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Dating a guy, Flame for Ex Arises (again)
ok, im a 16 almost 17 year old female. i have been datign this guy (Let's Call Him M) for about 2 months. and i love him, i truly do, and he lives in a different town. and about 3 weeks ago my ex (lets call him J) kinda randomly came to see me (we hadnt even talked since december my freshman year...im juss now ending my junior year) so i was excited...me an J were really good friends, then we started hanging out together. he took me to my concert, and i told M about how we were hanging out and he got all jelouse and we almost broke up. btu we are ok now, except, i have realized that i still have lotz of feelingz for J. and i dont know what to do!!!! please help me some one!!!!!!!
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Make sure that the feelings you have for J are not just .. the Old kind of emotions. Do you really like him again? Or is it just that you've been hanging out with him a lot? I know this can be hard but it's something you have to decide.
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Make sure these aren't just OLD emotions you felt with J backwhen ya'll were something. That tends to happen when you spend alot of time with an old flame, the way things use to be start to pop up in your head. But you've met someone else. Your boyfriend now you obviously care about, and him being in a different city might make things a little more difficult, but i'm sure it's worth it. Don't go on the feelings you may have for J, they could just be old feelings you use to have,a nd thinking of the way things use to be coming up. Ya'll ended for a reason, whatever that may be. But now M is in your life and if you love him, the you don't want to lose him.
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Many people have been faced with similar situation to yours at one time or the other. It feels like it's impossilbe to choose between these two guys because I'm sure you find the qualities, personalities or sense of humour that you love, in each of them. But you have to make a choice because it's not fair on J,you and especially M.
You need to be calm and relaxed to think this situation over. Do you see any future with either of them? One thing that's always helped me is something my mother told me, that true love always puts the other person first. It's an unselfish feeling. It makes you want to give and share with him/her. While infatuation just focuses on yourself and makes you think, 'what does this do for me?'
Well, be honest with yourself and if you just cannot be sure, it's not the end of the world to be without a boyfriend for awhile till you figure out what you want in a relationship. But don't make any rush decision you might regret later.
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How far away does J live. Long distant relationships rarely work out. If the town he lives in is close, and you see each other a lot, I would find out how he feels. I can understand M getting jealous, if a girl I was dating started hanging out with her ex a lot, I'd be a little jealous too. If J still loves you, think hard about who you'd rather be with, and end it with the other guy.
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