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He wont get out of my mind
Im 16, and a while ago I was involved with this guy who was 18. He was a senior at my best friends school, and he was gorgeous and popular etc. I met him because he works at My gymnastics school
Now me, im invisable in my school. Im shy and no one notices me, I hide behind books and avoid talking whenever possible, but im different at gymnastics. My teammates are my best friends and im outgoing etc when im with them
When we met, I was seriously depressed about being invisable, and only my best friend knew. Now she went to school with the other kid, but she wasnt popular so he didnt talk to her.
Anyway, one day my best friend was working with him, and he told her he really thought i was pretty and kept asking questions about me and this pulled me out of my depression
-he saw me when i was invisable
Then a few weeks later we actually talked, like hed call etc, and he eventually broke my shyness and i ended up at his house in his bed making ut with him. That went on for a while, wed keep hooking up till he tried to get farther to fast. I told him to stop and he respected that then not much later he blew me off because i wouldnt sleep with him
After that I pretended to get over him quickly, but I still saw him at gymnastics, and when i worked with him hed be all over me, or when id be working out and hed be coaching, hed coach when my teammates were on the beam, but stop and watch when i was etc. He played major mind games with me, and I played them back. I went out with this other kid he goes to school with just so hed be jealous (which he was and he also checked up on me) and I made him think I hated him on perpose, though I think if id showed him I liked him I could have had him back.
Then he got fired. I took it as fate. Someone was trying to help me get over him, but it wasnt that easy. HE alone saw me when I was invisable.
Either way hes going to college in like 5 days, and I miss him so much and I cant get over him and it hasnt gotten much better over time
What should I do?
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Thanks for the advice guys
and just to let everyone know
the guy I went out with to make him jealous
I didnt want to explain cause its a totally different story, but I didnt realize that that was the reason Id went out with him till we broke up and I didnt care at all. Like I should have been slightly upset except I realized then that I never cared for him, and that the other guy had to have been the reason for me saying yes to him asking me out in the first place
And I know I need to get over him
If I was playing hard to get its probably better that way
I guess if its meant to be well meet again sometime somewhere else under better circumstances
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hey - aww you sound so innocent! But thats cute how you say he notice you when you were invisble. But just because you said no that you didnt wanna go all the way with him; and he got pissed that is preety bad. But to me it sounds aftawards you were tryin to play hard to get. But the things with guys is that they dont always like playin games.. [ hard to get ] that gets them pissed.. it depends how much feelings they have for you. Well before he leaves to go to college you need to call him and tell him why you were ready to have sex. and you should tell him that you still have feeelings for him . and i can see you wanna get back together. and see what happends.. / rate me . <3 nicicole
hope i helped..
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okk whethr or not he saw u wen u were invisible or w/e u were talking bout he basically had ur relationship end becuz u wudnt fuk him..how much do u think it mattered to him..i kno u still have hope for it..but 1.its lik rape now..and 2. he dun deserve u .. now hes in college prob fukin evry grl and ur gna find sumone sooner or later that 1 sees u wen ur invisivble and 2 lets u go as slow as u wnt..just dun give up faith for moving onn*
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Think about why y'all broke up in the first place... no girl should be treated like trash... if u say no than it means no... not maybe or later or i'll think about it... remember that... relationships like that dont last long... even if u had given him sum... if he truly cared about u he wouldnt have worried about sex... try to look at that other guy u were with to make him jealous... cuz sumtimes u have sumthing great rite there and u just dont notice it... a lotta people waste there time tryin to figure out how to get baQ with that one special X... people just have to realize if it wasnt meant to be it simply wasnt meant to be... there are a lotta other guys out there... BETTER guys that wont try to get ass from you and love u for who you are whether u consider urself Invisible or not... be happy with who u are and ur life... I wish you the BEST...!!!
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Honey,I must say it was very unfair to use that guy like you did just to get back at the guy you liked. And his feelings were just what? Dog shit? Secondly,it's apparent to me that this guy must not respect your wishes if he just blew you off,as you put it,and just kept trying to sleep with you. Not to mention this also illegal and,if caught,this guy faces statutory rape. Sex offender registration time! That's not kool,huh? You shouldn't be playing mind games with this guy and he shouldn't do the same to you. HE alone saw you because your a gymnast. You know any fat and ugly gymnasts? You may say yeah,but 105 pounds ain't fat. Plus,some guys like the challenge of opening up a shy girl. Like Rocky and Adrian. Great movie,by the way. I say forget him and try and think about the other guy's feelings before you go out and use him to get back at a guy you like.
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I think you need to try to get over him. Hes going to collage and he'll probley meed other girls there. And Im sure you will meet other guys in your lifetime. If you did go out with this guy you would never see him and thats hard in a relationship. If you have his phone number try calling him,and maybe ask him if he wants to do something as a goodbye. Hope I helped!
xoxo chels
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I think you need to try to get over him. And honey, don't be shy. Don't make yourself invisible. Get out and make lots of new friends. Maybe join a new club? Meet people with the same intersts. But yeah, This guy abused you. He wasn't with you for you. He saw a beautiful, vulnerable young lady... I really advise moving on... Best wishes :) -Britty-
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