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Husband is humiliating me since I started having trouble getting pregnant
My husband has started changing ever since he found out of my difficulty in having children. He tells me how he detested me company, how it would be good for me to pay him just to be with him. Everyday is a hurtful humiliation from him to me. I like to save money when ever I can and he wants it all. When I refuse to give what he wants he starts belittling me by telling me to compare myself to his good looks. And how he deserves better. I love my husband and would like us to work, I'm tired of these hurtful comments and not bring able to have my husband as a dependable partner. I prefer trying to make it work before divorce. Please advice.
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you love this man, but if he loved you he wouldn't treat you this way... Now you can try other ways of getting pregnant but he obviously is just an asshole and that won't change whether there is a child or not in the picture. Try marriage counseling, otherwise you got to leave.
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I know you love him (it's obvious to anyone who read your question) but love that works isn't one sided, and I'm sorry to say your husband is a piece of shit and a child that never grew up. Making fun of girls in inappropriate ways was alright in elemtary school but eventually we grow out of that. I can't even say that all you and your husband have is a misunderstanding that makes you feel sad because it's not the truth. Him making you feel like crap because he doesn't know how bad it makes you feel is wishful thinking. He knows it makes you feel bad, he knows telling you how great he is and how he deserves better than you makes you feel bad (he is a child). And until he grows up he wont be capable of true love.
I dont know you but I know that your a good and strong person who deserves a man not a boy to take care of you and make you feel special.
I'm the last person to resort to divorce but I highly doubt he wiil agree to seeing a psychologist for his child like fixations. So if he doesn't do it for you then he really isn't worth it. Divorce him because you deserve someone as special, caring, and loving as you are and I hope you find him
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Calm down...
Sometimes men don't understand the difficulty that women can have with trying to conceive. You are not alone, You are not a bad person and sweetie you do NOT OWE HIM ANYTHING!!! Let me explain something to you, I also cannot have children. I was diagnosed with poly cystic ovary syndrome and it hurts like hell. If my partner ever thought to belittle me I don't think I would even have the strength to be as strong as you to make it work. Hun, I completely understand your pain but you don't deserve someone who is going to put you down and make you feel terrible about it. You need support and your husband may be taking his anger out on you because he doesn't understand . Men sometimes think we can just open our legs and pop out babies but for many many women it's easier said then done. When I found I couldn't have children I cried and cried for months. The thing that really helped is therapy and I recon that you try and seek mental support. Now apart of me is alarmed by what you've said not only is your husband belittling you he is abusing you mentally and emotionally. I think your husband is completely 100% wrong I think YOU are the one who deserves better and I most certainly believe you can. Honestly, I can understand that you love you husband but for the sake of sanity I really don't think you should try and save your marriage with someone who is abusing you. Sometimes marriages are savable to a certain extent and other times damage has done it's part. If you feel you really want to give the marriage a shot, Then you could try marriage counseling but I fail to see how that will help you. Someone who can't seem to come to terms with reality is someone that won't ever be able to work beyond it either. Sounds to me that your husband has just taken matters too far and divorce is painful, It's stressful but in all honesty I think later on in life you will find it's the best thing you could of ever done for yourself. Remember you aren't alone...
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This is rude for him to this. He may be doing it because he feels scared or is mad. You just need to walk away from this and IGNORE it. Tell him how you feel and talk to him as no one diserves this obnoxious bhavior. Apparently all we can d is ignore it and talk about it and if he doesn't stop get a friend to talk to him.
Sorry and I hope he stops and you find peace and joy to be with your kids :)
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