So, like, I'm this guy. And like, I do stuff...
Chemist, musician, artist, programmer, coach, husband, dad, uncle, etc.
So yeah.
Advice-wise? There are no stupid questions, just stupid people.
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant. (link)
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100% sure?
don't have sex.
That is THE ONLY WAY to be 100% sure.
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I would have to say people these days are very IMMATURE. (link)
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You forgot the following:
shallow
callous
unthoughtful
selfish
uncaring
oblivious
stupid
But the thing is, I also know many people who are:
mature
thoughful
sharing
intelligent
devoted
loving
kick-ass kung-fu warriors
attentive
...so, really, take from what what you will...
complaining gets little accomplished... want to make a difference? Try doing something.
by the way, thanks for the 1 rating... please, continue to show us just how mature you are.
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What do you all think about people posting up a "question" for people to check out their column and ask them questions? I don't really like it, but it's not like there's a rule against it or anything that I remember. Just askn for your opinions... (link)
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I generally delete all such "questions" where people bed for attention like that. "advertising" your column accomplishes nothing.
(got that, other moderators? delete questions that advertise columns)
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hello my freind had sex and well just call him Bob and bob has pressured all his g/f into sex ! and my best friend well call her Jackie has just started dateing him and i dont want her to do the dirty deed yet cuz shes soo sweet and shes kinda gullable so shell prolly go and do it like dont get me wrong i love both of them soo much as friends but i dont want Jakie to have sex with bob but jakie knoes about bobs pressuring his other gfs into sex but she wont dump him wut shud i do i dont want her to get taken advantag of so shud i talk to her ? i need help cuz im soo stuck on wut to do ( ps were only 15 i dont want her to have it this early except bob is like 16) (link)
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So, what you're saying is that Bob is good at making girls do whatever he wants. Which makes him a manipulative jackass... why are you friends with him again?
...anyway... If poiting out the obvious pattern that Bob has established with previous girls isn't working, then is there really anything more that you can do? You've said what you could, you've done what you could...
the only thing further would be to take matters out of their hands by talking to some adults (parents, etc), but that is always a tricky thing to attempt.
Your other option is to talk to Bob, tell him to stop being a manipulative ass and to grow up.
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There is this drug called "wet". People say it is made up embalming fluid, which is used for dead people or whatever.. I read that it is made with embalming fluid and PCP. My question is then: What exactly is embalming fluid made of? And what exactly is PCP made of?
P.S. I don't do it. But I want to let someone know how many messed up things that can get put into thier body. (link)
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Why the hell would anyone be dumb enough to think that intaking embalming fluid is a good thing?
It stuns me that there are people that damned stupid out there.
PCP is nasty stuff. Had I my great-big-book-of-drugs handy, I'd quote it for you, as it gives information on pharmacokinetics, metabolic pathways, and, more importantly, activity. In this case, the specific details of how PCP can really fuck someone up.
I believe another post here already gave a pretty good breakdown of embalming fluid - the nastiest component of that being the formaldehyde... nasty, nasty stuff. Inhaling its fumes can be highly toxic. I cannot recall offhand if it is carcinogenic.
EDIT:
PCP is made of carbon atoms, some hydrogen, one nitrogen, and one chlorine. Its full name is Phencyclidine Hydrochloride.
"PCP was introduced as a dissociative anesthetic for animals. Its close structural relative ketamine is still so employed. The drug produces a sense of intoxication; there are hallucinogenic experienecs, not unlike those produced by the antichoingergic hallucinogens, and often amnesia.
The drug affects many systems including these of NE, DA, and 5-HT. It has been proposed that PCP (and certain other psuchotomimetics) produce a unique pattern of activation of ventral tegumental area dopaminergic neurons. It reportedly also blocks N-methyl aspartate-regulated ion channels by binding in the ion channel. Additionally, thre are sites in the brain, designated as u-opioid receptors, to which the agent binds. Phencyclidine itself appears to be the main ative agent (i.s., it acts mainly per se) producing its many CNS {Central Nervous System} effects." - Wilson and Gisvold's Textbook of Organic Medicinal and Pharmaceutical Chemistry, 9th Edition.
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Alright, I'm kind of torn on this issue. My mom and I are really close and we always have been.
There's just a little background info.
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting an apartment together when we graduate. I kind of want to tell my mom because he's away, earning money to put towards our apartment. She always says "If he loves you, then he shouldn't have gone." and I always want to say "Hey, he's doing this for us," and tell her about the whole apartment thing.
Thing is, she's never been crazy about the idea of two people not married living together. I hate to keep secrets from her, though. She's like a friend sometimes more than a mom.
Another issue is...
Yeah, I'm not a virgin. I haven't been since...april? and my mom keeps asking in this accusatory tone of voice "You haven't been having sex, have you?" (this is where she turns into my mom) and I've been saying "What? No. I told you, we're waiting..." or whatever
But I've seriously been considering telling her. She told me when she took me to get the pill that I could tell her if/when I had sex if I wanted to. She left the option open. I've been tempted to tell her recently.
Thing about THIS is, she hates liars. Like, a lot. If I were to tell her now, I'd have to admit that I've been lying since, like, april.
So what do you guys think? Should I tell her about both? One? The other? None?
I'm just looking for an opinion here, mostly out of curiosity. The final decision will obviously be mine. Thanks! (link)
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Regarding the sex/pill bit... don't lie to her, but don't tell her the truth, either... You can tell her without the specifics, so you can say that yes, you've had sex, just don't say when.
Regarding the apartment - is it indeed the wisest of decisions? Beyond rent, how will the two of you be able to buy food, pay utilities, get furniture and other essentials? And don't do the "rent to own" crap because it is a horrible, horrible rip-off (seriously, do the math - you end up paying 3x what you would if you bought the stuff outright to begin with).
Whatever you do, just make sure you have a well-thought-out plan.
As far as your mom is concerned - just tell her that this is your plan (which is why you need a plan to begin with - hard to convince her without one). Tell her that this is a risk the both of you want to take, and you're aware of that. Be aware that going out on your own is a way to learn - as such, there IS a chance for failure, and you think the risk is worth it.
And know that your mom is going to see this as her child really growing up - and that's not easy for her.
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im 13 // 5'4 // 150 do u think i weigh alot ?!
nd hOw can i wOrk it Off ? (link)
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See, the thing is, people can give a height and weight, but it doesn't mean much... I know some people who look like they don't weigh anything, but they actually weight quite alot - they just carry the weight very well from their stature. Others look like they are way out of shape, but yet weigh very little - they just have horrible physiques.
So, in short, at that height and weight, it is hard to say... it is going to have to do with your stature and how you feel about it. Being that you're only 13, you have a good chance to keep growing (as it is very likely).
I'd not worry so much about losing weight in the standard regard... I'd concentrate more on making sure you have a consistent, healthy diet - make sure you get enough protein and eat a generally well-balanced diet overall. On top of that, make sure you're getting plenty of physical activity, be it in the form of planned exercises or just general activities from sports or riding bikes, hiking, etc. And the most important thing you can do is make sure you get a good night's sleep. Seriously, try to get 8 hours a night - I know many might laugh - but the people who do are often starving their bodies of sleep - and bodies that don't get enough rest cannot process food or build muscle as well - and thus end up with weight problems.
You're only 13 - you're still growing... you've got time on your side... it just takes a little effort and an understanding and acceptance of who an what you are. Don't worry about looking like anyone else but yourself. If you unfairly compare yourself to others, you'll only make yourself miserable in the end. So long as you know you're doing everything you can to the best of your abilities, you'll have nothing to worry about.
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ok well theres this girl that i've been inlove with since like 7th grade now im goin into 11th well we r friends now and we've gone through so much 2gether and we almost went out so many times but something always gets in the way she said she liked me a number of times but shes confused and she said she doesnt want to ruin our friendship she has gone out with 2 of my friends n both times i warned her about them and told her she would get hurt but she wouldnt listen and both times she ended up getting hurt i really like her alot and i would do anything 4 her i've tryed everything and im good friends with all of her friends, we always have fun when we hang out and stuff and she invites me over sometimes 4 dinner and stuff and i hang out with her and her family her mom and everyone loves me but still she wont go out with me what can i do i dont uunderstand why she wont go out with me she even said she liked me im so confused (link)
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the best, strongest relationships start out as friendships... I'd say that it sounds as if you have that. Don't push for a more intimate relationship with her - let it happen on its own. If you appear to push the issue, it will only widen the gap that is there... if you always are there for her, always show you care, and approach the relationship with a sense of maturity and importance - one day, she'll finally see that. Right now, it seems she's unable to see what's right before her. It happens, don't fret it.
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i was wondering the best way to... "enhance" my chest, thick bra, gel, etc,. i dont want to use tissue or any thing like that. is it true pushups, and milk enlarge breast? thanx again (link)
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milk and pushups do nothing of the sort... if you really want the fast path to big boobs, pregnancy will help out..
Breasts continue to grow well into your 20s. Breast size is not something you should worry about.
(since you clearly didn't get the fact that the pregnancy comment was a joke, hey, guess what, it was a joke - a fact, but a joke none the less)
p.s. - go read some of the other questions form the many girls who have complained about their breast size... you'll see the same advice given over and over again.
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what is a moderator and how do you become one?
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I am a moderator. Generally high rated and/or respected columnists are considered for the position. Also, there are only so many slots available for people to be moderators, and I think that right now, there are no openings.
Moderators are responsible for rating the questions, and deleting them if necessary. We can also take action against people who misuse the site (trolling, spamming, flaming members, using the site as a form of personal chat with other members, etc).
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I had a b/f for 9 months. We broke up b/c he wanted to go to drugs and I didn't want to be with someone like that. I told him at the beginning of our relationship if he wanted to do drugs I'm not stopping him but he won't be with me. So he chose drugs...week later he wants me back. I finally stood up for something I believe in, and I know I won't take him back...but what do I say to him? (link)
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You told him how it was... you gave him the opportunity to fuck up, and indeed he did. He made the choice of drugs over you. He needs to pay the price for that. And that means that you stand by your decision and he must live with his.
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ok, im 12 and im so flat! is it possible to grow boobs over 1 summer? im going to a new school and itd be cool if i had achest
am starting to grow. will i be able to grow in time? if so how big?
i know looks shouldnt matter but every girl i no has a chest
thanx (link)
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As I've told others, boobs grow well into your 20s.
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I am a Christian girl. My parents like to go to a supposedly "Christian Phycic" He says that God gives him his powers. I dont really believe in ANYTHING a phycic says, but my parents do. Is this phycic a sin in God's eyes? Please help me understand! (link)
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I don't think its a sin, per se... more that they guy is likely a crack-pot and probalby midly delusional.
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My old best friend used to like my current boyfriend and we both liked him at the same time. We always fought over him and one day we just stopped being friends. I was so upset but I just moved on and made new friends. We recently started to talk again =) and shes so sweet!! I really wanna be best friends again like before.. should I invite her to hang out or should we just stay at talking on the internet? Thanks!! (link)
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I don't see why not? If she's fine with it, and you are too, why shouldn't the two of you hang out?
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Hey everyone! I I have this boyfriend, and he's cool, but I think we would make better friends than b/f g/f. But when I told him I want to just be friends, he ignored me and now he still thinks we are going out. No matter how many times I tell him, he won't accept it. Now he started to ask me to do inappropriate things and he won't accept no for and answer. How can I make him accept my decisons?? (link)
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Then you MAKE him take "no" for an answer. If he's that clueless, then he needs a dose of reality. Look him in the eyes and say, "We're NOT going out. We are NOT a couple. Stop it, before you ruin our friendship." That way, there's nothing vague, nothing he can misconstrue, and if he ignores you again, then it is in your best interest to walk away.
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my ex boyfriend broke up with my a few weeks ago but asked me out again and i told him no because i always screw things up but i still like him and he still likes me he just met this girl who i dont like because shes a total hoe and thats all shes good for and last nite when i saw him at the mall he was there w/ his arm around her and i got really mad because you know i still like him later on that nite he got on the computer and was like if you fucking like me so much why the hell wont you go back out with me and all this other stuff then signed off with out giving me a chance to explain do you think i should go back out w/ him or just try to stay friends w/ him? (link)
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Sounds like the chemistry between the two of you is not good. I'd let this one go.
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Ok, so yesterday, I was at a babyshower and I met this guy who is 2 years younger than I am(hes 10) and hes soo nice and hes soooo cute! He even brought me food(i didnt ask him for it though!) and now I think im in love with him, but i didnt get his number or anything all i know is his name and i want to see him again, but i dont know how, so can somebody plzzzzz tell me how i can get us together at least one more time so that i can get his number? (link)
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What do you plan on doing with his number?
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months and I used to be SO in love with him, but lately Ive been lieing to him about alot of little things and making up excuses to get off the phone. Should I wait a little while to see how things work out or should I talk to him about it? He loves me so much, I know he'll cry if I break up with him. I just cant hurt him like that. What am I supposed to do? :(
Confused with love! :( (link)
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The magic is wearing off...
...sadly, this isn't uncommon.
The "mature" thing to do would be to sit down and talk to him about it. It might also be that the two of you don't sit down to just talk often enough.
Very often, this is the death knell of all early relationships.
My biggest piece of advice is to do everything in your power to not lose him as a friend - for friends are far more important in the long run.
If you need to end the girlfriend/boyfriend thing, then do it carefully and with tact. He will be hurt no matter how it is done. The only other choice is to slowly let the two of you drift apart, but sometimes that's not fair to either one of you.
But no matter what you do, don't make it apparent that you want to have one of "those" talks with him. He will be able to smell it from a mile away, will get nervous, tense up, clam up, and the whole thing will be miserable... as such, just talk to him like you would any other day, talk about things, talk about whatever, and work talking about the two of you into it.
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Okay hi its barb(ara) agian.I go 2 a cathcloic school n i dunt mean 2 sound like i dunt belive in god but i do.I mean still we are beliving in a ghost thats over 4000 years old.But it seems like GOd Is forcing us 2 belive in him n make him seem LIKE HE IS POWERFUL only HE is great.Its like yu nver write the word Bob in capitals just cuz he has a cool name.I mean y should god be all powerful n y should we honer him he seems like an electrain trying 2 burn out the light.I have nothing agaisnt god but what am i beling in?I have no clue about it.Our school forces us 2 be more cathcloic and it seems the more they do that the worse the kids become.Kids in 2nd grade at my cathcloic school is cursing.We r starting fights.It seems the more they take it away the more we do it.Y kant they just leave us alone????-Catholic and Unfaithful (link)
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again, I ask a simple questions...
why do people worry so much about religion? Religion are the rules made up by man to enforce on other people... who needs it?
I find it is religion that makes the whole "god" concept so undesireable, because we put these really ridiculous stipulations around it.
From the sound of it, you are confusing God with those who would abuse the name of God to control people.
I am Catholic. I am also catholic (yes, there's a difference).
Don't worry so much about the stupid crap that doesn't matter. Don't let people who have lost touch with what religion and spirituality are all about bring you down.
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if im 13, gunna be 14 in 4 months, and i still haven't gotten my period, is that abnormal or sumthin, all of my friends have already started, and sum people i kno who are younger then me have started, my mom started when she was 11, my sister started when she was going into 7th grade, and im entering 9th, and still haven't started,is there sumthin wrong wit me?? (link)
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When it happens is up to hormones, body size, physical activity, and stress.
Unless there are other complicating factors that you haven't listed, you are likely perfectly fine.
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