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I have a lot of cool sayings in my profile. Most in whick I made up. Every time I look at me friends profile, she has all my same sayings in mine. I get so frusterated! Now, she just IMed me witrh her advice colum user name and it is almost the same as mine! Should I tell her how I feel? Please, I need help fast!

Yeah you should tell her how u feel... tell her that u wanna be ur own person and she should do the same...

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ok i just started high school a few days ago and its really hard to make friends b/c they all pretty much came from all the same schools and everyone already has friends and groups already and i dont... ive met some ppl but we arent like close or anything so what should i do

Continue to make friends wit more people... eventually u will get close to them... make plans to do sumthing over the weekend and invite every1 to go out... ( movies/food/ur house if ur comfortable having them over )

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Ok so me and this guy dated for a year and a half, my first love, first guy i had sex with everything. I screwed up our relationship by taking him for granted and i cheated on him. Well he forgave me but we broke up and now he has a new gf and i had a new bf and its been about 5 months. School started and i have 3 classes with him and i cant get him off my mind and i want him back soooo bad but i really doubt he will dump his gf for me...wat should i do? please help

This may sound a little harsh but i think u need to let him go... cuz u had ur chance... im sure u realized u made a mistake... but if hes with sum1 else u cant really do much... let him know how you feels when hes single... you at least owe him that...

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hey ive just been really confused on how i feel about somebody see i like 2 different people and both really like me and i dont know who to choose i dont want to hurt anyone and i really want to be with either one of them i dont know what to do what should i do

In situations like this... i usually say... dont pick either... cuz if u do you are gonna end up hurthing sum1... & u probably dont have much feelings for both of them... cuz if u did im sure you wouldnt be confused about it... continue to be friends with em...

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well im startin my h.s on sept 8...im really nervous EVERYONE @ my middle skool is goin to this one h.s and im goin to another one far away bc i didnt like the ppl @ my old skool i just had a lot of probs n stuff....but yea this skool is a whole diff crowd of ppl my last skool was s0o0o ghetto!! this is like really not....im just so nervous i dont no ne 1 and we hav to wear uniforms that r navy blue and khaki...im afraid im gonna look like a dork and hav no friends..hellllppp...im gonna b so lost =(

Switchin schools is not that bad... there are probably gonna be a lotta of other new kids... high school is not really a big deal... about the uniforms... ur not gonna be the only person wearing a uniform everyone will... so dont even sweat it

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Is it considered "dorky" to roll jeans that are a little short into capris? or should I just cut them? Thanks

I dont think its dorky... one of my friends does that... i had to do that when i went to Kings Dominion ( amusment park ) cuz i dont wear shorts and my pants were gettin all under my flip flops and bothering me... i think it looks nice...

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i am a freshman going into higschool, and i have a problem w/ this girl going into 11th grade whos 2 years older than me. well back in middle school we were on the same bus, and she was really mean to me. she would SCREAM mean things to me in front of EVERYONE, like saying im ugly and stuff, and she would take my schoolbag and dump it all over the place, and she would pour soda on me.. it was humiliating.. she used to threaten to beat me up when i got off the bus, and she would have people come up to me and say shit to me. LAST YEAR I TOLD MY MOM AND SHE WENT TO THE SCHOOL AND TOLD OUR PRINCIPLE AND MADE IT WORSE CAUSE THE GIRL ONLY HARASSED ME MORE AND MORE AND PEOPLE MADE FUN OF ME... well now were gonna be on the same bus again, and i wanna know how to handle the situation. if shes yelling at me on the bus, should i say something back? ignore her? ask her if we can talk it out? or ask her why she's doing this since i didnt do anything to her?... i dont want to make her even more mad, because then she'll be worse to me. tell me how to handle it, but dont tell me to call the cops or anything, i wanna know what to do... im REALLY SCARED.. thanks

yeah i just read the comment u left me... i got too much to say here so feel free to IM me my sn is SoNuLiCiOuSsS!!!

I think shes attention deprieved LOL...but it sounds like she picked on you cuz u let her pick on u... what i think u should do is... if she tries to say sumthing to u... be nice at first... be like whats ur problem... and if she continues to have an attitude just say u asked for it... start makin fun of her and say stuff that will really hurt her... sumtimes people dont understand how much it hurts untill they are on the other side... i think u need to teach this girl a lesson... but dont get into a fist fight... cuz fighting isnt good... if she tries to fight u... embarass her infronta everyone and say yeah so u cant handle it when sum1 makes fun of you... but u think u can get away wit n/e thing... if u get all shaky during the confrontation take a few deep breaths... and continue... when u say stuff to her... dont say it in an angry voice... say it in a sorta sing-song sarcastic voice.. that way it'll look like ur not lettin her get to u... and that'll make her look stupid... i think her whole purpose is pickin on sum1 to get attention... teach that bitch a lesson... if things get outta hand... tell ur parents and have em call the school... Lettme know how it goes...

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okie.well i like this boy.we just started talking and now i like him even more. i know that he like me to. but i want 2 know.if me being 14.turning 15. and he being 12 turing 13 is really bad 2 even think about goin out with him?

14/f

well... it usually isnt a good thing... but if this guy is at ur level... than it'll be ok... if hes immature than things probably wont work out...

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this is gonna be long but i promise iw ill rate u really good. ok here goes: i used to be best friends with this boy but we're not really as close anymore, but we still love eachother and care about eachother and stuff. ok so he went on vacation for a while and his gf started becoming friends w/ this guy, and the guy told me that she did all this stuff with him like lick his neck, french kisshim, lay on his lap and rub his thing w/ her head, etc. well her boyfriend came back and he found out they were hanging out and he was sorta mad cuz well you know, why wouldn't he be? my question is should i tell him? i want to stay out of it cuz i dont want any drama but i luv him and wish he knew. i dont think she'll tell him or break up w/ him soon but i dont know. help.

Yeah i think u should tell him... cuz if he gets too emotionally involved wit diz girl & she still messes around hes gonna be really hurt... & than ur gonna feel really guilty... its better that u let him know whats up... even if he doesnt break up wit her.. ur job as a friend is to let him know... than the decision is up to him...

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iight theres this guy that i meet saterday! he is awesome! i mean i can be my complete self around him! and me and him both have a thing fro each other...and i mean i do like him and he is going to ask me out the next time we see each other...but i'm jst scared that it's going to be awhile before we see each other! and i kind of don't want to wait!?? but then i do cuz i don't want to rush things!? wat should i do?

awww dats cute... me and my BF ended up dancin together one nite... than we started talkin... he asked me out 2 weeks later on Valentines day anyway... u wont be able to see eachother all the time.. so in the meantime get to know him over the phone... if u both feel like y'all like eachother & are ready to be in a relationship dont worry about whether ur rushing things... do what feels rite... :)

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this guy that i was friends with for a long time was having a bad day and when we were in art class i asked him what was wrong. and he was like back the *uck off and leave me alone. i was like jesus okay i was just asking i didn't mean to get you upset. that day we were making these clay things and there is this tool that has a very sharp edge on it and he held it up to my throat and he said if you don't get away from me i'll stab you with this. the look in his eyes was absolutly terrifying. that night on AIM i had asked him what was wrong and he was acting really funny. his typing had changed. he was making alot of errors and not correcting himself like he normally would. he threatened to blow up my school and then he threatened to kill me and himself. i got scared and i told my dad about it and the next day my dad called the school and my principal, my guidance counselor, and the schools D.A.R.E. officer sat down with the two of us and we were talking and he kept saying that he was joking about everything that he had said to me that night. We aren't friends anymore and i do not want to start a new school year knowing that he hates me. what should i do? should i try talking to him? or should i leave him alone? he was my best friend for a while and i miss having him as my friend

i think its best that u leave him alone for now... sum guys dont like people to know that they are emotional so that may be why he got so upset when u asked him what was wrong... just give him sum time... when hes ready to talk & when he realizes that u are a good friend he will come to you... but make sure u arent ever alone wit him... cuz if a person can lose it once... they can lose it again

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I have a long time friend who has turned.....slutty. She doesn't think anything that she is doing is wrong at all. How do I get her back to well.....her? What do I say or do?

Tell her that u feel like she is messing her life up... if she doesnt listen than forget about it.... if shes not willin to change theres nothing u can do about it... and if u constantly are tellin this is wrong that is wrong shes gonna feel like ur tryin to be her mom and thats gonna push her away from you... so try once and if it doesnt work just dont worry about it cuz shes gonna have to learn on her own

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Why is sex such a big thing now? I mean young people are even doing this, I just don't get it. What happened to waiting until marriage?

People dont care about the consequences ( damn i cant spell )... and their parents dont teach them to respect their own body... they say a girl that loses her virginity at an early age doesnt have much confidence and she thinks shes gonna feel better about herself after doin it... i honestly think that everyone should save themselves for marriage... i mean going around and having sex wit a lotta people... DATS JUST NASTY... think of the STD'z... i dont think sex is that BIG... half the people that say they are doing it arent...

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anyone know how to get a REALLY firm stomache in 3 weeks??? i need help asap!! i rate good!!!!

go to http://toneteen.com/ ... it shows u sum exercises and when u do exercise... try to do a different routine... cuz if u do the same thing ur body get used to it... and try to eat healthy along the way

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can u get fat by drinking milk

whole milk... YES... drinkin whole milk is like drinkin cream... but if u drink 1 percent, 2 percent, or skim milk, you'll lose weight... :)

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hey im 13 nd me nd my boy friend recently spilt but i still like him nd i just found out that he still likes me to but i dont no wat to do cuz my best (guy) friend likes me now nd my ex nd him are really great friends nd they both asked me out tonite nd i said i have to think about it to both of them wat do i do!! thanks in advance!

...dont get wit either of them... ur only 13 u have plenty of time to date... rite now just enjoy being friends wit guys... that way you'll have more experience as to the way guys think... they'll tell u more about themselves since ur not their girl... there r a lotta things guys would never tell their girls but would tell their lady friends... learn that kinda stuff and wait a couple of years for a special person to come along... when that person does come along u wont have to think twice if u should pick him... or sum1 cuter or richer or whatever...

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Im 16, and a while ago I was involved with this guy who was 18. He was a senior at my best friends school, and he was gorgeous and popular etc. I met him because he works at My gymnastics school

Now me, im invisable in my school. Im shy and no one notices me, I hide behind books and avoid talking whenever possible, but im different at gymnastics. My teammates are my best friends and im outgoing etc when im with them

When we met, I was seriously depressed about being invisable, and only my best friend knew. Now she went to school with the other kid, but she wasnt popular so he didnt talk to her.
Anyway, one day my best friend was working with him, and he told her he really thought i was pretty and kept asking questions about me and this pulled me out of my depression
-he saw me when i was invisable

Then a few weeks later we actually talked, like hed call etc, and he eventually broke my shyness and i ended up at his house in his bed making ut with him. That went on for a while, wed keep hooking up till he tried to get farther to fast. I told him to stop and he respected that then not much later he blew me off because i wouldnt sleep with him

After that I pretended to get over him quickly, but I still saw him at gymnastics, and when i worked with him hed be all over me, or when id be working out and hed be coaching, hed coach when my teammates were on the beam, but stop and watch when i was etc. He played major mind games with me, and I played them back. I went out with this other kid he goes to school with just so hed be jealous (which he was and he also checked up on me) and I made him think I hated him on perpose, though I think if id showed him I liked him I could have had him back.

Then he got fired. I took it as fate. Someone was trying to help me get over him, but it wasnt that easy. HE alone saw me when I was invisable.

Either way hes going to college in like 5 days, and I miss him so much and I cant get over him and it hasnt gotten much better over time

What should I do?

Think about why y'all broke up in the first place... no girl should be treated like trash... if u say no than it means no... not maybe or later or i'll think about it... remember that... relationships like that dont last long... even if u had given him sum... if he truly cared about u he wouldnt have worried about sex... try to look at that other guy u were with to make him jealous... cuz sumtimes u have sumthing great rite there and u just dont notice it... a lotta people waste there time tryin to figure out how to get baQ with that one special X... people just have to realize if it wasnt meant to be it simply wasnt meant to be... there are a lotta other guys out there... BETTER guys that wont try to get ass from you and love u for who you are whether u consider urself Invisible or not... be happy with who u are and ur life... I wish you the BEST...!!!

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Hey I was wondering what kind of facewashes are there for guys? cuz i dont want to use chicks facewash. signed
-Circus Freak

there isnt really a girl face wash and a guy face wash... they use girls in the commericals to get peoples attention... guys see the girls and think whoa shes hott... & girls see the girls and think ooo shes pretty... that way u have everyones attention... even tho not all of this girls are pretty but anyway... what i use is Noxema triple clean and it works really good... if ur emabarassed about going to the store and buying the facewash ask ur mom/dad/sister/bro or even a friend to buy it for you... ooo and use sea breeze after u wash ur face... it helps clean out ur pores...

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i didnt know what to put this under but whatever. i want to have a BIG 16th birthday ( im 15 ) my birthdays in july. What should i do? I dont want to have a pool party or anything. But can you give me some ideas..like where to go..if i should stay at home and invite people over or where to have it. ( if youve already had ur 16th birthday reply! ) but if you havent thats alright lol. thanks

well on my 16th i didnt do anything special... i just had sum friends over and we cut a cake... but there r a lotta things u can do... one of my friends rented a limo and we drove around DC... u could do that... but since ur only 16 u probably wouldnt be able to get into a lotta places... but u could always go to a resteraunt... another thing u could do is have it at a bowling alley...

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ok.i got this new courdoroy tan/white skirt..what kind of shoes would be best to wear with it? Im not the best walker in heals lol. Would plain white sneakers be good? What kinda "fancier" shoes would be best?

Also..i have split ends...but i like my long hair..does layering it sound like a good idea?

how about sum tan platforms.. or u could always wear black cuz black goes with everything... im not sure how sneakers would look wit em... most of the time sneakers and skirts dont look good together

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