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he wont stop touching me
16 f
there is this kid that i know. he will NOT stop touching me. he's had a crush on me for the longest time, and wont leave me alone. he's really gross and perverted...and just an idiot overall..I hate him. I dont know what to do to stop him. I've hit him before..but he continues touching and squeezing me. I tell him stop like everyday, and he would say something along the lines of, "but I thought you loved me" or "dont you love me anymore"
It's like freaking RAPE, I swear! I'm scared he'll rape me one day =(
what can I do to freak him out? :|
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I almost second Razhie. It sounds like hes creepy rather than aggressive, which is a bit easier to deal with.
Option 1. Find yourself alone with him. Grab him by the balls, squeeze moderately hard, and tell him that if he touches you again, you will rip them off. Ears can work well for this as well, if it were still up Id send you to a website I used to love that showed common pressure points that cause alot of pain but no damage.
If you cant do option 1, then follow Razhie's advice.
Oh, and consider a practical self defense class. Not "karate" or anything, but something thats actually legitimate self defense. They teach you all kinds of nifty ways to incapacitate someone who is bigger and stronger than you using common vunerable points on the human body.
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Talk to a principal.
What he is doing is assualt and he needs to know that and be made to stop. Take it right to the top of the food chain and speak to your vice principal or pricipal (whoever is responsible for disicpline at your school).
Be clear that he wont stop touching and squezzing you despite being told not too.
Talk to your parents as well and if your principal isn't helpful, have them call the schoolboard. If that doesn't work, call the cops and be prepared to file charges as nessicary.
If it happens agian, either before or after you've spoken to someone, say VERY LOUDLY "[His Name] do not touch me! I don't want you to touch me. I am going to go get help right now if you touch me." and if he does GO GET SOMEONE right then, a teacher or any school staff who can help you. You need to treat this as the abuse that it is. Get the help of an adult.
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This is a very serious issue that should not be taken lightly.
with sexually agressive stalkers, if you use an intimidating friend, there may be a time when he catches you alone, and by then he has built up in his head that you are doing this to hurt him, and he might take his harrassment to a new level, and prove your deepest fears to be true.
what you need to do is go to a parent, then have you and your parents go to the principal of your school. if that doesn't work, go to the police and file sexual harrassment charges against him. then a restraining order.
Do not EVER tolerate this kind of behaviour from ANYONE! it is your right to feel safe, and you should not let anyone take that right from you.
be strong sweetie, and stand up for youself, no matter what anyone else says.
good luck!
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I'd say that you have already given him plenty of warnings and ample opportunity to stop.
File sexual harassment charges on him.
There is no reason you should have to put up with such behavior out of any guy. EVER.
You shouldn't have to live in fear of any guy. EVER.
I'm serious as a heart attack. Go to the police. File sexual harassment charges. He makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe. That is the best option for you to take care of the problem.
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What do you say when he says "don't you love me any more?"..? Does no work, then ignoring him?
You need to be more stern. He might think you're joking or not being very serious when you tell him to stop.
"Seriously, don't do that. I don't like it"
If that fails, the only option where he will definitely stop is if you tell a teacher if it's during school.. or an adult you trust (parent/aunt/older friend).
Keep your distance from him if possible and try to have people around you when he's near.
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If you have a big or intimidating guy friend, ask him to walk with you in school and stuff so the kid might back off. Most boys don't harass girls when other people are around, especially a threatening guy.
If not, just tell one of your guy friends and they might talk to him and tell him to back the hell off you.
If you don't have any big guy friends or you don't feel comfortable with that, just overemphasize the fact that you have a boyfriend, even if you don't.
If none of this works you have to tell an adult or something. I know how you feel. I had a kid that followed me around everywhere and always said creepy things to me. I never did anything about it because I was really shy, but one day an adult noticed and told him off for me.
Good luck :)
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well if you want to freal him out i would threaten him by telling him your going to tell your teacher or who ever that he is sexually harrassing you. if he continues then you should deffenatly tell someone, its obvious that he has you feeling uncomfortable. hope i could help.
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