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I'm laid back and extremely open minded. I love photography, music, and travelling. I value honesty and good friendship more than anything. My motivational drive in life is thrill. I'm one of those spur of the moment kind of people; always looking for adventure. Most importantly, I'm always willing to help :)

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[l5/f]
is there anyway to shave down there w/o geting bumps and or irritation, and can you hair removal cream down there.
p.s. i rate all advice high!

Honestly, no. There is no good way haha. I starting shaving when I was about 15 for a year and every time it was painful and it looked awful. The best way is to get a wax. Seriously. It fucking hurts but its totally worth it. Then the hair grows in a lot smoother and lighter and its easier to shave afterwards. I got one wax about 2 years ago and I've been shaving since then with little to no irritation.

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Hi i have a problem them i know is not normal but i dont know what to do about it when i make out with my GF i get a boner and then orgasm a real short time later. dose anyone else have this problem. how can i stop this? were both 16.

Whack it more often.

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Hey,
I'm 18/f and live in ontario,canada
My question is; Do you have to go threw with the whole gynochologist test to get birth control? I'm still a virgin and all and i've never had to go to the gynochologist before. Will i ahve to now?

Since you're 18 your doctor should be checking down there anyways. You need tests even though you haven't had sex. But you can get birth control from someone like a dermatologist. That's where I got mine from. No check ups or anything.

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Why do boys like boobs?

Biologically, people are like animals. Men are looking for a mate to make children with. Breasts represent a woman's ability to mother, or breast feed a child. Bigger breasts perhaps make them seem more womanly, so that's why guys go all crazy about them. It's a sexual, biological, and evolutional instinct.

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okay so im in 7th grade and im 13. were going on a class trip to an amusement park and everyone is going to ride the roller coasters.

i want to too, but theres a problem. how come whenever the roller coaster drops, i cant breathe? like the air goes up in my face and like it feels like my face is being pushed back and that im holding my breath.

how do i prevent this from happening? are there ways that help me breathe on roller coasters? why does this happen? i'm sorry for the multiple questions but i really need the answers before i go on the field trip!

I used to feel like that simply because I was terrified. When I let go and put my hands up on the drops, however, I was relieved from the feeling. Maybe try that? If not, there's not too much you can do. As long as you can breathe somewhat normally, its okay. If you're having serious trouble breathing on and after the ride, don't go on them. Just try to chill out if possible.

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Whenever a guy calls me pretty, or hot, or even cute I feel really insecure about myself. It annoys me more than anything and I would just rather them notice that I'm funny, or that I'm nice or something. Almost like..I have nothing else thats attractive to you? Anyone else get what I'm talking about? I'm 16 and I've asked my friends and they say NO THAT'S A COMPLIMENT! HE THINKS YOU'RE CUTE!
I'd rather they just not say anything. I feel insecure being around guys that tell me I'm good looking because I feel like if I'm not looking so great at that moment, I have nothing to offer. Do all guys think that girls want to hear "You're hot" because quite frankly, I get distant from guys who say things like that to me.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Wow I know exactly how you feel. The thing is that I'm friends with mostly guys. And I feel the same way, whenever they don't happen to say something, I automatically assume I look bad and that I have nothing else to offer. But it's not true. I've had talks with my friends about this because it bothered me. What they said, and I believe it to be true, is that they wouldn't say it if they weren't attracted to a girl's personality as well. Beauty comes from personality, it really does. They wouldn't bother telling you you're good looking or hot or pretty if you were a nasty person, because they wouldn't want to waste their time. "You're hot" is just something they think to say, they don't mean to offend you. So just try to take it in stride and know that you have more than just looks. Even from what you just said in your question/explanation, you seem like a very admirable person.

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me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and i love her sooo much you know it wasn't that first sight love it was that first kiss that made my world change just that first kiss and all of a sudden she doesn't love me for no reason after she has done everything bad to me and all i have done is love her, her friends hate me and put things in her head all the time, i just want to take her and leave and be alone and happy forever just the 2 of us and just start a new life i love her and i dont know what to do i have done everything she has asked lost firends everything you can think possible and now i have nothing but her i just don't know what to do

Hey, I'm sorry you have to go through this :( you seem like a great guy. My question is, how do you know she doesn't love you anymore? If she's just saying it, it might just be because she's scared. Since her friends "hate" you, it may be that you two were spending too much time together. Maybe you took her away from her friends and they hated that. I dont mean to jump to conclusions, but if that's the case, you two still need outlets and other friends to hang out with often. She might feel trapped, and the more and more her friends tell her bad stuff, the more she's going to want to stray away from you. That is my guess, I think she still loves you. My advice would be to have a serious talk with her. Take her out on a romantic date, tell her how you feel as sincerely as you can, and tell her you can accomodate to her wants and needs. That's if you want to. Good luck hun!

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okay so I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we've been messing around for about 2 months or so. The only thing he does is eat me out and finger me and its good, but he won't let me do anything to him. I ask him why and he says because I have to want it & I don't even know what he means by that. I'm pretty sure we'll mess aroung this weekend. Any suggestions to what I should do to tease him and to get him to want me to do things to him??

18/f

For some reason I don't think those were the answers you were looking for haha. Basically, when he says that he wants you to "want it", just be more into it. Even if you have to fake it haha. If you're making out, grab him or try to grab him a lot down there. Make it intense. If you're kissing his neck or anything, whisper in his ear that you want his dick or that you're really horny or whatever. Haha. It sounds slutty, but it'll definitely work. Good luck!

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im 16/f
he is 19

when we went out i was 14. he was my first boyfriend and it lasted 4 months and i started to lose the spark in the relationship. i loved him but i didnt like him anymore if that made sense. i think the stress of everyone thinking he was too old for me and being so judgemental about it just made me not want to have to deal with it anymore so i told him "i have to talk to you" and he said "i have to talk to you first" and i told him to go first and he told me that there was another girl who told him she liked him and he had always liked her and he said he would absolutely stay with me and tell her to back off if i wanted to stay together but with all the stress i broke it off. within an hour he was going out with this other girl. realizing i truly did still love him i flipped out on him because i felt like he didnt care. i think i had an understandable reason to be upset....it was only an hour! we ended up getting into this big screaming fight and we didnt talk for a year and a half. then one day he texted me. i had no idea he still had my number becasue when we were going out he didnt have a cell phone so its not like he had it saved in there. so that was around christmas time and we've just been talking ever since. by the way he's still going out with the girl "he left me for" (i dont know what else to call it). so we gradually started talking more and more and now we talk about twice a day. still texting because he's shy and would probably have a heart attack if he called me.

so on to the real situation. in the 4 or 5 months that we've been talking to each other its just like all my other friendships except that i havent seen him in two years and we dont talk about our relationship and our girlfriends/boyfriends. even though i've been single ever since. so today he says "i have a question" and he asked if i thought it was weird that we can have such a good relationship after having a serious dating relationship and then a heated break up and i said it was fine and i enjoy having someone to talk to. the conversation kept going and now he's going to visit me at work while im on break which im excited about but nervous all at the same time. and he said he was excited too. then we started talking about our relationship and how we were so shy that we barely talked to each other in the begining and how i was the first and only girl (to this day) that he ever had butterflies for. and then we started talking about the break up and he told me that for a week he didnt care that we broke up but then after that week he totally broke down and realized what had happened and what he lost. even while he had this new girlfriend who he had always liked. and he thought i didn't care that we broke up and i "didnt give a F***" so i told him that i had loved him a lot and i really did care when we broke up and it took me a year to get over it.

im just wondering why someone would say this. and take two years to say it. and why would they say this, to their ex girlfriend after being with a girl for two years???

i'm not sure what to make of the situation. i wasn't expecting this at all!!

Guys do stuff like this all the time and from what I've read, he doesn't seem really trustworthy. Sometimes boys get sick of their girlfriends so they look for other girls or make sure they have some kind of an outlet to spice up their life. You know what I mean? Girls get this feeling too. Especially if he's around 17-18. I'm actually going through this right now. He's probably just looking for excitement and trying to see if he can get you back. It boosts his confidence and makes him feel good about himself knowing that he could possibly get you back. It adds something to his life, ya know?
Its up to you if you want to rekindle the relationship, but if you do, make sure he's really changed. If not, just make sure you're on the same page. Don't be exclusive with him. You don't want to get hurt again.

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my bf has the most respect for me and hes really sweet. i just don't think he thinks im sexy. other "sexy" girls grab his attention easily. is there any way i can do the same and make him only pay attention to me? i just want him to think "wow ive never seen her like that before" and think of me in a sexy way. without losing the respect of course.

i need help and ideas!!!
p.s. im seeing him this weekend.

f/16

Say a lot of sexually suggestive things, but if you don't want to actually act sexual, make sure you don't lead him onto think that you do. Talk with your eyes. Make sexy faces. Body language is everything. Get close to him when you talk, touch his face or his stomach. Grab or stroke his arm when you talk to him. Compliment and flatter him. Do not be annoying or complain too much, this will just attract him to other girls immediately. When you're around other people or in a group of friends, slightly come onto him and tell him you want him. He will be dying until he gets you alone.

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my eyelashes aren't long but they're not short. Whenever I curl them and put on mascara, they aren't evenly separated, and some of them clump together and some of them are more curled than others even though i curl them all together.

any help with how to get my eyelashes evenly separated and look longer and more noticable??

My advice would be to stick to the mascara and buy an eyelash brush. (You can also use it to style/brush your eyebrows.) To use it you just literally brush your lashes, almost like you would when you're putting mascara on. It separates them nicely.

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Okay, so I usually listen to death/heavy metal, or just metal, but then I sometimes listen to cute/acoustic songs.. Any song ideas? Thanks. :)

Dashboard Confessional has a nice acoustic sound - "Hands Down" and "Screaming Infedelities"

My favorite acoustic songs are "Black" by Pearl Jam, "Plush (Acoustic)" by Stone Templt Pilots, and "Everlong" by Foo Fighters.

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if someone asks you out as a joke (or you think its a joke probably but its not that obvious) what reply do you shoot back to the person so you dont look stupid in front of everyone?

I know what you mean. Go along with it, "yeah, tomorrow?" or "ooo baby" or something like that so it seems like you know he's kidding.

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Someone told me (a teacher, but I'm not so sure how credible she is, she's pretty old) that you can get a scholarship for being a certain ethnicity. Huh?

I'm Russian and I speak Russian, do I qualify? Is there even such a thing?

There's a scholarship for pretty much everything. Really random things. Even for like people who have been injured in farm related accidents, haha. Seriously though. Yeah, there's probably some sort of scholarship for that. Ask your guidance counselor for a list of scholarships or google it. Collegeboard.com might bring you to some scholarship links. There's a million you might be eligable for.
Also, being a certain ethnicity might get you into college over someone who's just straight up white. Maybe that's what she meant. It increases your chances, which I think is kinda messed up, but that's the way it is haha.

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how can i look taller? like what can i wear? i cant really find shirts that are striped upwards, and i dont really feel comportable wearing heels. but like what shade and type (boot cut, flare etc.) of jeans would make me look taller? (skinny jeans dont really suit me) i am really short (well at least i LOOK short) and I really want to get rid of that illusion
Thanks:)

Make sure you wear long shirts to give the illusion of a long torso. Clothes tight but not too too tight. I'm not sure about the jeans, but the general idea is don't wear clothes that cut off at strange places. In my opinion, jeans that come up to my hips and stop there (low rise jeans) make me look longer and thinner. Don't wear shirts that are wide and short. If you don't feel comfortable in heels, maybe some wedges? They're cute and comfortable. If you're worried about people judging you and saying "why is she wearing heels", wedges usually work because they're really cute. Just make sure they're not wicked tall. Hope i could help.

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I'm desperately saving up for some trips im going on this summer- any suggestions on good jobs for a 17 year old? Like, good paying or beneficial. Go crazy with your tips, I'm picky haha

I'm almost 18 and I've worked at a restaurant since I was 16. It was my first job and has been my only job, and I LOVE IT! If you get along easily with people and you like to work at a fast pace, you'd love to work at a restaurant. Be a bus kid or hostess. Bussing may not sound all that appealing, but you make pretty damn good money! Minimum wage plus tips, baby. It adds up. Sometimes to about $13 an hour. You wont find that at many other places as a teen.
Plus once you get to know the place better, you can waitress and really bring in the money.
If you're looking for more of a slow job or an easy one, babysit. Make ads. People always need a babysitter and you can make decent money. Usually convenient hours too.
If you can't find a great job but need one quick, places like McDonalds are always hiring. You can leave a job like that pretty easily too, people are always coming and going.

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this question is for anyone who has has sex before. My best friend recently told me that he was in love with me and this Friday we plan to lose our virginity together. We have protection and im on Yasmin birth control so im not worried about getting pregnant...The problem is, I have no idea what to do when it actually comes to intercourse... It seems like it would be difficult for 2 bodies to be in sync that way... I don't know the first thing about how to do it.. Any tips from experience? Does it hurt if his penis is 8inches or close to that? Will I bleed? Well I masterbated the other night and I was very turned on at the time and I bled a little, but I wasn't starting my period.. I know that's TMI.. But I'm really just nervous and clueless.. Any tips at all would be greatlyyyyy appreciated :)

It will definitely hurt a bit. It always does the first time, especially because he's big. But don't worry at all, it's natural. Initiating sex, when he first goes into you, will really hurt. If you feel extremely extremely uncomfortable, have him stop. You'll have to take it slow. Basically, after a while it might start to feel pretty good. Don't expect anything fantastic for the first time. If it doesn't end up feeling good, that's okay. It might hurt a little bit for the first couple of times, but as long as you do it pretty reguarly you'll get used to it and it will start feeling amazing. You may bleed a little bit but it doesn't add to the pain.
So at least for the first time, I'd suggest you laying down on your back and having him on top of you. Like you're making out, but he's in you. That's the easiest way and the best for the first couple of times.
Good luck and its good that you're being safe

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16/f

this guy.
we talk like every night on the phone
the most weve talked was from 10 pm to 4 am or so
this is how it goes.
weve never told each other that we like each other
well
he gave me a poem that said he loved me
i never really responded to that.
is that bad? =\

i tell him that this bitchy girl wanting to hook up with him makes me really mad and jealous.
he stopped talking to her.

he always makes me feel better

and then at our dance we danced every slow song and every fast song together. and during one slow song he made a joke about this girl and i let go of him but he pulled me into him and i like melted. and i was like oh you have no idea how many stories i could tell you about that and he said if theyre not about you i dont want to hear them


hes great, but hes a male. (no offense boys)
i want to know if hes playing me
because it seems way to good to be true that hed like me
im not exactly the hottest girl ever
but he tells me that im attractive and that he likes to talk to me

does he like me or not??
whats a casual way of finding out without flat asking?>

Wow I'm jealous. That's the kinda of guy I've been looking for. He definitely likes you! If he didn't think you were attractive or wasn't attracted to you then he wouldn't be wasting his time with you. Guys don't typically like to talk on the phone, so if he talks for 6 hours then he's really really into you. Go for it but take it slow.

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im soo excited for summer. like not even kidding, im obsessed!. how do i make these two springy months go by really fast for me. like i cant take anymore of this crappy weather. im about to flipp. thankss.

I feel exactly the same way! I'm pretty obsessed with it too. Just plan big things you want to do in the summer. I find that when I have things planned out that I look forward to, the time until they happen go by faster. I don't know why.
For now just keep busy. Bowling with a bunch of friends is always fun as is indoor mini golf.
I don't know if you drink or not, but nonetheless having friends over, drinking, watching a movie and chilling out with friends is a good way to pass time.

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17/m

okay, long story short my girlfriend and i want to start having sex again, but the problem is we have absolutely nowhere to go, the car is okay, but its cold outside, (freezing!!) and both our parents are always home. Is there anyone who could think of somewhere we could go, aside from like a hotel or something???? Thank you so much!!

I think skipping school may be a little too risky, but you could always go into school late (if you can drive) If your parents have work in the morning, have her come over your house and go into school like 2 hours late. At my school, they don't call the parents unless the students come in after 11.

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