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my stepdad
My stepdad has been such an asshole lately. All he does is yell at me and tell me how lazy I am. I'm on the computer most of the time because I'm BORED and there's nothing to do at home. When he comes home, he goes "I see that you're on the computer again. What did you do around the house?" It's like he expects me to make sure that the house is in tiptop shape and everything has to be absolutely perfect for him. If I slightly disagree, he gives me a dirty look and tells me that he's going to take away my laptop if I keep arguing. It's like I have no say in the house. I know I'm only 15, but I hate it when he treats me like I'm dirt and worthless. He never praises me. If my brother has a wet diaper, he won't even change it. It's SO pathetic. I'm tired of him being a stubborn little whiny bitch about everything. When he comes home, all he does is rant and he won't SHUT UP. I'm so tired of this and sometimes I can't wait until I've moved out. I've become really snappy towards my mom. She's super picky, but I'd choose her over my stepdad any day. All of this anger is bottling up inside of me and when I burst out [at the wrong times], I'm either getting punished or sent to my room. I'm so independent and hate being controlled. Give me money and a house and I'd be able to completely manage my life on my own. It's hard to talk to my mom without being judged.
Also, I wanted to mention something else as well [pertaining to this]. I almost have 2 personalities. At home, sometimes I put off cleaning and I'm a huge procrastinator [sp], and I often find myself arguing with my parents. When I visit my dad and my uncles, I'm Ms. Goody Two Shoes and do everything that is asked. If my aunt asked me to clean the bathroom, I would do it in a split second. I guess I just want to 'maintain' that good girl image for my uncles and show them that I can accomplish what need be. My cousin is 22, and had straight A's all throughout high school. She would clean without being asked at my age; she was perfect. She is my 'role model' as of now. A few years back, she received a 4 year scholarship to a local college. I guess I just want my dad's side of the family to be proud of me..
Sorry that this was so long.
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Also, another thing.. maybe you're spending so much energy there at your dad's house that at your mom's it's like your resting house where you just relax. I dunno, maybe. You already do so much at one house that taking care of another sounds like a big responsibility. :( That sucks that you have like double the chores. If somehow you can divide your energy into doing some work for both places you can get a break from your stepdad's yakking. Or like change it up a little and get some laptop time at your dad's for a change or something. Good luck whatever you do!
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Well, I hate to say it, but you are being equally as stubborn as he is.
You procrastinate and don't do your share around the home at your mom's, but go out of your way to get things done at your dad's.
You would rather sit on the computer at home than do your own share (something mature, independent people do...)
That is being stubborn.
"I'm so independent and hate being controlled. Give me money and a house and I'd be able to completely manage my life on my own..."
To be honest, independent people aren't given money and a house- they earn it on their own.
Don't think I'm just trying to sound like a mean jerk or something. That isn't my intention. My intention is to point out the reality of it.
Your life would be a whole lot easier if you would look to your role model not only at your dad's, but at your mom's as well.
I kinda wonder if you aren't going through a bit of a rebellious phase while at your mom's. Acting completely different as you do between the homes of your parents kinda points towards rebellion.
You want your dad and his family to be proud of you, and you should also want the same from your mom.
If you want respect at home, you have to show it. Yah, the guy may be stubborn, but you need to strive to be above that action, yourself.
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You know you can set up something with him where you maybe clean the house and take care of your brother lets say twice a week and maybe tell him how you feel and he says something bad just say i am sorry i just had to let you know how i feel or you could show him how he has been treating you
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I'm sure they are proud of you. But maybe if you feel this way about your mom and stepdad, you should just try talking to them(easier said than done I know)But I'm sure your mom wouldn't want you to dread being there. If you find you can't talk to them, then talk to your dad or someone really close to you. I mean it's your decision, if you would rather to just not have to talk or make any interactions with your moms side it's completly up to you. In my opinion though, you should maybe just try talking to them because after all you only get one mom. I know it's not easy talking to your parents when they're like this but all you can do is try to, right? I hope I could help and if you have any questions, message me:)
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