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Okay so this guy i like is in the Army, hes in the program where you go to school, but still train and what not for the army the whole time. Hes gone for the summer and comes back in august to go back to school and stuff. Well i leave for boot camp for the Navy and i leave before he gets back. i wont see him til september (i get to come home for 2 weeks), so i was wondering should i get a card and give it to him before he leaves, just saying "have fun take care, i know you'll be back but i wont see you" type thing.. or should i give it to his brother to have him put it in his room so when he gets back it'll be there on his night table type thing, saying "hey you just missed me by a few days haha, hope you had a good time, see you when i get back take care miss you." type thing?
orrrr just forget the whole idea?
honestly. i like this guy, ALOT.. the day i met him we had so much in common, i'm a girlie girl type but i like to do the guy stuff. everyone we hang out with is always hitting on me, and personally i think it bothers him so he tends to be standoffish. i've spent the last week hanging out with him, and stayed over twice.. no sex just talked and enjoyed ourselves. hes told me hes interested in me, he has been but at first so many people were trying to force him to see me too (which i totally hate because they did the same thing to me, which made us not want to try getting to know each other at all..)that we just didnt really spend a lot of time together, and he wants to take things slow. (works for me honestly, no reason to rush) and we've both said whatever happens happens.
i dont know. hes a real honest guy, sometimes too honest haha, but we both constantly give that look to one another.. the we've got connection type look, heck i dont know how to explain it.. ah. seriously this stuff has been on my mind all week.. i'm stressed. truly i'm afraid he leaves, i leave, he comes back.. then i come back. and we dont even talk. and how embarrassing would it be to not even speak when i get back, and i had left that card on his night stand for him to read. HA.. i'd feel so dumbbb.. i think i'm just over reacting? yet i really cant help it.. i've tried to just stick to the whatever happens happens, but i guess i want good things to happen and come out of this lol.
okay any advice would be wonderful.
as you can see girls, and guys too please, i'm quite confused/concerned/worried/tripppinn haha.
thanks a million. (link)
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It would be a very sweet and romantic gesture if you were to leave him a card. It is definitely a good idea because he will know that you care about him by giving him that card and you shouldn't be embarrassed about it because he will probably get really happy because it shows that you were thinking about him and I am sure that you two will probably talk again when you get you are probably just freaking out because you don't want it to happen. But definitely give him the card in person just so you know his reaction.
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iv never had an actual "bf" but many very close guy friends. but recently my best friend, the guy who i trusted my life with made my life a living hell and screwed up every possible thing, bc we liked eachother. hes afraid of me cause i get"to close" to guys. i just hug everyone and i like it when guys hold me, i just feel that no guy loves me at all. he ruined me and i can not trust anyone even if its a girl, i had all my trust in him. we hate eachother and fight so much somedays but others we like eachother we just forgive eachother way to easy. i need to get over him and iv been tryin for the past year but i just cant, its hard to explain, weve been best friends then he has the most retarded reason and then ruins me over and over again. i know ud say just try and get over him but iv done every possible thing, i just cant. i dont know what to do?
im soo love sick. iv always been better friends with guys but recently iv been suck an ass to guys i only have two close guy friends left. i just think any guy friends will hurt me again, so im a jerk to them and they did nothing im the biggest bitch there is :c so iv been falling for any guy i meet and talk to alot. then i never see them again and i get heartbroken. i hug and cuddle with them, but some i just talk to for hours. example> last guy i met at cousins party, we flirted from the very beginning then on and off i would be a jerk to him and then he asked me to dance and i said no bc i was texting the guy who hurt me at the moment and then he was sad and left for a while then at the end insteada sayin bye i said jackass and left crying, ive never been like this but i was hurt so bad and i hate hurting other guys for no reason im such a drama and jerkkk to guys, he is three years older than me and he didnt care hes liked me before he even knew :(. i love a guy, flirt talk for hours and cuddle then end up bein an ass what can i doo, i just cant get over it? i dont even know what love is anymore, and the thing i hate the most is their so nice to me and ima bitch backkk Dx. what do i do for either or both paragraphs??? fourteen by the wayy (link)
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Okay, maybe you should try being nice to the guys that you like instead of being a b****. Really what is the point of that. Are you still like four? People do not like being treated like s***. Maybe if you were nicer then things would work out with the first guy and I don't blame him for saying that you get too close to guys which you should stop if you are interested in someone so that they know that they could trust you back. Maybe you have trust issues because you are not that trustworthy perhaps?
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okay so im 17 and im a girl. ive been dating this one guy whos 17 as well (Kyle) and he wont even act like we are dating. i have to do everything and sometimes he doesnt act as if i even exist and ive tried talking to him and he just doesnt understand me. all my friends and his friends think i should break up with him for obvious reasons-basically its not even like we are going out? but i really liked him and thought it was gonna work and have been trying very hard to make it work for us. but see now i met this new guy (Tyler) who is also 17 and whenever we hang out we act so flirty and i dont know if it would ever work for me and him but i dont think its right to keep dating kyle while im developing a crush on tyler...and i know for a fact its not gonna go away...plus im going into my senior year. i need a mature relationship or none at all right? just tyler and me are going to be spending the entire summer together and we have already clicked majorly...what do you think i should do. i feel like a big ass too my my boyfriend because when we are together i really like him but then as soon as he ignores me again i get pissed and cant help but think about tyler...ugh. yea thats basically it. thanks for any advice on the matter :) (link)
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You seem miserable with your boyfriend and if everyone tells you to break up with him then maybe you should because what is the point in being in a relationship with someone who ignores you? You can try to be friends with him afterwards since it seems that is what you are now. It is probably time that you need someone new and you are young. And it seems like Tyler is also interested then you should try to pursue him after you dump Kyle.
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well. f/13. and i'm totally confused.
i like three people,
well, i'm pretty sure i do.
like.
one of them, i know i like, actually i love them.
but said person, lets call them E.
well. E is dating someone.
and that someone knows i like E
and that person is cool with it.
well.
onto the next person.
i kinda like that person
but.
i don't knwo
i don't wanna tell that person
because then when we hang out,
it would be wierd
and i don't want that
but i'm pretty sure i like them.
and then there's the loser.
i've liked him for a longgg time
we've gone out a couple of times.
and be through alot together
but i'm starting to hate him.
but there's something about him
that i just can't resist.
ilove him.
and that's just the end of it.
WHAT DO I DO?????
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Well obviously don't go for the third guy because if you have gone out a couple of times then it's obvious that you two aren't meant to be and it doesn't even seem like you like him that much since you described him as a loser. As for the second guy the only way to know if he likes you back is to tell him or have someone else find out for you. For number 1 forget it since he is dating someone else. Doesn't he even seem like he likes you back?
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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him. (link)
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Okay, what you did was the stupidest thing ever. Honestly what did you think you were going to accomplish by having those guys calling him? Obviously he meant what he wrote, he thinks that you made out with those boys even if you didn't. He has a reason to be mad and I wouldn't blame him if he did not want to get back together with you. You need to grow up, you really do and get some professional help while you are at it too.
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ok here's the thing imm really sad right now :(
please dont get mad at me but could you actually give a real answer that you would do if you were in this position
ok since i was like 4 i was friends with this girl named britney. wen my family moved away from them we grew further apart
but wen i was like 12 and she was like 14 she started getting more friends then she stopped hanging out with me
but she still thinks everything is ok
i dont know why but its almost like i hate her
she just i guess wants to act mature and she always hangs out with my sister and doesnt even say anything to me
wenever we do talk she just asks about my sister and doesnt really care about me
please ive cried every night because of it and i really need advice!!! (link)
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Don't take it the wrong way. Like it might not seem it but 12 and 14 is somewhat of an age difference. Both of you are experiencing different things and some of the things that you are experiencing she probably already has and dealt with it. You probably have just grown apart, just try to find friends that are around your age group but do not let it bother you that you are not close as you used to be.
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[im 13/f if this helps?]
Alright so i have this best freind and lately like mabey even this whole school year she has been a brat to me and many other friends of hers She will insult anyone to make herself look better. I really dont want to be her friend anymore. So how do I give her that hint and tell her?
Please give me adive you would do.
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You should just stop hanging out with her. I used to have a friend like that and she used to insult her "friends" but deep down I and other friends believed that it was probably low self-esteem problems and by insulting everyone else it made her feel better about herself. It is probably better if you get out of the friendship because I didn't and until later and everything just turned really ugly.
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So, my best friend about 6 months ago moved down to her dad's house.
But she still visits her mom. Which when she does, we planned to hang out.
But when she first moved, she didn't even tell me. I found out from a teacher at school. And she talked to me on myspace, called me, etc. like everything was normal. And then I confronted her about her moving. And she just said "Sorry, I meant to tell you." =/ But I forgave her for that. But she came down to her mom's this weekend. She promised to call me and to hang out. And my friend, Hannah (also her friend), started telling me about the amazing weekend her and Haley (my "best friend") had and how I should have been there. O.o Which is what we planned at first. But I never got the call. And lately she's been telling me she's going to visit and call me, but she never does. I've canceled plans once thinking we were going to hang out, but she never called.
And it's not only that she's not keeping to her word, it's that I feel we are growing apart. And I still at least want to stay friends with her, but I don't know how. Should I try talking to her? Or just forget about it? =/ (link)
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You should definitely try to confront her about it because that is the only way that you will know what is truly going happen between the two of you. When you confront her, just remain calm and try not to let your emotions get the better of you. And if after you confront her and if in any way you feel that you cannot salvage your friendship then it is probably better that you no longer remain friends because you have probably just grown apart and it does suck when something like that happens but it is better than the friendship ending in a worse way.
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well my ex and i are talking again somewhat but he goes back out with one of hus exs and my kind of friends. So we were talking about how we used to go out and stuff and i liek him still what should i do?.. Tell him i like him and that i wish we could go out. Or just keep it quiet?. or give little hints?. i really dont know.!>. please be specific (link)
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Well, does he ever give you hints that he might still like you? And if he goes back out with one of his Exs then he might still have feelings for her and that is why he is dating her again. What you should do is try and move on. If you try to get him back it might just cause a lot of drama.
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Lately my gf has been telling me about these dreams she has about other guys forcing her to hook up with them and she told me that "you shouldn't struggle, you should just go along with it". She also sort of admitted that this is a fantasy of hers. What I'm wondering is, if someone started kissing her and she kissed him back, wouldn't that be cheating regardless of how the kissing started? Couldn't she just use being forced as an excuse, especially if its a fantasy of hers? In my opinion, if someone holds her and starts kissing her, she should push him away rather than kiss him back. We are in a committed relationship by the way. (link)
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Maybe she is giving you hint that she wants you to do something like that. Maybe you should try it and see what happens.
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I am f/16. Well, everywhere I go and have to interact with people, it always feels like the girls are being really bitchy to me but the guys are always so sweet and helpful. Why is that? Its the same at work, at school, or just going out anywhere. It is so weird so I want to know what you think. Thanks a bunch. (link)
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A reason that girls might act bitch towards you might be because you might be a very attractive person and they envy you for that.
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in like the 1800s did women get their periods?
if so, what did they use for a tampon/ pad??
i know this weird but im very curious.. (link)
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Obviously they got their period back then. If they didn't then you would never have been born.
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F/13.My friend I described in my first question I asked on Advicenators like this guy.She told me a week ago that she liked the guy and has been liking him since 5th grade!!I talked her into telling him,but instead she made me tell him.He said "Eww.Gross." and whenever he sees my friend,he always says to me "I hate that girl".Yes,he has a mind of a first-grader.I really don't think he's a wise choice for a guy since he's so veangeful and I think he's ugly and a show-off.He sits behind me and has always been talking to me.After I told him my friend likes him,he found out my number.Now he text messages me pink hearts and "Merry Christmas" and all.He also called me once asking about a project though I doubt he didn't know because he gets the best grades in my class.I told my friend about the texts and she just rolled her eyes and acted mean towards me.So,now I don't know what to do since if I tell my friend,she might think I'm showing-off and act all the more jealous,if it's possible.. (link)
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Well you said that he was vengeful. He is probably just using so that your friend will stop liking him. He probably figures that if she gets jealous she will go for someone else. Consider yourself a tool.
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during foreplay i never usually have a problem, and when i am at home on my own, i never have a problem with it, but when it comes to really getting busy, right before we are about to have sex, i just cant get a boner. It basically just dies and then wont come back. It seems like it is always there when i dont want it to be, and then when i need it, it always comes up short. This is not only mentally displeasing but very embarrassing. What is the problem here, and how do i fix it. I really dont know what to do and am deeply concerned (link)
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I think you are probably just nervous. Calm down or else you will never get it up. Try Viagra.
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me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time...how do we know if her cherry has popped?? (link)
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Because you penetrated her that is how you know.
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my old girlfriend says making out with me is boring. and wen we madeout it was kind of boring.
what can i do to make it fun and exciting?!
thank you ! (link)
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Maybe you guys just don't have the right chemistry. Try adding some fruit, whipped cream or something. Start kissing elsewhere besides the lips.
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14/f
i want to do IT like im not even going to lie. it does matter who it is i have a boy in mind but idk yet. i don't feel comfortable naked i know im very flat chested and i skinnyy, but everyone say im pretty if i had a butt which i need to get so any help with that. and how do to get this guy actuallyy 17 (link)
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And has he shown any sign that he is interested in you? And why would he want an inexperienced 14 year old girl when he can have a fully developed older girl that is experienced rather than a 14 year old bimbo unless he is some kind of pervert.
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Ok so im 13 and i have the most amazing boyfriend ever its been a little more than 3 months now!
We havent kissed yet. Ive never kissed anyone and I know for a fact he hasnt either. I really want to kiss him i like him so much.
so I understand these questions sound wierd but please help!
1:How do i give him the hint i want to kiss him?
2:where do i put my hands!
3:what way do i tilt my head?
4:how long do we kiss?
5:open or close my eyes?
Please help me i really like him
Thank you so much in advance!
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1. Just tell him that you want to kiss, or just do it. I am sure he isn't going to be like, "Ew, cooties."
2. Anywhere except your lips. It really does not matter. He won't be paying attention to your hands unless you put them on his member.
3. The opposite way that he does.
4. However long you want.
5. Closed is better, because if you have them opened then you might find something funny and laugh and you don't really want to do that on your first kiss.
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Ok this is what happened
I was tlkin to this guy and we were like in love but we only got to tlk on the internet but i honestly loved him and i think he loved me too. About 2 mounths went by and his internet completly broke and in this time he got a gf in a few mounths he had a car wreck and wen he herd i was very upset he called me w/in 2 mounths we were sayin i love you again we were inseperable ever other word was i love you he knew from the begining i wasnt gonna have sex til i was marrid but i dont think that was wat it was too make a long story short i hadnt herd from him in a while so i texted him to day and said hey all of a sudden he goes i hate u never call me again and i asked him y and he said it was cuz he didnt want to cheet on his gf wat is this about a mean a week ago He didnt care if she died he wanted to run away with me are all guys like this or wat (link)
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He just thought you were a big joke, he did not take you seriously. Forget him and move on. Do not dwell in the past. You probably just had a crush on him there is no way that that was to be considered love because it was an online relationship pretty much.
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well me and my gf tried sex for the first time we were both virgins and it felt really good for me but it didnt feel good for her she said it hurt a little bit on the edges and it felt good when i was all the way in and i dont know if i popped her cherry or what...i dont know why it dont feel good for her i dont think im big enought to pop her cherry what do i do? does your cherry have to be popped for it to feel good?? (link)
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HELLO! If you went all the way her cherry had been popped. The reason it hurts is because she was a virgin. Obviously it is going to hurt. You both have different sexual parts. Another thing you are inexperienced so you probably don't even know how to please a girl yet. Practice on her and eventually you will know what to do. The more you have intercourse then the more you will get to know her in an intimate way and will be able to please her. But it is obviously going to hurt her the first couple of times. It is common knowledge.
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