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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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i asked Frank to the prom, but he said he didn't know because he said he can't dance. i asked him again and he back with the reply "dances aren't for me". what should i do?! i really want him to go because the 2 of us will have a fun time. (link)
Tell him the dancing isn't important.You can dance with others but you'd really like his company at the dance.


there is someone who keeps logging on to my screen name! I think its one of my friends but everytime i ask her she denies it! the last question "i" asked i think she did. u kno the acting question. That question is totally inaccurate! I stink at acting let alone boast about it. She is in my acting class too so thats why i think its her. What do you think i can do about her cuz she wont admit it???
~Dani~
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Dani, Hope I gave hell to the right person for ya. YG

If not oh boy....well,she needed knocked down a peg or two anyhow :}


hey I am soo good at acting and im in an improv group in ft.collins! AndI mean really good better than every one else in my group. people always laugh at what I say they laugh at what I do they always shake heir head and whisper in the other persons ear. I know they think im soooooooo much better than them. And when I was acting with this guy I said something hilarious and he looked that omg that was the dumbest thing i've ever heard! But I know he's just jelious. And How do I stop this jeliousy off all these people of my acting ability? (link)
Are you the one who stole Dani's password? Do you realise that it is illegal to do so? I think you better knock it off.If you aren't the one who stole her password then you probably aren't as good as you think, they are probably talking about you alright(or laughing). They aren't jealous they think you're an {_!_}.


well..this is how it went...i had been going out with this guy for 5 months and had grown so attached to him and the first4 months he was so attached to me... i mean he would take me on dates and to the homecoming dance(which were things he was not used to doing) and then it hit the fifth month and he just didn't care about me. before he wouldn't even consider ditching me for his friends and now he was doing it everyday and well one day he had been at a party with his friends and he called me and said it was over and i tried to talk to him when we went back to school but he wouldn't talk to me and he has changed so much from who he used to be...he used to be a punk rocker and is now a prep. how we started going out last year was i had asked him to go to my party in may and he came...should i ask him to go to the one this year and how should i do it on the phone, in person, alone, with his friends there? i am 16 and female (link)
If you want him there ask him.If he say's no,oh well. You tried. I'd try a phone call, then if he says no at least it won't be in front of others...could be upsetting if you still like him. Good luck.


ok i just moved to this new skool in another country. it has about 250 total kids. and i've heard that like all the girls at my new skool like me. and i dont know if i like any of them, and i'm only goin to be here until the end of the skool year. and i dont know wat to do about this... should i like just ignore them or sumthin? (link)
Why pick just one? Be friends with them all.Think of all the mail you will get next year!
Enjoy your time and don't let the pressure of having to pick one girl ruin your school year.If one is extra special you will know it soon enough.Okay?:}


today has been the worst day of my life. Ok, so i've liked this guy for over a year and i found out that my (one of my best friends) is moving in on him. She's after him and i think he likes her. she knows i like him, but doesn't care. My other best friends says we cant be best friends anymore. Everything is ruined at school for me now, what am isuposed to do? HELP

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A boy isn't going to know you like him unless you talk to him.She shouldn't have moved in on someone you liked that is true but, if you don't talk to him someone else will.So go talk to him,okay.

As for staying best friends, well, thats up to you. If he likes her though there's not much you can do about that.If you were dating the guy and she moved in on him I'd say ditch her but if you just liked him without doing anything about it...that's a little different.


I'm a 14-year-old girl. As I was leaving school the other day, I was walking with a casual male friend. As we were talking, he developed a
very large, very obvious erection. I was so embarrassed for him! I pretended not to notice, and didn't say anything, but he seemed
mortified, and left in a hurry. What should I have done? (link)
Nothing. I think you did the right thing by not mentioning it.It is a perfectly normal thing for boys that age and can be embarrassing for them.Just go on next time you see him as if nothing happened.

Don't mention it to others either.


Me nad this girl emily are kidna frends, we recentl ogt into a fight. She is having a sleepover for girl scouts on SAt and i odnt on if i should go. Will it be unfortibale, HELP

13
Alex (link)
I think you should go if she invited you.Try and out the fight behind you and move on.It may be uncomfortable at first but it will get better.


ok.. me and my boyfriend of 10 mths broke up.. its almost been a month.. and im still totally in love with him.. ive told him.. and he knows.. i think he might like me again too.. so i was wondering.. if the next time we hug as "friends" should i kiss him on the cheek? or do i show him any type of emotion towards me wantin him back, or should i just act like friends with him?

*Madinga* (link)
I think I would let him make the first move toward rekindling a romance. It sounds like you're still pretty good friends so i'd keep it as is for a while longer.


Once one of my friend told me she cuts herself.
I was very worried so i told my bets frined. Now we arnt bf anymreo and she told everyoen saying "Alex told me Danielle cuts" not daniele is mad at me and evryone is clalign me a gossiper What do i do (link)
Well if you know for sure she does tell her mom, not another friend.She needs help.Yeah, she'll be mad for awhile but she will get over it when she is better.At least she will know you cared enough to help.


The guy who I really like thinks I'm obsessed with him. I'm not and I want to show him that I'm not. What can I do to show him that I'm not obsessed with him? (link)
Ignore him for a while.Don't even so much as look at him. He'll probably be bothered by that and come see what is going on!


im doing an art collage on candy but im running out of candy to draw, so what kind of candy should i draw??? (link)
oh man, now I want chocolate.
It looks like you've covered most of the really yummy ones.
How about red hots,candy corn,those nasty valentine hearts with the words on them,and peeps,yukky too but colorful!And candy canes.
gotta go find me some sugar.good luck with the collage:}


okay well i was woundering what dose racis mean? (link)
A racist is someone who doesn't like another person just because they are of a different race. for example not liking someone just because their skin is a diffrent color than yours, they are of a diffrent religion than you etc. It is based on ignorance and not a good thing to be.


14/m
i like 2 girls right now, GIRL-A goes to my school and lives REALLY close, but GIRL-B goes to a dif school but still lives kind of close to me. im good friends with GIRL-A but i dont think i have a chance with her(atleast not right now cuz she just broke up with her bf and she still likes him). i know GIRL-B likes me and shes perfect for me but we barely ever see each other(atleast not now). do you think that a relationship w/ GIRL-B would work out or should i just wait a while and see what happens?
-thanks (link)
I think you should at least try.If you two like each other you will try harder to see each other right? Go for it.


I'm in a family low on money (my mom and dad have low income jobs) well I was supposed to sign up for spring league basketball($40) or cheerleading($65) and couldn't because we have no money. Now everyone thinks I'm poor and is making fun of me even my BFF. What should I do? (link)
Being poor is not a crime.Just tell them at least your parents have jobs and are doing their best to provide for their family.If they can't understand that they are very shallow people.


Ok sorry if this is long, but you need to know everything......... there is this guy at my church named Adam and he and i have fallen in love. The funny thing is, back when we were in middle school/ high school, i first met his parents and they loved me. Sounds good right? So anyway, then he met mine and lets just say they didnt mave the same reaction to him as his did for me. After that we drifted. Diff. Collages ect.... Well now we have met again, and we found that we still love eachother. Now my dad wants to meet this amazing guy that i love, and i dont know if i should because of what happened last time. I really dont want any of that "well if your truely in love your father shouldnt care" because my dad is not like that. Once he makes up his mind even 7 years later, he still stiks to his word. WHAT SHOULD I DO??????????? any help is appriciated.
21/f (link)
I think he could have changed his mind given the situation. Maybe he didn't like the relationship last time because you were younger.Give it a chance but remember, you're 21 and who you love is your decision to make and no one elses.


well see ..i was goin out with this kid (eric) for like 4 months and yeah we had sex.. but then like .. i dont know we got in some kinda fight ish thing .. and then like .. i kissed this kid Jimmy and ended up liking him ..so i broke up with Eric cuz i felt wicked mean .. cuz i cheated on him and then i liked Jimmy so i dumped eric .. and now my bestfriend is goin out with him .. ( im goin out with Jimmy and she started goin out with Eric a week later) and Eric made out with my cuzin 2 days later,and then went out with her and then broke up with her and told me that he was like still in love with me and then went out with my Bestfriend.. i mean is it alright to be kinda mad about this or is it like .. wicked bitchy and stupid to be ?
please help =/

p.s i rate..

xl h0ll0w li3s lx (link)
He doesn't seem worth it to me but you can be if you want! He seems to get around quite a bit.I think I'd stick with Jimmy and see how he works out.


I'm starting to think i have some form of depression.Here lately I will start crying for praticaly nothing.I try not to cry but then I start to cry even harder and forget every thing good that happend in that day and start thinking baout my life sucking and me hating myself.Im starting to lose self confidence.I've got freinds who have to have anti-depressants for the same reasons im starting to think I need them the only thing is most of the time they go and get advice from people like special docters and stuff.But I dont like telling alot of people about my life it bugs me specially knowing a stranger knows everything about me.I was just woundering if someone could tell me some of the ways you can tell if you are having a depression problem and need to seek a docter to get medication.(sorry for it being long) (link)
Doctors do not tell anyone else what you tell them. Not even your mom.If you are depressesed you need to go see about it so it doesn't get worse.


Hey guys and gals, i was wondering if someone would be considered anorexic if they only ate once a day, or even nothing all day and maybe once the next?
Thanks (link)
I don't know if someone could be called anorexic exactly. Not a smart thing to do though.You'll trick your body into thinking it's starving and actually gain weight.Trust me. Been there done that.


im having trouble with these stupid pop-ups on the computer...where can i get a pop-up blocker for free? (link)
I had that problem with my old computer.REALLY BAD.I couldn't even use Internet explorer.

What I did was download FIREFOX by mozilla.I had a few now and then but nothing as bad as I used to have.It is free. It is great. punch firefox into google and try it.Let me know what you think!:}




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