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I got a baby guinea pig over the past weekend and she's acting strange and i don't know if it's normal, as in Should I take her to the vet?
She sneezes
she has "boogers" in her eyes ( gross i know)
she won't eat guinea pig food just hay and veggies
she barley drinks water ever
she shakes and grunts 24/7
is this good or bad please give me some advice (link)
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Please take your guinea pig to the vet ASAP. Guinea pigs get ill very easily and since they are rodents they go "down" very quickly. It could be a matter of HOURS before she dies, just so you know.
A healthy animal will always have clear, clean eyes. They will never have seepage from the nose or "sneeze" a lot. Rejecting food is a VERY, VERY big sign that the animal is having problems processing that even. If the animal normally does not shake then shaking is cause for alarm.
Please, pack her safely in a container and take her to the vet. Now. As soon as you read this.
I lost a very dear pet to me once because I took too long to get her the help she needed. She looked completely fine one hour and the next she was ill, within a few hours she had passed on. Rodents have very, very sensitive respiratory systems so they can catch colds and various airborne illnesses easily. Even some wood chippings can end up causing lung infections in rodents. They are simply not as hearty as one would think.
The shaking COULD be nervousness of a new home.
Not eating COULD be nervousness of a home.
Personally, I wouldn't risk it though. The eyes don't sound good. The not drinking water is too risky for me. Just be on the safe side and have her checked out.
Please, take her to the animal hospital now before you have to watch her suffer. Even if you cannot afford the vet bills most will let you pay monthly until the cost is paid off.
P.S. When purchasing a pet always look at the color of the skin to make sure it's healthy, listen to them breathe to make sure there isn't any weird noises in their chests, and look at their eyes to make sure they are CLEAR and CLEAN. After purchasing a pet you should ALWAYS make a small check-up vet appointment to make sure the new pet is healthy and in good condition so that any illness can be caught immediately (and if they are sick you'll know the quarantine the pet from the rest of the animals in the home as to not spread the illness).
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So the other dayyy like me and my boii had analllll. OH MY GOD. I pooped a little bit. he has a realllyy big dick. like BIG. is this normal? he kinda just forced it in there. kthx. no really though are you supposed to shit after anal sex? ... and stain the bed (link)
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First off, anal sex is very risky and there are many dangers of participating in such activities.
Among the diseases with which anal sex is associated are HIV, anal cancer (seriously), typhoid fever, and various diseases associated with the infectious nature of fecal matter or sexual intercourse in general. Among these are: Amoebiasis; Chlamydia; Cryptosporidiosis; E. coli infections; Giardiasis; Gonorrhea; Hepatitis A; Hepatitis B; Hepatitis C; Herpes simplex; Human papillomavirus (HPV); Lymphogranuloma venereum; Pubic lice; Salmonellosis; Shigella; Syphilis; Tuberculosis. Using condoms will decrease these risks; however, they do not protect 100%.
Physical damage to the rectum and anus are serious and hemorrhoids, anal fissures, and rectal prolapse may occur. Damage is more likely if communication is poor or if technique is clumsy; condoms do not help protect against this sort of damage. Basically, if you don't know what you're doing or you end up doing something wrong by accident you may end up in the emergency room having surgery or stitches.
You need to ask yourself some questions:
Can you imagine being rushed to the emergency room? Who would take you? How embarrassed would you feel? Can you deal with paying for them to sew you back up properly? Heck, can you imagine trying to use the toilet after such an experience?
Small tears that can happen during anal sex can easily become infected. The membrane inside the rectum is VERY thin and fragile so it tears very easily. Even if there seems to be no complications the tears can be very irritating and can become inflamed later on. It doesn't matter how "gentle" your partner is, your will probably suffer some tearing and possibly even some bleeding. It can also become uncomfortable for you to pass a stool afterward.
It is also very easy to get a vaginal infection from anal intercourse if your partner enters the vagina after being in the anus. Even if he knows not to enter the vagina afterward, he may accidentally slip. The infection would be bacterial can actually do major damage to you--rendering you infertile. Really, anal sex is more likely to result in an infection than vaginal sex would.
As a note, the vaginal infection could be something simple like a yeast infection, but is usually a bacterial infection. If left untreated, these sorts of infections can cause serious problems later in life and can also render you completely infertile.
It's also common for urinary tract infections to occur after anal sex. Yes, they are curable but they can become serious if left untreated and are, overall, rather uncomfortable to deal with. Condom usage would help your partner to avoid this complication.
Incontinence has also been reported from engaging in anal sex. Basically this means that the anal sphincter loosens up from the activity. This also means that anal leakage can become an issue for the receiving end. It also may mean the inability to completely control your bowels when needed.
Sex doesn't show love is you think about it. I know it may seem like a loving activity; however, prostitutes have sex with random people every single day and don't feel a bit of feeling toward their customers. Show your love by doing something non-harmful, non-sexual and something immensely special. If you do something unique then it'll be something great to look back on in your old age and say, "Remember when...!" and you can tell grandchildren and such.
Many girls on here claim it hurts a lot. There really isn't a way to make it not hurt because it is endangering your body. Your body sends signals of pain because it is being HURT and you do not want to hurt your body. Serious problems come out of things like this--wanting to do something special with a partner and winding up on a hospital bed for a week while the doctor tries to sew them back together properly.
I hope you become better informed before making a serious decision like this so you don't put yourself into a harmful situation.
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for example, if you had watched 'the apprentice' with donald trump in it. this is what we're doing in my business ownership class... except different.
my class has been divided up and we were given our first task. and it was to choose the project manager and choose our team names.
no, we don't know what we're going to be selling.. he gives us a new task every week.
so any ideas for the team names? please help me ASAP! we have to present it by tomorrow. (link)
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The Better Business
Reliable Resources
Ideal Inc.
Candidate Corporation
Outward Organization
The Caring Company
Oddity Org.
Immediate Inc.
Infinite Industries
Extensive Enterprise
The Peoples Products
Iconic Inc.
Make sure that you have a decent slogan to go along with the name. A few words of a slogan can really do lots to the name and make it seem more worthy than it really may be.
Example:
The Better Business: "Bettering lives because we know better!"
Candidate Corporation: "Because we're the best candidate for the job!"
I apologize for this being so late but I just saw it and had to answer. I hope it may still be helped to you. If you've already chosen a name, please let me know what it is in feedback because I'm curious!
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I am looking for some good local papers to put an ad in. They do not have to be in my state. I would prefer the smaller papers, or business focused, entrepeneur focused, things like that. Also, good sources online to advertise in. I will be looking to advertise in the Classifieds. I already know about craigslist, but they are charging $25 now no matter how large the ad and the placement is not guranteed. Something like .75c per word or less in a monthly paper or even a bi-weekly paper would be cool. Thank you. (link)
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There are many, many online papers now that you can advertise in--even your local paper probably has a website that will allow you to pay for a little advertising on their website. Even my local paper has their own website--and I live in a pretty darn small place!
There are bargain hunters in various places if you look. Around her we have a Mountain Bargain Hunter. I live in the mountains, of course, so your local classifieds paper is probably not called that. ;) Next time you go into a convenient store look around for a few papers they may be selling. They usually range from $.75 to $2.00 per paper, depending on the size and what it entails. From there you can call the number and see about the cost of advertising.
We also have trade-n-sell papers for KY, WV, and OH. Here is the link to that:
http://www.tradensell.net/
There always Hoobly:
http://www.hoobly.com/
It may be more beneficial to start a website for your product or what not and try to get the link around the Internet. Even things like Advicenators or Yahoo! Answers you could post your link within an answer if it relates (not sure what you're advertising so I'm not sure if it would relate to anything here).
It may also be helpful to get some business cards made about the product and place them in certain locations.
Since I'm not in your area (and actually have NO idea WHERE you may even be located--you could even be from India for all I know) it is really difficult to get you specific names of local papers. If you know the local paper's name please search it (with your location) into Google to see if they offer an online source with online advertising opportunities.
You might even be able to look at things like Yahoo! Classifieds or even the featured offered on MySpace for classifieds. I even searched for "local paper of [STATE]" and got links to specific papers. Those would be pretty good, especially since I'm sure you could have an ad published online AND/OR the actual paper.
I hope you find all the resources you need. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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heyy, okay so in dance class we're doing a song and it's dance of the sugar plum fairies from the nutcracker, but it's a really cool remix. it's got like maraccas in the beginning and it's really cool. does anyone know where i could find it? thankss! (link)
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There are so many remixes of the Dance with the Sugar Plum Fairy.
The most popular remix of the Dance with the Sugar Plum Fairy is actually called:
Dance Of The Sugar Plum Fairy (Red Baron Remix)
from the Berlin Symphony Orchestra
Here is the song remix to see if it's what you're looking for:
http://www.imeem.com/pigasus/music/q1B9pTMf/berlin_symphony_orchestra_dance_of_the_sugar_plum_fairy_red/
Here is another remix of the Dance with the Sugar Plum Fairy called "Sugar Plum Fairy Remix - Fruity Loops":
http://video.aol.com/video-detail/sugar-plum-fairy-remix-fruity-loops/830516170/?icid=VIDURVMUS04
There is even TECHNO remixes of the Dance with the Sugar Plum Fairy:
http://www.videos.es/reproductor/tchaikovskydanceofthesugarplumfairynutcracker-(TQpQDcnkymM
One remix of the Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy is by The Nutcracker Electronique, apparently:
http://technorati.com/videos/youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DbnbrkQmFS0A
And...a Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy remix referred to as Trip Hop:
http://noolmusic.com/youtube_videos/tchaikovsky_-_dance_of_the_sugar_plum_fairy_trip_hop_remix.php
One remix by Kid Galahad for Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy:
http://www.last.fm/music/Kid+Galahad/_/Dance+Of+The+Sugar+Plum+Fairy?autostart
Here's the music box version of the Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy:
http://media.17vn.com/v/ZjVkMWZmZmVi.html
Here's a Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy remixed with...kazoos?:
http://www.thesixtyone.com/Flatulina/collection/item/31589/Dance+of+the+Sugar+Plum+Fairy/?autoplay_song
Here is a remix (you'll have to click it on the side to load and then to play) by Delta Nove (to me it sounds sort of like a Jamaican Christmas! hah):
http://www.archive.org/details/dnove2007-12-15.matrix.flac16
Lastly, Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy done on guitar by Stephen Booke (Demo so there's a stupid voice interrupting):
https://www.audiosparx.com/clm/archive/Christmas/Christmas-Guitar/Dance-of-the-Sugar-Plum-Fairy/314077
A good suggestion would be to ask your dance instructor where he or she got the music from and where you might be able to obtain it. I'm sure they get a lot of that sort of requests and may be able to order you the soundtrack.
I apologize if I wasn't much help. I've searched for quite some time to only find what I've listed above. I didn't quite hear maracas in anything so I probably didn't get it. I hope you find what you're looking for soon!
P.S. If, by chance, I stumbled across it here, please let me know which one it was. If I didn't and you figure it out, please let me know the name and "artist" in feedback when you find out. I am very curious.
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Hi Im a female 17. lately I´ve been having lots of problems with my mom cause She went throught my cellphone and found a really x rated...erotic whatever you want to call it conversation with my bf (which she didn´t even know I had) it was about 6 messages long. And now she calls me hoe, vulgar. and says Im a minor and lots of crap. Im 17 and i think I have a right to explore my sexuality but safely, which I do. It sucks because now she makes me feel like crap with sarcasms and she even went to the cellphone company to check up on my messages and to who i write them. Its a total invasion of privacy i can´t even text my bf anymore and i don´t know what to do cause i really like him and my mom is making me want to seriusly die or kill myself. (link)
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Seriously, if the phone is paid by your mother then she has ever right to "snoop" through it at any time she pleases. I highly suggest you purchase your own phone with your own money and pay your own cell phone bills with your own cash. This can easily be accomplished by working a part-time job, even if it's during the weekends. The job will also encourage your mother to treat you more as an adult.
You ARE a minor, yes, and everything you do is the responsiblity of your mother. The erotic phone messages are technically ILLEGAL to send back and forth to someone from you because you're under 18. Seriously. If someone--say the police--catch you sending this somehow (FBI and whatnot do have access to cell phones so NOBODY really has privacy like you may think) then it's your mother who will serve time in jail. All it takes is your boyfriend sending the messages around to be funny with a few friends to get caught by authority. Your mother will actually be said to have endangered you by allowed sexual messages to go back and forth between you and whoever. I'm not kidding. Your mother is smart to have stopped this before you both got in trouble.
Your mother is probably calling you names so you'll realize that what you were doing is not something you want to be a part of in life. Chances are your mother has gone through scenarios like that and highly regrets it. The names she is calling you are names that your peers would be calling you if they found out and had a good head on their shoulders. I mean like these real-life scenarios:
1. You and your boyfriend break-up for some reason. He prints off copies of the paper to show EVERYONE in school. You are now perceived as a loose whore.
2. A few years pass and you forget all about the messages. Your boyfriend sent, unknowingly to you, them to a website with a photo or two of you. A co-worker approaches you and says, "Hey, I saw these photos of you. It had some stuff written there that you may want to have taken down...it was pretty...graphic." Then your coworkers think lowly of you, your boss is less likely to think of you for promotions, and you may get unwanted attention or teasing.
or it could be as simple as:
3. You said a lot of in-the-moment things to get you and your boyfriend all pumped up. The next time he sees you, he expects more of that--in person. You decide differently and tell him, "This just isn't the time. Really. I said those things because I let my hormones get the best of me..." He could dump you. He will probably think something like you were just leading him on to tease him. If you cannot explain clearly what happened--and NOT repeat it--then the relationship is doomed.
Saying these things make it harder to say, "No," when it comes to sex. Your boyfriend is more likely to pressure you and you are more likely to give in, even if you don't really want to do it. You are more likely to be left with emotional hurt because of a few heated messages when your hormones got the best of you.
So, if YOU didn't pay for the phone yourself with your own money, and if YOU don't pay the cell phone bill each month then it simply isn't your cell phone or your privacy. It's all your mother's then and, by law, she has every single right to go through it when she pleases--especially if she is the one that would get in trouble for YOUR illegal activity!
Sit down with your mother and discuss the possibility of you getting your own job to purchase your own cell phone and pay your own cell phone bills. This alone will help your mother to see you being more adult-like since you'd be taking on more responsibility. If you want to be an adult then take some more responsibility. Pay a few of the bills at home. Buy your own luxaries. Show your mother that you're maturing--not only physically and sexually--but mentally.
Hormones get the best of us when we're young, especially at an age like yours. Your mother knows this. She is only being a good, caring mother. She wants you to head down the right direction. Gather some maturity and she'll give you some more respect. She knows you're a horny 17 year old girl--duh. She's known that. That wasn't a surprise. The surprise was that she thought you were more responsible and smart to NOT do illegal, perverted things and suddenly it slapped her in the face. The respect she had for you as a "mature" 17 year old lady dwindled because she saw that you weren't thinking with your head as you should have been.
Your mother cares.
Don't try to get her off your back.
Just show her you can take responsibility for some things. Show her that you're maturing mentally too. Show her that you can learn to be an adult--not just "talk the talk" but actually "walk the walk" too.
Start by talking with your mother about finding a part-time job. Even just the discussion will help. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. When discussing with your mother about the job, remember not to get heated or name-call. Be simple. Just say something, "I was thinking about getting a part-time job. Like on the weekends or a few hours of the evenings after school. I think it would be good for me to learn about the real world and how hard actually WORKING is. I could use the money to pay my own cell phone bills. I'm ready to take on some responsibility, Mom. What do you think?"
That is a perfect start. ;)
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So I've had an eating disorder for almost 4 years now and I'm trying to recover. I was in the hospital for 9 months this year. Before I left I had like a natural high. I was feeling so good about myself and not worried about my weight and I knew I was healthy. About a month after I got out all of my problems came back. It was really hard because I gained 30 pounds. I'm 5'7 and now weigh 120, which I know is "healthy" but I want to be less. I know I can't lose weight though because I will never lose enough to please myself and I'll just cause myself to relapse. If I don't restrict/purge I harm myself in other ways (cutting, popping pills, etc.). I feel like I have no one to talk to about it, besides my therapist..but I want a friend I can go to at any time and talk to this about. (link)
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I have a very wonderful thought for you that you may think is silly at first: Eating Disorders Anonymous. Seriously.
There are many groups in your area, likely, that are "anonymous" groups where people can meet each other and talk about their issues with specific subjects. Even if there isn't an Eating Disorders Anonymous in your area, it is very likely it can be started within a couple of months.
Here is a link to EDA:
http://www.eatingdisordersanonymous.org/
Eating Disorders Anonymous even has their own MySpace now:
http://www.myspace.com/recoveryeda
There are plenty of groups for this sort of thing. There are 12 step groups, overall support groups, therapy groups, and recovered/recovery groups. I simply did a Google search for "Eating Disorder Anonymous" and got tons of links.
In a group you will be able to talk to plenty of other people and CONNECT--which is probably something majorly missing with your therapist. Continue seeing your therapist and let them know about the group (or, if no group in your area, the idea).
The problem is that a lot of girls who have had anorexia or bulimia tend to fall back during recovery. Recovery is a hard, long process. Recovery is more than feeling good about yourself for a month--it's about KNOWING you are good. You have to change your entire thinking process and guess what? You didn't just wake up one day with this random thought in your head that you needed to be thin. It had been there for a long, long while before you turned to anorexia.
This being said, seeking out ONE person to connect with is a difficult task. If one person slips, the other person is likely to fall too. If you're in an arranged group meeting for the WELL-BEING of yourself then you are less likely to fall behind. You are more likely to make it through another week and rush to the next meeting to say, "Man, this week was SO hard, but I did it!" You get praise. You get a pat on your back finally. You get the support you so desperately need--and have needed.
Don't look for one person. Look for a supportive group. You want to get better and I'm glad to see this. You CAN overcome this with time.
As another option to add into your seeking help, call a hotline when you're at a low and cannot get to a group meeting. A hotline can keep your spirits up for awhile until the bad passes. A hotline offers you support for the time being, until your other support is available. There are eating disorder hotlines:
Massachusetts Eating Disorder Association, Inc Helpline
Staffed by trained/supervised individuals.
Monday-Friday 9:30-5:00pm.
Wednesday evenings until 8:00pm
617-558-1881
http://www.medainc.org/
Bulimia and Self-Help Hotline
24 hours crisis line
314-588-1683
Grace Sq. Hosp. Eating Disorder Hotline
1-800-382-2832 (24 hrs)
Bulimia, Anorexia Self Help/Behavior Adaptation Support and Healing
800-762-3334, 800-227-4785
As a last note, here is a link to help you find the right Eating Disorder Support Group for you:
http://eatingdisorders.about.com/od/seekingprofessionalhelp/a/findsupgroup.htm
I hope you find the strength you are seeking. I know it's a hard road to travel. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I was wondering if anyone here breeds hamsters or knows of anyone that does. Preferably in the lower penninsula please. (link)
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Well, I'm glad that someone actually cares about the genetics of their soon-to-be pets. Pet stores are very uneducated and fairly careless about the conditions and genetics of their rodents. It's always best to seek out a good breeder (preferably one who has been breeding for a few years) before jumping into a new pet. A pet-store hamster may live 3 weeks because of poor genetics and undesirable previous lifestyle while a hamster from an actual breeder may be more tame and friend, healthier, and heartier.
When looking for certain rodent breeders (I purchased a chinchilla and a hedgehog--both considered rodents--from breeders) you can look just about anywhere within a few hours of your local place. Many breeders are willing to meet half-way for little-to-no-cost. This being said, you may be able to look for hamster breeders in your surrounding states. There is one (Woodview Hamstery) in Ohio that may interest you:
http://www.angelfire.com/wv2/woodview_hamstery/
And another breeder:
Kevin Kopera
Breeder of syrian hamsters.
Cleveland, Ohio
E-mail: chubalicous1@cs.com.html
And one called The Joy of Hamsters (A Hamstery for Ohio, E. Indiana, W. Pennsylvania, and N. Kentucky):
http://www.freewebs.com/thejoyofhamsters/helpfulhamsterlinks.htm
I am coming up with the River Road Hamstery in Michigan, but they apparently no longer breed or keep hamsters. If I were you, I would attempt to find some sort of contact listing for them and ask them if they know of any decent hamster breeders around.
I found this MSN group that lists a few hamster breeders:
http://groups.msn.com/HamsterBreeders/breederlist.msnw
Although the two breeders in Michigan have dead webpages, it may be worth an email anyway, as they may even be able to direct you to someone nearby.
In Brighton, Michigan: (Mellow596)
In Wyoming, Michigan: silknsatinshamstery@hotmail.com (SilkyGirl77)
Please do not attempt to ship a hamster. The stress is likely to lead to a sudden or early death and they are very fragile so they could end up very hurt from the travel.
If it would be closer to get a hamster in Canada then you may want to look through that route. Some small rodents do not need to be health screened or certified to pass from Canadian to U.S. (or U.S. to Canadian) boarders. I would assume that hamsters are one of these, but I am not entirely sure.
I apologize for not being able to find a specific breeder for you in your area. It may be more helpful to you to search for surrounding larger cities that you could drive to or half-way to. Even if a breeder says they refuse to leave their location for you they may be able to direct you somewhere that is just as good!
As a note, if you're traveling soon then you may want to look in areas you will be passing through (or actually GOING to) for local hamster breeders or a breeder that would meet you there. I know there are many, many rodent shows and there are tons of Hamster "Clubs" that people have joined into. I'm not sure if hamsters actually have any sort of "show" they do annually but it's worth a shot to look if you're willing to make a special trip (although, if you're going to make a special trip for a hamster then, personally, I would just find a breeder that I was happiest with and visit near them for a new hamster friend).
I wish you luck in your hamster search! If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Please do not judge me.
I have been Bulimic for
a year or so now,
and its become so that
i have to do it, its like in my
head, i feel horrible if i eat something
and dont throw it up...
i only do it once a day but
anyways...
my real question is
does it effect your birth control???
started taking it 3 weeks ago and i take it at like 1 in the afterrnoon
and i throw up after dinner which could be anywhere from 6-9 at night...
so does this effect the pill?
like is it still affective??? (link)
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Please, seek help for your bulimia. You know that it can hurt you very badly and has killed many, many young women. Open up to an adult and get the help you need before things become severe and you lose your life to this.
Typically do not have to worry if you've thrown up your pill as long as it's been in your system for about 3 hours or so unless you have an abnormally slow metabolism. Since bulimia does tend to make your metabolism slow, I'd probably tack on a couple of hours to that number for safety. For women with normal metabolisms: If you thrown up a pill before the 3 hour mark or so then you should immediately take the next pill in the pack so you're still protected. THEN, you will have to see your doctor as to what to do next because if you end your period earlier than usual (making you have 8 days of inactive pills instead of 7) then you may not be covered.
Remember that the hormonal birth control isn't 100% effective. It is only 99% effective with PERFECT usage, which means you do not gain or lose weight, take the pill at the EXACT same time each day, do not experience stress or illness, etc. It is actually only about 92% effective with typical usage so you should always be using another method of protection just in case it fails. Condoms are about 88% effective with typical usage, just a note.
Normally, I would say: If your period is late or non-existent this month then you should pick up a home pregnancy test. You will have to wait a few days after your period is late to get an accurate read-out so it's probably not best to take it too early. If the test shows positive then you are for sure pregnant. If the test shows negative and your period still hasn't shown up then you should make a doctor's appointment to have a pregnancy test done there (more accurate than the home versions).
For you, I say: If your period does not come when it should this month then please seek medical care as it is a very, very bad sign for someone with your disorder. If you start going months without a period then please know that your body may not be able to recover from the bulimia and you may wind up completely infertile. Bulimia not only damages your esophagus, you see, but destroys your entire body.
I hope things will be fine and you seek the help you need for your disorder. Please remember to always use another form of birth control on the pill as well. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me :)
P.S. You CAN recover from bulimia, I promise. Your first step is to seek help, immediately. I know how hard it is to go through life like you are, so I am in no way judging your lifestyle, but please get help now.
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People have said that you can not get pregnant from having anal, is that true ?
Also I would like to know if you can get prenant from giving blow jobs ? (link)
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You can most definately get pregnant from engaging in anal sex if the semen leaks near the vagina. It is very, very easy to leak a little semen into your vagina--it could be as simple as you trying to stand up and a little leaks onto the vagina.
It's also VERY likely that your partner will "slip" closer (or actually INSIDE, in some cases) your vagina. This also is concern for a bacterial infection that can render you completely infertile and leave you in a lot of pain for the rest of your years if it isn't treated as soon as possible. This being said, you're wanting to engage in sexual activity without the risk of pregnancy or major illness then anal sex is NOT what you're looking for.
Anal sex can truly hurt your body:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543236
(My answer includes: "Among the diseases with which anal sex is associated are HIV, anal cancer (seriously), typhoid fever, and various diseases associated with the infectious nature of fecal matter or sexual intercourse in general. Among these are: Amoebiasis; Chlamydia; Cryptosporidiosis; E. coli infections; Giardiasis; Gonorrhea; Hepatitis A; Hepatitis B; Hepatitis C; Herpes simplex; Human papillomavirus (HPV); Lymphogranuloma venereum; Pubic lice; Salmonellosis; Shigella; Syphilis; Tuberculosis. Using condoms will decrease these risks; however, they do not protect 100%.
Physical damage to the rectum and anus are serious and hemorrhoids, anal fissures, and rectal prolapse may occur. Damage is more likely if communication is poor or if technique is clumsy; condoms do not help protect against this sort of damage. Basically, if you don't know what you're doing or you end up doing something wrong by accident you may end up in the emergency room having surgery or stitches.")
Sperm are made to swim to their goal--your egg. That is all they want to do. That is all they know to do. If just a "drop" leaks to your vagina then you're in trouble because the only thing they need is a little fluid to swim through.
You cannot get pregnant from giving a blow job; however, you can contract a wide variety of STDs and STIs. I suppose it IS possible to become impregnanted if the semen from your mouth somehow comes in contact with your vagina--say you get some semen in your mouth and then kiss your partner before he gives you oral--THEN you have concern for pregnancy along with the STDs/STIs.
People have contracted oral (and genital on the mouth) herpes, oral hpv, oral chlamydia, oral gonorrhea, mono, and more from engaging in oral sex. When giving a blow job, AT LEAST use a condom to lessen your risks of infection. If receiving, have your partner use a dental dam to lessen your infection risk. Seriously, it may seem silly now but once you catch something you'll wish you could go back and say, "Hey, wait a minute!"
Dangers of oral sex (my answer, of course): http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=533019
Seriously consider using "protection" to lessen your risk of pregnancy if you're going to engage in sexual activity.. The hormonal birth control pill is 92% effective on preventing pregnancy, typically. Condoms are about 88% effective on preventing pregnancy. These two methods coupled are probably the best choice of "protection" that is affordable.
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ive had sex about 4 times im wondering when does it start to feel good. (link)
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Many, many women have sex and NEVER in their entire lifetime actually enjoy it, orgasm, or have a "feel good" time. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be.
A lot of young women keep having sex with various partners because they're looking for that magical, mind-blowing sex they've heard about from their friends. The problem is, everyone really thinks sex should be awesome the first go-around--or the seventh go around--but you need to realize that it simply isn't for most women. This being said, when young women now say they have been with 15 guys in 6 months because it's so "addictive and wonderful" it tells me that they had sex with those guys, trying to figure out WHY it isn't mind-blowing.
Of course, nobody is going to admit that, but I will. And, no, love has nothing to do with it--you can deeply love someone but always have awful, unfulfilling sex.
I've had really, really bad sex before. I've had really, really awful sex with two men. Sex I pretended was fairly good, sex I ended up figuring out as, "This must just be normal...wow...what a freaking waste of time." I never told my female friends that the sex I had was boring, uneventful, and stupid though. Who wants to be the girl that says, "My boyfriend really SUCKS in bed. He's horrible," or, just simply, "I NEVER have a good time in bed..."
After the first time, I figured it would get better but it didn't. After the 5th time, I kept expecting it to get better--but it never did. Eventually I had a second partner and I expected that sex to be better than my previous encounters--but it wasn't! Turns out, I was just finding out that what all my little girl friends at school were saying about their experiences with so-and-so-boy were all very stupid lies.
See what I'm saying? ;)
Don't expect miracles at any point. That's all.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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I've had these terrible headaches, sometimes migrains, since I was a little kid. I've grown accustom to them,so even if it hurts, I learned how to manage, but sometimes they're so bad they get in the way of my social life. Ibuprofen doesn't work anymore, and tylenol wont either. I get sinus headaches, too, so I grabbed excedrin sinus headache, and it hasn't helped, either.
But all that aside, I was wondering why I get these. Can headaches be linked to depression? And what other remedies do you suggest I try to make these go away? (link)
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I use to get headaches like this a lot actually. My very first migraine happened when I was 10. Through 6 - 9 grades I had constant headaches, every single day usually.
I'm an overweight female and I didn't eat very healthy. I rarely get headaches now, this is what has changed:
I eat more organic and natural foods.
I eat less meat and more vegetables.
I eat very little fried foods.
I do not use the microwave anymore, for anything.
I began exercising at Curves regularly.
I have cut out all caffeine.
I cut out ALL artificial sugars (or "sugar free" foods).
I have cut down on high fructose corn-syrup.
I take vitamins.
I am no longer around smokers.
Your body could be lacking nutrients or being hurt by something you keep putting in it. Headaches can be coupled with depression but are not CAUSED by depression. The reason a lot of people are depressed is over major life stress, which also causes headaches ;)
I get headaches if my iron is low, so around my period they are more common for me now. I also get headaches if someone comes into my work place with very strong perfume or cologne on--I'm just sensitive that way. I'm not EXACTLY sure what caused so many severe headaches previously for me, but I can say that I've obviously done something good for my body since the headaches are very infrequent now.
Try to become more healthy, seriously. Watch the stuff you put into your body. Many people experience headaches after consuming artificial sweeteners (Aspartame, Splenda, Sucralose, Nutra-Sweet, Sweet-n-Low, Equal) in diet drinks and certain foods usually marketed toward dieters. Many people experience headaches when their body is lacking a key vitamin or nutrient. A LOT of people have headaches (fatigue, depression, etc.) from NOT exercising enough on a regular basis!
Headaches could be caused by anything really. Nobody here can pinpoint your exact problem and a doctor will probably just throw pills at you so you'll go away. I do know that if your parents experience an increased amount of headaches it could be passed down--my theory is that something they are consuming they are sensitive to and passed that trait to you (the sensitivity to something).
Start to cut out things I listed above. After a few months, my headaches dwindled from one every week to one every six months or so. Our bodies experience pain when something is wrong and it's your job to figure out what's wrong or you'll just keep cycling this over and over again--even if you do find a decent medicine to shut the pain up for awhile.
I wish you luck in finding headache relief. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Can you get pregnant from a toilet seat? (link)
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You can only get pregnant from a toilet seat if someone put a lot of fresh semen on the seat and you sit directly on that, with your vagina touching the moistened area.
I suppose it IS possible, but it would be a very, very rare case. It would be difficult to position yourself perfectly above the deposited semen so it could travel into your vagina, but I suppose it could very well happen.
Always wipe off the toilet seat before sitting anyway to prevent the risks of HPV:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=547807
Try to not come in contact with toilet seats and always use a paper protector if you cannot squat properly above. It's better to be safe than sorry, in my opinion. If you cannot do either, bring some hand-sanitizer in your purse. Take some of that and apply it to some toilet paper and quickly "wash" off the seat. Many women do this simply because the thought of the unwashed toilet seat even coming close to them is icky.
Just don't sit on a wet seat, ever. If you sit on wet toilet seats then you should probably rethink your hygienic habits. Always wipe the seat off, clean it if possible, hover above it if possible, and/or use a paper seat protector. Seriously, if it's a public toilet, who wants to come in contact with those?!
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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how do you play "doctor"? :] ;]
or any other role playing. hahaha (link)
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You take on the role as one person while the other plays as another person. For doctor is would be:
You play as doctor, your partner plays as patient.
You play as patient, your partner plays as doctor.
You play as nurse, your partner plays as doctor.
You play as nurse, your partner plays as patient.
I think you get the idea.
Pretty much you take on a role. Just as you take on the role for anything in life, you pretend to be another role until the activity is done. Role playing only lasts from minutes to hours, but is usually not done long-term, especially in the "playing doctor" scenario.
Most people play the doctor/patient routine, where one person plays patient by laying on a table, nude, and the other "doctor" examines then. The play is sexual so the "doctor" tends to examine the body parts that are usually hidden under clothing. If you are female and have gone to the gynecologist then your partner would probably play that role and examine parts here-and-there (of course, not inserting things that would cause harm to you).
Take for example: Doctor does a breast exam. Doctor makes you open your mouth so they can check the back of your throat. Doctor presses on your body here and there to make sure nothing hurts. Doctor listens to your heart beat. You tell doctor what may hurt, what they may want to examine, etc.
Dress is usually according to role play. A doctor would have a stethoscope and gloves, at least, if not full scrubs for an outfit. They can be removed if the activity becomes more sexual or moves on to something out of this role playing.
It's easy to become carried away when you're role playing so boundaries tend to be set far in advance. If things are not wanting to be inserted then it should be said clearly and understood before engaging in the activity. A key word is usually used just in case things get crazy and you need it to stop--after all sometimes "no" in the doctor's room doesn't mean "no" in reality for some. People tend to safe words they wouldn't regularly say, just in case.
Please note that if you are going to engage in sexual activity then precautions to prevent pregnancy and STD transmission should be used. STDs can travel to your skin even if a condom is used so please get yourself and your partner screened for STDs beforehand. Condoms should be nearby, even if you feel there is not going to be any penis-in-vagina intercourse happening--sometimes things can get carried away.
Remember that in the heat of the moment you can do things you were not prepared for. Think about things clearly before going through with them. Sometimes you'll say, "Yes!" right now when an hour later you wish you would have said, "NO, not right now!" Talk with your partner well in advance to make boundaries clear, wants and desires noted, and a sturdy foundation set before engaging in activities that could result in babies or illnesses.
Be safe and smart. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I got my navel pierced about 3 weeks ago. When do you think I can get 2 more? (triple navel piercing)
Could I get it done asap or when I hit the 3 month mark or what?
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It's recommended to allow your body healing time between getting multiple piercings. It allows your body to fight of possible infections better and you are able to tend to it properly.
From what I recall (13+ piercings) you need to wait at least one month in between piercings so that the major trauma of the skin being punctured calms down and begins the healing process. Three months is desirable, but if you simply cannot contain yourself wait one month in between for safety.
Sometimes you want things done right away but give it some times so you can do it the right way. If you MUST have them as soon as possible then give it a month and get your second piercing. From the day you get your second piercing, give your body one more month for the third. You want to let your body heal up some before putting more trauma on it. The piercing may seem small to us, but it's a big wound to your body.
Also note that not giving your body enough time to "heal" between piercings can help in the rejection process, which happens with surface piercings like your belly button piercing. You simply do not want to shock your body into rejecting these right away so give it time to relax between them.
Note that during the healing process you should avoid smoking, drinking, and any other drug usage you may have. Cutting down on caffeine is surprisingly helpful and taking a daily multivitamin is one of the keys to a happy piercing. During the healing process don't be afraid to take some extra C Vitamin. It's recommended you take 2000mg to 3000mg of C each day during the healing process for piercings. This promotes health in your whole body so the cells can act more efficiently.
It is also safe to take some:
Vitamin E
Vitamin K
Zinc (100mg)
B Complex
to help in the healing process of the piercing.
Remember:
Do not use alcohol or peroxide to clean the piercing.
Do not move the piercing or put pressure on it.
Always wash hands before touching the piercing.
Do not use soap to clean the piercing with.
Use saline solution (salt water) to clean the piercing. Once or twice a day is enough--never over clean the piercing.
I hope everything heals up right and your other piercings take fine. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I'm currently in college to major in Special Education. Where I live, there's a big shortage of special education teachers, and I LOVE working with the students and am excited to hurry up, finish school, and start my career.
I also enjoy Family And Consumer Sciences... well, early childhood development, foods & nutrition, and parenting and child. I'm horrible at (and dislike very much) doing apparel and interior design. I am servsafe certified and plan on keeping that up - renewing my certification.
My question - If I minor in just early childhood development or something of the such, would I be able to get a job as a FACS teacher, also (since I have the education degree with my Special Education major)? I've been pondering this for a while, so I thought I'd see if anyone here had any ideas.
Thanks in advance! :) (link)
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I, too, have thought about becoming a FACS teacher. Family and Consumer Science is really, really great :)
Now, when I went to college, I went to the local college and got my "basics" so that I would have those (basics meaning English, math, science, history). I then started to search out how to do the other part.
The deal is that Family and Consumer Science is not just about children. It's about apparel, cooking, nutrition, parenting, and the family. This being said, you actually have to have all of those classes to become a certified FACS teacher. Some colleges actually have the program. I lived in WV, an there were only two schools in the state that had the FACS education training. Even the college here that is specifically for education majors does not have the required courses to become a FACS teacher!
FACS is more than early childhood development. I've had early childhood development classes and those simply do not prepare you for everything you would have to teach. Sure, you'll need a few of those classes but that definately won't be it.
So, no, having a minor in early childhood development and another degree in special education is not going to allow you to become a Family and Consumer Science teacher. It will probably help you, but it won't qualify you. You actually have to have specific classes in that particular subject to be able to teach it. A B.A. in Family and Consumer Science is required to teach FACS, from what I know.
Ask your counselor what they recommend doing for such things. My counselor helped me find a college (Marshall University) nearby that had the FACS education training. If you have a specific school you're wanting to go to then you can probably go to their website and check out which courses they offer.
For a little more help, I pulled up the course listings from Marshall University regarding a B.A. in Family and Consumer Science, it'll probably give you an idea of what sort of classes you will NEED to have to get your degree in this:
http://www.marshall.edu/fcs/degrees/ba_in_fcs.asp
I also pulled up another college, Fairmont State University, (that also has a FACS major) that has a few of their required courses listed to earn a degree in Family and Consumer Science:
http://www.fairmontstate.edu/files/model_schedules/430a.pdf
I wish you well in your college studies. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Hi all,
For a waxing kit, it warns not to use in the vaginal area, but isn't that what the common Brazillian is?
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There are special home-waxing kits made for the vaginal area. They are not commonly used because of two major issues:
1. If you are waxing yourself then you cannot pull the skin taut enough to get a good "rip" of the hair out. The angle you are at in relation to your vagina simply will not allow you to get a good, smooth wax the way you'd like.
2. If you get the wax inside your vagina, you'll be very, very unhappy. The wax is known to cause infections--yeast and bacterial. While a yeast infection is just really annoying, a bacterial infection can render you infertile, coupled with life-long physical pain. The angle of yourself to your vagina also makes it very difficult to make sure none of the wax accidentally gets into the vaginal area.
If you want a Brazilian waxing then seek out a salon. They are professionals. They have the right equipment. They can get the right angles. They've waxed A LOT of people so they have the experience that you want when it comes to waxing your vaginal area.
So, in short, yes, you could very well wax yourself with that wax down there but you won't get the results of going to a professional for it and may end up with a nasty infection that you need medical care for. Even the home waxing kits made for the vaginal area runs the risk of both of the listed problems above, so please keep in mind that even if you get the "special" vagina kind, you still have problems.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Is it wrong to do sexual things with someone you are dating, but aren't going out with? Is that slutty? We've been dating for about a month and a half now. He is the only guy I'm seeing and I'm the only girl he's seeing.
And also if you're dating, are you considered to be in a relationship, or are you defined as single?
Thank you =) (link)
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It can definately be slutty, as it fairly demeaning of yourself. The only issue is that now it seems to be popular, or a trend to an extent.
The truth is, when you engage in a friends with benefits "relationship" you never do learn how to communicate effectively for a true relationship. This is why a lot of men and women who use to be in that sort of "relationship" always end up in the same place, without a personal attachment to their sexual partner.
A person that engages in those types of relationships tends to already have low self esteem and a low self concept of themselves. They are seeking what they feel is the only "love" they are able to get because they are just so unworthy of other types of care. These relationships tend to bring the person down further, to where they will circle the same path over and over in life. They tend to be the ones that never marry, or do not marry until very, very late in life because it takes them that long to figure out how to un-do the bad things they had taught themselves in poor relationships before.
Being friends with benefits has the drawback that one side usually ends up developing feelings for the other side. Typically the female of this sort of situation ends up doing this. Young guys, who tend to be driven by their hormones, key in on this and take it for what it's worth--just the sex. The young men tend to lead the women through an ordeal of issues, having her believe that some day she'll magically be "the one" he was looking for. In reality, he doesn't want the girl or he would seek her out as a life-long partner.
You see, if you are only having sex then the other person simply does not see you as boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner type for them. To them, you are lower than the boyfriend/girlfriend they have or may have had (or will have). A lot of people tend to be sucked in by this, hanging on for that one day the person says, "You know, I kept saying that I just needed some more time before hopping in a real relationship, well...it's time for us..." That simply does not happen. Ever. If it does, it burns out very, very quickly because the entire basis of it is sexual.
Yes, this relationship is hurting you as a person. Being young, you probably won't see the reality of what has happened to yourself until you're years down the road. I know I didn't see what was going on when I was having sex with someone that I knew wasn't right.
For the last note, if you question an activity as being "slutty" then it is, nine times out of ten, a slutty behavior. If you have to question it, then there's a reason why you feel that way. Sometimes your conscious is screaming at you even when you don't want to listen. Most people who ask questions like this to a pool of people they feel do the same thing are simply looking for psychological relief for their guilt of being perceived as a slut for the bad activities they do. (Associates degree in psychology taught me this.)
If you are dating someone then you are most certainly not single. Dating means you two are a couple, in a relationship. If you date someone else then it is usually considered cheating.
I was dating my boyfriend before I knew I was dating him. We had gone out to dinner and such and one day we were sitting in the car, chatting, when he said something about us being in a relationship. I was confused, but learned that going on dates means you are boyfriend and girlfriend, automatically. Now, one blind-date isn't going to count, but after two or three dates, you pretty much know :)
If you're going on dates and you still feel that something is missing in the "relationship" factor then open up to your partner and say, "Hey, are we something?" If you WANT to be something then say so. If you don't communicate clearly then you won't be understood clearly. ;)
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. The user below is wrong, you should always care what other people think in situations like this. If you are being seen as a slut then why continue the behavior? That stigma will follow you through life and people will think less of you because of one past mistake that you did not alter in time. You're simply not taken seriously. To say you shouldn't care what other people think is very, very immature--obviously, people who think this have yet to be in "real world" of life.
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Okay so saturday night i had sex. i've been on the pill since september of '07. So saturday when i had sex, there was no condom used. He came inside of me and i hadn't taken my pill that night yet. But the thing is i slept at my friends house that night and forgot my pack of pills so when i got home this morning i took my saturday night pill. Starting tongiht-sunday- are my sugar pills, the week i'm supposed to get my period and all that. So my question is, is can i be pregnant since he came inside of me last night and i didn't take my pill until this morning? Please and thank youu! (link)
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With typical usage, the hormonal birth control pill is actually only 92% effective preventing pregnancy. The 99% claim they advertise is actually for perfect usage--something that could probably only be seen in a laboratory setting.
If you were perfect, the birth control pill would be 99% effective. As it is, our weight fluctuates, some of us are still growing, we sometimes experience stress (sometimes more frequently than others), we eat different foods, some days we get more exercise than others, etc. All of these things (and more) cause the pill to drop in effectiveness. In addition to the above mentioned, if you are off by just a half hour on taking the pill then the pregnancy prevention percentage drops. We are far from perfect beings, you see.
The birth control pill does not protect against sexual transmitted diseases or infections. Please keep in mind that the condom does not protect against such illnesses either and that some of these disease can cause life-long problems, including infertility and pain.
That being said, the only "safe" sex is having no sex at all. You will ALWAYS be at risk for a pregnancy. You will ALWAYS be at risk for contracting a disease or infection. There is absolutely no "method" out there that completely prevents any of this except abstinence.
In short, the answer is 92% effective with TYPICAL usage and you were not even typical at that. The 92% takes into account some of the behavior such as alternate eating and small lifestyle changes, but nothing major or time variations as to when you take the pill.
Nobody can tell you how much lower in effectiveness your pills are on preventing pregnancy now. The only known percentage is that of "typical" usage and that of "perfect" usage. Nobody can actually have perfect usage so that number doesn't really matter. We know you're lower than 92%, but that's about it. Nobody knows how much the decrease is per half hour, hour, etc. We do know that if you miss more than 2 that it is completely ineffective then.
Since this week you're suppose to have your period, it shouldn't take long to find out. If you miss your period this entire week then pick up a few home pregnancy tests and start doing those, one every week.
I apologize for not being of more help, but I can only pass along the information that I know is true. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
P.S.
Condoms are 88% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage.
The "pull-out" method varies between 30% to 70% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage.
Neither of those help to prevent disease or infection transmission either.
Just for future information :)
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I have a half a bottle of red wine that has been sitting on my counter for a little over a week...is it ok to drink? (link)
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Probably not since it's been uncorked and in room temperature for so long.
It's not that it is harmful but it, most likely, won't taste the same as it did. Bacteria has had time to grow in it, especially since it was in room temperature air and not a cooler-refrigerator.
Sometimes, if stored properly, it can keep for about a week with fairly decent taste. People usually put the cork back in tightly (usually get it started by hand and then press the bottle against a wall to get the cork all the way in), and then stick the bottle in the refrigerator, slightly tilted up to avoid the wine from coming in contact with the cork. The tricks to saving wine are: keep the temperature low because bacteria take longer to work at lower temperatures, have as little air as possible since air will oxidize the wine turning it sour, and have a good seal to prevent air from entering (this is actually worse than having air stuck in the bottle).
Really, 2-3 days is generally the rule for most wine. If it is a cheaper bottle of wine (say less than $20) it usually will only last a day after it's opened, especially if it isn't refrigerated. If it's a more expensive wine or is meant to be aged, you will often find it to be better the next day than when you opened it and to last a good 3 days. After that, it usually starts getting vinegary though.
It wouldn't be harmful to drink, but it could be unpleasant. You can always use it for cooking if you don't want to throw it out :)
I do wish the other users here on Advicenators would realize that good wine is not as simple as letting some mashed up grapes rot in the warm air for a few years before drinking it.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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