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Wanting Sex with him too soon
So for a few weeks now I've been talking to this guy over Facebook and we seemed to get along quite well. Just last weekend we met each other for the first time (he lives an hour away) and we cuddled A LOT. At first he just had his arm around me and i laid my head against him, then he grabbed my wrist and put my arm around his stomach, later on, we were holding hands and at first i didnt realize it but the back of my hand was over his crotch, which is weird to me, i've never cuddled/ kissed/ dated anyone. The next day we were im'ing each other, he told me he had wanted to kiss me. Later in the conversation i told him i had been wet and then he told me he had gotten an erection ( i did notice his hand covering his crotch a few times). I can't stop thinking about him (which is normal for me when i have a crush) but i also fantasize about having sex with him. And i don't know what to do. i really like him for his personality too, so my attraction to him isnt just sexual. He's done it before, i haven't, though he isn't the stereotypical guy who just wants sex, he is very intelligent. Im 15, he's 17. What do I do? I don't wanna hear about us being too young either, i already know that, but teens do it anyway.
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It's totally normal to fantasize, I promise. Because you have never kissed or done anything before, it is understandable. However, if you really like this guy and someday want to have a relationship with him, I would wait for sex. I'm 17 now, and was in the same position, and I'm so happy I waited because the guy turned out to not be what I thought he was. Take more time to get to know him, going slow is never a bad thing. Then, when the time comes and you're committed to each other, those fantasies can become reality. Hope I helped!
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It's funnny reading this because this is what i just went through myself. I'd known a guy a year from a social network then we met and well... i'm not gonna lie we had sex. But the only difference is i had known the guy a whole year. A few weeks is a different story and especially if this is your first time, which for me it wasn't. I'm sure he is a great guy but the fact that you haven't known each other that long and it has already reached to the sexual part... your moving WAY TOO FAST! Believe me, people tell you losing your virginity is something precious ... it is and alot of people regret it. AND I MEAN ALOT!
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It all depends on what you want out of the relationship. I suggest you slow it down on the physical part if you want your relationship with him to be a strong healthy loving one. It's really odd to me that youve never kissed someone but you already want to have sex. My point is your want something that you have 0 experience with what leads up to it?, its... A little crazy, even if you only wanted sex from him.
So slow down and you will enjoy the steps that you take, I can promise you that. Focus more on the getting to know him better part (in person, not over the computer), go out and do stuff together, and let the physical part fall into place. I understand we are human and every one of us wants to feel good in that way (sex) but the first time you hung out with him that was on your mind way too much. That is why I can say its cuz your young. When you get older and you have that kind of relationship with someone it's cuz you want a sex friend not a boyfriend. Gl
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EDIT: Old man? LMAO I am a female! So you would like to put yourself in a situation where you'd get pregnant and then go and kill it? WOW! That's real mature..... It's people like YOU that make me sick and I have NO respect for. Grow the hell up and learn some serious common sense then come talk to me. You are pitiful beyond my words
You are rushing it, YOU JUST MET HIM.
You rush things fast, You end things fast. Stop thinking about screwing the guy and just get to know him first. Sure it isn't exactly what you want to hear but yes you both are very young. Also, Young love doesn't always work out in the long run. I know it's not what you want to hear but that's the truth.
There is a huge difference between talking to someone online and actually talking and getting to know them in person. That difference is anyone can say anything over the internet, I'm not saying he is a liar and I'm not saying you are either but my point is you don't know this guy one on one. I really think you should hold off for awhile, Get to know him really well. Once you two have even begun dating then somewhere down the line worry about that stuff. Doing exactly what you've said.......is exactly how you end up with regrets! Sure teens do it anyway but are you serious? If that is how you look at it then maybe not only are you not ready but a bit too immature to be having sex at your age? Girls are having sex but you know what else?.....Girls are raising babies! and no it's not sexy, It's not cool and it doesn't give you a good rep to be 13,14,15 and pregnant. You become the hot topic and that topic is the start of a bad rep. Don't give yourself a bad name
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