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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well
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Long story short :( , thing is my boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now and well it was only yesterday he found out that i spoke to my ex. Thing was that i told him i didnt speak to any of them until i spoke to my last ex , we dont speak it was just once. and he found out so ever since yesterday we aint spoken , he told me how things like this puts him off , how why would i say i dont speak to him if i do, he thinks i still feel something for my ex boyfriend but I have NOOO feelings towards him :( i took the blame cause i know shouldnt have spoken to him, then he said how im making him lose his trust in me & he had weird thoughts he thinks i want my ex back , but im in love with my boyfriend i love him more than anything i wouldnt leave him for my ex. I didnt mean to speak to my ex, it was just a normal conversation we had, & i told him i was sorry he was really angry , i dont wanna lose him :'( im scared , i think i made him doubt my feelings :(
PLEASE HELP MEE
iv apologised so much & nothing
Theres a reason why he's upset with you it's because you dont know what you did and yet your apologizing. It's not that you talked to your ex, it's that you didn't tell him about it. Before you can love someone you have to Be honest with them so that they can trust you. What you did here is give him a reason not to trust you, you lied and not in a white lie kind of way, it's really no wonder why he believes you have feelings for your ex. Hes upset that you lied to him and he feels bad because it only makes sense for you to do that if you had feelings for your ex, why else would you not tell him about it?
If you truly feel nothing for your ex and that you didn't think It would make your boyfriend feel this way then tell him that. Tell him you promise that you don't have feelings for the other guy and you didn't tell him about it because it wasnt a big deal for you. Make sure to include that you will tell him the next time something like this happens.
When he does forgive you do not lie to him again. You may feel that talking to a ex is the actual reason that your bf is mad at you but if that's really the case then your bf is immature, if he's upset at all it's because you didn't tell him about it and kept it a secret (thus making him not want to trust you and think you have feelings for the other guy).
Gl
How t do move your tounge when you makeout, I want to but im scared I will mess up!!!!!!! Im tired of people calling me prude. I mean ive kissed guys and all. But i wanna makeout. I have a boyfriend and he is experienced. i dont wanna disapoint him and get a bad rep. help?!?!?!?
im 14
You have a bigger problem. Let's use our brains here for a minute, and think ahead like most teenagers dont. Say I tell you the secret to being the best kisser there is, you do it and then your happy. In couple months or a year or two The same things going to happen, but next time it's going to be hand jobs, bjs, or sex. What are you going to do about that? Are you going to be stupid enough take be a slut because other sluts want you to? Or is kissing your limit?
Being good at making out isn't going to make you happy, being your own person and not what people want you to be will. Listen to me or don't you'll find that out for yourself, be smart and dont let it be the hard way
F/17
You seem way more informed on the whole dating scene, so I would really appreciate the advice if you have any.
I have this really close friend (Aaron), and we were joking around in math one day when this girl I know starts flirting with him a lot, and my good mood completely dissipated into this white hot rage. I'm not really the jealous type, especially not with people I like.
I hated feeling that way, but it made me realize how much I do like Aaron. I mean, I always thought he was attractive and I knew I liked him, but I always focused on the being friends part. I explained this to a friend and she told me to go for it because "Even when he's jokingly shoving Rule 34 pictures in your face, and you're on that verge of not knowing if you're laughing or crying, you two always seem happier around each other."
I'm afraid I might have friend-zoned myself in this situation, and even if I haven't I'm not entirely sure what to do. Aaron is completely off kilter, but he's absolutely brilliant. He deserves someone as equally brilliant. I know he should make the choice of who he wants, but I'm a little apprehensive about giving him the idea of 'us' because I'm honestly nothing special. While I would love to take that step towards dating, I don't know if I should.
So, I guess the real question is: Should I risk my awesome friendship with an attempt to date him, and if so, how exactly should I approach the subject with him?
Well thank you but I'm not exactly good with "dating", to be honest I'm horrible when it comes to that, but i do know a few things about healthy relationships.
First things first, there is no such thing as the "friends zone". Yes you may not be able to date some anymore because you stayed friends with them for too long but that isn't a person worth dating. Because in the time that you were friends they got to know you better and consciously or subconsciously realized that your not their type, make sense? If not let me know because thats something people should understand.
Now problem number 2. If you want a good strong relationship with this guy I can tell you right now that it's never going to happen. The reason why is this "I'm honestly nothing special". Yes you are suppose to think highly of the person your in a relationship with but your not suppose to think that little of yourself. I'm not exactly sure how far that goes for you (if you think your just the average person but are worth getting in a relationship with or you don't love yourself). You need to believe that you are worth being his girlfriend; that you can make him happy. If you dont feel that then it will not work ( I learned that the hardest way possible)
If that is something you can't manage right now (which is alright) then the only steps you need to be taking are to fix that.
If that's not the case then of course you should try to turn your friendship into a relationship. It does depend on what kind of guy he is though; meaning if he's a little awkward with girls, hasn't been in many relationships then it's probably not the best thing to come out of nowhere and tell him you have feelings for him (you might confuse him). So I'd recommend taking it slower by showing you have that kind of interest in him, and do this in your own way. If your not the flirty type then ask him if he wants to maybe go see a movie over the weekend, hang out together and do something. Some guys are bad at this but I'm Gunna recommend it anyways; try and drop some hints along the way even if he doesn't pick up on them (one of the reasons I'm horrible at dating, never pick up on those things). When you feel your ready for it then tell him that you like him.
The best relationships start off as good friendships, Gl and let me know if you have any more questions
... could that ever happen????? i mean, i know i'm fat, im 230 pounds. i've come to terms with it but... is it possible for a hot guy to like a chuby girl? i think i have a good personality. i have a great sense of humor, im girly, and i have brown cruly hair, and my friends all coo at me because i'm "cute' sometimes... i mean, is it possible? the guy i like is muscular and hot. i don't expect anything, but i'm just wondering if in general such a thing is plausible... i've never been dated, or even kissed before, sois it because im fat? thanks. ~^3^~
To be honest there isn't a lot of guys out there that like big girls; there are some but not very much. I know pretty much all models these days are tall and extremely skinny but not all guys like that ( a lot do but not all). So it just depends on what the guy likes. Just because he's muscluar doesn't mean that he's more attracted to girls that are in shape though. Like me; I do a lot of weight lifting and you can say I'm pretty muscular but I've always been more attracted to thick women, very well developed women. That isn't to say Im not attracted to ones that are a little bigger or a little smaller, but some of the models these days don't do it for me (way too small).
So maybe you should look back on his past relationships to see what kind of girls he's dated before. If he's like the many that like them really small then dont feel bad, like I said we all have our preferences.
I do see a Problem in Your question, you can say im not exactly convinsed that your happy about the way you look. You say that your friends think your cute and that you like your personality but i didn't read that your confident in your looks or you yourself think your attractive. I could be wrong, but if your not happy with them then go ahead and get the body that you want, it might take a while but I can say from experience that it's worth it. I wasn't happy with how i looked and how strong I was so I started working out; 2 years later and I'm still working out 6 times a week :). Im not saying its easy but it sure beats not being happy about the way you look.
Gl and I hope your his type
This guy and I have become friends over the last few months. I am into him and while I've never directly told him this, it's no secret; he has to be very well aware of it. In many ways it seems like he's into me too. We hang out a lot, stay up all night on the weekends, talk over Facebook for hours about nothing, and sometimes do nutty things (like for instance the 3-hour staring contest or like tearing around campus and climbing trees for no reason at midnight, haha). If he's not into me, I don't know why he would do this stuff to the degree he does.
However, this is really puzzling and frustrating me: I have done everything but kiss him, but I am the only one making physical advances - aside from semi-rough play-fighting such as wrestling over a nerf gun, which he does without hesitation, although I usually initiate it. But for instance, we were watching a movie and I put my head on his shoulder and he just didn't do anything. He lets me play with his hair, draw on his hands, practically sit on his lap, and doesn't seem to mind at all, but he won't do anything like put his arm around me, he just sits there like a rock. He does hug me goodbye, but seems kind of awkward about it like he isn't sure how to do it. I almost kissed him last time we said goodbye - hugged him and then pulled back a little and we looked at each other, and I couldn't get up the nerve and he wasn't doing anything at all to help, and I said "goddamnit" and he laughed because he knew exactly what was going on and we went our separate ways. Yeah, I'm frustrated both with him and myself...
Before you ask: no, he isn't gay; he has stated that he is straight. We are both 19. I don't know how many girlfriends he's had in the past because he gives off a very inexperienced vibe (I've never had a boyfriend, so the inexperienced thing is mutual). He is very, very shy and also a rather strange person (not complaining, I'm pretty strange myself, but just saying) and I kind of get the feeling that maybe he doesn't have the slightest clue what to do with a girl...? But how hard would it be for him to just grab my hand or something? He's got to know I like him...
Why do you think he's being so physically reserved? Should I just kiss him sometime and see what happens? Should I risk the awkward factor and tell him straight out that I'm not a mind reader and ask what his feelings are? I am tired of being confused and frustrated.
Your right, he's definantly in to you but he's just one of those guys that aren't very great with the psychical part of relationships. If you can you should take the initiative; maybe start by holding his hand while your walking. As for the kiss you should probably try to make it less awkward as possible, meaning don't try it where it might not workout? For example standing up if he's alot taller then you and your going to look dumb if you can't reach him. Maybe you should try it while your on the couch together watching a movie. And if all else fails just TELL him to kiss you; it will work trust me.
On a side note he's a keeper; ya he might be pretty horrible with the physical part but it looks like you have a nice fun relationship that's on it's way to strong feelings, Gl and take the initiative!
Would a guy have a girl with kind of bad acne? I have been having acne since elemetary school, and it never goes away. I've tried dermatologist and eveything and the doctors say that the medicine I use gets used to my face and the acne comes back. Sometimes my pimples get really big and I feel like my face is disgusting with scars and zits and then my face clears up and gets worse again. I think I have cystic acne. There are a few guys that have liked me, but I never talked to them because I think they may think my face is disgusting. And there has been guys that have made fun of me and have just been rude to me and call me zit face since elementary, so when a guy tells me he likes me, I just don't believe him. Would a guy date a girl with kind of bad acne?
You need to stop Putting yourself down because you have acne; your not the only one that is unhappy with a part of they're looks. When a guy tells you he likes you that talks to you regularly he likes you for who you are not how you look. If a guy says he's interested in you but doesn't know you that well then obviously he finds you attractive.
So my answer is yes; people with acne are just as capable of being in a relationship as the rest.
My advice; keep trying different things to treat it if your that unhappy about it. In the mean time stop turning guys down because your low self esteem, maybe they can show you how beautiful you really are, gl
Should I be offended if a guy I'm interested in takes an hour to text back? :/ thanks!
You should be offended if he knows your interested hasn't said anything about it and does that. If your interested and havent told him anything then how do you expect him to know? Im pretty busy and I probably would take an hour to text back a girl I was interested in but I would tell her that I was busy and was going to text when I could (once an hour or whatever).
me and my friend were talking and i kinda got wet but not in the mood like my heart rate didn't get any faster i didn't breath any harder, i just got a little wet is that normal? or to be turned on do you have to have a increased heart rate and breathing heavy? what would this be considered if not turned on?
No you don't need your heart to beat harder or faster to be turned on. Being turned on is wanting to have sex. For example; your friend starts kissing your neck and you get wet and want to have sex with him/her. Now you know neck kissing is a turn on for you (when someone asks what are your turn ons you can say that). Other examples are: making out, being forced around (liking it rough), public display, spanking, biting, etc. All these things are turn ons (things that make you want to have sex). Being wet and or your nipples being hard are signs that you want to have sex. For guys well that should be obvious.
By what you said your friend probably just made you want to have sex... But not with them, sounds weird but not really. Am I right?
I take it you haven't had sex yet so it's good you asked, if you have any other questions let me know
What are some things that make you smile when you are texting a girl you like? Like, a girl texts you something and you can't help but smile at it because it's so cute? Haha, what things can I text the guy I'm talking to that will make him smile? :) thanks sooo muchh!!!
When they tell us how they feel about us (most wont admit it but yes guys like that too)
Hello there :) well this is my problem. I have a boyfriend we been together for 4 years. on and off. Recently there has been this girl on his Facebook that likes his pictures and also he starts liking her statuses. Last night i was going through her page and saw a comment her friend post on one of her status. It said "oh look who liked this status Jake" I automatically knew she was talking about him because they call my boyfriend jake. There was another status were they were talking about him. he goes to party's with them and his brother. I'm confused because i been seeing this random things on Facebook so if they do this in Facebook imagine in parties. i think im just going to end up breaking up with him even if it hurts. I know it will get better with time :'(
Hello; I feel like you left something out.... I take it he's cheated on you before and that's why it's been a off and on thing for 4 years? If so then I can see why you want to break up with him over this, if not then you really need to break up with him (let me explain). I believe people can change but if he's cheated before chances are he's going to cheat again. If he hasn't cheated before then something is seriously wrong if it's been four years and you still don't love him. Maybe you think you love him but I can assure you that you don't. If you did you would NEVER think to break up with him over something so little as this. You might need some help figuring of what to do (how to talk to him about it or ignore it) but you wouldnt break up with him.
So after four years of being with someone, you don't love him, and or he's a cheater then YES! Break up with him. You are wasting your time with him, go find someone else
My husband has started changing ever since he found out of my difficulty in having children. He tells me how he detested me company, how it would be good for me to pay him just to be with him. Everyday is a hurtful humiliation from him to me. I like to save money when ever I can and he wants it all. When I refuse to give what he wants he starts belittling me by telling me to compare myself to his good looks. And how he deserves better. I love my husband and would like us to work, I'm tired of these hurtful comments and not bring able to have my husband as a dependable partner. I prefer trying to make it work before divorce. Please advice.
I know you love him (it's obvious to anyone who read your question) but love that works isn't one sided, and I'm sorry to say your husband is a piece of shit and a child that never grew up. Making fun of girls in inappropriate ways was alright in elemtary school but eventually we grow out of that. I can't even say that all you and your husband have is a misunderstanding that makes you feel sad because it's not the truth. Him making you feel like crap because he doesn't know how bad it makes you feel is wishful thinking. He knows it makes you feel bad, he knows telling you how great he is and how he deserves better than you makes you feel bad (he is a child). And until he grows up he wont be capable of true love.
I dont know you but I know that your a good and strong person who deserves a man not a boy to take care of you and make you feel special.
I'm the last person to resort to divorce but I highly doubt he wiil agree to seeing a psychologist for his child like fixations. So if he doesn't do it for you then he really isn't worth it. Divorce him because you deserve someone as special, caring, and loving as you are and I hope you find him
So for a few weeks now I've been talking to this guy over Facebook and we seemed to get along quite well. Just last weekend we met each other for the first time (he lives an hour away) and we cuddled A LOT. At first he just had his arm around me and i laid my head against him, then he grabbed my wrist and put my arm around his stomach, later on, we were holding hands and at first i didnt realize it but the back of my hand was over his crotch, which is weird to me, i've never cuddled/ kissed/ dated anyone. The next day we were im'ing each other, he told me he had wanted to kiss me. Later in the conversation i told him i had been wet and then he told me he had gotten an erection ( i did notice his hand covering his crotch a few times). I can't stop thinking about him (which is normal for me when i have a crush) but i also fantasize about having sex with him. And i don't know what to do. i really like him for his personality too, so my attraction to him isnt just sexual. He's done it before, i haven't, though he isn't the stereotypical guy who just wants sex, he is very intelligent. Im 15, he's 17. What do I do? I don't wanna hear about us being too young either, i already know that, but teens do it anyway.
It all depends on what you want out of the relationship. I suggest you slow it down on the physical part if you want your relationship with him to be a strong healthy loving one. It's really odd to me that youve never kissed someone but you already want to have sex. My point is your want something that you have 0 experience with what leads up to it?, its... A little crazy, even if you only wanted sex from him.
So slow down and you will enjoy the steps that you take, I can promise you that. Focus more on the getting to know him better part (in person, not over the computer), go out and do stuff together, and let the physical part fall into place. I understand we are human and every one of us wants to feel good in that way (sex) but the first time you hung out with him that was on your mind way too much. That is why I can say its cuz your young. When you get older and you have that kind of relationship with someone it's cuz you want a sex friend not a boyfriend. Gl
He normally keeps to himself, and doesn't say anything during class, but ever since we started talking, he just talks more and more. sometimes it's almost like babbling, like he'll just say random things, and I'm the only one who sits right next to him, so I'm pretty sure they're directed at me. I talk to him, but when he starts babbling something random sometimes I don't know what to do and just smile at him or ignore it, and just like move my head, to acknowledge his words.
i'm really attracted to him (he's not ugly or anything, too but i think he's a bit insecure, but then again, so am I.), but I don't know. i thought guys were supposed to be shy around girls they liked "more than a friend"? but with him it's the opposite.
1. he pays attention to what I say
2. sometimes tries to make me laugh
3. always nice to me, and doesn't tease me or anything. we've never argued about anything, we usually think the same way
4. we actually have quite a bit in common. similar music and movie interests (outside of the mainstream), and we're both like nerdy, socially awkward loners.
5. we're still like strong acquaintances (or slightly friends) but I often feel like there's this strong sexual tension between us. our conversations are often a bit awkward
6. he quickly gives into favors I ask of him
7. once said a sexual joke to me (like PG-rated, though)
It's weird. How do I know if he's being friendly or what? If he looked up body language I think I've been pretty obvious that I really liked him, but with him, some of the things I've noticed, but not others, like him touching me or w/e, cause we're still relatively new to each other, and I'm not the most touchy-feely person (platonically. I'd love to make out with him, haha). i consider myself to be relatively attractive, too, if that affects anything.
I just don't know what to think about this situation and what not. I wouldn't ask him out or w/e because I have a big fear of rejection. I don't even know if I'm ready for a relationship. I don't even see him outside of school or anything, and I don't drive, so idk how that would really work. but I get a vibe that he likes me, but my brain is telling me that it isn't true, and I'm jumping the gun. idk if it's just my insecurity though. I've never been in a relationship, and I think my insecurities are partially to blame, actually. but I think this guy doesn't have much experience in the whole "romantic world" either
damn you teenage hormones
Hormones, your too funny. Well yes I'm almost positive that he's interested. Now what you need to do is drop hints that you are as well, or not be a chicken and ask him if he wants to hang out outside of school. What I mean by drop hints is ask if he has a girlfriend, maybe be a little flirty by touching him or being closer, start hugging. All these are usually hints that girls give off when they're jnteresrted but at the same time don't give you away. You could just be one of those generally flirty girls, you can feel that your good enough friends now to hug, all can be either or. If you'd rather start spending time together out of school you can simply ask him if he wants to go see a movie with you or a less scary way would be to ask him if he can help u with something (school work) seeing as he's smart.
Gl
I need to figure this out by tomorrow night, so please help me out. I'm a 17 year old female. I'm 4'10 and quite skinny. I am pretty small (I say this because I might just be an easy target.. I don't know). At school today, during lunch, this black guy that I've never seen before came up to my friends and I and asked me if I had a boyfriend. I said no. He said his friend over at his table wanted my number and all that. Long story short, 3 guys at this guy's table got my number. I went over to them like 4 times because the guy asked me to and one of the times, they asked if my friends gave head. I said they'd have to ask them, in a sarcastic way. Then they asked if I did and I said "I'm gonna go now" and they said they were just kidding.
After school, one guy texted me. He was the one that had his friend go over and talk to me, apparently. Our texting turned pretty sexual quickly. Please, no one judge me. I was repeatedly saying that no, I wouldn't send him any pictures. I stood strong on my belief that it's not good to send dirty pictures. But this guy wants to meet up with my tomorrow at a movie theater.
He wants to do sexual things in the theater and "if it's good, go over his place to have sex." I'm not at all comfortable with doing ANYTHING like that at the movies. But I tend to let my sex drive lead me into things. I'm attracted to him and actually want to have sex with him. But I just met him... Do normal girls ever feel like this? Like, stuck on what decision to make? I just don't know.
It doesn't feel right but at the same time, I want it. My social life hasn't been so good lately because I recently lost my best friend. I just kind of want to do something, you know? I don't even know... Would going through with it make me a terrible person? I don't even know if I can get out of it now..
Thanks in advance.
Everyone's different when it comes to sex; some people are ok with strangers, some wait till they know the person, some wait till there in love, and lastly marriage. You need to stop thinking of them as "standards" (making a person terrible or good) and just figure out who you are. It seems to me your the type that's ok with strangers and you probably are, the only things that's standing in your way is what others think of you (you'll learn that's not a good thing). By letting what other people think of you control your actions your basically what people want you to be and not your own person ( a women).
Your attracted to the guy, you want to have sex and your ok with what can happen (pregnancy, stds) then to go ahead. The only think that worries me here is that it's a little reckless; you dont know the guy very well so you don't know what he can try (there's 0 trust in the relationship that you have), just remember that. To be honest I wouldn't expect any less from him. See its ok to be comfortable having sex with strangers but a guy that doesn't know you and talks to you like your a slut, well.... He obviously doesn't respect women. That is not to say that all guys that have sex with strangers don't respect women. A guy that you could feel a little safer with would talk to you, maybe get to know you a little better and let you come up with the idea. That is someone that treats you like a person where as this guy treated you like a object from the second he met you, see the difference?
I can't put a bias on this because the advice would be completely different so I'm going to tell you what's in your best interest. That is if your ok with sex with people you don't have boyfriend girlfriend relationship feelings for then get a sex friend (fuck buddy). You have a friendship with them so you know that they respect you, will be honest with you, and above all you will be safe.
Gl and don't say stupid things "don't even know if I can get out of it"; it's sex we're talking about not a school exam. You have sex with whoever you want to (and obviously wants to with you), that is something we all have in common. Nobody can be proud of themselves if they have sex with people they don't even want to
im thirteen, girl. My crush for the past year is moving away! we are sorta friends. we talk if we sit next to each other in class (assigned seats) but it seems like he really likes talking to me. theres still about three months before he moves. do i tell him now, cuz i REALLY WANT TO! How do i do it? Can i just go up to him? And does he like me?
**????**
You should Leave it at a crush; long distance relationships are hard and even when things are perfect between the two people. If you decide to tell him and he does like you then you'll be with each other for 3 months and then he's going to be gone and your not going to be fine with that.
So just stay friends; if you become any more than that your really only setting yourself up to get hurt, sorry
Im a girl in high school , its been about 4 weeks since I broke up with my ex. I didn't take it to well until just recently so I decided to txt him we agreed to keep in contact as friends. He called today saying that I have to stop texting him because it was affecting him. After that he send me a text saying it was affecting his new relationship. I feel incredibly stupid and hopeless I thought I was over him. I don't mind anymore loosing him as a boyfriend but not having him in my life at all hurts more than I could imagine I don't want to go back to feeling so bad. Any advice ? i really need somebody
I know it sucks but it does get easier. My advice is to stay away from him and keep yourself busy. Go do the things that you like to do (a sport, hang out with friends, any hobbies), maybe even learn to do something new. They will keep you occupied and eventually he won't be on your mind anymore. Not preferred by many but I tend to get into my school work more (there's always room for improvement there), it helps a lot especially when I was home and didn't have anything to do
i have screwed my bf over 2 times in the past year and we got back together, but i want to breakup should i?
I have to disagree with pook. I don't think it's that your unhappy or trying to sabotage the relationship, I think it's that your not mature enough to handle a relationship. You can tell yourself that your not happy, have some issues, or whatever but none of its really true. Your young and you have no idea what it is that you want or what your doing.
See what's suppose to happen is you get to know the person, if you want a relationship with them you do that, if it doesn't work it doesnt and your done. He likes you and wants to be with you but doesn't quiet understand that no matter how much he does things won't work because of how immature and inexperienced you are.
I think if you care about him even a little bit you should tell him that yourself and stop fucking with him like a child that doesn't know the difference between right and wrong
Okay I will try to tell the story with out get you all mix up. Some time ago my older sister use to keep a dairy.I fell like I'm the big reason why she stop.And our mom and only the smill reason. Now I need a new dairy but my mom is taking her slow time getting to the doller store. I would just tell her that I need a new dairy but then she will ask to read the old one and when you say no she will give you more work for the day. And then she will go in your room to see if she can find the old dairy. Meaning you most put it in the trash. One time she got so mad at my sister for saying no that she want right up to our room(me and my sister have one room togather)and found the dairy and read it. Not like what was in it she slap my sister.and gave her more work for the rest of the week! that's why i think Mom is a part of the truoble but all. Now here what I did. There was in old box under the bed my sister gave me the box becaus it has a lot of old paper in it and because i don't like to drew in my dairy that's what the paper is for. I found this pink book in the paper's . At frist I did not kn ow what is was but then I saw that is was one of my sister old dairy. I read it.I know that i was acting no better then mom. In the dairy she siad the she did not like me bcause we keep on fight about something or other and mom alway's thought that i was right. and before i was bron mom love her. and that i was in the way.I wonder if my sister still fell's the same way. So i write her i note. she took it the wrong way told mom , mom ask me about then wanted to see the dairy. But i showed her in other note in the dairy because i read on and saw that two page later she said she was very sorry and she was sure she did not mean what she said.Mom said that peolpe have a right to be mad and did not find a thing wrong with the note i showed her. Now my sister has the dairy and has got rid of that page if i wanted to go back and show mom. Then there was the time that her dairy of right now feel down from her bed on to mine and i read it. She does not know for sure tht i read it. But she not dumb.She finsh this dairy out and stop. Now i fell bad because I think it's because of me she well not go back. Before when she was ready to slap some one out she just go and wtite in it. now she jsut take it out on thing and me. No she does not slap me. Just mean word's. I have gone five days with out a dairy and i'm going mad.I don't want to let mom know why i need to go but the reason i have gave her won't me her herry up. And she on to me.P.S If i give my sister a dairy she will just think im trying to get her write stuff down just so i can read it. I will never do that again.
Before I get to the advice I just have to say your mother is a horrible parent and do not take after her (which it seems like your doing). I don't care what the excuse she gives you; to make sure your not doing anything bad, protecting you, whatever. Parents like to confuse controlling with love alot, and in your case it's different. You looked in her dairy because you thought it wasn't as bad as it is because your mother does it. Unlike her you have a conscious and felt bad (like you should).
So heres my advice: don't ever tell your mother anything else about your Diaries, as far as she knows you don't have a diary anymore. Tell someone else To go buy one for you if you have to. And keep it somewhere where no one will look or get into ( your backpack, old box) can't really think of anything because I have a lot of privacy. Next is apologize again to your sister; tell her how bad you felt that your not like your mother and you will never do it again and if you can buy her another one. Lastly don't let your mother or anyone else hit you (spankings another thing). Another bad habit of your mother is slapping, it's not ok and I know you've already heard this in school. What your suppose to do if a family member hurts you, they say it for a reason. Just because she's your mother and she takes care of you doesn't mean she can do that (nobody has the right to do that).
Me - 20, 21 on April 4th; My boyfriend - 22
My boyfriend is a very sexual person, I tend to be as well. Usually when we have sex, I'm the one whose on top, mainly because he's quite a bit heavier than me. I notice that he's better at thrusting than I am, which he attributes to being the one with the penis.
He's tried to have sex in other positions with me, and I have had a hard time with this. I want to have sex in other positions, as well; he's only two years older than me but is more experienced than me in the bedroom, so I'm worried that he's going to think that our sex life is boring eventually. I'm the eighth girl that he's slept with, not all of which he was in a relationship with; he's only the third guy for me (and I think that he'll be the last), all of which I have been in relationships with.
How can I adjust my body to having sex with him in other positions? He's also tried anal with me, and he has rarely been able to succeed. I'm extremely flexible, and it's a stereotype that the best thing about dating a girl whose flexible is that two of you can have sex in different positions.
You don't have to be experienced to be good or to go through a couple of positions, and most of which will be up to the guy (a heavy guy cant do very many). Let's start with a few basic ones:
Missionary: guy on top, girl laying on her back with legs spread apart. Very basic but a heavy guy might have some problems with keeping this up for a while, and you don't exactly want him on top of you (chest to chest) because he's too big. So do what you can
Doggy style: everyone can do this one. Girl on all fours and guy behind her. If he's alot taller than you it can be a problem but that's why you figure it out ( you on the bed and him standing up if he has too.
Girl laying down on her stomach and legs together: this has to be my favorite but might not be possible if your guy isn't over... At least 6 and a half inches. If he's like 4 inches don't even try it he'll probably hurt himself. But you can always do anal from this position.
The trouble your having with anal has to be because you don't use lube! You don't get wet from there like you do from the front so of course your Gunna need some help. Buy lube and put as much as you need. (to both of you).
Girl on top and variations of it. Instead of being on top and facing him turn around so he can touch your ass (guessing he touches your chest when he's facing you. From here you can sit straight up or lean forward and use her hips over gravity itself ( lean all the way forward and thrust your hips down then back up while you balance with your arms on the bed)
Many positions your going to find are variations of these; that may sound like there's not much to do or they're Gunna feel similar but it's not and they don't. You'll find some that feel better than the original and some that just dont work.
Don't worry about him getting bored of it because he won't. 90% of positions are up to whether the guy can do them or not
I have two more suggestions; look up sexual positions on the Internet and or look at porn. If you comfortable enough you can even watch porn together (he will not mind)
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Please please help me!!!! ugh! ok well i am a 13 year old girl and i got asked out on valentines day by a my best guy friend(also 13) who i like and he doesn't talk to me the same now! we used to always talk and stuff but now we barely ever do and if we do its not the same. if we are in a group of people talking he will talk to like everyone but me! its only been 7 days and its both of our first real relationship so people are saying its normal but idk. he hangs out with other girls alot to. What do i do? i want to talk to him more but i get nervous and he is to.please help ASAP!!!!!
COMMUNICATION, learn it now and you'll spend a lot less time asking people questions that only he can answer. Why isn't he talking to you as much? I dont know! But he does. This is your first relationship and alot of first relationships (especially with young teens) don't workout, because they have no idea what they're doing. The guy asks you out then stops talking to you as much? Ya doesn't know what he's doing.
So go talk to him. He is your boyfriend now which means like any good boyfriend he's suppose to care about your feelings and want to know what's on your mind. Can't exactly do that if you dont tell him right? And don't sugar coat anything or you will get no where. By that I mean don't say "I really wanna spend more time together... But only if you want to" you'll probably just confuse him. Instead say " I'm glad were together but I feel like we dont spend as much time together, don't you think so?". From there you can go anywhere you want like plan a date for Saturday, or maybe do some school work together.
Good luck with your relationship, there is much more to learn but this is a big step