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Ok I've hung out with my older brother's friends for awhile now (he is 25 and his friends range from 21 - 28 i think). Well, I've liked one of them for a couple years now, and they had a new years eve party last night. I ended up staying there, and me and this guy that I've liked slept on the couch together (nothing happened though, just cuddling). After we all left, he sent me a message on facebook and said he had a good time chillin with me and gave me his number. So I gave him mine, and we're texting now. He wants to take me to a movie sometime, and I'm really excited. But the problems are 1) he's 24 and 2) my brother doesn't really like him anymore (some girl issue they had like a year ago). I really want to see where things go with this guy, but my brother would kill me if he knew. He's already told me I shouldn't go out with him and all. Plus, my mom doens't think it's a good idea, cause it might mess up my relationship with my brother. I'm really stuck on this. I really like this guy, but at the same time, I don't want to ruin my relationship with my brother. :/ Help??
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its really ironic. my bff is going through this exact same situation!!
i told her to talk to her brother. that way, he doesnt think she is keeping secrets from him. try talking to him asap. maybe even tonight if you can. also see if you can get your mom to be with you whenever you talk to him. its like a two against one kinda situation.
you are 19, and you can make your own decisions. although your brother might be mad, he cant stop you from doing anything. he and his friend need to get over all the drama. they are 25 and 24 and they need to get over it. hope my advice helps! ♥ jenny
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You and your brother should be old enough to talk this out. It's not like it was when you were 14 and trying to date a guy that was only going to use you. My fiance and I have a bigger age gap than that. [I am 19 and he is 24] You need to sit down with your brother and ask him what makes this guy dangerous for you to date. If he doesn't say anything better than "me an' him have issues" or profanity then its probably OK to go ahead and date this guy. And your mom is just being a mom. Unless you do something really stupid I doubt seriously that you and your brother will have any irreconcilable differences. You've probably pissed him off before, but he's still your brother, Right?
On the other hand. I know you love your brother. I am the youngest of five and I have 4 older brothers: 1 that is 28, 2(twins) that are 24 and a 22 year old. Trust me, I KNOW all about brothers. They never liked any of my boyfriends for the first 6 months we dated. So, try to understand his feelings and don't be demanding as it might be a sore spot.
Good Luck.
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Bros Before Joes sweetheart.
Honestly, if your brother doesnt want you dating him, there are reasons, even if hes not going to tell you.
19 and 24 isnt that huge a gap. Guys tend towards immaturity anyway.
Talk to your brother. Ask him directly why he doesnt want you dating your friend. Go from there.
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i agree with the person before me family before friends but i don;t think you should let someone ruin a relationship for you. You like the guy and he seems to like you. you should try talking to your brother about it saying you want to try it with him and he should try and be supportive about it. even if the brother knows things about him that you don't, it should be for you to decide whether you like those things or not and let you to experience those things for yourself. and what you won't go out with a guy everytime your brother doesn't like him? it's for you to make that choice. and him being 24 is not a big deal. Its not really a big age difference. So yes usually it is family first but there are some limits.
hope i helped good luck:)
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family before friends always. Your brother probably knows more things about him than you do, and doesn't want him to hurt you. He's defensive-which is perfectly fine. He just probably want to tell you those things that might hurt your feelings.
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