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Do I still love him?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months and I used to be SO in love with him, but lately Ive been lieing to him about alot of little things and making up excuses to get off the phone. Should I wait a little while to see how things work out or should I talk to him about it? He loves me so much, I know he'll cry if I break up with him. I just cant hurt him like that. What am I supposed to do? :(
Confused with love! :(
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Never hide your feelings.Talk to him about it.
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the spark is gone.you dont love him as much as you thought. you were just down with the moment convincing yourself you love him. Ask him how he thinks the relationship is going. Follow your heart. you shouldnt hold back in your life in fear of breaking peoples hearts. chances are, youll break a lot of hearts but 0if they arent for you, dont hold back. much love, good luck, melissa
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The reason you're confused is because you are still in love with him. Relationships hit snags at least one time in their existence, so just talk to him about it and tell him how you truly feel. If you discover that you don't love him anymore romantically, tell him, and maybe you two can be close friends. The love that you have for him is either romantically or a friendship love. You have to figure out which. =)
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Just because you are lieing to your boyfriend doesn't mean that you still yet don't love him . Love one's lie to each others as well which I think you may know, but if it is really meesing with your conscience, then talk to him . Confess to him . Tell him that you have been lieing about the little things , but I hope you understand that the little things u may think are, may not ne little 4 him . Talk to him . What you need to do is ask yourself, "Am I happy with the guy I am with . Does he understand me ? Is he there for me ? And how do I really feel 4 him ? Does the relationship still excite me "? If all the above u agree with , than maybe u still have flame in the relationship . In your conversation, you can mention, " What kind of things that really would make the relationship comftorable"? If you decide to break his heart tell him slow and that maybe u 2 can continue to be friends . Tell him that there maybe something real . Trust me , either way he'll understand that you were and are doing the right thing for the both of u and your relationship . Have a nice day !!!
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The magic is wearing off...
...sadly, this isn't uncommon.
The "mature" thing to do would be to sit down and talk to him about it. It might also be that the two of you don't sit down to just talk often enough.
Very often, this is the death knell of all early relationships.
My biggest piece of advice is to do everything in your power to not lose him as a friend - for friends are far more important in the long run.
If you need to end the girlfriend/boyfriend thing, then do it carefully and with tact. He will be hurt no matter how it is done. The only other choice is to slowly let the two of you drift apart, but sometimes that's not fair to either one of you.
But no matter what you do, don't make it apparent that you want to have one of "those" talks with him. He will be able to smell it from a mile away, will get nervous, tense up, clam up, and the whole thing will be miserable... as such, just talk to him like you would any other day, talk about things, talk about whatever, and work talking about the two of you into it.
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It looks like the spark just isn't there anymore. If i were you, i'd cool it down for a while and tell him you'd like to have some time apart. If you still have feelings for him then get closer to him again. Sometimes relationships just wont work..maybe you should just move on. He might cry but it's better to hear the truth than to be lied to isn't it?
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