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"cant come if wearing a condom during sex"
Hi, I'm an 18 year old female. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about a month now and all has been fine except for the fact that my boyfriend hasn't come even once! I've thoroughly enjoyed sex and he says he does too but...obviously not. So tonight I asked him about it and he says that he seldom ever comes during intercourse unless a condom is not worn. This makes sense to me, it would obviously feel better without it. He said that in NO WAY was he asking me if it would be alright for us to not use a condom during sex...but I would obviously like for both of us to enjoy sex. What are some equally safe alternatives in contraception to condoms? Has anyone else ever seen this problem in a guy? Any advice on what we can do?
Thanks, everyone!
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Well many guys have this problem because wearing the condom can desensitize the guys feeling during sex so he doesn't feel as much pleasure, thus not allowing him to come. So the only way to allow him to not use condoms and still protect against pregnancy is to use birth control and also use the female versions of birth control, like VCF, female condom, or also a suppository-like birth control that has spermicides and goes to work after 10 minutes of entry. All these are available in the same aisle as condoms so you can purchase them everywhere. The only problem is that you will not be protected against STD's so make sure to regularly get tested. Hope I helped and if you have any more question regarding this subject or anything else message my inbox and I will be happy to help you.
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A mutual STD Test, Birth Control, and nonoxyl-9 spemicide in some form are equally as effective as condoms.
If you look in the aisle with condoms and such, the one I use is called "VCF" or "Vaginal Contraceptive Film"
Use that with a condom, or that with birth control, and its an extra line of protection against pregnancy.
Im sure you've seen the "you never know, so wear a condom" responses. The truth is, that a condom does not block HPV, and does block all things that can actually be tested for. Rather than continuing condom use, get a duo comprehensive blood test, get on birth control, use a spermicide, and you are being just as responsible as you had been. (if not more, due to two forms of contraception)
If you get tested together and are faithfully monogamous you have a clearcard on STDs, so its just pregnancy you have to worry about.
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I've heard that there really is a condom-type thing for women... I've never really looked for them, lol, but you should try a looking at a medical store online, they might have it. You never know! :]
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Equally safe contraception would be birth control. Equally safe sex- NONE.
Safe sex is something you both should always be in the habit of practicing, so don't ever ditch the condoms.
The problem with condoms and guys are they lose sensation by wearing them. He can get thinner condoms that allow him more sensation, like Trojan Ultra Thin. I highly suggest he try that.
Not that either of you have STDs, but condoms are the only thing that protects you from them. That's why I say it is best to stay in the habit of practicing safe sex, even if you take birth control.
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