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Thanks for visiting my column! I would love to help you with any problem that you have. I usually respond fairly quickly and I love reading the feedback that you leave. I have a few categories that I generally move towards, but I am open and willing to try any and everything that you want to throw at me.
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My school has school uniforms the bottoms have to be khakis & the shirts are blue, black, or white polos.
I need some advice on what kind of shoes to buy! I don't wear tennis shoes at all I'm more of a flip flop person but I need at least a white and black pair of shoes. To give you a sence of my style, I have a pair of shox and coach shoes and a pair of dunks that I really don't wear. I need someone to give me some idea I can wear with khakis even during winter.
Thanks.
I would either get some sperrys. also, you may want to try something like this http://www.zappos.com/product/7211414/color/106. Not this brand, there are cheaper ones out there. Check out shoes at places like American Eagle or Maurices. They have really nice, comfortable, semi-dressy shoes at a decent price. Hope that helps. Good luck in school.
so i want to get a tattoo when i go to Lake George this year and im 17, i wanna either get a peace sign or Kokopelli and i want to get it like on my sex lines like diagonal from my belly button on the waist line and i was wondering if i got the tattoo would it be effect if i were later to get pregnant in life thats the only thing im worried about like i wouldn't want it to get stretched .. any advice about this oh and here are the tattoos in case anyone was wondering lol
this is actually a picture of wear i want the tattoo and the peace sign but i would want the peace sign a little bigger :
http://tattoos.lovetoknow.com/images/Tattoos/thumb/b/bf/PeaceSignTattoo.jpg/250px-PeaceSignTattoo.jpg
and then this kokopelli one
http://iacmusic.com/Uploads/51658_12_5_2007_4_08_53_PM_-_Kokopelli_Chill.jpg
or this one :
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_QYaKQV3DquA/SVdZzzvf3vI/AAAAAAAAB3Q/b_5b9HBKnxM/s320/Kokopelli-tattoo.jpg
tell me what kokopelli one you like better also!
Well first off I don't think you can actually get a tattoo unless you are 18. Maybe if your parents sign a waiver. On that, I'm not sure.
Other than that, any tattoo can be stretched or marred by the aging process not just pregnancy, but I would say that area of your body would be particularly prone to such stretching.
Really my advice would be to wait on getting any tattoo because it is permanent. Do you like the same clothes you liked 5 years ago? What about music? Think about what makes you want to get a tattoo and what makes you want to get that design in particular.
If you really must get it. I like the first kokopelli.
My boyfriend and I will both be starting college in mid August and are determined to stay together. We have a strong relationsip and breaking up at the end of the summer has never been an option. I'm starting to get really sad and depressed knowing we only have a month left together though. We're used to seeing each other 5 or 6 days a week and now going to colleges 5 hours apart we will obviously not see each other that much. I'll be in college for six years and he only has to go for two at the most so the plan was for him to move near my school and then we'll live together. So I'm looking at two years of only seeing him once or twice a month during the school year and possibly the summer. He's going to a technical school that might not get summer's off.
Basically I need some tips on how to go day to day without driving myself crazy from missing him. I know you'll say 'keep busy' and I know I'll have tons of work with my major but he's still always going to be on my mind. He's not my first love but he's the one I've loved the most and I don't know how I'm going to do this.
I know right now it seems daunting, but you will get used to your new routine and you will probably enjoy having "girlfriend time" again. Sometimes, you will miss him...terribly. All in all, its survivable. In fact, some friends of mine went through almost the exact same situation...and after 7 years of dating they are getting married in September. Not gonna say its easy, but possible.
Good luck in life and love.
Can somebody tell me the classes i'll need to take, and how long it'll be for me to be able to try to get hired?
I would like to be a dental hygentist;
But I just don't know what I need tod o in order to get this.
help?
I am from NC. Here, private dental schools as well as community colleges offer degrees in dental hygiene. It is generally a two year program. Students take general ed classes (such as english, math etc) as well as classes like orofacial anatomy and the like for their program requirements. States have different laws governing this my advice would be to implore a local community college. best of luck!
i need some suggestions. My best friend and I (25\f)are planning on taking a vacation in the next couple months. We will have a limited amount of cash and can travel either by car or plane. We live in the north west. I would prefer somewhere warm where we can swim in the ocean, but not limited to that. Does anyone know the cheapest way to visit hawaii (plane tickets, hotels, etc) flying out of San Francisco, or the cheapest rates on a cruiseline? we will probably be gone about a week, give or take. I also would be willing to hear all other suggestions or ideas! thanks
I think it would be fun to try a "Ranch Vacation" Where you get to stay on a farm, ride horses and such. You never know, you might even get to take home a cowboy for a souvenir. I think that would be a fun girl trip. Satisfy that "Daisy Duke" complex. Good luck, girls and have fun!
This is going to be a very long question because to me its very serious.
I would like only more experienced people, possibly doctors if there is any, but if you feel you know whats going on, then go ahead.
This is very embarressing because (without sounding bigheaded) I think I am a fairly pretty girl, I have done some modelling, Basically I noticed a few months ago that something about me was different,
Sometimes in certain siuations, I go all tense and weird, like I suddenly tense my fists and start rubbing it on my face in a really weird motion, I have a lot of other examples, I do some really really weird stuff, I really dont understand why, I find the most frequent time of doing this is when I am in the bathroom, but it happens in other places too.
I find it happens more in excitement, but it can happen for no reason too, I always feel like doing it, but I resist as much as I can.
If I do these awkward movements to much it gives me really bad pains in my stomach, and my heart feels almost empty.
I really dont know what it is, it happens at the most unexpected times, then other times I know its coming, I almost hate going to the bathroom and other places cos I know its going to happen, I really cant give you any more details, I can answer questions but I dont have anymore info on whats going on.
I really need help, its affecting my day to day life, and its far too embarressing to talk about.
I probably will not get ANY replies to this question as I cant find any research about it on the net.
Maybe you have some form of Post Traumatic Stress disorder. There may be an underlying tie between these "certain situations" something that possibly has happened that causes your brain to basically freak out. I wouldn't be too worried, but i would see my family physician to ask for help on getting the correct type of treatment. probably counseling.
I'm the team captain for Relay for Life- Walk/Run to cure cancer. I need really good ideas for a team name! Or just some input on what you think of some of the names I already thought of.
We wanted something that has to do with Disney, but Hakuna Matata is already taken! Ugh! So pretty much only have "Mrs. Nesbit" as our only Disney idea for now. We need something clever! It can be from a Disney song, or a memorable quote/character!
Some other random ones we have are: "A Private Affair," and "Stand By Me."
Things to keep in mind: We're goofy, all in college, great friends, and it's a co-ed team.
Thanks in advance!!
I like stand by me. Also maybe "A Whole new world"
Alright so theres this guy at uni.hes just a normal guy doesnt really stand out from the crowed and kinda quiet.it seems like everytime i look at him hes looking back at me.its as if we have this subconsious conection..i dont no if he feels it but i do.i dont even know him i dont no anything about him but i think now i have a crush on him.today i saw him walk past and my heart started to burn and my stomache tingled..does this mean i liek him?i havent noticed him looking at other girls like he does with me(ok this is actually starting to sound very stupid) but why would he be looking at me would it be because hes interesting in me or just because he likes to look at things?im so confused and dont no what to do should i forget him?i have tried to smile but by the time seem to have the courage to smile he looks away or the smile doesnt come out. i want to talk to him but hes never really alone.The only time he was was at the library but i was with my friends..what should i do?are there ways i can talk to him and not look like a fool?any advice at all would be appreciated!im f/19 and havent had a bf in over a year due to the last one being abusive and cheating on me and threatning me...
Yeah, its a crush. C'mon remember those things you has back in middle school that made your insides all wiggly? My advice: start talking to him. Maybe ask him to give you directions to a place (even if you are not planning to go there), or maybe compliment him on how fast he can text and then say "Why don't you teach me how to text like that." Asking him to help you do something helps him feel more manly, and it gives an innocent way for you to start a conversation with him.
As far as your abusive relationship, I commend you for getting out, but don't continue to allow him to have power over you. It will be hard to find trust again, but it is in there - you just may have to dig deeper than before.
Good Luck!
Wasn't quite sure what subject this would go under, so sorry if I put it in the wrong one.
Anyways, I was wandering if anyone could give me a famous quote about things being similar or comparing?
I couldn't find anything on google.
thanks.
Share our similarities, celebrate our differences.
--M. Scott Peck
So, i've heard a little about the suicide girls and i've visited the website etc. I was just wondering if anyone knows anything else about it. Or whether they know someone who is one!
I was considering becoming one, but i just wanted to know a little bit more about them first :)
erm, thanks in advance!!! xxx
Its not like a club you join or something. Its like being redneck, you just are or you are not. check out the definition on urban dictionary if you still need help.
Here's the link http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=suicide%20girl
Alot of them are considered pin-ups or porn stars, so I am not sure if that is what you are looking for as well.
i was wondering,how do i check my truth box inbox?? i've been trying for a few weeks but i can't find it?? helpp me!
On the right hand side of your myspace home screen you will see all the boxes for your apps. (such as bumper sticker, etc) There you should see one for your Truth Box. Click on it and it should take you to your Truth Box page you will see Received, sent, and shared at the top in a red bar. Click on received to check your inbox.
Good luck!
This is my second laptop and it's overheating almost all the time. it really pisses me off because i always have to be on the lookout for when it's going to get too hot and shut down or something.
is there something i can do to reduce the overheating problem?
btw it's an hp pavillion dv6000. the fan is in THE WORST place ever. it's almost under the laptop...so i pretty much understand why it's overheating.
I have one of these chill pads for my laptop. It helps alot. Also make sure you turn it completely off when not in use that gives it a break from the heat. It will help to preserve your computers internal workings longer.
Here's a link, but there are all kind of these this was just a cheap one I found. You can buy them at Bestbuy or your local computer store.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0000AKA8Y/ref=asc_df_B0000AKA8Y754138?smid=A13KONT7UBBZUD&tag=shopzilla_rev_1350-20&linkCode=asn
hi im 17, and a junior in high school. (i turn 18 in december) i am white, and live with just my mom. we dont get along well at all, infact we just got into a fist fight the other day, but thats not the problem. oh and one quick little fact about my mom, shes racest.
the problem is that my boyfriend is black. and we oviously have sex. he is also 21. we used a condom, but it broke. and now i am pregnant for my first time. oh and one other thing, my mom dosent know i have a boyfriend. he, by the way, wants to keep the baby.
i adore my boyfriend, and he has way more then enough money to support me every step of the way for my pregancy, and is planning on renting an apartment for us as a family, but i want to know what you think i should do.
i believe my mom will flip when she finds out im not only pregnant but im pregnant with a black child.
is there any way i can move out?
what if my boyfriend and i break up, and im stuck a lonley white girl with a black child?
what would you do?
what should i do?
ect.
I am not sure what state you live in, but in most states a person under 18 has to get emancipation to move out from their parents. Otherwise, their parents can be charges with neglect. So you probably should find out about that.
Then, though it may seem like the hardest thing ever, you must be honest with your mom. Tell her upfront that you know that she has prejudices, but that you love this guy and that you are going to have his baby. Tell her that you feel that you made this decision and must now deal with the consequences. She may take this hard at first, but in time, she will accept that she cannot change what is happening, and when that baby is born she will forget all about the day she cursed your name for getting pregnant.
If you and your boyfriend break up, you will have to take him to court for child support. I never said this road was going to be easy. You may have to work alot and give up on some of your dreams for a time, but in the end there is not greater joy than a child. There are many who have made it before you. It can be done.
In a nutshell here it is.
1. tell your mom
2. find out if you need to get emancipated
3. find a job; even if its part time (you'll need the job history later
4. relax, realize that you will accept your new lifestyle in time and that things will be ok.
Good Luck, if I can do anything else for ya let me know.
ok, i've been a server for two years but the place i have worked doesn't serve alcohol & i just recently turned 18 in september anyway. well, im quitting that job and going to another restaurant which DOES sell alcohol. i applied for several jobs, and got interviewed at one where it was a "scored interview". one of the questions was along the lines of you have a table where a customer has had multiple drinks but reaches for her keys to drive home, what should you do? i answered that i would ask another member of her table if they could drive home or if she'd like to call someone to come get her and drive her home. well i guess i didn't score high enough because i didn't get that job but i got this one instead. i start this weekend and i'd honestly like to know what i should do as a server in that situation. or in any other alcohol-related situation. if the customer seems to be getting quite drunk but keeps ordering drinks what should i do? as far as i know i have no right to deny drinks to a customer right? for anyone who has been trained to serve alcohol can you please tell me all you know? im not sure if they'll explain this to me when they train me or not but i'd like some tips from someone who has served and experienced this first-hand. thanks!
I don not know about in restaurants but when I worked in a grocery store cashiers were allowed to deny someone buying alcohol. If they wanted to argue with you, our managers called the police and had them arrested for public drunkenness. If I were in your situation I don't know that I would have customers arrested but if they become to drunk tell your manager, they will inform you about how that establishment handles these situations. However, if there were children that might be riding in the car with them, I might call in an "Anonymous Tip" if you know what I mean.
OK so my brother like's most of my friend's most of his gf has been my friend's but most of them i hooked him up with,just cause i was bored but now he starting to like more and they don't like him we always make fun of him,but what i wanna no if it is okay if my brother goes out with my friend's he is in the 10th grade now and is 15 and me and my or 13
I think it is probably not a good idea because you wouldn't want to lose friends over something your brother did to them. Also, try to not talk junk about your brother with your friends because it will end up getting around to him at school etc. I know you love your brother and you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
Good Luck!
I'm 18/f and a college freshman.
I dated this boy on and off throughout high school, and we were still great friends when our relationship ended this past summer. He had been in a really bad, near fatal car wreck last March, but he was recovering and doing more than the doctors ever said he could.
I found out last Thursday afternoon that he had committed suicide last Wednesday night (he had ODd on his pain pills and they found a near empty bottle of everclear next to his bed). I still don't believe it was suicide... I mean, that's what they're saying, but I know him so well and just can't bring myself to believe it... he must have just been in a lot of pain.. IDK.. I guess it was suicide... Anyway, I've been really incredibly angry that he would do that (suicide or not... all those pills and alcohol!) to me, his mom, and his cousin - the three people who loved him most - not to mention any other friends.
A few years ago, his half sister was killed from drinking and driving, and I can't seem to bring myself to think that he would leave his mom all alone...
Rather than making me sad, I'm just .. pissed off that he would do this - leave us all here to wonder why and to pick up the pieces all over again. I'm even more pissed that he's left me here to deal with his sisters death all by myself (her and I were BEST friends, and I blamed myself for her death)...
Anyway... am I crazy for being so angry with him?! I mean, of course I'm sad that he's gone, but my anger is overpowering every other feeling I have...
This is a very good question, one that many people would be afraid to ask, so I applaud you for your honesty and openness. Also, I extend my condolences to you and yours during this challenging time.
No, you are not crazy. In fact many people feel this same emotion after the sudden death of a loved one. So you are not alone. If you have Hospice or Home Heath in your area, check with them to see if they have grief counselors or support groups available in your community. That can sometimes really help you on the other side of this process. Possible even check with the Student Services department of you college.
Below I have listed the stages of grief as I found them written at essortment.com. These can happen in any order and some may last longer than others.
The five stages of grief are:
1-Denial-"this can't be happening to me", looking for the former spouse in familia places, or if it is death, setting the table for the person or acting as if they are still in living there. No crying. Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss.
2-Anger-"why me?", feelings of wanting to fight back or get even with spouse of divorce, for death, anger at the deceased, blaming them for leaving.
3-Bargaining-bargaining often takes place before the loss. Attempting to make deals with the spouse who is leaving, or attempting to make deals with God to stop or change the loss. Begging, wishing, praying for them to come back.
4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb. Perhaps feeling suicidal.
5-Acceptance-there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realization that it takes two to make or break a marriage. Realization that the person is gone (in death) that it is not their fault, they didn't leave you on purpose. (even in cases of suicide, often the deceased person, was not in their right frame of mind) Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. Our goals turn toward personal growth. Stay with fond memories of person.
Get help. You will survive. You will heal, even if you cannot believe that now, just know that it is true. To feel pain after loss is normal. It proves that we are alive, human. But we can't stop living. We have to become stronger, while not shutting off our feelings for the hope of one day being healed and finding love and/or happiness again. Helping others through something we have experienced is a wonderful way to facilitate our healing and bring good out of something tragic.
15/f
Hello. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and we do fool around (hand job, blow job, fingering) but I refuse to have sex at such a young age. Even though he's 18, he agrees me for my own good :) We're both virgins by the way. But, that's not what I need to talk about, I just thought I would give some background information. When is an appropriate time to start going to the gyno? A lot of girls my age already go to one. Do you think I should start talking to my mom about it?
Yes, once you become sexually active you need to start seeing the gyno. And yes, oral sex and fingering is part of sex and it can cause you issues. So, do yourself a favor and get in the stirrups! :) An ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure. Good luck!
Hi my name is Sophie I am mixed raced and I have always found white guys more attractive than black guys. I was dating this guy for a year and not so long ago bout a month he dumped me he said he doesnt want to get to serious with me becouse since I am mixed raced it is to confusing for him. What do you think he meant by this as it hurt its like he saying being mixed is weird?
Hello Sophie! Thanks for choosing my column!
First off I would like to say that any guy that would DUMP you for being multi-ethnic (or mixed) is a real jerk and not worth your time in the first place. I am sure you are beautiful inside and out in your own right. On that same note, you cannot choose how you were born. He should respect that.
I think what he meant by "confusing" was that he didn't understand whether to treat you as white or black. Maybe, he didn't know how to explain your skin color to his parents (who shouldn't care by the way)
At any rate, you should own who you are and any person that is worthy of you will accept you for who you are. Look at these perceptions as just a filter for all the people who weren't worth your time to begin with.
Thanks for your question I really enjoyed pondering the answer, and please come back if there is anything else you need.
Good night and Good luck!
I am 28y old I am not that much fat. but face is very big. I want to reduce it and have a model like face so that I look beautiful.I have chubby cheeks & double chin.Please help me to out.thanks
Mahrina
Hair styles can really make a difference. If you were heavy your wouldn't wear horizontal stripes. So, if your face is a little heavy, dawn the line down with a longer, leaner hairstyle with less (but not no) volume. Think Jennifer Aniston instead of Stevie Nicks. Hope that helped.
Okay, so next month I am turning 17 and I want to do something fun for my birthday and I can't think of anything exciting to do! I would appreciate any ideas you guys might have (:
I live two hours from DC if that helps and I would like to go see a concert or something, if that helps.
One of my friends did a video scavengar hunt for her 21st B-day. It sounds really corny, but when we all went to her apt later that night it was hilarious. Basically all that is is you split up into groups and make a list - tape yourself doing everything on the list. Like ride the bicycle in walmart or pump and old man's gas. It's fun. Trust me.