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is it just me, or is everyone getting really annoyed with people asking alicia questions. please someone ask a question or put a comment that doesn't involve 'alicia you're so pretty' or 'i want to be just like you'. it's soooo annoying me now, please if you want to ask her questions use email, don't clutter up the site's space with this rubbish!
P.S if you're alicia, please answer because i would like to know what you think of all this. thanx. (link)
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Yes, i'm wondering why they don't send these comments directly to her column. I'm trying to find where I left off, and it's a little hard to do when there's four or so pages of people talking to alicia. I have a few theories, one is that a lot are from the same person.
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I have a boyfriend and we get on really well when we're together. We've been going out for 4 months but we've known eachother for a lot longer. We were really good friends before we started going out.
The only thing is, lately he wants to see me 24/7. Don't we need space? I feel I need a bit of time on my own. But I dont know what to say to him. I don't want to hurt his feelings in anyway. When I say I have stuff to do he gets a bit annoyed.........well he kinda says its ok but he hints it a lot that hes not happy with it.
Please help me (link)
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He sounds like he doesn't have anyone else. You're going to have to tell him you need some time without him, he's just playing a guilt trip when he hints it. It sounds like he's chosing his own comfort over yours, so I would tell him you need space. You may be miserable if you don't.
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This mad sound stupid, I looking up yoga and all this. I relize that breathing lot helps ur mind or something..
wel thing is all my life I kinda talk to my self in my mind and this maybe sound silly sometims I'm not with my friends and I kinda pretend there in my mind talking to me. I know sound childest talking my self. I don't do it in pulublic. well in my mind I do somtimes. well my qestion is it okay do that unless don't controll and make thing in mind say thing in real life. if this dont make since it ok dont answer and yelling bout my grammer.. I sorry I am deaf and I have slow writing I do want wirt good. I like helping others and stuff. well thanks any way. thing is right now I typing this I hear my self in my mind saying it.. well I do have good memory..
Pls dont judge my grammer just keep reading it and maybe u get it try put ur self in my shoe just turn around or something.. u need learn becouse there maybe lot people someday writ asl not english.. thanks
u. this intressing how many of u met deaf people?
Manda (link)
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I know a few deaf people. I talk to myself all the time, it's perfectly normal. I heard it was a sign of genius.
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This summer is coming up, I maybe see my cusin well I love her so much she my best cusin and freind. well thing is that she can be on wild side and she drop out school get a job.. she likes punk music and stuff. I more of other side not punky and stuff like her. she hases these bypooler and deppression and she shave her head once. I want be ther for her and be her best friend agin like have good time and louhts but it hard becouse things inside me hurts what she doing to her self and I would talk to her but it wouldn't help.. I dont want judge my own cousin and I dont judge I just feel un combale things i dont know what to do.. (link)
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Well, I listen to a little bit of punk and have had my head shaved before, but then again I'm a guy. She has made her own decisions, the best thing you can do is remain close to her, and talk/listen to her when she needs it.
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Hi, My name is Ashleigh, I really hope some one can help me and not critize me when they give me there advice. I am envoloved with this guy named Mark, weve been together for 4 years..so, here's the problem.. Right here recently, I have started to have strong feelings for his friend {there not best friends or anything}. This guy, Jayson, has told me that he feels the same way. Both of us really like each other, and want to hookup! I love my boyfriend, but am not attracted to him as much as I am Jayson and I just love being around him. But the only time I can be around him is when he comes to my house. {me and my boyfriend live together} so it's like we dont have alot of time to do the things we both want to do. Can someone please give me some advice on what to do? Should I just stay with my boyfriend.....or go for all out happiness with this other guy? There also is one more problem...there is a 5 year age gap between us...me being the older one. (link)
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Break up with Mark, the flame has burnt out. If you don't you'll regret it for the rest of your life. The age gap isn't a problem at all.
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Hey!
oookkk i need major advice lol cause my friends def. dont give me any. i really like this guy, but he does a lot of stuff i dont like. he smokes a lot, drinks to much (i like to drink but he drinks all the time) and hes just kinda known as a "bad boy". a lot of people tell me i could do a lot better. he gets into trouble a lot and starts fights with people, but im really comfortable with him and i like the way he makes me feel. i dont know what balances out more or if its worth going through stuff he does... and if i should keep being with him cause i really like him but i really dont wanna get stuck in his drama and the stuff he does. i dont want to lead him on either... so if i should get away from him i need to. hes a really nice guy and he has a lot of friends and i know he would never hurt me... but the things he does really bothers me... and i dont like to see him get hurt or get in fights. I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!!
-kelly (link)
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I would remain close friends. You don't have to participate with him in the things you don't like. This fighting thing may be a phase, and it may not. Just talk to him about it, and you shouldn't worry about leading him on, I'm sure he knows where you two stand.
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my younger friend (she is in 5th Grade) keep's telling me about this boy who tells her things that are sick. And he won't leave her alone. Like, she'll go to the front of the bus and do it again. She's to afraid to tell her mom, so she asked me. I told her that she should tell the bus driver, her teacer, etc. But she's too afraid to do that. I asked her if she wnted me to talk to them and she didn't want that eather. She know's I'm a memeber of this site, so she asked me to post it. (she's not alowed on thease sights) Please help! (link)
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How old is this boy? One way or another someone will have to confront him about this. I guess it's her decision who does it. The best thing to do is tell on him. If she doesn't, then I guess you have to. The only other way I can think of is to confront the boy yourselves.
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i find myself too emotional, crying at every cute or even vaughly sad thing i see. I CRIED AT THE END OF VEGGIE TALES (the one that talks about not to be selfish) WHEN THE LITTLE ASPARAGUS CAME BACK FROM THE WAR!!!! how do i STOP this madness? this is affecting the friendships i have because i don't want them to know of my over emotional-ness. so i stay away from them. i've tried to hold my tears back but it doesn't seem to work! i've tried converting my sadness (if i'm crying because its sad) to anger or even happiness but i DOESNT WORK. how do i stop the endless flow of stupid stupid tears???? (link)
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First off, it might be clinical depression, perhaps set off my a chemical imbalance in your brain. No one wants to hear that though. If there's nothing to really cause your crying, I would see if there are pills you can take, like prozak, etc. I went through the exact same thing a few years ago. I didn't take any pills though. I would go to bed at around 8 (I usually stay up until around 4 am) just so no one would see me. The theme song to friends made me cry. Stupid stuff like that. It was a combination of all sorts of stress that caused this for me. I would stay away from anything sad. I would watch a lot of comedies, and if you do feel sad, go somewhere were you can let it all out, don't hold it in. I hung around my closest friends more, and discussed this with my best friend, that helped a lot. I'd also try getting too busy to think about it. I had two jobs and was going to school. When I wasn't doing this I was with friends or sleeping. I didn't have time to dwell on all of my problems. I hope you feel better.
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There is this guy i know , and i find him really confusing . The first time i met him , he was flirting slightly with me , by saying things like "you're very cute" and "you look older than you really are" . After this day , he became slightly colder towards me , like only saying hi and stuff . And today , he was back to being nice to me again , but not flirting . The thing is , i have a huge crush on him , and he is rumored to like this other girl , who is a year older than him . Some time ago , when i asked him while online on MSN messenger regarding whether he still has a crush on that girl , he said no . However , he is acting as though he likes her , or at least being really really friendly with her .
Usually , i am a really loud and cheerful person , but around him , i am rather shy . How can i overcome this ? What do guys think about girls - would you prefer someone gentle and soft or someone loud who acts like "one of the guys" ? (link)
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First off, a guy like me would never tell a girl he likes that h also likes another girl. If I had a thing for you, and you asked if I still had a crush on this other girl, I'd say I didn't even if I did. I would be afraid if you knew I had a crush on another girl, it would hurt the chances of us getting together. My point is he probably likes you, but he may still have a thing for the other girl. I think shy girls are adorable, I prefer that over "one of the guys". Don't get me wrong, I've had crushes on tomboys before, it's just shy girls are more endearing. I would find out how he feels about you, and I would do it soon. You never know how long he'll stay single. And you don't want to be bothered by the not knowing. Not knowing whether or not he felt the same way. You've probably heard that 10,000 times, but it's true.
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I hhave this friend, ooooh, let's call her Tish. Tish is my best friend, but she has one major fault. She lies. Not like "sarah said that..." to later find out sara said nothing. What I'm talking about is she lies to impress ME! I've tried telling her she doesn't have to lie to impress me, but she gets all mad at me. Hoow do I know they are lies? Let me give you an example: That's cool, but I went to ant-artica afer school in my private jet, and when we got there, I went shopping at Anchor Blue! I got everything in the store! PLEZZZEE HELP!! (link)
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I would just ignore her and nod along when she lies, I know a few people like that. One tried to convince us he was moving back to Jamaica, and a few days later someone saw him at the mall. I recently saw him at a comicbook store. This other guy told me he was the result of genetic engineering, and that he was getting married and had a son. He was only like 17 at the time.
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My friend wants to hook me up with this guy that I hardly even know! I know his name and that I am a few days older than him... but that is it. She asks me if I get to know him better of I would go out with him? I told her I don't know because I dont know him yet. She and her friend keep asking me if I think he is hot. I say "Umm sorta". What should I do?
PS he is my EX-Boyfriend's Best friend! (link)
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I don't think you should do much of anything. Like you said, you don't know him. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, since he doesn't even really know you, he can't be more than physically attracted to you. Just let things play out, and if you eventually get to know him, then so be it.
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Hi, it's my 15th birthday coming up soon, and I want to do something really good, like have a big party or something. The problem is, I want to invite all my friends (which span over a WIDE area - i have friends from loads of schools), but they don't all know each other, and some don't get along that well. Also, my best friend is a year younger and at a different school, but absolutely NONE of my other friends know her. I really want to invite all of them but I don't think they'll all enjoy it - especially my best friend as the only person she'll know is me. What shall I do? (link)
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I would invite all of your friends, but warn them of this. I would tell them that they may not know too many people, and list the people they know that are invited. Your best friend should definitely go, so try to have your other friends meet her, bring her up in conversations, etc. I had a similar situation, and it worked out fine. They all seemed to get along. Make sure you talk to all of your friends at the party so they don't get too bored or feel left out. good luck with the party.
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so i guess this falls under the auspices of home decorating (and clash references), in a way. i wanted to write to you because you are an artist, and perhaps you might understand my dilemma about spaces and places. i am a med student, so peace and quiet are nice things. pleasant surroundings also important for those few, precious moments at home. i moved into a GORGEOUS loft-style apt in a cool up-and-coming revitalizing-itself kinda neighborhood. my apt has a claw-foot tub, skylights that open to the fall new england air, stainless steel apps and the most gorgeous hardwoods you will ever see. problem is: my house was sold/bought during my lease, and the new owners are pushing a lot of construction through on the 1st fl. they claim it's nearly over, and i will be starting surgery soon (hence not at home as often to bothered by it, maybe..?). but i don't know whether to move or not. i found a new loft-style apt, and it has tons of charm, character, and the building is lovely and well-maintenanced. but it is not the same. the neighborhood is also not as cool, although, it is nice enough. i have to make a decision as i am trying to study for a major licensing exam, and i have allowed this to gnaw away at me. i am at the point of screaming or tearing my hair out with all the various stresses. any thoughts? much appreciated, sorry for the length. sincerest apologies. (link)
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If the new owners are causing you stress, I would move. You won't be as home as often, so maybe you won't be bothered by the dullness of the other appartment. Of course, this one does have a skylight. Enviroment is important, but I fear the new owners are ruining it with their construction. If you can, I would try to find a better place, but if you don't have time, and the new owners don't stop there construction soon, I would move.
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i wanted an advice regarding an adolescence problem i have to work and study a lot ,in my proffesion and i am good at my work, but once in 10 -15 days when i feel stressed,or irritated,because i couid not perform well,as i expected to,and get tired of work,i tend to masturbate even though uptill now i have never been attracted to such things , i have never kept any porn magazines never been affected much by so much bad stuff around in t.v. p.c.etc.nowdays once in 15 days on feeling stressed,iwould watch porn sites on my p.c.,ftv..i am 26 yrs old, have many friends ,both girls and boys,have never indulged in looose talk about girls with my friends,and i like girls if they are good natured ,nice and polite to others,respect their elders,i do get attracted if i see a charming face or a person who loves to smile,but have faith in destiny and dont feel restless now if i could not get to know her ...i really want to know that is it normal that i do this in 10-15 days .whatever i read in papers and hear from my friends i feel that i should not feel so bad as i do ,once i masturbate than for 1-2 days i cannot study as i feel low and feel hesitant to talk to others, to my friends, i have talked about this to my parents and they say that at this age certain thoughts are normal,but than i feel bad that if they were to see me behaving like this than they would feel very hurt,in religious books it is written that it is sinful,but when nowdays i read in papers and listen to my friends when they talk amongst each other i feel that i am better off and that even girls tend to masturbate as dont speak about it. i had been abused as a child and in my teens i would masturbate once in 6months or 3months,earlier i used to keep 1-2 magazines of seminude women butthan i threw them away but nowafter every 15 days,i tend to do it on being stressed, it is not that suddenly i feel attracted to nude girls it is just that when i do it i am irritated inside about not performing well ,could have worked harder,and by this way, knowing that it is not right to behave this way, i do it to relieve the stress,my feelings for a girl does not change and i respect them for their actions,rather than the appearance i look at the soul than the body ,even though girls nowdays are not as simple as earlier . i will be grateful if you could advice me on this as uptill now i did not know whom to talk too and carry a huge burden,i will be grateful if both man and specially a woman can advice me on this ,as i would get to know that is this normal or abnormal and really a bad thing, and i would also get to know a ladies perspective ,and also if i can get to know from girls and boys from my age but would prefer a mature man or a woman advicing me on this and whether am i being a hypocrite in front of others,whatever is in my heart i speak so when i behave like this,i feel hesitant to talk to others and wonder whether the boys and girls of my age and my batchmates also do such things and if they do, howcome it doesnot effect them i stay in india have lots of respect for my culture,i am the only child,dont talk to my friends about these things,they also know my nature and they respect me for that. i am a doc dont have any other bad habits dont smoke dont drink .would be grateful if you could advice me as i will be able to perform better in my work and a huge burden of doing such a thing and feeling low for 1-2 days would not be there in my head...thankingyou.....sorry (link)
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Most guys do this, though some may not admit it. You sound perfectly normal. It sounds like your being too hard on yourself, I'm guessing it's because of the stress. And it does affect people your age, they just do a good job hiding it. Since this bothers you so much, maybe you should find a different means of dealing with stress. Maybe get a massage once a week, or every other week, or something along those lines. I hope you can stop feeling low, and start feeling better about yourself. You good person, and your concern proves it. Some wouldn't even give it a second thought.
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I'm 13 years old, a girl, and I go to school with this boy. We are always flirting and I like him a lot. I would like to date him, but he has a girlfriend. He is wonderful, and I would do anything to go out with him. Is there anyway to get him to like me more than her? or some other way for him to dump her and to be with him? Any way for me to be with him is ok, I am open to any suggestions. (link)
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I wouldn't do much. It might be obvious that you're trying to break them up if you try anything. If that happens, the boy might get mad. I would just wait it out, a lot of relationships don't last very long at this age anyway.
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NO MORE
You laugh at me. You point, you say "how Weird" you say "how Ugly" you say "how Stupid".
I turn the other cheek so you can just laugh and point some more.
I have cryed my tears. I have hated myself for you.
I will always be here and you can't change that.
You will never make me feel bad again. NEVER!
So you better give up!
When I see you I laugh and say "How Pathetic!".
You have put me through this to make yourself feel good.
No More.
I have cryed my tears. I have hated myself for you But no more.
K.J.B.
Hi all advicenators! This is the only peom I have been able to write in the last 4 months and I was wondering if this is a good poem. i also want to know if I did all punctuation right? please answer it would be helpful.
K.J.B. (link)
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Punctuation isn't important in poetry, so no problem there. The only thing you want to steer from is the overuse of !. ! gets the point, but most of the time poets use subtlety. Most poems aren't very good unless they're very descriptive, symbolic, or detailed, but it looks as though you put a lot of emotion into it. A lot of the time it doesn't work in poems, but it might work here. At least you didn't try to rhyme, a lot of poems are ruined that way. One things for sure, it might make a good song. If you want to here one of mine, just ask me at my column. My teachers in poetry thought poems weren't successful if they're emotional, I happen to disagree.
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My brother has a gf. and i like her as a friend (im a girl im not lesbian) shes a good girl. and she wont break his heart. hes been hurt in the past. thing is he has like these mood swings and he has a trust issue with people outside of me and the rest of my bros. she wants to help him out and understand him better but like i said before he has a trust issue. but he says he loves her and everything. thing is i know that she wont stand for his mood swings and all that much longer i want to help him and her so they stay together. i dont want my brother to get his heart broke again. they're a good couple. HELP! (link)
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Try to convince your brother to open up to his girlfriend. He might listen to you considering you're one of the few he trusts. My friend, S., had the same problem with her boyfriend, he could open up to her, and had weird moods. She eventually dumped him. If he really loves her, he should be able to trust her, and open up to her. But if he can't, and she breaks up with him, then I guess they just weren't meant to be together. But you'll still have both of them as friends, they just won't be together. Trust is normally essential in a healthy relationship.
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ok, im a 16 almost 17 year old female. i have been datign this guy (Let's Call Him M) for about 2 months. and i love him, i truly do, and he lives in a different town. and about 3 weeks ago my ex (lets call him J) kinda randomly came to see me (we hadnt even talked since december my freshman year...im juss now ending my junior year) so i was excited...me an J were really good friends, then we started hanging out together. he took me to my concert, and i told M about how we were hanging out and he got all jelouse and we almost broke up. btu we are ok now, except, i have realized that i still have lotz of feelingz for J. and i dont know what to do!!!! please help me some one!!!!!!! (link)
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How far away does J live. Long distant relationships rarely work out. If the town he lives in is close, and you see each other a lot, I would find out how he feels. I can understand M getting jealous, if a girl I was dating started hanging out with her ex a lot, I'd be a little jealous too. If J still loves you, think hard about who you'd rather be with, and end it with the other guy.
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There is this boy... lets call him Andy! I really like Andy... but how can I tell him again? I went out with him before because he liked me... but that was only for a day! He has a girlfriend that is like really nice to me and I dont want to break them up... And I dont want his girlfriend to get mad at me and not want to talk to me ever again! I know they love eachother because on their shirts his girlfriend wrote I love Andy and Andy wrote I love (his girlfriend) Just because i am afraid to talk to him does that mean i dont like him? Whenever i talk to him i talk all like flirty but i dont know if we have anything. I really dont want to break him and his girlfriend up but IIIIIII really like him.... I think.... :(....... AHH HELP!!!! (link)
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I would just stay friends with them. They sound like they got a good thing going. There's no harm in being flirtatious, but don't overdo it. Especially if you're not sure of your feelings. If they can't work it out and break up in the future, then you should find out how you feel about each other.
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i go to winnfield middle school and we have school uniforms and i started a petition to get rid of them. so i had alot of names until the principal caught me and said she didn't authorize it. how can i get rid of uniforms without having to get it authorized. i thought about gettin people to sign it off of school grounds.
p.s. if anybody here goes to winnfield middle school e-mail me at edt_09@yahoo.com (link)
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your principle sounds like a real pain. Get your petition signed outside of school, but in the end it won't do much good. the odds of changing your principle's mind slim. Good thing you're only there for a couple of years, right?
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