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One of my friends and I have are having this argument. She insists on talking about my sexual orientation. It doesn't bother me that she talks about it, with myself or with others, but she insists on labeling me a 'bisexual'.
She says it's just a word everyone understands and I should accept it as a descriptor. I admit it's a pretty accurate description of me but I still don't like the label and I can't identify with all the bullshit and connotations attached to it. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was single, but because I'm with someone people seem to hear bisexual and think 'easy' or that I'm up for a threesome and such stupidity.
Is she right in using a word just cause it's easily understood by most people or can I put my foot down because I don't like it?
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put you foot down. labels suck i know tell her u dont like labels ,your you not "bi".if she insits on still callin you this trying her something she doesnt like and ask her her how she feels .put her in your shoes in other terms.
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You can put your foot down. Tell her she is right that it labels you but you are not comfortable with the word. Just tell her how she is making you feel awkward. If she cannot accept that she is not a good friend.
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Put a stop to it now: call her a lesbian and use the same excuse that she uses on you.
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If she is really your friend then she should understand when you don't like something. A true friend would listen to the way you feel and try to resolve the conflict. If you don't like being called bisexual tell her about it.
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Your sexual orientation is YOUR business, not her's, and it's not her choice to discuss, it's yours. She should really stop trying. Tell her that she shouldn't label you something like that because that's not how you see yourself. Put your foot down if you don't like it. And don't take her crap.
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If you don't like it put your foot down.
I personally think a persons sex life should be their own and not something to make conversation about anyway. I mean I suppose you can talk about it with your very best friend or something but it seems everyone has to make it such a big deal these days!
You are who you are and there is no need for other people to need a description is there? Unless you have or would like to have a relationship with them.
Politely tell your friend that you'd appreciate it if she would stop labeling you because of your sexuality and just describe you as a good person instead. :)
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