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um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
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Don't be afraid, be brave.And don't lie! If she see's it and asks,tell her you cut yourself.Don't go into great detail unless she presses you about it.
If she does,tell her about it.You can use all the support you can get to prevent it happening again.:}
PS...If cut is fresh don't put make up on it.Will cause infection and then you will be in agony.If it's not a fresh cut,could be a good idea.
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I've known this guy since like 2nd grade. He and I have been boyfriend and girlfriend off and on for about 2 years. He and i usually hook up most during the summer and not much during the school year. My friends say that we sould either stay friends or boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't really know which one i should choose. i really like him saome days and don't really talk to him others. should we be boyfriend and girlfriend or stayt friends? thanx (link)
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You do what you want to do.Your friends mean well but your the one that has to live your life. Seems like you have a good thing no matter how you handle it.You can be friends now and change your mind later if you want to.Follow your heart on this one.
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okay, so i have this friend, and she cuts herself. it really scares me, because one time she cut so deep that it wouldnt stop for a while. her dad abuses her, and she doesnt get along with her mom very well. her boyfriend went away for spring break and she misses him a lot. she cut herself again because she thinks her life is so fucked up, and she thinks she should die. i really want to help her, but i dont know what to do. please help!!! (link)
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This girl needs help bad! Tell a teacher or someone and get her some help before she isn't around for you to help! Yeah, she's gonna be pissed but she'll still be alive.She'll get over it once she's well. Find an adult and get her help.TODAY!
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Dear Advicenators,
At my workplace, several colleagues and I have an awkward situation that has developed between us and our boss. It has gotten so bad recently that it has begun to affect the quality of our work and how we interact with her.
On several occasions in the winter months, she has come into the office directly from the outdoors and started an informal meeting, many times without even putting down her coat or bag. The problem is that there is typically a great deal of condensation and mucus that has decended onto her upper lip and into her mouth. She doesn't notice it, but it makes it impossible for her employees to listen to her.
In addition, she has terrible halitosis. It is so bad that when her employees are talking with her, they can not concentrate on what she saying. As a result, they make mistakes in the areas that were covered in their conversations.
What can be done? Any kind of intervention might result in us getting fired.
What do you suggest?
Sincerely,
Grossed out in Gotham (link)
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Gross...she has no clue? Sounds like real managment material to me! Must have been slim pickins when she got promoted.
Man, maybe you could leave an anon. note or something.Make sure it's written by someone who's handwritting won't be recognized.Type it maybe.Tell her like it is as politely as possible! She probably will be embarrassed but I doubt she will mention it.Hopefully, you will notice an improvement.
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There's this guy I met about a month ago that I am becoming obsessed with. When I met him we discovered that we had the exact same interests and my friends kept telling me to go for it, but I didn't want to make the first move. Nothing happened that night but he seemed a little bit interested in me. Then 2 days later he got my screen name from a friend and we talked a little bit. My friend asked him if he liked me and he said he still needed to get to know me. Then a couple days later he told me he wanted to do something with me that weekend and people who are friends with him kept asking me if I liked him. I thought that meant he liked me. So we didn't end up doing anything until last weekend. So I hung out with him and we completely got along and we had fun. The problem was that he seemed to be more touchy with all of the other girls there than me. I feel a little bit crazy about it, but I really want things to work out with him. So pretty much he keeps saying things to me that make him seem interested and get me excited, but he also says things that make it seem to me like he just wants to be friends. What does it sound like to you, or how can I tell whether or no he likes me? (link)
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he must like you if he asked you out.Maybe he was more touchy with them because he knows them better.Be happy that he gave you siome respect.You really shouldn't get into all that until you know someone a little first.He did good.Hope he asks you out again!
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hey I know someone who cuts themselves and it is starting to scare me! I used to be her friend but now were not as close. I think her parents know but I dont know what to do because I think she still cuts herself so please help!!!- needs advice (link)
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If you think her parents know and aren't doing anything, try telling a teacher or someone in charge at school.Maybe parents don't know she is still doing it. I'd try them first and see what they say. Hopefully she will get help.
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my friends brother is coming home from jail at the end of the summer.. her mom is always in a bad mood and her sister has to go to a psychologist because she has problems with her brother.. i feel so bad for my friend.. and she knows there are gonna be more problems when he comes home because her mom will want him to stay in the house and her dad will want him out and her brother never listens... i know its gonna be hard for her and i just want to help her. (link)
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I'd want to help her to.I think the only way to help is just to be there when she needs someone to talk to.Sometimes thats the most impotant thing to give.
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Is there any way to make it clear to a guy that I would like to go to prom with him, with out actually asking him myself? We are friends, and I actually like him as more than a friend. We meant to go to another school dance together, but it just never worked out, some other things got in the way. He is kind of hard to read, but had seemed sincerely upset when we couldn't go to the last dance together. How should I let him know that I would love to go to prom with him, before I get asked by someone else? Or before he thinks I won't say yes and asks someone else?
Thanks in advance for your advice, I will rate high, if that helps. Oh, and I'm 17/f. (link)
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No.Go ask him.Won't know until you do, don't want another to ask first! No other way to find out for certain.Hope he says yes, have fun:}
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I like this boy in my school who used to like me. He also asked me out but i rejected him even though i liked him. Now im not sure who he likes I havnt talked to him in 3 months or more. Hes not a virgin anymore and if i do like him and we ever go out i think he will give me higher expectations and i havnt gotten anywhere near losing my virginity so i dont know what to do about talking to him more and going out with him. (link)
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You have to somehow let him know that you made a mistake when you didn't go out with him.Otherwise he won't ask again.
Just because he is no longer a virgin does not mean he expects to sleep with you. Nor should you if you are not ready.If he won't wait until you are ready, he doesn't love you enough to have sex with anyway.
If you like him go talk... ask him out.
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Ok, here's the deal. I have HIGH morals, and one of them is that i dont want to kiss a guy untill i get married. Well. theres this guy that i really like and he likes me. and if we go out i know that he'll wanna kiss me and i've been thinkg about it and i wanna kiss him. what do i do?? I am afraid if i dont then i'll regret it. And i think i'll regret it if i don't.
What do I do ??
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There is nothing immoral about kissing or hugging. Kiss and hug all day.
If you want to wait until marriage for something make it sex. Kissing and hugging are perfectly acceptable behavior.I don't think there are ANY guys on the planet who would marry you if he couldn't kiss you first!
I am a grandma, trust me kissing is fine:}
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ok my head is like 23 in. all the way around.. and it bothers me so bad.. and to make it worse some kid called me big head.. i have like obsessive cumpolsive disorder.. when people tell me whats wrong with me.. i never stop thinking about it because it bothers me so bad.. i mean is having a big head bad and would you make fun of someone for it.. i have friends and guys have asked me out.. but my self esteem is just so low and i need to stop.. i also have a small mouth and these 2 kids call me stone faced because i barely smile and it annoys me so bad and they know it does but people in my school just love to make fun of people.. its basically the only way they can be funny. just tell me what you think.. and if your gonna leave something ignorent DONT PISS ME OFF (link)
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Smile more! Don't give them any ammo! They are teasing you because you're getting upset and thats what they want. Your head is fine.You have friends both male and female.You sound normal enough to me! It's hard to do I know but just ignore them. Don't give them the satisfaction of reacting to their stupidity.
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Me and this guy have liked eachother for about 2 months (long story why we're not dating yet) and we were outside of our friend's house. We held hands and he kissed me. My parents just happened to be driving by at the time, and me being their "little baby girl" they're extremely over-protective. They went to his house and told him to stay away from him and told me that I wasn't allowed to talk to him anymore. I am very upset about this and so is he. I usually don't get chances like this to have a relationship so please..help. What can I do to make this work? (link)
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How old are you? I don't know why your parents don't like this guy. They sure went to a lot of trouble to tell him to stay away. I think you need to talk to them and find out the details for sure.
There probably isn't much you can do at this point.Find out why they don't approve and work on them. Maybe they would let you invite him over so they could get to know him a little.
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i am 13/f and i like one of my best friends! i liked him for about 3 months now and all i have found out was that he has a girlfriend... thats like all he ever talks about! One day when i was hanging out with him and a couple of friends and we kinda made a bet about if this one basketball team wins that i would have to ask him out... well they won and i did and i told him it was a joke and he said idk ill think about it... but i dont know if he was joking or not to and then today at lunch he said yes... but he is known to make alot of jokes and i bet he is gonna turn around and say just jokin so idk what i should do... i bet he was joking... but he could be serious. how do i found out if he was joking or serious w/o him finding out that i kinda was serious?
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go ask him what time is he picking you up.
If he was going to joke he probably would have done that when you first asked him
GOOD LUCK:}
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i've was a cutter for like 3 months and i decided to quit before i got sent away i've only been clean for a week..i know thats not long...but then i found out my friend killed himslef by cutting and i dont know how to handle that and my other friend has a problem with cutting...and im just really confused..?!?!
is there anything i can do to help my friend...
and how to i let my emotions out without hurting myself....please help!!
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Good job for quitting.I hope you don't do it anymore.Your friend needs help. If she doesn't stop you need to tell an adult who can get her help.Getting help yourself will keep you from hurting youself anymore too.Find someone you can trust to talk to. Maybe someone older.
Go out and scream, get a punching bag, write in a journal anything but cut or doing drugs!
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OK f/13/
i go to a privet school ok but don't think i am a prep. ok i have long blond hair and blue eyes, and i am short like maby 4'8" or 4' 9" and none of the guys in my grade(7th ) like me and its like i just feel realy left out some times from my friends and all the "popular" girls just go out with guys to have a boyfriend i think and i am like not desperat but i want to like some one and and want some one to like me with out it being grows . is this normal or am i just a freak over reacting. help and what do guys like in girls at the age about 13. (link)
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Well at 13 I wouldn't go into a panic about boys yet. Most boy's your age just aren't that interested in girls yet.Some maybe but not all.
Give it some time and the boys will be asking you out.You are perfectly normal! They just like girls who are fun to be around.
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i desperately need help to stop cutting.. im too scared everyone will judge me if i tell them, ive been doing it since i was 11 (now 16). i wanted to tell my best friend but i have already told her i got the scars from random accidents.. she has made jokes in the past about how they really look like self mutilation scars and she said 'i really dont understand how anyone could be into that.. 'i hate my life" *gestured cutting wrist. i was going to tell my teacher when he had a discussion with me on how i deal with emotions but i just couldnt say it. Theres no way i would talk to my mum because she would over react.. and i dont want to go to counseling because i heard they tell your parents.. how can i stop this by myself? i already write a journal, draw pictures and horse ride (link)
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You need to tell your mom and you need to get counselling.Is she gonna freak out about it, you betcha. But, you won't get help otherwise.You need it before it gets any worse than it already is. okay? :}
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i like this guy but i only see him during passing periods; i have no classes with him. we've talked a couple of times-he liked me a couple of months ago(i liked him too). now we don't see each other much and we don't talk, but i still really like him-i never made a move b/c i didn't knw that he liked me then until now... so basically my question is how do i start up a conversation again like during passing periods-just a way to get a chance to talk to him-i'm pretty good with knowing what kinds of things to say after..its just that i need his attention first and i don't want to sound too random. (link)
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Maybe you should tell him you miss passing him in the hallways.If he liked you a couple of months ago he probably still does.Make you move now, school will be out soon!
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My brother is sometimes nice to me but when he is mean to me he hits me or pushes me and kicks me. He is older than me and i dont know wut to do. I tell my mom and my sisters my mom says she is going to talk to them about it but she never does! My sisters tell him to stop and go to his room but he just does it when they rnt looking just a while ago he got my head and hit it against the wall. I want to talk to my mom about it but i don't know how to. Can u please help ASAP HELP Please i am begging i am so sad,And mad AHH help (link)
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Kick him in the groin next time.Yeah it will hurt but maybe he'll think twice before he does it again.Don't put up with it.
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Ok...me and 2 of my friends have been hangin out like every weekend alot lately. But these two girls were like freakin glued to each other before i came in. so like when we hang out its like an attention race. so lately we hung out like all day this weekend and then the next thing i know they havent called or anything. they ditched me alot in the past so they can just hang out with each other. What do i do>? everytime i try telling them how i feel they try to tell me that im "overeacting" i really wanna stay friends with these girls.
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Friendship really shouldn't be this hard.I know you won't like the answer, but i'd ditch them.If you want to stay friends with them then be prepared to hang out with them only when THEY decide to.They probably aren't going to change.
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Well, I'm not going to lie to you; I'm an average looking girl that happens to be Bosnian. And here's this not so average looking guy, who has THE most beautiful hair I've seen ever (aside from Mana ;D). And, well, lets just say that he seems perfect; lived in France, is Asian, his name starts with M, and he has perfect hair. Yes, I know I am weird.
Also, I am not saying that I am in love with him, since I've never talked to him. And he doesn't seem to have a clue I am there. I don't want to want to seem desprate for his attention, and I don't want to act stupid which I mostly am. I know, I know... I should act myself, but I want to make a good first impression, y'know? So I was wondering how I would approach him?
See, from what I observed, aside from the wonderful features he carries, is that he's really quite, something of an athlete, doesn't have a clue about me no matter how near I sit, doesn't speak much English (not like it matters xD I'll teach him! ...if you know what I mean -wink-). Did I mention he is quiet? Yup, well thats all I know when it comes to his personality.
I REALLY need some help with this! I mean, we're in 8th grade now, and it's close to be the end of the year and I don't know if I'll find him anywhere in high school. Y'know, 'cause it's a big school >. (link)
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You gave the answer yourself! He is quiet because he speaks little english.Offer to help him out! Maybe he needs help with an assignment or something.That would be a wonderful way of getting to know him i think!
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