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hes losing trust in me :(
Long story short :( , thing is my boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now and well it was only yesterday he found out that i spoke to my ex. Thing was that i told him i didnt speak to any of them until i spoke to my last ex , we dont speak it was just once. and he found out so ever since yesterday we aint spoken , he told me how things like this puts him off , how why would i say i dont speak to him if i do, he thinks i still feel something for my ex boyfriend but I have NOOO feelings towards him :( i took the blame cause i know shouldnt have spoken to him, then he said how im making him lose his trust in me & he had weird thoughts he thinks i want my ex back , but im in love with my boyfriend i love him more than anything i wouldnt leave him for my ex. I didnt mean to speak to my ex, it was just a normal conversation we had, & i told him i was sorry he was really angry , i dont wanna lose him :'( im scared , i think i made him doubt my feelings :(
PLEASE HELP MEE
iv apologised so much & nothing </3
PLEASEE thankyou :( x
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Trust can only be mended with time, a gesture can help say deleating phone numbers and blocking social media, if you love him then it is worth it.
Once the trust comes back show him love in your way
He has to know he is number one to you
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Theres a reason why he's upset with you it's because you dont know what you did and yet your apologizing. It's not that you talked to your ex, it's that you didn't tell him about it. Before you can love someone you have to Be honest with them so that they can trust you. What you did here is give him a reason not to trust you, you lied and not in a white lie kind of way, it's really no wonder why he believes you have feelings for your ex. Hes upset that you lied to him and he feels bad because it only makes sense for you to do that if you had feelings for your ex, why else would you not tell him about it?
If you truly feel nothing for your ex and that you didn't think It would make your boyfriend feel this way then tell him that. Tell him you promise that you don't have feelings for the other guy and you didn't tell him about it because it wasnt a big deal for you. Make sure to include that you will tell him the next time something like this happens.
When he does forgive you do not lie to him again. You may feel that talking to a ex is the actual reason that your bf is mad at you but if that's really the case then your bf is immature, if he's upset at all it's because you didn't tell him about it and kept it a secret (thus making him not want to trust you and think you have feelings for the other guy).
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im sorry for my spelling.
everybody talks to at least one of their ex boyfriends or girlfriend,an im sure he does talk to his & doesnt tell you.im not quite sure how old you are but im guessing your about 16 or so.he needs to relize that he cant contral you an tell you who you can & cant talk to. just like you cant contral him.anyways it depends on what your conversation with your ex was about if it was inappropriate then yes i understand why he would be up set.but if its just a conversation like "hey how have you been" kind of thing it shouldnt really matter.maybe he(your ex) is just trying to become friends an patch things up. but in your boyfriends eyes he sees him as a threat he thinks your ex is trying to take you from him,sorry for that,ok to the advice part.. if you are concerned about why exactly hes upset (dont let him say cause you lied & u talked to your ex) ask him and ask him to give you a REAL reason why,an explain.then discuss the problem,if your conversation with your ex was over text an you havnt already deleted them then say would you like to see what we were talking about (dont be a smart butt) just be honest an if it was over a phone call tell your bf an look him in the eyes and say "sweetie i wouldnt be here right next to you if i didnt love you, if i wanted to be with someone else then i would be but as you can see im here with YOU..doesnt that say something." we can always say im sorry but to some people its just a word. my bf is hella jealouse/protective an i always have to remind him that im with him if i didnt want to be then i would have left by now.but it also depends on his past relationships i find it easiest to be honest & discuss the problems even if its going to make them mad you may not talk for an hour or so but it helps alot believe me.i tried to help goodluck darlen
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