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The name's Emily.
First off- thanks for actually reading this!
I love to give advice
I will always try to anwser your questions.
But try to not to rite lk dis
I know my favorite topics says "Love life, nutrition, and friendship", but I'm intrested in tons of stuff. ASK!
I don't care about rating..so be warned...I'm not necessarily always going to give you the anwser that you want to hear. But I do want to help you!
And I would tell you more, but that's not whats important here: let me help you!

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Practically every morning when i wake up, my mom asks me if i have plans. And it drives me insane. I realize that she is only wondering, but how could i possibly have plans the MOMENT that i wake up? I know that i am overreacting to this but it still annoys me! Its also the wayy she says it. iTs just all so annoyign!

My mom does this too. It's probaly because she wants you to make plans ahead of time, or wants to know if what you are doing will effect her schduel. It's not a big deal, and my advice is to find something different to obsess about! (I hope that diden't sound mean!)

My boyfriend asked me out 6/17/06. Well now everyone hates me. Kristen, Kelsey, Torie, Katelynn, Kaitlyn, Victoria, Jasmine, and more people. I meen I love Nick and all but he liked Kelsey, and he asked her out and she said no. Me and him became friends, he asked me out, and now we are going out. Kelsey started to freek out and tell all of my friends bad stuff about me. I can not take it anymore. I meen like they are being SO meen. I have to go back to school with them, and they are going to treat me like dirt. I cannot make new friends because the rest of the people in my grade are like goth? or like wayy nerdy. I dont know i have a freekish school. aha. thankss. =[

It's simple, they are jealous. Just don't worry about it for now, and act like your perfectly happy. If you go groveling to them then you are just giving them the attention they are negging for. Good luck!

Hey :D well my eyes have always bothered me.. i have kinda darker brown eyes..sometimes they change to hazel but i wear black eyeliner and everything seems so dark! my eyes seem so boring i get so jealous of blue and green eyes (lighter eyes) because they stand out so much and are so much prettier! is there anyting i could do to make my eyes like stand out more or look prettier? ive heard about doin something with eyeshadow but im soo bad with makeup and stuff! and everytime i try to do the smokey eye or whatever it seems to make my eyes darker! by the way im 16/f! and i do not want colored contacts..i know i have to live with my eye color but i just want to know if there is anything i could do to make them stand out more??!
thanks so much

Really, you should go to any makeup counter at the mall and ask. They can tell you abouts what's best and show you haw to apply it. And that Almay stuff from chicchicaabr's advice REALLY works. They have Bring Out the Brown, just ask someone to help you with applying until you can do it yourself.

Also, don't wear black mascara or eyeliner, get brown or brownish-black..or even light brown. The your eyes would stand out more if highlited browns.

I'm pretty clueless when it comes to guys; so I thought I would ask a question for the guys (or girls) to answer.
If you were married (or in a serious relationship)but not happy; and you had a close friend who you were attracted to and had feelings for; would you be ticked off if that person told you she would never sleep with you as long as you were married? I'm asking because recently this has happened to me. I told one of my close male friends (that I had known for 4 years) that I would never have an affair with him while he were married but I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me.

Wow, you did the right thing. If he is encouraging that behavior, and you were to "date" him, how do you know he would really care about you either if he wants to cheat on his wife? Stick with your choice, it's the right one.

hi, well school has just ended for me. and now its been summer for almost a week. i havent seen or hungout with any of my friends. i havent even talked to them really. im getting the vibe that they dont want to hangout with me.

im kind of in a 'threesome' with my bestfriends. and of course, im the one thats left out. i just want .. new friends. but i want to keep these friends too. i dont really know what to do. can anyone help me? thanks

Hah! This is so me! Really, this one is easy!

First of all, have you called any of them? Have you tried to get them to hang out? If you're not making an effort than you can't be sure that they don't want to hang out with you. A lot of the time, the person that you want to hear from is waiting for you to call. If you want to keep the friendship, you need to work at it!

As for new friends...just call someone you want to know better and ask them to hang out! There's nothing wrong with having more friends. Really, for both of your problems, all I can say is that you need to reach out to people. Just call your old friends more often, stay in the loop...but hang out with different people too! xoxoxo!

well me and this guy went out for a while and we broke up because we didnt want to go out in the summer. well i still really like him but i dont know if he likes me and i dont know if i should ask him if he likes me of if he would ask me out in school?

Well if the only reason that you broke up was for the summer, then I don't see why there isn't a chance of him still liking you. This isn't really something I can give advice on other than to say...ask him, and tell him that you like him. Don't wait around to see if he asks you out again!

i just feel like everything is a mess. everything is wrong, and i feel like its wrong because of me. i dont want to feel like this anymore and i dont want to push people away like i do, for no reason. what do i do..why am i like this?

Are you a teenager? If so then that is exactly what all of your friends are thinking as well. It's nothing abnormal, and it's nothing to worry about. It's called raging hormones and it's unavoidable. Just try to stay positive and reach out to people.

i think my hair is falling out!! im only 13-but i can tell.my mom wont believe me-but i noticed!
please..is there anywhere i can go to get this checked? any kind of help is appreciated!

It's true that it could be serious, but I doubt it. If you actually have bald patches, then ignore this next bit and go to the doctor.

You could just have very weak hair, like I do. My hair isn't strong enough for brushing, washing, or straighting without losing a lot of hair. Even though i have always been like this, I've never lost hair to the point that it meant anything! You have so much hair that you have to loose a lot for that to happen. I would suggest Garnier Fructis Long and Strong conditioner. It's really helped me in thickening my hair and making it more durable. Hope I helped!

There is this guy, Zack I really like. He used to like me but now he doesnt. I dont know why he doesnt anymore. I didnt do anything wrong. We barely ever talk to eachother. I think he hates me but I really like him. What should I do?

The biggest problem is that you are just assuming he doesn't like you. You are just creating that idea by obsessing. Unless he has told you that he doesn't like you then don't decide that.

A lot of times when a guy likes a girl, he kind of ignores her because he isn't sure how to act around her. Just act naturally so he can feel comfortable around you.

It may also be that he really isn't intreasted, but feels that you are. The way he's acting right now that bothers you could just being him saying he doesn't want to go out. So, even if he does or does not like you, you need to do the same thing. Be casual, natural, and cool to be around.

When I turned ON my ipod mini, i didn't even need to hold the button down, i just pressed the button and words came on the screen. does that mean i didn't turn it off good enough?

No, I think that's right. I only hold it down when I'm turning it off.

Ok there is this guy I like, lets call him Mike. So Mike is a year older than me (I am 15). So last week, he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies. We ended up going Friday with some of my friends and in the beginning I felt bad because I was kind of ignoring him. I was really like..scared which was why I was ignoring him (I know, it doesn't make any sense)
After the movie was over and everyone left but the both of us, we talked for a bit until my dad came to get me.
So then a day later, Sunday we talked for a little.
Then since he mentioned the day we were at the movies about just the two of us going next time, I asked him online and he was all like "It sounds like fun" and then said Wednesday would be the best and he hasnt brought it up since then.
It just seems like hes lost interest in me because a couple of days ago he would IM me as soon as I got online. He doesn't do that anymore and he barely talks to me. I asked him why he doesn't call me and he said its because his cell is broken or something. I don't know what I should do anymore. Any suggestions?
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Just tell him that the reason you were shy on your first date was because you really like him and you were nervous. He probaly thought you weren't intrested.

Okay, so I like this guy alot. And I heard he likes me too (he told my friend that i was hot and sent me 6 messages asking me who i liked), so I called him the other day and his sister picked up. So I asked if he was home and she said to me, "He's in the shower. And I dont mean to sound rude but he's not supposed to have girls calling him and he really doesnt like you that way." I got so upset I just said "Okay, I'm sorry, I didnt know." and hung up. Then I just felt sad for a long time. But I still really like this guy! And I dont know if his sister was lying or not. The only thing is if he's not supposed to have girls calling he's probably not supposed to have a girlfriend either. So what should I do in this situation?

Thank you.. I'll rate as high as I can.

You should ask him in person before you assume anything. If he isn't allowed to have a girlfriend then you'll just have to respect that, but there is also a possibility that his sister is lying. xoxo

what would you guys reccomend, the ipod nano or the ipod mini? what is the difference between the two? and more facts. please no websites. thanks

Wow, can you still get the mini? I diden't think you could!

OK, there's pros and cons to both ipods. The mini is nice because it is more durable than the nano, which you'd have to be more careful with. However, the nano's menu is in color and more clear than the mini. As far as the musi quality, I've lisitned to both and it's equal. Hope i helped!

so my boyfriend was a acting like a really big jerk. He took me out of his profile and replaced it with another girl saying wow i love ___. he was lso being really really rude. I got so frsihtrated and hurt and mad that i dumped him. After i did it i was like what did i jsut do . We went out a few times before and he dumped me. After that he got really mad at me and started to say stuff like i hope you die and i hate you. We made up but still not going out. We were gonna stop probllay before summer casye we weould never say see each other. But i just feel like everytihng is filled up inside of me and i jsut need to let it all out. Im kidna getting really sad cuase he keeps say well u blew it i relaly did love you. But i just am really sad and i feel like i jsut need to start crying to make it feel better.

Wow, no offence, but he sounds like an idiot. You deserve better! By the way he was acting, you had every right to question him. Cry a little if you like, but don't worry too much about it! Go enjoy life!

Ok I am a 15 year old female that turns 16 in august. i have a job, and i only got like 500 dollars saved so far.i want a car for mi birthday. my dad said that if i came up wit half the money he would get the otha half. being that i got 500 already means it shouldnt be long more before i find me a decent car. can someone help me wit summen that i could do to get more money. thanks

Dependind on how long your hours are, you could get another job. Also, I know it sounds lame, but there is A TON of money in the babysitting buisness. I'd make sure to put your savings into an account so you're not tempted to spend it.
Good luck!! xoxoxo

(I'm sorry, but you severly butchered the english language when you wrote this)

Alright, I'm in a sticky situation because my BEST FRIEND likes me. (guy) and I really like him...but he was my friend first and I'm thinking that if I date him then it'll ruin our friendship. I've talked to him about it and he says that it won't (which on one hand I do believe him bc he's not one of those guys that tells you what you want to hear unless it's true) I love spending time with him, in fact I've been over at his house more this summer than my own i think lol. I also like the fact that he has seen ALL of my quirkey moments and still likes me for them. Like I said, I just don't want to lose my best friend. That would devastate me. What do you think that I should do??

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Really, I think you should go for it! I think you guys sound so close that even if you break up, you'd still be friends. There's always the risk it will be akward though...you'll just have to make a choice. If you're sure you really, really want to date him then you probaly should!

I started using Acne Free about 5 days ago, and since then my face has been itching like a beast. Has this happened to anyone else? It's started clearing my face us, but it itches so bad and dry patches are forming! My moms making me stop using it, is there anything else thats just as good? (Not ProActive, we can`t afford it)

Did you itch after the first night? It's possible that your skin is just too sensitive to handel it every day. Try applying it every night, or even longer between, as tolerated.
>>>I hear zapzyt works well, and I think it's cheaper than ProActive

okay. so im having some trouble. im 15/f and i never have a boyfriend and i mean never. occasionally ill have some random ones pop up but i just never feel anything for him. They all tell me that im their 'little sister' and i just dont get it... I mean, [im not big headed or anything] im not ugly, i actually am very satisfyed with my looks.. i dont get it. like, i am very popular, not because of what i wear, because of how i act... i just dont know how to get and keep a steady bf... any suggestions?

thanks in advance

You might not like this anwser, but keep doing what your're doing! Don't just go trying to get a boyfriend (because there is always someone who would be your boyfriend...but that doesn't mean you should date him!) It should just be a natural occurance. Keep being friends with guys and being yourself, you won't be withought a boyfriend forever!

what are some effective ways to lose weight in a short amount of time? what are some fairly easy ways to lose weight? i'm really excited about my family's summer vacation, and i'd really love to get fit, and just drop a couple pounds.
tell me what would usually work for you, or just what you think would work.
thank you!

There's two important factors in losing weight: diet and exercise. However, it's not good to crash diet, and having "losing weight" as your goal isn't a good way to look at it.

So, with diet. Have you seen those shows where they make people empty out their refigerators and fill it with veggies? Well that's not nessesary. It's mostly about portion control, mainly, when snacking. If you have three healthy meals a day, that have a variety of foods, and use portion control on the junk food and snaks, you'll be fine! (But DO NOT obsess over this. The way you eat one day will not change how you look, it's over time)
I think the fastest exercises that I know are running and pilaties. With running, just do it at your own pace and work up your endurance. (an ipod makes it more fun!) Pilaties is a video workout that focuses on abs, hips, and thys. It's a great workout and I always feel great after it, instead of worn out. Try the tape, Pilaties For Dummies..I have that one. You should also go and do weights at your local gym. When you gain muscle, you may gain weight on the scale, but it's replacing the extra fat! Just mix it up and don't do the same thing every day. and TAKE DAYS OFF, don't obsess!

hope I helped! xoxoxo

someone said;

"I got my permit"

what does the person mean? thanks..
I rate

Um, it most likely means they got their driver's permit, which you get before the actual liscens. There are a lot of restrictions to it, I don't think they are even allowed to drive around a non- family member withought an adult in the car, ect. xoxoxo

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