ok here we go i have a lot of problems myself which is why i like to help people because to me its easier to help them to help me. my friends always come to me when they need help and i try my best to give as much help as i can.i may b only 14 but alot of poeple say im wise beyond my years.>GOD NVR GIVES YOU SOMETHING YOU CANT HANDLE
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ya he said "your a distraction" to me in a friendly tone with a smile, any ideas on what that might mean?thanx in advance (link)
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he proably means he that maybe your so pretty he cant concrete on anything but you, but maybe not if that is what he means well go for it but start out like when you said i was a distraction what did you excatly mean?
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so i am dating this guy and he just got out of rehab and we dated a month in the summer then broke up and thats when he want to rehab well hes back and me and him have hooked up again well he was doing good and not using drugs but last wednesday he relapsed which means he went back to using...well he had a bad trip and had to go to the hosiptal and then he was put on house arrest well monday he had court to see if he had to go back to rehab or juvie..well i called and his dad said he won't be home until next monday which means he is rehab or juvie...and i dont know if i should stay with him? alot happend this summer with me and him i got pregant with his kid but i miscarried and we've been through alot together so should i stay with him? PLEASE GIVE ADVICE ASAP! thanks * aleah* (link)
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you and himm have been through quite alot but with him using these drugs can get you and him into serious trouble you could eventually even start getting addicted to these drugs , i think you should break up because with drugs you have no future, but if you decide not to end it help him as much as you can and try to keep him busy so he doesnt relapsed again. good luck
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I'm trying to get a toned tummy for the summer. I tried last year, but gave up. I am between skinny and average, with big hips but not a big butt. I basically need to get rid of the hips and just flatten out the front a little bit more. What should I be eating, and what work outs should I be doing every day? and how long will it take me to get a nice, toned tummy? thanks, i'll rate! (link)
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crunchs do wonders for your stomache and running helps you too try running 2 or 3 days a week.maybe try giving up junk ffod and drink more water.i dont know how long it will take but if you keep working at it youll be in shape in no time
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i've been really stressed lately and i finally cracked. yesterday night i was working on homework late at night and i just started crying. over all the things that are wrong in my life and it seems like theres nothing left to be happy about and im just not happy with my life right now. i dont know what to do. (link)
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when you reach taht point in your life nothing seems like it will help , for me i focused my attention o na hobby like a sport or a club, it took alot of my time so i didnt have time to think about all my problems and when i did have time it seemed i was starting to get to taht point in my life where i was happy again , but by then i couldnt tell the difference if i was still pretending or not i still can't , but thats why i started this advice in some ways it helpedme find closure in my problems. find something your good at .
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Hey, Im 13 and a female. I would like to start tanning because I am very white/pale. She says that 13 is too young to start tanning and that I should wait until I am 16. I really dont think that I would be willing to wait until I am 16. I mean come on that is 3 years! Is there anything that I can say or do to make her agree. Please dont say you should wait till your 16. Ill rate high. Molly ♥ (link)
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tell her ( who is her?)but anyways say anything like how old were you when you tanned , say anything that may have dealed with her past , so she can see your really serious about this, and she still says no try making a compromse it may be your only hope
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My mom is making me get braces soon and i think i have a choice of colors. What color would you pick and why?
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i would pick black because it goes with everything dont get any colors that wont go with your clothes cause you might feel like your mismatching try to get a color you have alot of clothes to match
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i am 13 years old and i'm a female duh :-) ok and i really like this guy named uhm peter and i never realised i like him untill i had the feeling he likes me! he always smiled at me and once he talked to me but i was kind of meen because i never wanted him to know that i like him i know its weird! so i think he was upset but one week after that another guy told me: cornelia (thats me) robert ( a nother guy i really hate)loves you i was like : so i dont care! and then peter heard that and said : i love you 2 and i tried to be your friend but you where so meen! and then i was meen again I HATE MYSELF i was like: yeah 2 bad ore something like that :-( and now he wont talk to me anymore so he ignores me and i want to appologize but i cant because i am kind of shy when it comes to things like that and he always hangs with his friends so i wanted to call him but on my list where 3 numbers so i never knew which one to dile! and i peter is all i've been thinking about lately and i really really like him! so i need some advice! how can i appologize and what should i say without seeming stupid? I REALLY NEED ADVICE!!! thanks!!!! (link)
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tell him youwere just nervous and you didnt mean what you said i think now is a good time to tell him how you feel so maybe he'll understand better i know it will be hard but its better than him thinking you hate him , try taking a risk.
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alright heres the deal.. i like my best friend.. and he still likes me even though he has a girlfriend.. he cheated on her 3 time and he always says "i love you and if we were going out i woudln't cheat on you" and stuff and i don't know if i shoudl still like him or if i shoudl move on.. he's also always rubbing it in that he's going out with this chick to make me jealous.. and i don't get jealous..
additionally, when i like someone other than him.. he gets completly jealous and starts flipping on me and telling me that i'm an idiot because the guy is gay.. when first off he doesn't even know him.. i told him plently of times that if he woudln't be with his girlfriend i woudl be with him.. but he continues to go out with her.. and i feel really bad
should i get over him or whatnot? i will rate a 5 for any thought (link)
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k i think you should go with him because hes your best friend and you trust him right? so yea but then again the whole cheating on goes back to how much you trust him all i can say is follow your heart
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Hey ok i know this is very steryotypical but i am i emo girl and mah frinds say im a goth and i try to tell them goth and emo are totally differnt.... arent they... could u give me the differnt of the two or like a deffinition of each???? thanks!! (link)
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here are my definations of them : emo : is a person who is really in touch with their emotions ,they listen to scream music , taht talks about their problems,emo people to me put their emotions in the open without telling people. goth: on the other hand wheres all black , thinks of sucide,hates their lives , cant stand to be around people, goths are really depreesed and sucidial. those are my def. to me they are really diferent
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Hey! Well i have this problem..i LOVE hanging out with my cousin--we are the same age . both 15 and she is pretty much awesome lol we are really close! The only thing is when we hang out we dont really go anywhere..she is a computer (AIM , MYSPACE) addict..im serious. We were suppose to hangout this weekend and at my house we are having this party but like ALL OLD PEOPLE are going to be there..and its boring..and my cousin told me that me her and the kid she liked (mike) and his friend (zack) and this girl brittany were all going to go to a movie so i could meet the guys she likes. Well now i just talked to her a little bit ago shes like GUESS WHAT? i get to drive to your house on saturday because she got her permitt..and i was like ohhh coool..and shes like but yeah i dont think zack has even talked to mike yet ..so im not sure what we are doing this weekend..and it seems like she is coming over here for the boring party where we will just sit here with all the adults and do nothing..she will probably go on the computer. She wants me to sleepover but the problem is since she is grounded from the computer at her house..we dont do anything besides sit there and watch tv the whole time..this is not how i want to spend my weekend! i look forward to my weekends and i dont want to waste it by sitting on my butt. We never go anywhere..sometimes its boring but like there is never anything to do and it seems like she never wants to do anything! we both dont really hangout with guys..even tho i would want to but we are more quieter so we dont have many guy friends..and yeahh. SO any suggestions on what we could do? Or anything that would help with my situation on how to spice things up..and just have fun!!
i will rate 5 for anyone who answers!
thanks :) (link)
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why dont you plan something with your friends or you can even set something up with her friends , you want to get out of the house so go for it just tell at time where she cant try to cancel it
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ive been "talking" with a kid for 6 months now.
Talking is when your not going out but your "about to" and you both like eachother & know it
well im still liek nervous around him and idk were so different but i think thats what makes it good uk...well i guess what im wondering is should i wait around for him? dont tell me "if i think its worth the wait" because i wouldnt be here if that was the case idk hes 17 im 15 and yeah. leave your AIM sn so we can talk more and i can give details if you want. (link)
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k i toatlly think you should wait you want to go out with him and he wants to go out with you hes proabaly just waiting to see if hes completely ready and if you are to , so be happy hes not rushing into anything my s/n is castTbutler so if we still need to talk im me .
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ok so anyway, i was going out with this guy, and i thought he really cared about me, like everything was going good, and then we broke up cus it was a difficult time in my life and i didnt want a b/f, so we just cooled it and we started talking instantly after the break up and we gained a really close relationship, like a brother-sister one, and then everything in my life was going good and he loved me, and he proved it too, and it was so real,i could just tell that it was real, so anyway we started going out, and then he broke up with me because he said he liked us better as friends because we talked more. but then he started going out with this other girl, and i was reading some questions on here and i found one that he asked not to long before we went out, and it said that he really like this otehr girl and that she was the one for him and he thought he had liked me, and now i dont know what to do, because he could have been lying about ever loving me at all or he could of been telling the truth, but how can i make him see that i really love him, and that i want him back without sounding like some weirdo creep?...
13/f..i'll rate huge (link)
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well he said he did like yall as friends so he might still have feelings for you , i think maybe you should get that connection back with him and see if when you feel you can tell him. you have to paient though he'll come on his own but it doesnt hurt to add a little push
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I really really like this guy Adam. We talk sometimes but usually if we do its a short conversation. We were getting really close until a few people told him I liked him and that I was telling people we were going out ( WHICH WAS A LIE) and I cleared that whole thing up but now he hardly talks to me unless I say something first and I hate having to force my way into a conversation. He just looks at me like the ackward silenced girl; usually I'm REALLY outgoing and Ive never had trouble getting guys but this guy is so much harder and I really really like him. How do I flirt with him; we never speak?!?! (link)
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maybe hes afraid that you dont like him since" you cleared that up " so now he probaly feels akward , dont feel so weird around him try to get it back to old times bring up some memories .
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Hey, its about to be spring and all and then bathing suit season...i can't wait but i have this big problem! i have these massive stretch marks underneeth my butt... there are a bunch of them and i have had them for about 2 years? well i dont know how long...but they are driving me insane! i want them gone..i have been doing all sorts of excercises for my butt..still havent goone away though...unfortunatly. my butt is pretty much all muscle since i am into sports dance tennis soccer..im very active i even go to the gym sometimes..but they still havent gone...i just need help to try to get ride of these... does anyone know a way? or maybe an exercise i could do to get rid of them quick? id really appreciate it if you helped me out...im pretty sure other girls have this problem also! (link)
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try coco butter it really really works, your probaly doing so maay excerises its your bodies not use to it so also limit your excerising you could be causing your own stretch marks trying to get rid of them,
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I've been known lose my temper easily, usually with me ending up slapping someone in the face. Usually it only happens once a week where I'll just get really angry over something stupid that wouldn’t have mattered the day before. I take my anger out on guys usually (I'm a girl) I'm wondering if I have bi polar (sp?) since I can be totally fine one second and out of control the nest. My mom thinks I need a consular since she thinks I'm "Angry all the time" and "Depressed" but I’m not sure what to think. Any ideas? Btw, I’m 14 (link)
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your more than likley depressed your probaly not mad at those small things , theirs proably something really eaten away at you and this is how your mind is taking care of all taht anger , really you need to learn to contrl it , talk to a trusted adult , or try a counselor. good luck
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ok so for lent i'm promising myself to walk the dog atleast 1 a week, do 15 situps a day, eating healthy (tho i can never do it) and practice soccer and tennis whenever i can....what else can i do to get results....FAST?
please please help! i'll rate and comment....thanks. (link)
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try crunches run more mayb like 2 3 days a week , maybe try finding a new sport to help you get in shape again like basketball or you could even join track if your still in highschool or collage. good luck
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how do i loose weight fast?! what are some exersizes i can do, how can i eat, etc.? does anyone have any tips? please! ill rate 5s.
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i never heardx about tah 1,000 a day but doing crunches does put you in really good shape , you try running at least two days a week maybe three, and about eating if you skip breakfast you eran weight so dont skip any meals , you can try soup diest jus look up soup diet and see what you can eat .
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i been with my gf for 2 months and she says she loves me. i told her its not love, we are getting 2 know each other love will deverlope if we meant 4 each other, time will say so. was that right? (link)
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me being a girl i can honestly say when girls say they love you they mean it, you can tell her you really really like her but right know your in lust not love maybe thats hoe she feels to.
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I've been dating this guy on and off since I've known him.We're best friends and spend all of our time together.
I love him ver much. He loves me too, and cares about me just as much as I care about him.
He lost his job in December because of a car wreck. Since then, I've been going out of my way to help him with just about everything. I buy him cigarettes,gas, beer and food. I've taken him to concerts, free of charge. I'm going to give him my drum set because he likes to play it and wants to really get good at the drums. I make him mixed cds. I e-mail him when he's down to help him cheer up. I buy him awesome Christmas and birthday presents. And actually, I really don't mind doing this for him. I love him and I want him to be happy.
The problem: He says "Thank you", but that's it. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. And I just found out that he sent a girl that he used to date an E-card because he hasn't talked to her in a long time. Okay, so maybe that shouldn't really matter, but it does because all I want is to know that I matter to him. That's all. He'll go out of his way to do something for her and he hasn't seen her in about a year. I want him to appreciate me and want me around. He usually doesn't even call; I call him.
Should I talk to him about it?
Should I just stop being upset and forget it?
How can I make him see all that I do for him and make him appreciate me?
Please help me. I'll rate high.
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i think you should talk to him about it . i mean as i can see you do alot for him let him know that you love doing this for him but you feel really unappreciated , tell him you understand about the whole job thing but your really trying and it wouldnt kill him to try to
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Heres my story; I know its long and I'm truly sorry but I could really use some help.
I used to be good friends with bailea and ashley; however about a week ago I stopped sitting with them at lunch and sat with my best friends Holly-Beth and Kaitlyn and that whole crowd. Well HB and Kaitlyn are my best friends and I only have one class with them ( I have ALL my classes with Ash and Bailea) and I really like sitting with HB and Kaitlyn at lunch cause we have so much in common. However Bailea and ashley hate me now; they wont admit it but I know they do. Bailea and I used to share lockers and now she moved outta my locker; she refuses to be my partner in any class; if im in a conversation she'll completley ignore me; and she'll do just about whatever it is she can to not be around me.
My problem is; in a lot of my classes theres only a few girls and Bailea and Ashley are my only "friends" in those classes (all the other girls are in like a lil group of geeks and i cant stand them) So now in half my classes if we do group/partner work im left without a partner. Usually I have no trouble making friends im actually really outgoing and i have alot of friends; but this whole situation of them hating me, me being ditched, and such is truly getting my life down. I dread science class cause there the only two other girls in that class so now I'm the loser left out. PLEASE HELP =D (link)
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i know how you feel i had 1st period with two gurls taht started hating me to and i dreaded up eventually it got better somehow i made friends with this one girl who i know hang with alot shes sorta geekish but she helps me witha lot of problems amyb you should talk to those other gurls they could really help you
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