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akward/ silent boyfriend
heheh i know this sounds stupid, but whenever me n my b/f are alone 2gether, its like we dont talk much, and we feel really akward, like were forced 2 be hangin out 2gether.. which def. isnt the case tho. i mean, i try 2 be all outgoing and stuff, but i feel like he doesnt even wanna talk even tho its awkward in the car.. any ideas 2 get rid of the akward silences besides bringing up random convos? cuz i already do that... he just answers my question, then doesnt expand on it.. and im always the one askin Qs about his life.. he never asks about mine in person... see, hes a totally different person online than in person.. when hes IM'ing me, he talks like hes happy 2 be with me, and flirts alot, but i dont think he feels comfortable around me yet cuz we only been goin out 3 weeks.. help anyone?
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It's only been three weeks so slow down. Sometimes people don't transition well from friend to boyfriend (or friend to girlfriend) and it's awkward for them. He's trying to find out where he stands in the relationship, so don't pressure him so much. Sometimes people are also just weird with different forms of communication. For example, I'm completely fine in person and online, but I'm really awkward on the phone. There isn't really an explanation for it, it's just the way things are. So if it makes you uncomfortable, talk to him about it and find out what the issue is. Just make sure you don't sound like you're accusing him- he'll only get defensive and it'll make things worse.
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Tell him what you just told us; that your conversations always seem to die, and you'd really like to be able to talk to him, but he never really...talks. Explain to him what's going on in your head right now, and see if you two can't fix the situation.
Start the relationship with communication! Talk, talk, talk! Lol.
It might be that he's a little uncomfortable with you. Three weeks isn't too long a time.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Just try it and let me know how it works:
Try not asking the questions for once. Just let him ask you.
Maybe he's afraid hes gonna say something stupid in front of you, so try saying something stupid infront of him and then just laugh it off.
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Awkward silences happen. It happens to me on the phone all the time, I like being in person or online because in person theres always something to comment on or you could just start cuddling or something, making out, making babies- maybe not this one after 3 weeks, but I've had sex sooner so if you want to, go for it. He sounds fairly shy so try doing something kind of out there every now and then. Like say you wanna fight, like actually stand up and start punching at him. Make sure he knows you want to just wrestle and mess around and your not actually looking to kick his ass. If he's shy like I think he is then you'll have to wrestle him onto a sofa or something and then procede to tongue wrestle. Sorry I meant watch a movie. Anyways whatever floats your boat, or just stand up and go over and start unbuttoning his shirt without even saying a word, this always gets my attention.
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yea i know how that is.Well if you've already talked about school and sports and friends and stuff..just try talkin about what you guys have been up to lately.or make out..lol that always keeps em quiet..jk only if ur comfortable.but you've only been goin out for 3 weeks soo..yea but I hope I helped...GOOD LUCK!!
*much love*
*~tasha~* {please rate good..THANKS!}
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if he tells u tat he does get nervous around u ask him y.. wat it is tat makes him nervous... then u work from there.. watever gets him nervous u or both of u gotta try to make him feel not nervous wen ur wit him.. n e thing else just mail me! xoxo angie
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