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ok..so im in an amazing relationship i love the kid to death. i really do, but there was this other guy who i was really good friends with and me and him we were "together" before me and my current bf. my bf hates this kid so much. but he keeps telling me that he doesnt matter if i hang out with him, just as long as i dont mess up and then he gets all depressed when i talk to him again. should i just stop talking to my other friend all together to make my bf happy? or what should i do....? ahh. i need help.

No. Do not stop talking to him. That would ruin a perfectly good friendship. Your boyfriend should be able to understand that there will be many guys in your life and many guy friends. If he is a good boyfriend he will be OK with it. Yes, he may still get jealous, that's just natural, but he'll be fine.

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I've been single for almost two years because all the guys like the "Popular girls" I really want a bf and cant seem to get one..can anyone help me ?


Ill rate 5's all the way♥
thanks=]

It probably just seems that way. In every school it seems that way. All the guys go for the popular girls. But, it's not really true. There are a ton of guys who would never think of going out with a popular girl. Just show a little more confidence and be more open. Trust me it will work.

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ok so could you get pregnant without having sex...like just having sexual intercourse with guys and idk "getting messy" i suppose is a good way to say it. me and some of my friends were talking about it. if anyone of you guys/gals know the answer to this. lemmie know!! thanks.

Sexual intercourse is sex. If you mean the other stuff, then no you cannot get pragnant from that. Only if the sperm can get into your vagina.

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my girlfriend thinks that im too innocent, how could i change? I hardly know any sexual slang,ect.

You shouldn't have to change for her. If she is a good girlfriend she will accept you for who you are. If she doesn't then it was realy her loss because what kind of girl wants a guy that is always horney?

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You know that song that goes like

sing me something soft, sad, and delicate, or loud & out of key, sing me anything.

??

who sings that

lol

Straylight Run

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Hey. I have a friend. We've been friends for a while and we tell each other everything. I tell him things that i could never tell anyone else. But lately I have started feeling a different way around him. I think I might like him as more than a friend now. & I think he may like me too. alott people think we like each other. i dont know what to do. i just think it would be akward to tell him that i like him as more than a friend. & if we do start going out i hope if we break up it doesnt ruin our friendship.

What do I do ?

Listen to your heart. Tell him you like him. It may work out. If you do go out then make him promise if you break up you'll still be best friends. If you like him the best thing to do is to say so.

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hey! i am 13 years old/female and i am 65 pounds and 4 feet 6 inches tall. i am really short. i am very small for my age, and i have trouble finding jeans that will fit me. can anyone tell me some stores where jeans might fit a body type like mine? thanks in advance!

Limited Too. They will fit you. Also try shopping in the kids section of department stores like JcPenny's.

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my friend didnt know how to make out n like use her tongue n stuff......so she like did it with her dog i guess

is it just me or is that a lil weird?


she told me she did it tho so she wouldnt look stupid when she does it with a guy fer the 1st time

Wow, that's really weird. Next time tell her to practice on her hand. Even offer to let her practice on you, if you're OK with it. That's really odd...

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I have a friend who's family is a friend of my family and they lost their dad today. The doctors gave him 2 hours-2 days on Monday. He died this afternoon.


My parents are over at their house right now and they told me to come when they call. That sould be in like an hour or so.


Well, I'm not sure what I should talk to my friend about. Should I talk about her dad or not?

Tell her that you are very sorry for her loss and hug her. Then wait for her to talk. She may not really want to talk so if she doesn't don't feel offended. Just talk about what she wants to talk about. If she wants to talk about her dad she will.

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how do i loose weight fast?! what are some exersizes i can do, how can i eat, etc.? does anyone have any tips? please! ill rate 5s.

Yes. that's true but fort he most part impossible.

For food here's some options:

Breakfest (never skip it jump start your metabolism to loose weight):
egg
yoguart
rye toast
bagel with cream cheese
fruit

Lunch:
salad
sandwhich with rye bread
fruit salad

diner:
anything as long as you eat in propotins (sp?).

Try runnning or jogging. It's very good for you. Crunches are good too. But not 1,000 lol.

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whats it mean when you're ears itch on the inside and kinda hurt? i have a sore throat too and it feels like they are connected because when i swallow i can sorta feel it in my ears.

There are three possiblities that I have experienced from that. Ear infection, sinus infection (that one is going around), and the flu. Go to a doctor and see if you can get some antibiotics.

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im 17 male 5'7" weight 130 lb.'s its it ok for my age cause i look realy skinny how can i gain weight i eat a lot fat foods but don't gain weight. can some one give tips.

Muscle weighs much more than fat. Try lifting weights. Start small though. Also foods high in protein will help you with your muscle building.

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i been with my gf for 2 months and she says she loves me. i told her its not love, we are getting 2 know each other love will deverlope if we meant 4 each other, time will say so. was that right?

You probably are right but you can't be sure. She could have truly loved you. Some people are mature enough to realize love faster than others. You could have been right but it probably hurt her. Explain to her that all you meant was love really takes time. I'm sure she'll be OK.

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ok so i am 103lbs 5'4" but i have no muscle. i want to gain muscle and get rid of this roll i have at my stomach. its gross. you honestly wouldnt think at my weight i could have a pudgy tummy but it sits ontop of my jeans and it makes me feel bad. i normally skip breakfast, snack at lunch and just eat dinner. what could i do differently. ive been doing 50 sit ups a day for like 6 months and its not helping anything. what should i do? i want it gone fast in time for spring. help!

You need to eat breakfrest. It jump starts your metabolsim so you can burn calories. It's also better to have less at dinner. Start jogging. It's very good for you and burns a ton of weight.

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13/f
sry if this is long :/ ill rate
k, so me and this girl lex were bffs since 2nd grade (were in 7th grade now). last summer this girl shayla moved in across the street. we were immediatly friends. when school started the 3 of us were all friends and did stuff together all the time. but then near the end of 6th grade and this past summer, they started always doing stuff without me all the time and lying to me. and then in sept, shayla imed me and was like, "you're sucha loser i hate you dont talk to me" so i figured lex would back me up, but it turns out she was with her the whole time, going along with it.(shayla told lex i talked about her all the time, which was a COMPLETE lie) soo now im not friends with them. they're really popular this year and best friends and have all their popular friends. but lex told my sister she misses me and wants to be friends again cuz shayla admitted to her that she was lyin the whole time about me talking about her and feels bad. and i miss her too and wanna be friends but its soo complicated because they're with their new popular friends now and i know that if we were friends again it wouldnt be the same. but still, i miss her and get really sad when i think about all the mems...i mean, come on, we were bffs for 6 years. well i have no idea what to do, so plzz help ! thanks

You should really try to be friends with her again. If you both miss each other then it could still work out. It could still be the same because you've been through so much together. Just start talking to her at school and tell her you want to be friends again.

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hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone.

Say "Hey can I borrow a quarter? I need to go call my mom and tell her I met the love of my life."

"Did it hurt? Her: did what hurt? You: when you fell from heaven."

"Can you give me CPR? Her: why? You: because you just took my breathe away."

They're really corny but they work.

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My friend has been taking pills that some, or many of you, are familiar with. The street name are "triple c's" or "skittles". I think theyre called 'Coridicin Cold and Cough' or something, and what gives people their 'high' is the dextrophine or something close called that. Well, She steals them out of walgreen every day and swallows about 16 of them every day or every other day. I, myself, have only taken 6 in my life and I learned it was a very stupid decision and that I will never take them again! But my friend on the other hand, I think, is becoming very dependent on them. Shes been doing this for about a month or two, every day taking more. She keeps telling me and herself that she'll stop but she just won't. She is my best friend and im really concerned about her health and what permanent effects these pills can have on her. So what i need is some info and/or sites that give me the dangers, etc. of taking these pills. Thank you guys so much i want to help her.

Of course, there is the obvious: brain damage. Also side effects can include vommiting, hot flashes, diarha (sp?), dizziness, ect. The best thing to do is tell someone who can get her help about it. Ask to stay anynomus so she won't get mad at you. If someone knows she can get help.

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One of my friends and I have are having this argument. She insists on talking about my sexual orientation. It doesn't bother me that she talks about it, with myself or with others, but she insists on labeling me a 'bisexual'.

She says it's just a word everyone understands and I should accept it as a descriptor. I admit it's a pretty accurate description of me but I still don't like the label and I can't identify with all the bullshit and connotations attached to it. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was single, but because I'm with someone people seem to hear bisexual and think 'easy' or that I'm up for a threesome and such stupidity.

Is she right in using a word just cause it's easily understood by most people or can I put my foot down because I don't like it?

You can put your foot down. Tell her she is right that it labels you but you are not comfortable with the word. Just tell her how she is making you feel awkward. If she cannot accept that she is not a good friend.

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ok well a couple weeks ago my best friend and i got into this huge fight .. she was mad at me for almost a week and i dont think she knows but i cried a lot and i am 100% sorry and would never do anything like that agen.

as far as i can tell things are back to normal now but how do i know for sure whether our friendship is really mended? i know it will take a while but how doi show her that she can trust me and i would never do anyhting like that again?

please help me ill rate 5s!

Try kinda making a deal with her. What I mean is tell her a huge secret of yours. Tell her if you do what she did again she could tell everyone. Yes, this puts you in jepordy but now you are less likely to tell and she may be more inclinded to trust you again.

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Heres my story; I know its long and I'm truly sorry but I could really use some help.

I used to be good friends with bailea and ashley; however about a week ago I stopped sitting with them at lunch and sat with my best friends Holly-Beth and Kaitlyn and that whole crowd. Well HB and Kaitlyn are my best friends and I only have one class with them ( I have ALL my classes with Ash and Bailea) and I really like sitting with HB and Kaitlyn at lunch cause we have so much in common. However Bailea and ashley hate me now; they wont admit it but I know they do. Bailea and I used to share lockers and now she moved outta my locker; she refuses to be my partner in any class; if im in a conversation she'll completley ignore me; and she'll do just about whatever it is she can to not be around me.

My problem is; in a lot of my classes theres only a few girls and Bailea and Ashley are my only "friends" in those classes (all the other girls are in like a lil group of geeks and i cant stand them) So now in half my classes if we do group/partner work im left without a partner. Usually I have no trouble making friends im actually really outgoing and i have alot of friends; but this whole situation of them hating me, me being ditched, and such is truly getting my life down. I dread science class cause there the only two other girls in that class so now I'm the loser left out. PLEASE HELP =D

Do you know where their lockers are? If so slip a note in there asking them for forgiveness. Explain what you explained here that you never get to see your other friends. If your other friends and these friends like each other maybe you could all sit together or try to get you best friends to talk to your friends. After all this if they still don't accept your apology they're not good friends.

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