - a lot of parents will respond to a logical chat.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

There's no way to "get" him to like you, really. He doesn't feel a romantic attraction to you, but it's possible that it could develop. I can totally understand the wanting to be with someone thing. I have a friend going through the same thing right now. All you can do is hang out with him - maybe he'll give the romantic stuff a chance. You never know - be optimistic!
-Siren =)

Well, I'm guessing if you've had sex before, your hymen ("cherry") was probably already broken.
Four times is a lot...he might have hurt you. I'd be careful. That areas is sensitive - it's possible to get all ripped up down there if he wasn't gentle.
Not sure what else to tell you. Hope I helped a little!
-Siren =)

Aww!
I like Crash and Burn by Savage Garden. The chorus is romantic. I don't remember how it goes, though...haven't heard it in awhile.
*thinks*
Hm...I'm not sure, really. I've always been bad at associating songs with relationships.
It'd help if I knew a little more about you two. How long have you been dating? What kind of a relationship do you have? What do you feel when you're with him? That kind of stuff.
If you want more ideas, get back to me and I'll do the best I can. ^_^
-Siren =)

Oy vey. I had this problem. Right on my neck, too. Lol. I wore my hair down for a week and put Clinique airbrush concealer on it. That is a GREAT concealer, by the way.
I really reccomend that. I don't know if it actually works, but I hear you can put a spoon in the freezer and press it onto the hickey - supposed to make it lighter, or something.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Just do whatever she asks you to do.
Be GENTLE, first off. I don't think you CAN go about it without hurting her the first time, but it's sweet that you want to try. Tell her to relax if she's tense. I hear it helps with the pain.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Oh yeah!
Black has a lot of different colors mixed into it. There are bluish blacks, greenish blacks, purplish blacks, etc...you have to be able to see the little colors in it, though.
Black goes with everything, I think, because it has so many other colors in it.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Sounds like you like the chase. I had that problem in ninth grade. I'd like a guy, and when he'd start to like me, I'd stop liking him. I have never been afraid of commitment - I just liked the feeling of chasing a guy I liked, not knowing if he liked me, etc...that whole thing.
Don't worry about it - that should stop at some point. It stopped for me when I encountered a guy I didn't have a crush on who kind of got me to fall for him. Lol.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I would wait, simply because you are, in fact, young. I'm not sure you're legal yet. The youngest legal age to have sex I've heard of is sixteen, I think.
The final decision, though, is up to you. You don't want to lose your virginity to someone, then look back at it and wish you hadn't, do you? Wait until you find a partner you really, really care for.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I think you should tell your parents you've been dating.
You never know - their reaction might surprise you. I mean, I was utterly shocked when my mom said "oh - well, not happy about it, but not stopping you" when I told her my boyfriend and I are planning to get an apartment together when we graduate.
Just sit them down calmly and explain to them that you know you weren't supposed to have a boyfriend until you finish high school, but you couldn't help what happened - you fell for this guy, and you've been dating.
Just tell them calmly, and they may surprise you. Parents are disgustingly understanding sometimes. You never know. ^_^
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I don't see why you wouldn't stay with him.
He doesn't pressure you, he says he really loves you and respects you...sounds like a good guy to me.
Those are RARE. Keep this one. Just don't let him pressure you into anything you don't wanna do. I doubt you would, but *shrug*.
I say stay with him unless he does something to make you think he's an ass, lol.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Tell him what you just told us; that your conversations always seem to die, and you'd really like to be able to talk to him, but he never really...talks. Explain to him what's going on in your head right now, and see if you two can't fix the situation.
Start the relationship with communication! Talk, talk, talk! Lol.
It might be that he's a little uncomfortable with you. Three weeks isn't too long a time.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I don't think he understands the meaning of the word "love," honey.
He sais he still cares about you, but when you asked if he'd go out with you again, he sounds like he's saying no?
I think you should find yourself a new guy. All this one's doing is hurting you and confusing you. Don't you want a guy who'll love you and respect you?
I would forget about him, as hard as it may be to do so.
Hope everything works out!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

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