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Q: Well lately I have been feeling sort of excluded. I have this group of 5 other people that I mainly usually hang out with. Lets name them Lucinda, Sabrina, Ashley, Margie, and Maria. Well were all in 8th grade. Lucinda, Sabrina, Ashley, Maria, and I are all in the same class. But Margie is by herself in the other class. Well lately Lucinda and Sabrina have been hanging out alot, But only when Margie is not around. When Margie is around Lucinda and her are like bffe. When Margie isnt around they are like bffe. So when Margie isnt around I feel like Sabrina is using me because Lucinda sorta ignores everyone else [ me Sabrina Ashley and Maria ] when she is with Margie. Same goes for when Lucinda is with Sabrina. Well Ashley and Maria sorta do there own thing most of the time and dont really care about this as much as I do, But they told me that they do notice this and its getting quite annoying. Im sorta stuck in the middle. I mean i hang out with Ashley and Maria when there acting like this, but i wish it was liek the beginning of the year. In the beginning of the year we were all bffe and no one excluded or ignored anyone. I know that this isnt the perfect world and things like this are going to happen but lately its been happenign just a little too much. Can anyone tell me what to do? This has happened once before and I tried talking to them and it was fixed for like 3 days then they started up again. Should i just stick with Ashley and Maria or find a new crew? Please help! Ill rate good. Frankie ♥

Wow, I know exactly how you feel I went through the same thing in middle school, second through 8th grade, I hated it. You should find a new crew and hang out with them, it's always good to have than one group of friends, but still hang out with Maria and Ashley also since they don't ignore you. As for Sabrina, Lucinda, and Margie, let them come around to you.

Q: One of my friends and I have are having this argument. She insists on talking about my sexual orientation. It doesn't bother me that she talks about it, with myself or with others, but she insists on labeling me a 'bisexual'.

She says it's just a word everyone understands and I should accept it as a descriptor. I admit it's a pretty accurate description of me but I still don't like the label and I can't identify with all the bullshit and connotations attached to it. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was single, but because I'm with someone people seem to hear bisexual and think 'easy' or that I'm up for a threesome and such stupidity.

Is she right in using a word just cause it's easily understood by most people or can I put my foot down because I don't like it?

If she is really your friend then she should understand when you don't like something. A true friend would listen to the way you feel and try to resolve the conflict. If you don't like being called bisexual tell her about it.

Q: where can i find Dove Face Care Essential Nutrients for skin so healthy it glows Cleansing Cloths, for Regular skin by Dove? it was at drugstore.com,but does that mean it would be at cvs/brooks/wallmart or stuff like that? im not sure,thanks for the help :)

You can find Dove facial cleansing products at any drug store. CVS, Riteaid, Walgreens etc. I hope it works for you.

Q: what do you do when your in a bad mood?
i have so much homework to do and its stressing me out and i just dont wanna do it anymore

I know exactly how you feel. I have been so stressed out from homework before that all I could do is curl up and cry. Sometimes homework can be a bit excessive, but don't let it get to you do the best you can, and try not to let your homework pile up on you all at once, try to get ahead. Good Luck.

Q: My mom is making me get braces soon and i think i have a choice of colors. What color would you pick and why?

Thanks

Well when I had braces (for three years) one of my fav colors was pink, I think pink is really cute, consider that color.

Q: Ok well somedays ago i went to this party.....my best friend was there but his g/f wasnt......so he was flirting and doin all that shit with this other girl.....his g/f found out and they broke up.....so we started talkin and she said she was likin me more and more everyday and would consider goin out with me sometime.....well a minute later her "boyfriend" called and siad he wants to get back together with her and he lied to her just so they could get back together.....so she pretty much abandoned me. but she did say "I really do like you maybe as just a friend but you mean a lot to me" I need help!!! (will rate 5's for any)

tell this guys girlfriend that he lied just so he could get her back. On second thought this girl is to wrapped up in this guy, I mean once a guy cheats or messes around he'll do it again, and if she liked you she would not have abandoned you, she was using you to make herself feel better until her boyfriend came back. You can do better, forget about her, you could do so much better. Good Luck.

Q: ok so im 16/f (10th grade) and i really like a guy that i work with!! the only problem is he's 17 (11th grade) and he goes to another school in my district. he's so sweet but sometimes shy but we always have a great time when we work together. do you think i have a chance with him, or how can i get him to open up more?

Okay I am shy too and it takes me a while to warm to people also. So if you want to get a shy person to open up, just be patient and do somethings with them they would like to do. Yoou totally stand a chance, if you guys have a great time when you work together then it would probably work out between you two. He is a only a year older, thats perfect.

Q: Hey all. I was wondering if you guys thought I made a smart choice. Here it is: for freshman year, I am not continuing Spanish and going to Spanish 2 Honors, but instead I'm taking Italian 1 because I think it's different and a beutiful language. Please tell me if you think I made a smart choice. Thanks!

Do whatever makes you happy, If Spanish isn't what you want to do don't do it. Italian is a beautiful,language, I think you should take it, hey it might come in handy one day.

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hey ya'll my name is Nicole, and I am 17. I love music, tv, and helping people, partying not really my thing lets just say i had abd experince. My fav tv show are That 70's Show, Girlfriends, The Gauntlet, Real World, Good Times, All in the family, yeah the oldies. Fav movie of all time Clueless!!!!!!!!!! Well anyways hit me up with some questions, I will defintly answer. Oh and wish me luck, I start college next year at the University of NewOrleans!!!!!!!!!!!! YEAH!!!