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married men
I'm pretty clueless when it comes to guys; so I thought I would ask a question for the guys (or girls) to answer.
If you were married (or in a serious relationship)but not happy; and you had a close friend who you were attracted to and had feelings for; would you be ticked off if that person told you she would never sleep with you as long as you were married? I'm asking because recently this has happened to me. I told one of my close male friends (that I had known for 4 years) that I would never have an affair with him while he were married but I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me.
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Wow, you did the right thing. If he is encouraging that behavior, and you were to "date" him, how do you know he would really care about you either if he wants to cheat on his wife? Stick with your choice, it's the right one.
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First of all - good for you and thank-you! There are too many women out there who have lowered their standards to the point of having relationships with married men. Be proud that you are not going to be one of those women. Let's face it - if every women turned these men down, there would be nobody for them to use. But, sadly this fellow you know will go on to find a women who doesn't value herself as much as you do.
When it comes to deciding if you actually want to enter into any kind of a relatioship with a married man, I believe single women should look at it this way: It is actually an insult to the women for a married man to think that she would actually be desperate enough to stoop to a relationship with someone who belongs to someone else. I think the best thing is for you to have nothing to do with this creep. Is that really the kind of person you want as a "friend" anyway? Shouldn't our friends have qualities that we admire and respect? I think you dodged a close one there.
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Honestly, this is more his problem than it is yours. Your moral ethics are absoloutely in the right place because marriage is supposed to be sacred and if he wants to stray outside it, you shouldn't be the one to encourage it.
The only reason he isn't talking to you now is because he wants you to help him find an escape from his marriage. He is unhappy in it and an affair would give him a way to forget that his relationship is failing. In truth, an affair will only serve to further dissolve his marriage. You know you don't want to do that and you've done the right thing by saying no.
I would strongly recommend that if you do get the opportunity to speak to him again, you discuss his marital issues with him and urge him to seek some sort of help with saving it. He needs to remember the reasons he fell in love with his wife in the first place and if it really is doomed then he needs to end it, rather than seeking a temporary escape.
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I think friends should not assume a person is unhappy in their marriage just because they talk to a person of the opposite sex.
I also think if a female friend just out of the blue announces to a male friend that she won't have an affair with him while he is married when that was probably the furthest thing from his mind is going to be seen as being nuts.
The male friend will then run as fast as he can in the opposite direction if he is smart, Because the one who imagines he has a crush on her could suddenly decide to cause problems.
He is doing what he has to do. Get over it and move on.
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ok first of all yall where not friends to began wit becuz if he is not your friends fo that statement he is not a real friends second he is married ,he is nothin but a cheat
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I'm not sure what you're asking, but here's some advice:
Guys are like that. I would not be ticked off, and i don't think many girls would be if their friend wouldn't help them cheat. but guys are a different story. Some of them just think it doesn't matter. They feel that since they're not happy, then it wouldn't matter if you had an affair. He probably isn't that great of a friend if he is mad because you wouldn't help him cheat on his wife. I was in the same situation almost, i just didn't know he was married. things never turn out well once the other person finds out their spouse has cheated. Who wants friends like that?
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