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i've was a cutter for like 3 months and i decided to quit before i got sent away i've only been clean for a week..i know thats not long...but then i found out my friend killed himslef by cutting and i dont know how to handle that and my other friend has a problem with cutting...and im just really confused..?!?!
is there anything i can do to help my friend...
and how to i let my emotions out without hurting myself....please help!!
-Ababii
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to help your friend, you should talk to her/him and say you love them and you don't want them to hurt themselves
music is a great way to let out emotions!
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First of all congrats on stopping. That's great.
Anyway, you should let your friend know your concern about him/her cutting and see if you can convince them to stop if he/she doesn't then you need to tell an adult you can trust or an adult you know can help your friend.
After that, you've done everything you can to help them so there isn't really anything else you can do but focus on yourself.
You've already stopped cutting for 7 days, a sign that you CAN do it. Everytime you're feeling down and feel the urge to cut tell your self no. I know it's hard but tell your self you don't need to turn to the easy way out of your problems by locking your self away and cutting. You need to show yourself and everyone else that you can do it the hard way and face the problems head on.
If you can't stop then you should definatly tell an adult, parent or guardian you can trust and chances are you can find a good counselor to help you out. Which yeah, counseling doesn't sound to fun and some people think that only freaks go to counselling but if it'll help you out then it's worth going for.
Good luck, sweetie.
♥Em
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First of all, you can't be responsible for other people's actions. Let your friend know your concern, and if she/he won't get help, then you can tell an adult you trust. Once you've told that adult, the burden is off of you.
It's not callous to be worried about yourself; quitting cutting is hard enough without feeling worried about everyone else who cuts. Focus on yourself.
And if you've been clean for seven days, you've proved to yourself that you have willpower. You can do this. Look to those times of anger/sadness as a test - the next time you really feel the urge to cut, take some control over yourself and refuse to do it. If you can look at this as a way to gain control and take responsibility for yourself, it'll be much easier.
If you find you can't stay clean, then you need to find help. Your parents need to know, and chances are a good counsellor could really help you. In the meantime, don't avoid your emotions. It's okay to feel pissed off, sad, or confused. That means you are human, you are real, and you have feelings.
Your feelings are a part of you, and if you allow yourself time to explore them, you might find you don't need to avoid them by cutting. Get a journal, paint pictures, jump in puddles with friends.
Best of luck.
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Good job for quitting.I hope you don't do it anymore.Your friend needs help. If she doesn't stop you need to tell an adult who can get her help.Getting help yourself will keep you from hurting youself anymore too.Find someone you can trust to talk to. Maybe someone older.
Go out and scream, get a punching bag, write in a journal anything but cut or doing drugs!
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Try letting all your emotions out through writing in a journal or poetry. Does it sound dorky? Well its helped for a lot of people. I'm sorry about your loss. And a week is great, keep going..dont give up!
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