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I have a boyfriend and we get on really well when we're together. We've been going out for 4 months but we've known eachother for a lot longer. We were really good friends before we started going out.
The only thing is, lately he wants to see me 24/7. Don't we need space? I feel I need a bit of time on my own. But I dont know what to say to him. I don't want to hurt his feelings in anyway. When I say I have stuff to do he gets a bit annoyed.........well he kinda says its ok but he hints it a lot that hes not happy with it.
Please help me
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Tell him you all need your space.. you still need your friends and family you can't have a boyfriend with you constantly or you're gonna lose your close friends and everything. If he begins wanting to see you alot that's obcessiveness and then comes the controllingness and it gets really hard and you're so in love you can't get out.. so please sweetie watch out. Talk to him about it.
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sit him down and say that u need sum time and that u don't want to spend all ur time with him if he gets annoyed then say that ur srry and then set a date with him if dumps u then forget him b/c hes not the guy for u
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well, he probably juss wants to be wit u a lot. doesnt wanna loose u....but girls def. need some space from guys, juss like tell him u need some time to urself n like maybe do something wit him one day n something wit u or u n ur friends another day. cuz u dont wanna get sick of each other by bein wit each other too much! need ne thing else...juss holler!
-meg!
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I feel exactly what you're going through. My boyfriend is the same way...but, I've learned that you can't change your life because someone else wants you to. You just need to go on and do the things you do, and if he really loves you, it won't matter that you can't do things with him 24/7 and he'll understand where you're coming from. Being apart sometimes makes the times when your together a little more better~ I hope this helped~
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This sounds so familiar. Tell him how you feel. Seriously. He needs to know that you don't need him 24/7 and that he probably doesn't need you either. You are probably the only thing he has right now and he wants to be a part of you, but sometimes, you just need to tell him that you want to hang out with other people, and not just him. If he gets mad, then maybe you'll just need to take a break. I know that's not always the best thing but then maybe you'll realise some things. He's just trying to make you feel bad and you shouldn't let a guy do that to you.
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He sounds like he doesn't have anyone else. You're going to have to tell him you need some time without him, he's just playing a guilt trip when he hints it. It sounds like he's chosing his own comfort over yours, so I would tell him you need space. You may be miserable if you don't.
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Don't let him push you around like that. So what if you're not with him 24/7? You're going to need to tell him that you have a life outside of your relationship. If he's a good bf, he should understand. If not, then he wasn't good enough for you in the first place.
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The key to any successful relationship is two fold. 1)trust and 2)communication. Both are neccessary. So first you have to figure out why all of a sudden your boyfriend insists upon spending every waking moment with you. Does he have issues with trust, stemming from past relationships? After you address the trust issue, it is imperative that you make sure the lines of communication are open. Your feelings in this relationship are just as important as his, and as long as you are addressing these issues in a sesitive and respectful way there should be no problem. Everyone is entitled to their personal space, encourage him to spend time with his friends or take up a hobby. But in the end if you don't feel as if you can speak openly with your significant other then your relationship can never be as fulfilling or long lasting as you'd like. Good Luck.
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everyone needs there space let him know that and if he dosen't except that so be it but everyone needs a little bit of there own space so you dont get tired of your relationship that quick <3 all my love lala
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Well, everyone needs some time by themselves. Tell him how you feel, you can never go wrong by that. No one knows him better than you in your relationship so tell him you feel you need some nights to yourself or go out with some of your friends. If he loves you and cares for you, he should understand no matter HOW much he will miss you!
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