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a "bully" i guess you can say..
i am a freshman going into higschool, and i have a problem w/ this girl going into 11th grade whos 2 years older than me. well back in middle school we were on the same bus, and she was really mean to me. she would SCREAM mean things to me in front of EVERYONE, like saying im ugly and stuff, and she would take my schoolbag and dump it all over the place, and she would pour soda on me.. it was humiliating.. she used to threaten to beat me up when i got off the bus, and she would have people come up to me and say shit to me. LAST YEAR I TOLD MY MOM AND SHE WENT TO THE SCHOOL AND TOLD OUR PRINCIPLE AND MADE IT WORSE CAUSE THE GIRL ONLY HARASSED ME MORE AND MORE AND PEOPLE MADE FUN OF ME... well now were gonna be on the same bus again, and i wanna know how to handle the situation. if shes yelling at me on the bus, should i say something back? ignore her? ask her if we can talk it out? or ask her why she's doing this since i didnt do anything to her?... i dont want to make her even more mad, because then she'll be worse to me. tell me how to handle it, but dont tell me to call the cops or anything, i wanna know what to do... im REALLY SCARED.. thanks
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Don't be scared! Stick up for yourself girl. If you let her yell at you, and do mean things, then she just knows she can do it and get away with it. I'd grab the bitch by the hair and slam her face into the emergency handle on the bus window, but that's just me. Tell her to stop. Scream back, Pour soda on her, dump HER bag out. See how she likes it.
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For some reason, you intimidate her. If she's in 11th grade and still doing this, she's really immature. Ignore it for a while and just stay calm. Get some friends around you who you know'll have your back. If she threatens you, pours soda on you, and tells other people to threaten you- tell someone in authority because you're being harassed. Bottom line though, don't let this chick rule over your life through fear. Stand up to her, but don't stoop to her level.
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I think shes attention deprieved LOL...but it sounds like she picked on you cuz u let her pick on u... what i think u should do is... if she tries to say sumthing to u... be nice at first... be like whats ur problem... and if she continues to have an attitude just say u asked for it... start makin fun of her and say stuff that will really hurt her... sumtimes people dont understand how much it hurts untill they are on the other side... i think u need to teach this girl a lesson... but dont get into a fist fight... cuz fighting isnt good... if she tries to fight u... embarass her infronta everyone and say yeah so u cant handle it when sum1 makes fun of you... but u think u can get away wit n/e thing... if u get all shaky during the confrontation take a few deep breaths... and continue... when u say stuff to her... dont say it in an angry voice... say it in a sorta sing-song sarcastic voice.. that way it'll look like ur not lettin her get to u... and that'll make her look stupid... i think her whole purpose is pickin on sum1 to get attention... teach that bitch a lesson... if things get outta hand... tell ur parents and have em call the school... Lettme know how it goes...
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tell her this... when she starts tourmenting you again just tell her "i'm sorry that you have no life that you have to be tourmenting me every single day... don't you have something better to do in life? because this whole tourmenting thing is getting wayyy old and honestly you bore me" you have to work the reverse psycology on her! hope i helped!
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Sweetie, I had the same problem! I have always been semi*shy and there was this group of girls who I hung out w/. Well eventually one of them heard I was screwing her b/f or some crap like that and they all turned against me! Especailly this one girl! She would torture me. I was so upset that I would NEVER feel like going to school or to places I used to love b/c I knew she would be there! I tried ignoring her and that only made the situation worse! I had to step up! One day she commented on my g-pa (who is in a wheel*chair and had just died) and on my other set of grandparents (who are both deaf) this really pushed me over the edge and we ended up fighting! (We yelled back and forth before that!) I was so scared to fight her but I really dont remember much from the fight! I got hit a few times and it didn't hurt, I was just so angry I was basiclly numb! But afterwards she never bothered me anymore! Of corce they still spread rumors and crap but I was still more popular than her so it was ll good! You just have to do what you feel is right! Don't back down to her! It will only make you look like a coward and invite more problems. Stand up to her! Even if ya*ll get in a fight and loose she won't mess w/ u anymore, b/c she knows you'll do something!!! She's more interested in an easy target (which is what u are right now) I hope my advice helped. Lemme know how things go and feel free to contact me w/ any problem! -*-Sonnie-*-
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Hello =) In my opinion, this is what you should say to her if she starts harassing you: Listen, I don't know why you hate me so much. I've never done anything to you - and you need to get a lift and pick on people your own age. It just shows that you are so low you have to make fun of people younger than you. I don't want to have anything to do with you. Then move to a different seat on the bus. I really hope it works out :) Leave one in the inbox if you'd like. <3 Steph
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well dont be scared of her or let her intimmidate you at all!! once she knows that she gets to you or that she can put you down and hurt your feelings, that will send her on the powertrip of her life!!! whenever she says something about you that makes other people laugh...then just laugh along with them! show them that you dont care what they think of you and that you know who you are and your confident in yourself! also think about it...you guys havent seen each other in like 2 years so what are the odds of her remembering you and STILL wanting to humilate you?and people also get more and more mature as they get older so making fun of you could also make her look like a dumbass in front of her friends.
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You need to talk to her about it well it usually doesn't work but like ask her why shes doing this she might even be jealous people make fun of me because im short and not so glamorous but anywayz you should do something before it gets worse! pour soda on her head lol
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If the problem is only on the but then try to find a ride to shcool. If not try to make friends with ALOT of people (if they are older than you then that will help even more). That way you will always have backup for when she does stuff to you.
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Man...nobody should be afraid like that..i feel for you. You gota do somethin! Bullies are cowards..and if shes STILL bullying then it sounds like she has some problems. It isnt fair to you to be scared like that... i suggest
-getting a friend on the bus to handle her..maybe a big girl..strong girl..(too bad im not on your bus..i could do the job lol)
-or maybe even a guy friend to humiliate her on the bus by saying something like "whats your problem..ppl like you are cowards.." etc.
-you can handle it yourself by speaking up..sound tough, you know? I know you dont wanna start trouble..but you gota get loud sometimes and "take care of business" Dont put up with it! Wear rings on your hands..they can do damage lol
-once this bully sees you arent gonna put up with her anymore..she should back off.
being bullied is a tough situation that ive never been in..but i hope i helped anyway! drop me somethin in the inbox if you wanna talk more..im here to help bring this bully down! :)
-melissa
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When I was in middle school this girl was sooo rude to me. She did things like that but not to an extreme. Then going into HS I was so scared. Then it turned out we got on the same basketball team. But she was so nice and didnt treat me like crap anymore. You will be surprised she might have grown up and matured. But if not, its a serious thing. I know going to the principal can make it a lot worst. Maybe you can try talking it out, even though it doesnt always work. She most likely is all talk and I wouldnt worry about her. Just let things ride out and if it gets too bad, tell the principal she is harrassing you. The principal should be able to do something about it. Even then, if the principal didnt do anything or if it starts to get more serious, your mom will know what to do. Just dont do things that will fuel her fire. Dont let it look like it bothers you. If she does something just laugh, even though it will be hard. Or say something like- Wow that was a little middle school, dont you think? and then laugh and walk off.
Hope I could help.. Good luck in HS, have fun! Dont let something like this bother you that much.
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