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I'd just like to say that i am an active member of the "advicenators team" and i hate reading stupid questions like this, but i really need some advice.
15/f
My friend meg broke up with her boyfriend jake over the summer. jake and i have been friends since they were going out ( i met him through her ) i transferred schools and i now go to school with jake and meg. so i used to talk to jake ever night, and he seemed so sweet. he told me i was beautiful and that he loved me. i didnt really believe him, but i fell for him anyway. so i told my friends (including meg) i liked him. they told me about all the bad stuff he had done, and how hes sort of a player, and some admitted to liking him too. the words one girl used was like "everyone falls in love with him"
anyways, he did some really bad things to my friends, and just as things started getting amazing between jake and i, i blew it. i screamed at him and told him i hated him. he kept his cool. he was like you really dont hate me. i mean think about all the good times we've had. and you love me you know it. the truth, yeah i did. even when i told him i hated him, i knew i loved him. but i was so mad at what he had done, i told him i never wanted to even speak to him again. he took that seriously. we havent talked in like a week (yeah i know thats like nothing) but i really miss him. i still love him (not serious love, but i really really like him) i want to IM him and tell him im sorry, but then arent i giving in to him? giving him just what he wants? ive tried hard to get over this kid, but i cant keep my mind off him! what do i do?
sorry and thank you.
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Well, you are in quite a predicament here.
Either you trust your friends when they say he is really a jerk, or you apologize to him, try to make something of it, and hope you aren't setting yourself up for heartbreak.
If it were me, I would trust my friends as long as they weren't just saying bad things in order to keep me away from him. But that's me.
Then again, sometimes you got to take risks in this life to find happiness, even if what you risk is your heart.
Maybe he won't treat you that way? You won't know unless you give him a chance.
If you decide to apologize for blowing up at him, be sure to let him know that in order to respect you, he must respect your friends as well.
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my boyfriend is the same way hes the biggest player ever and hes done a lot of stuff with other girls. everyone falls for him and its hard to get over him this is the fourth time weve dated and im breakin gup wit him tomorrow..lol but you should tell this guy that you dont want anything serious between you two and its because you cant deal with everything he does or soemthing but when you start falling for him again think of eveyrthing he did to hurt you and your friends AND you dont have to go off on him but dont fall for him again!
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What happened between Jake and his ex girlfriends has nothing to do with you & him even though they were your friends. Has he ever done anything to hurt you? You shouldn't of yelled at him and argued for something in the past because it has nothing to do with you. You should defenetly talk to him and apologize for how you have acted and give him a chance to talk. He could of felt something different for you than he has with other girls and he might be a different guy. Saying sorry and admiting you're wrong isn't "giving in" to him. You're being a bigger person and I'm sure that you don't want to end things with Jake this way. Things between you guys can be different and see how he is for yourself. Don't listen to other people and judge him of that because it isn't fair. I hope everything works out between you guys.
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