about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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Which is it??
Short hair makes you look thinner, or, long hair makes you look thinner?
i remember hearing one of these, but i dont remember which it is. i'm planning on cutting my hair very short, and i'd like to know before i do.

It really depends on the shape of the person's face. If they have a round face, short hair makes it look rounder. A narrow face, long hair makes it look more narrow.

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Is there something I can eat with or after a greasy food to balance/remove the oil in my stomache? Water doesn't work, lol

Well, the oil will pass through your stomach naturally during digestion. However, your body will still absorb it. It will absorb the oil no matter what you eat to try to balance it out.
Best option would be to cut down the amount of greasy foods you consume.

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Is it okay to put the car in park or neutral at a red light ?

There is certainly no law against it.
I'd go with putting it in neutral rather than park. Like Nova said, your back up lights flashing on may alarm motorists behind you.

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My stepdad has been such an asshole lately. All he does is yell at me and tell me how lazy I am. I'm on the computer most of the time because I'm BORED and there's nothing to do at home. When he comes home, he goes "I see that you're on the computer again. What did you do around the house?" It's like he expects me to make sure that the house is in tiptop shape and everything has to be absolutely perfect for him. If I slightly disagree, he gives me a dirty look and tells me that he's going to take away my laptop if I keep arguing. It's like I have no say in the house. I know I'm only 15, but I hate it when he treats me like I'm dirt and worthless. He never praises me. If my brother has a wet diaper, he won't even change it. It's SO pathetic. I'm tired of him being a stubborn little whiny bitch about everything. When he comes home, all he does is rant and he won't SHUT UP. I'm so tired of this and sometimes I can't wait until I've moved out. I've become really snappy towards my mom. She's super picky, but I'd choose her over my stepdad any day. All of this anger is bottling up inside of me and when I burst out [at the wrong times], I'm either getting punished or sent to my room. I'm so independent and hate being controlled. Give me money and a house and I'd be able to completely manage my life on my own. It's hard to talk to my mom without being judged.


Also, I wanted to mention something else as well [pertaining to this]. I almost have 2 personalities. At home, sometimes I put off cleaning and I'm a huge procrastinator [sp], and I often find myself arguing with my parents. When I visit my dad and my uncles, I'm Ms. Goody Two Shoes and do everything that is asked. If my aunt asked me to clean the bathroom, I would do it in a split second. I guess I just want to 'maintain' that good girl image for my uncles and show them that I can accomplish what need be. My cousin is 22, and had straight A's all throughout high school. She would clean without being asked at my age; she was perfect. She is my 'role model' as of now. A few years back, she received a 4 year scholarship to a local college. I guess I just want my dad's side of the family to be proud of me..

Sorry that this was so long.

Well, I hate to say it, but you are being equally as stubborn as he is.
You procrastinate and don't do your share around the home at your mom's, but go out of your way to get things done at your dad's.
You would rather sit on the computer at home than do your own share (something mature, independent people do...)
That is being stubborn.

"I'm so independent and hate being controlled. Give me money and a house and I'd be able to completely manage my life on my own..."

To be honest, independent people aren't given money and a house- they earn it on their own.

Don't think I'm just trying to sound like a mean jerk or something. That isn't my intention. My intention is to point out the reality of it.

Your life would be a whole lot easier if you would look to your role model not only at your dad's, but at your mom's as well.

I kinda wonder if you aren't going through a bit of a rebellious phase while at your mom's. Acting completely different as you do between the homes of your parents kinda points towards rebellion.

You want your dad and his family to be proud of you, and you should also want the same from your mom.

If you want respect at home, you have to show it. Yah, the guy may be stubborn, but you need to strive to be above that action, yourself.

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I'd just like to say that i am an active member of the "advicenators team" and i hate reading stupid questions like this, but i really need some advice.

15/f
My friend meg broke up with her boyfriend jake over the summer. jake and i have been friends since they were going out ( i met him through her ) i transferred schools and i now go to school with jake and meg. so i used to talk to jake ever night, and he seemed so sweet. he told me i was beautiful and that he loved me. i didnt really believe him, but i fell for him anyway. so i told my friends (including meg) i liked him. they told me about all the bad stuff he had done, and how hes sort of a player, and some admitted to liking him too. the words one girl used was like "everyone falls in love with him"
anyways, he did some really bad things to my friends, and just as things started getting amazing between jake and i, i blew it. i screamed at him and told him i hated him. he kept his cool. he was like you really dont hate me. i mean think about all the good times we've had. and you love me you know it. the truth, yeah i did. even when i told him i hated him, i knew i loved him. but i was so mad at what he had done, i told him i never wanted to even speak to him again. he took that seriously. we havent talked in like a week (yeah i know thats like nothing) but i really miss him. i still love him (not serious love, but i really really like him) i want to IM him and tell him im sorry, but then arent i giving in to him? giving him just what he wants? ive tried hard to get over this kid, but i cant keep my mind off him! what do i do?
sorry and thank you.

Well, you are in quite a predicament here.
Either you trust your friends when they say he is really a jerk, or you apologize to him, try to make something of it, and hope you aren't setting yourself up for heartbreak.

If it were me, I would trust my friends as long as they weren't just saying bad things in order to keep me away from him. But that's me.
Then again, sometimes you got to take risks in this life to find happiness, even if what you risk is your heart.
Maybe he won't treat you that way? You won't know unless you give him a chance.
If you decide to apologize for blowing up at him, be sure to let him know that in order to respect you, he must respect your friends as well.

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17/f
okay soo here's the deal. my friend ben started goin out with this girl named holly. and i didnt really know her until i heard she was making up stuff and was trying to make me and my cousin (also my best friend) go pick her up cuz ben "supposively" wanted to see her but he didnt. ben was starting to lose his friends because of her so i went up to her in like october and sorta yelled at her. my cousin and other friend didnt like her at the moment either. but now my cousin is friends with her and on new years eve her and our other friend were like oh my god answer this and i didnt know who it was and i seen it was holly and i was like "what do you want" and she is like can i talk to allie (my cousin) and im like she is driving.do you want me to give her a message? and she like hung up on me. my cousin says she is scared of me, and bens older sister was like is that girl still being mean to you? but i dont know what she said back. and like the next day my cousin is like why did you hang up on her holly, and she is like she wasnt saying anything, and this got me really mad because she was lying about it. but whatever and then my cousin was like oh were you with ben on new years eve? and she is like no and she was like dont worry he didnt kiss any girl, and then our friend nessa yells in the phone "YEAH EXCEPT WHEN MANDI (me) AND BEN WERE KISSING IN THE BACK SEAT" i felt kinda but but she was just like "what?" it wasnt true tho! i didnt kiss him, im not like that. i feel kinda bad being mean to her now because honestly i dont want any "beef" with her, i dont have a reason to but wouldnt it be weird if all of a sudden i was tryin to be nice to her? and i dont wanna apologize because that would be like...umm okkkay? and my cousin and nessa would be like what the hell, i thought you hated her. i dont really see this girl, because everyone thinks i hate her and stuff so they keep me away from her. any suggestions??

thank you soo much. sorry so long but i'll rate ya!

Well, if the reason you don't like her is because of her lying, then why is it you need to apologize? You are not at fault.
And if these other folks are lying and telling her that you kissed this guy, then why should you have to apologize for others? You are not at fault.

The best way I can see to go about making amends with her is to just go up to her, and say "We got off on the wrong foot, I don't want us to have to do this avoiding game, I want us to get along. How about we just start over?"
Offer your hand as a sign of friendship and shake on it.

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So I have a really great boyfriend, like he's amazing, very cute,sweet and everything.
Just that whenever we cuddle on the couch, he always places his band under my shirt, and just plays with my stomach rubs it, and jiggles it and stuff.
He says stuff like "Ah, you're little belly is so cute."
But I feel weird, because I'm not chubby or anything, quite average, but I do have a tiny bit of a tummy. And he's skelatal.
It just makes me akward, but since he likes to I won't stop him, I just don't know why he likes it so much.

He just likes your tummy- it's just his thing. :)
You feel awkward because you find flaws in your tummy. He obviously doesn't see flaws in it.

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ok so this is really confusing! here are the facts
-faith is my best friend
-mark and james are best friends
-im going out with zack (we dated for 6 months and broke up for 2 and are going out again for about 3 days this time)
-hannah and carter are also my best friends
-mark and james both like me
-so does carter
-faith likes james
-james also likes hannah
-ive liked mark since 3rd grade
-i kinda like james

so what the fuck do i do?

Date the guy of your choice. Everyone else can fend for themselves.

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I have no confidence whatsoever in myself...none!
Is there any way i can fix this?
what are some positive things i can think?

Positive things?

-Yes, I admit I have flaws, but so does everyone else in the world.
-I'm always good enough.
-Nobody is above me. I'm not above others, but I can be above their actions.
-Who cares what other people think? I know I'm good people. That's all that really matters.
-Yes, I'm beautiful. Inside and out. Inner beauty seeps to the surface and always outshines outer beauty.
-I'm a great person, and nobody can ever take that away from me.

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Im like a guy repelant, NO GUYS LIKE ME!
not one, becuase i dont hang out with the "popular" girls, that means im not worthy enough? I need some pointers on how to be les guy-repelant.

When you feel unworthy, you put out the vibe to others that you are.
Think of it this way- if a guy is going to go out with a girl solely based on her social status, then he isn't a guy worth dating anyhow.
Like you for who you are, be proud of that, realize you are always worthy, and that is the vibe you will put out to others.

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16 f

there is this kid that i know. he will NOT stop touching me. he's had a crush on me for the longest time, and wont leave me alone. he's really gross and perverted...and just an idiot overall..I hate him. I dont know what to do to stop him. I've hit him before..but he continues touching and squeezing me. I tell him stop like everyday, and he would say something along the lines of, "but I thought you loved me" or "dont you love me anymore"
It's like freaking RAPE, I swear! I'm scared he'll rape me one day =(

what can I do to freak him out? :|

I'd say that you have already given him plenty of warnings and ample opportunity to stop.

File sexual harassment charges on him.

There is no reason you should have to put up with such behavior out of any guy. EVER.
You shouldn't have to live in fear of any guy. EVER.

I'm serious as a heart attack. Go to the police. File sexual harassment charges. He makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe. That is the best option for you to take care of the problem.

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for the past 5 days i've been having an awful toothache (or mouthache) that seems to come and go. they come for about 15 minutes and then they come back very unexpectedly. i went to the dentist and he took xrays and filled a cavity and also cleaned my gums, hoping that would solve the problem. he noticed nothing else that could be solving this problem. even after seeing him, i'm in the same amount of pain. i can't pinpoint a certain tooth, it seems like just the whole left side of my mouth. it throbs and is just a very very strong pain, like nothing i've ever felt before. advil doesn't help. if anyone has had a problem like this or knows someone who has, please help! i'm desperate! thanks!

For the pain, you can try letting an aspirin dissolve in the left side of your mouth. Kinda swish it around through your teeth once it dissolves.
Tastes gross, I won't lie, but does help ease the pain.

I don't know what would cause it. I do know that if you have sinus problems, that can cause you to have pain in your teeth.

My suggestion is to go see your doctor since your dentist couldn't find the problem. It may be something that isn't dental.

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Sophomore/female.
My parents are seriously considering home schooling for me. They think it's much better to be surrounded by an environment that doesn't involve drugs or bad influences..I just don't know where to look for the best homeschooling. I know there are websites..but which ones are the best? Is anyone homeschooled here? If you can, please tell me where to look. :)

I'm not homeschooled, but I did a little research for my own state of Kansas.
Seems as though you need to contact your State Department of Education. Your parents will have to register.
Here is a link for Kansas as an example of what I'm talking about:
http://www.ksde.org/Default.aspx?tabid=1684

The State Department of Education should have all of the information your parents will need to provide you with the best homeschooling for you.

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P.S. There is certainly nothing wrong with being homeschooled. If you are going to a dangerous school, then a safe environment isn't being provided to you by the school system.

Don't worry that you may end up "living your life in a bubble" because kids who are homeschooled DO have a social life, just like anyone else.

-ygs

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on my advicenators profile, im having troulbe uploading a picture of myself, and setting a background. how do i do those two things?

Ok, the whole picture thing I'm still a little confused on, myself. I know that under Profile Settings, you can select Browse and choose one from your own computer files. However, it has to be smaller than 15K.

You can also put a URL link through tinypic.com, but that is the way I'm still trying to figure out myself. I hope someone answers your question who can explain that to you.

As for backgrounds, under Column Settings, I click the link that says, "We also have some ready-made backgrounds for everyone here..."

Select the background of your choice, copy the little code thing (ex. "/img/bg/bg25.jpg") and paste to "Page background image (URL)" and "Sidebar background image (URL)" on the Column Settings page.

You can choose two different background images. One for page background, another for sidebar background, if you so choose.

Don't forget to select Submit, or your changes won't happen.

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Hi, I am new to this so this might be a silly question, but why does my movie maker not allow me to save to a dvd??? Do I need a software download?

No, not a silly question at all. :)

You should be able to save it to DVD by selecting in the task menu Save to DVD. I know if you don't have a DVD writing drive on your computer, the option will be gray, and you can't select it.
Is your computer's DVD drive a DVD Writer, or player (ROM)?
If it is a DVD Writer, then I'm not sure as to why it wouldn't allow you to save your video to DVD. It may be a glitch in the program itself, or some other issue. Those types of problems I don't know how to solve. :(


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I was wondering if anyone knew any body parts that start with the letter D? haha, i know it sounds random, but I need to know! thanks!! :)

Deltoid ligament
Distal Phalanges
Dorsal Metatarsal ligaments
Dorsal Tarsometatarsal ligaments
Descending colon

The only thing I could think of without looking up a body part list was diaphragm.

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I made these slideshows for my parents. my grandparents really liked them so they asked me to make one for them. i said yes so they sent me about 1400 pictures on a CD. the problem is I dont know where to start now that i am working with 900 more pictures than before. should i make more than one in catagories, one with only a few pictures? i cant disappoint my grandparents


You can group pictures together, such as vacation pictures in one group, family gatherings in another. Photos of them in one group, their children in another, their grandchildren, and so on.

Or, though it takes more work, you can try to put all of their pictures in chronological order.

Don't overwhelm yourself. Start with a small number of photos. Put them in the order you want, then sort in another small number, and so on until you have all 1400 photos in the place you want them.

If I can help you any further, I'd be glad to do so. I use Windows Movie Maker, and making photo slide shows a hobby I really enjoy.

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Hello, My name is david, my age is 25, i am masterbuting from last 3 years, my question is that can i be a father because my sperm is like water, i am deeply worried about this, please help me, i am asking it from my deep heart

If you are wondering this because of masturbation, then no need to worry. Masturbation has no effect on your ability to have children.

As for the consistency of your semen, that is something you should discuss with your doctor.

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i have had an on and off sore throat for like a week now...does anyone know what it could be???

I don't know what it could be, but here are some suggestions:

Try getting a new tooth brush. After time, tooth brushes build up all sorts of nasties that can cause a sore throat. After your sore throat clears up, replace that one, too.

If you happen to be a smoker, smoking keeps a sore throat irritated.

Chloraseptic is a nasty tasting throat spray, but it numbs the back of the throat. Works great. The cherry kind doesn't taste quite as horrible.

As stated before me, if your sore throat doesn't go away, you should talk to your doctor about it.

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you know how the n got a new channel?
well i went on the website and went to the thing where you find what channel its on in your area, and for my area the only providers that came up were direct tv and some other thing, and i have cox digital cable.

so i scrolled through every channel on the guide thing on my tv and its just not there.
is the channel not there for cox anymore?
if so thats really gay.
how can i find it?
thanks

When I checked channel listings in my own area, it was available for Cox digital, but not regular Cox cable. It was listed as THEN.
Scroll through for your own area for THEN, and if it isn't there, I would go down the menu on the left side of the screen, select "Customer Support" and contact them about it.
If it isn't available in your specific area, I'd request it. Maybe they will make it available.

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