about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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Is there a way or website to put the pictures you want on a website and order the prints you want in any size you need? I know wal-mart does it but they only let you do three sizes.

Kodak.com is another option. However, I don't know if you have to have a Kodak camera? Something for you to check into, anyhow. Kodak always prints good photos.

http://www.kodak.com/eknec/PageQuerier.jhtml?pq-path=2/3/11&pq-locale=en_US&_requestid=11281

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So, my best friend about 6 months ago moved down to her dad's house.
But she still visits her mom. Which when she does, we planned to hang out.
But when she first moved, she didn't even tell me. I found out from a teacher at school. And she talked to me on myspace, called me, etc. like everything was normal. And then I confronted her about her moving. And she just said "Sorry, I meant to tell you." =/ But I forgave her for that. But she came down to her mom's this weekend. She promised to call me and to hang out. And my friend, Hannah (also her friend), started telling me about the amazing weekend her and Haley (my "best friend") had and how I should have been there. O.o Which is what we planned at first. But I never got the call. And lately she's been telling me she's going to visit and call me, but she never does. I've canceled plans once thinking we were going to hang out, but she never called.
And it's not only that she's not keeping to her word, it's that I feel we are growing apart. And I still at least want to stay friends with her, but I don't know how. Should I try talking to her? Or just forget about it? =/

Sadly, friends do come and go in this life- even best friends.

If you are wanting to try to work out this friendship, the only option is to confront her about this. You don't have to be angry or rude about it, just say, "Hey, why are you doing me this way? It makes me feel like..."

You never know, she may feel guilty about leaving in the first place. That may be why she didn't tell you to begin with. I know, it isn't a valid excuse for you to have to hear it from a teacher and get blown off all the time, but you never know what's going on inside her head. That's why you ask.

Because of that possibility, you don't want to just give up on her without giving her a chance to explain herself and make things right.

What I would do? I would call her up, talk to her about blowing you off, how that makes you feel, and ask her to plan to come stay with you some weekend (or you with her) so you can try to get this friendship back on track.

If she blows you off with this chance, she is blowing off her last chance- move on. I know you want to stay friends with her, but she has to hold up her end for that to work.

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About 4 years ago, my 7 year old brother nearly cut one of his toe's off on our porcelein bathroom drawer knob because it had broken off before and had only been glued back on, so they broke really easy when he stood on them to reach the basin. We're renting this house so it was the real estates duty to have this fixed, and seeing as they hadn't, my brother had to have surgery and stiches on his toe. Do we have grounds to sue?

Even if statute of limitations hadn't run out, it is highly doubtful.
The knobs broke because your brother was standing on them to reach. Those knobs aren't meant to withstand the weight of a child- they aren't meant to be used to climb.
Since they were broken by means of misuse, it wouldn't be found as being the fault of the landlord, but the fault of the renter.

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female...
is alright to wax your armpits? cuz shaving doesnt really work out for me. what are some good at home kits to use and where can you buy them?

thanks

From what I read, sugar wax kits are best because it is easier to wash off access wax.

Here is the name of a kit I found online, you can surely get it at Walgreens:

Sally Hansen Sugar Wax Hair Remover Kit for Body
http://shopping.yahoo.com/p:Sally%20Hansen%20Sugar%20Wax%20Hair%20Remover%20Kit%20for%20Body:2001003602;_ylt=AgoXUVY3JkU7sPAC9fTII1PGv8Uu;_ylu=X3oDMTA4ZXVyOWdvBHNlYwNyZWNv

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ok, so i have a problem and i know it. I dont think its huge, but im 14/f and i like looking at porn. i know i shouldnt and i dont understand why i do. i know there is will power, but one thing leads to another and there i am on a porn websight. Ive even tried cyber sex, i know it doesnt have anything to do with porn, but i still did it. I feel horrible for doing this. How do i stop? ive tried saying one look and then be done, but i have to keep looking. And i dont want to go to a doctor or my parents..
Anything will help! and thanks soo much.

Well, you know one look seems not to work, so how about no look instead?
When you have the urge to look at porn, try to divert your mind with something constructive. Something that has nothing to do with anything of a sexual nature.
If this is something you have a compulsion to do every time you are online, when the urge hits, shut down the computer.
Better yet, try to find something else to do with your time than go on the computer. The best way to nip this in the bud is to eliminate resources. Meaning, eliminate the computer.

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what season of As the World Turns does luke come out and him and noah kiss?

In 2007.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Luke_Snyder_and_Noah_Mayer

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what would one do with a polaroid land camera, considering that they do not make film for them anymore? i have 2 and don't want them to go to waste...

Well, if you can't get film for them there really isn't much you can do.
What I would do? They must be old to no longer have film available. I would keep them put up somewhere. They may be valuable someday.

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okay i am like so sick of where i live. the people, the things, the places, EVERYTHING. i just hate it. i want to move farrr away from here. i hate winter. i want to move to like florida or cali or something. what can i do? im only fifteen.

Well, there really isn't anything you can do unless your parents decide to move to someplace warm.

I know it doesn't help now, but one day, you won't hate where you live. I used to hate where I live, too, but it is home. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
You may go off to college in some warm, far away land, but I promise you will miss home and love it when you return.

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Okay my period is a bit..odd. I have had it for a year and a half now, so it should be regular right? well I do get it regularly but its just not every 28 days. It's about every 40 days really. I dont have any other symptoms or anything. Is this normal? I mean i never really skip a period, There is just a long time in between them.

Your period can stay irregular until you reach adulthood. It can be normal one minute, weird the next.
Visiting your gynocologist for a check-up never hurts. You should go regularly anyway.

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17/f
im around the varsity hockey boys ALOT cuz i am one of their managers. and we had to go to an away game that was like an hour away so me and the other manager rode the coach bus with them. on the way up there we sat in the front with the coaches and one of the boys texted me and goes, you should come back here and entertain us, we can have fun. and then they were texting me "show me your boobs" and then one called me and was like your looking pretty sexy today. so i was like okay..there being goofs. and keep in mind alot of them have girlfriends.well then we were watching a little of the JV game and some of the boys came and sat by us and one of the boys was like ahhh im tired can i lay my head on you, and he was like always close to me but he has a girlfriend. and then on the way home the whole bus stopped at a fast food place and i got out and someone touched my butt and then we sat down and they all sat by us and were talking to us and one of the boys was like oh yeah some of the guys were talking about the gift that god gave you and i was like what? i dont get it..and the other one goes ohh her boobs. and i was like oh my godd but mine arent even that big there like a B! but anyways this is the most ive talked to all these boys, and i wanna keep talking to them in school and stuff, but i dont know what to do. do you think some of them are being serious about what they are saying? and then the boy that kept sitting by me came up by me and my friend towards the end and everyone was like OHHH YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND! they are all soo cute but it sucks that some of them have girlfriends. it was just such a good day. but i dont know what to think or do about all this.

What I think you should think about this?

These guys sound like a bunch of degrading, disrespectful jerks. Why allow them to talk to you that way?

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So last night i had these itchy bumps on all over my face and on my arms. Then they were gone this morning then I got them again today and there all over my legs and arms

what could they be?
how can i get rid of them?
how could i possibly get them?

I can take a stab in the dark and guess allergy?
Have you been exposed to anything new or different during the day that you aren't in the night while sleeping? New coat? Anything?
If so, try to not expose yourself to it and see if the bumps don't return.

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My question is a little strange. I do not currently have a cold and these do wonders to help me get to sleep. Do you think that would be bad? Like, if I keep using them would that decrease the effects for me when I actually do have a cold? I don't think there's a risk of dependency like with sleep aids. They get the job done well within an hour. It's not really medicine and it helps me get dizzy because I do not have another alternative to getting to sleep. Thanks in advance!

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51kZe-BNd-L._AA280_PIbundle-3,TopRight,0,0_AA280_SH20_.jpg

Listen to Razhie! You don't want to take that for sleep- it is not intended to be used as a sleep aid.
All sleep aids have risk of dependency, and that includes any medication containing sleep aid.

Try relaxing techniques to help yourself go to sleep. Meditating, for example.
Personally, I like to read, so I lay down and read until my brain is ready to shut down for the night.

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I think my transmission is going bad in my car. I drive a 1999 ford taurus. I'm not too farmilar with transmissions in general but I'm pretty sure there's a problem with it. When I excelerate I notice there's a sound like my transmission just drop. Excelleration is the only time this happens but it happens almost always. How do I go about getting it checked? And how much are new transmissions? ( I assume a lot of money) But I'm in college so I need to know a good estimate. Any advice?

You could go to a trusted mechanic and have a diagnostics check run on your car's computer. That should come up with the problem.
I do believe Auto Zone (automotive parts store) does diagnostics checks free of charge.
I don't know much other than that.
I do know like Nova said that it depends on where you go as to the price.
I can call around and get price quotes, but the quotes here in Kansas could greatly differ than the quotes one would get, say in New York.
I can tell you it isn't cheap to replace a transmission, but that is worst case scenario.

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okay, let me just say this. i recently lost my best friend, over some complicantions. and now we are just friends. ever since my life had gone down into a sunken hole of a depression and i don't know what to do. lets just say, i was in love with himm and now we are just friends. though this only happened like a week and half ago. anyways, one of my friends went out with this one guy. i swore i would never like him, they dated for about 8 months on and off. all and all she hates him now. she got into a relationship a few months after that, and shes been in this relationship for an year almost in 2 weeks. anyways, she still hates her ex. she pretty much changed since she started dating her boyfriend whom at the time was her best friends brother..and isolated everyone out and treated us like crap other than her other best friend and her boyfriend. so we can't stand who she became. anyways, im still good friends with her ex, well we all are and whatever. i have a class with him and he's best friends with my cousin, so i have to put up with him in a way. anyways, i found myself liking him, and i know if she ever found out i liked her ex or if anything happened, she would end the friendship. though our friendship is pretty much already gone as it is since on how she is treating everyone. i still care about her and i don't want to hurt her like that. i accidently slip it out to one of my friends who is the sister of her boyfriend since well im friends with her of course. and all she had to say was how thats so cute, and "awww" and how shes probably gonna stop talking to me when she finds out i like her ex.. anyways, then 2 of my other friends found out, so only 3 people know..and they werent much help..and its making me a wreck because i don't know what to do. and i no longer have a best friend i could really go to, because my best friend well ex best friend didn't know her before she had a boyfriend, we had became friends with my best friend only 4 days before she starting going out with this guy, so his view on her is totally different and what not. all and all, i miss my best friend and i don't know what to do, i have no one to really talk to about this and its tearing me apart and making me a complete wreck. :(

I'm confused?
She is refusing to talk to you because you like her ex? She has been involved with another guy for a year?
What?
Listen- just because she hates her ex, or whatever, doesn't mean a thing when it comes to you liking him.
So things didn't work out with her and him, big deal, that's life. Maybe they will work out with you and him, and so she is mad at you about that?

Come on. That isn't how a friend acts, let alone how a best friend acts.
Don't allow her to ruin your happiness in this life. She has already basically written you off by ignoring you, so just let it go and move on.

There are other, much better friends out there who can become your best friend.

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tomorrow night i am spending new years eve with my boyfriend of 6 months. i am 21 and he is 24, so we can definetly go out for drinks but dont really want to since bars will be crazy. he is working till 10 and i am driving down from my house(45 mins away) and am thinking about renting a nice hotel for us. we were going to go out for dinner but everywhere closes at 10. i dont know what i can do. he is pretty clueless about our plans too so i am not sure whether i should get takeout before and suprise him, and maybe have some lingerie as well? i just dont want it to be boring and what not if we just stay in. any ideas on what to do? or know of any common restraunts open till atleast 12?

i want it to be special, but not too special or cheesy. i dont know what his friends are doing either but i think he`d rather it just be us since bars will be obnoxious.

help! thanks=)

Yah, I would steer clear of the bars. You don't want the crazy atmosphere nor the risks on the road going home.
Remember: New Year's Eve = stupid people with lack of common sense who get behind the wheel drunk.

You could have him meet you at the hotel after he gets off work. Make a nice picnic-style dinner.

Of course you want things that are best eaten cold, because you will want to store it in a cooler and there won't likely be a way to heat it up, unless the room comes with a kitchenette or microwave.
Of course if you are planning a nice hotel with one of their nicer, more expensive rooms, then they may very well have kitchenettes. You can call ahead to the hotel and ask what is available in their rooms.

Food doesn't have to be hot in order to be romantic. It isn't what is eaten but the atmosphere in which you eat it. Use candle light and a nice bottle of wine.
Other than that, use your imagination.... ;)

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I've just started learning to play guitar, and I'm kind of getting the hang of it, but my fingers hurt like crazy. anyone know a way to make my fingers callus over faster? I've heard rubbing them with alcohol helps, but i dunno. any tips?

Here are some tips I found:

"Sore fingers are sometimes due to an improperly adjusted guitar, but more often than not stem from excessive finger pressure. Here's how to find the minimum finger pressure: Place your finger against the string (next to the fret), but don't press it down to the fret. Pluck the string. You should hear a muffled sound. Continue plucking and slowly increase the pressure until the string begins to buzz. Hold the pressure there--let it buzz. The pressure needed to maintain the "buzz threshold" is very small. Now, press just hard enough to stop the buzz and break into a clear tone. This small amount of pressure--a few grams--is all the pressure you need when playing!"

From link:
http://emedia.leeward.hawaii.edu/Frary/buzz.htm

"Put some ice in a bowl of water and soak your fingertips for a minute or so. You can also run cold water over your fingertips at the tap. This will prevent blisters and speed up the building of calluses. It will also prevent your calluses from becoming too hard or from having hard edges.

Note: don’t do this until your fingertips hurt and be sure to allow some time before you play again. You don’t want to play on pads that have been softened by the soaking."

From link:
http://www.guitartips.addr.com/tip120.html

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Im 18 yrs old and ive never been a relationship..people are starting to wonder why and i dont know what to say. I just dont think im ready yet and im not happy with myself so why should i date when i dont even like myself. I dont know what to do about this and what to say to people when they asked why ive never been in a relationship..any help?

Well, what does it matter what others think, anyway?

Just tell them that you want to sort out your own life and get it heading in the direction you want before you feel you can add the extra life stress of a relationship.

I agree that if you are unhappy with yourself that you shouldn't get involved in a relationship. You have to love yourself before you can truly love another.

You need to sit down and think real hard about your good qualities. What makes you a special, unique individual? Don't stress over your flaws. We all have them. Learn to accept yourself, and be proud of who you are.

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I grew up with this girl whom I always used to defend and then in middle school we parted ways, she dumped me but just for a year until she became like my stalker but i no longer want to be her friend. Shes always there and like all over me so i had my friend talk to her and it didnt work so i talked to her it didnt work so i have just plain asked her to leave me alone but it didnt work. wat do i do?

I agree with the other columnist that you don't want to be rude and hurt her feelings. That is just cruel. It seems she must look up to you quite a bit to be such a stick-tight.

Just tell her that the friendship is going nowhere and it's time for her to move on and find other friends.
Tell her that she is a bit on the clingy side, and it makes you uncomfortable.
Tell her that since you can't hold your end of the friendship, it is unfair to both of you for you to have to pretend.
Remind her that there are others out there she can hang out with that can give her the friendship she is seeking.

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Hi, I'm an 18 year old female. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about a month now and all has been fine except for the fact that my boyfriend hasn't come even once! I've thoroughly enjoyed sex and he says he does too but...obviously not. So tonight I asked him about it and he says that he seldom ever comes during intercourse unless a condom is not worn. This makes sense to me, it would obviously feel better without it. He said that in NO WAY was he asking me if it would be alright for us to not use a condom during sex...but I would obviously like for both of us to enjoy sex. What are some equally safe alternatives in contraception to condoms? Has anyone else ever seen this problem in a guy? Any advice on what we can do?

Thanks, everyone!

Equally safe contraception would be birth control. Equally safe sex- NONE.
Safe sex is something you both should always be in the habit of practicing, so don't ever ditch the condoms.
The problem with condoms and guys are they lose sensation by wearing them. He can get thinner condoms that allow him more sensation, like Trojan Ultra Thin. I highly suggest he try that.

Not that either of you have STDs, but condoms are the only thing that protects you from them. That's why I say it is best to stay in the habit of practicing safe sex, even if you take birth control.

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okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 months and counting. and first off, i want to say that i love this boy, i realllly reallllly do. this isn't just a "fling" like my other relationships have been. he cares about me the same way that i care for him, and i know it. we're the perfect couple and everything. at the beginning of our relationship, i did treat him bad. no i never cheated or anything, i would just be mean. so one night we broke up and he ended up kissing a girl which really hurt, but that's in the past now and i've forgiven him. i can talk to him about anything and everything so he's basically perfect. we've had a rough spots and we broke up again about 3 weeks ago and got back together again. we're doing great so far and i plan on hanging out with him tomorrow but for some reason i feel wierd.. yesterday i didn't really feel like saying "i love you" as much. i told him that and he told me it was fine and that whenever i wanted my space or just to do my own thing for a day it was perfectly fine. anyways, today i felt wierd again and he keeps asking why i'm always mad at him and sometimes i do joke around where he thinks i'm mad, but i'm really not. i tell him i'm not mad. but he keeps urging it and yeah, IT DOES MAKE ME MAD. so he's hanging with his bestfriend who i don't like and who doesn't like me, long story, and me and my boyfriend got into a lil fight. i don't know if i should call him or just go to sleep... PLEASE HELP I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS FEELING. I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE EVERY REASON TO BE HAPPY. i don't know if it's just because i haven't seen him in a week, and he would be the first to tell you everything's better when we're together, SO PLEASE HELP, THANKS!

All relationships have highs and lows. That is just how it works.
If you love each other, then you need to feel as though you can talk to one another about your issues, no matter how big or small.
Something is making you feel this way. It is also giving him the impression that you are mad.
The best thing you can do is just talk it out with one another until the problem comes out so it can be solved.
And if he does something that makes you mad, like insisting that you are mad, say so. He can't fix what he doesn't realize is a problem.
Don't get into fights over him hanging out with his best friend. That isn't fair to your boyfriend.
You don't like each other, but he likes you both. You have to respect him and accept his friend, and his friend needs to give the same respect.

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