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Best friend..lying to me?
So, my best friend about 6 months ago moved down to her dad's house.
But she still visits her mom. Which when she does, we planned to hang out.
But when she first moved, she didn't even tell me. I found out from a teacher at school. And she talked to me on myspace, called me, etc. like everything was normal. And then I confronted her about her moving. And she just said "Sorry, I meant to tell you." =/ But I forgave her for that. But she came down to her mom's this weekend. She promised to call me and to hang out. And my friend, Hannah (also her friend), started telling me about the amazing weekend her and Haley (my "best friend") had and how I should have been there. O.o Which is what we planned at first. But I never got the call. And lately she's been telling me she's going to visit and call me, but she never does. I've canceled plans once thinking we were going to hang out, but she never called.
And it's not only that she's not keeping to her word, it's that I feel we are growing apart. And I still at least want to stay friends with her, but I don't know how. Should I try talking to her? Or just forget about it? =/
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ive had a friend like this.
1. try to confront her. and if you thinks shes lieing dont even try to be her friend because thats all shes gonna do.
2. it sounds like shes trying to make your friendship not work.
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You should definitely try to confront her about it because that is the only way that you will know what is truly going happen between the two of you. When you confront her, just remain calm and try not to let your emotions get the better of you. And if after you confront her and if in any way you feel that you cannot salvage your friendship then it is probably better that you no longer remain friends because you have probably just grown apart and it does suck when something like that happens but it is better than the friendship ending in a worse way.
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Sadly, friends do come and go in this life- even best friends.
If you are wanting to try to work out this friendship, the only option is to confront her about this. You don't have to be angry or rude about it, just say, "Hey, why are you doing me this way? It makes me feel like..."
You never know, she may feel guilty about leaving in the first place. That may be why she didn't tell you to begin with. I know, it isn't a valid excuse for you to have to hear it from a teacher and get blown off all the time, but you never know what's going on inside her head. That's why you ask.
Because of that possibility, you don't want to just give up on her without giving her a chance to explain herself and make things right.
What I would do? I would call her up, talk to her about blowing you off, how that makes you feel, and ask her to plan to come stay with you some weekend (or you with her) so you can try to get this friendship back on track.
If she blows you off with this chance, she is blowing off her last chance- move on. I know you want to stay friends with her, but she has to hold up her end for that to work.
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Well girl, either shes afraid to hurt your feelings and she just makes plans with you to make you think you guys are still close (trying to make it easier for herself that is..) OR she just keeps you around enough so when she gets sick of hanging with hannah or any of her new friends she can come to you knowing that your just waiting there for her. Go out and hang with the girls who wont let you down. Cause honey that isnt a best friend if isnt honest with you. A true friend will always be there be completely honest, help you in any situation no matter how far apart you are.
when i was younger, my "best friend" from elementary school (who i thought was gunna be my best friend forever) was only my friend til freshman year of high school. She started flaking on me, always said she could hang out but then never called me back like an hour before the plans we made, so i basically would wait. And the minute she was hanging out with other people when she said she was gunna hang out with me, i knew she was no longer a true friend. And it was so hard to find new friends, yet alone a best friend. I now have several good girl friends, and a best friend as guy friend. My ex best friend still calls but its random and like months apart, but i never count on her. If she wants to hang with me she will call me. i dont EVER rely on her.
Enjoy your life, make amazing friends, and party it up because you only live once, and you "best friend" is holding back alittle bit.
good luckkk. cheer up, you to me seem like a true friend and i know that because you cancelled plans for ones that she flaked out on in the end.
take care, hope i helped (:
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