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I was the one who got kicked out and i saw the advice and they said to clean the house and stuff.. well i already do that and they dont apprciate it.I also watch my lil sis 24/7 and they are korean and i dont communicate with them well cuz they dont really lisen or try to understand.I try to understand where they come from but alot of times it doesnt make since.But i have tried talkin to them and they tell me to shut up. so i have no place to talk to them and they are barely ever home.I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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Hi, it sounds like you're having a hard time with your parents. It's good that you've tried to understand where they're coming from, because remember, your parents are also humans with feelings like yours. They might be feeling very insecure about bringing you up in US, instead of Korea. Most likely their beliefs and their way of thinking clash with yours simply because of cultural differences. So when you want to go out and have fun, your parents might just see that as a bad influence and worry about losing you. Why don't you try to take a personal interest in your parents? Ask them about their work, hobbies, favorite films etc. and if possible do simple things together (such as go food shopping with them), rather than you doing something for them or vice versa. Once your parents know that you're interested in and aware of the reasons for some of their feelings, chances are they’ll try to be more aware of yours. Write them a letter if they're always out. Don't assume they know how you feel. Communicate your feelings and explain why you want to do certain things. But never accuse them or blame them. Reassure your parents that you're not going off the rails. It will definitely take time for your parents to accept that you're growing up. But hang in there. They will come around.
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MY FRIEND ALISA IS A 34 YEAR OLD SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 YOUNG GIRLS. ALISA HAS BEEN GOING DOWN HILL FOR SOME TIME NOW, HER HOUSE IS ALWAYS DIRTY AND SHE SPENDS MOST OF HER TIME LOCK INSIDE HER BATHROOM
SMOKING CRANK. 3 WEEKS AGO SHE GOT A VISIT FROM CPS AND THEY GAVE HER A DRUG TEST - SHE FAILED SO HER CHILDREN WERE SENT TO LIVE WITH ALISA'S DAD AND STEP MOM UNTILL SHE CAN GET ENROLLED INTO A YEAR LONG REHAB PROGRAM. THE PROBLEM IS SHE NOW HAS THE FREEDOM TO RUN THE STREETS WITH OUT DRAGGING HER KIDS ALONG - THATS ALWAYS EASYER TO DO. SHE HASN'T EVEN TRIED TO FIND A PROGRAM YET AND WHEN I ASK HER ANYTHING ABOUT HER PLANS SHE SAYS SHE DOSN'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH DRUGS AND DOSN'T FEEL SHE NEEDS REHAB. SHE SAYS SHE LOVES HER GIRLS AND THAT SHE WILL GO JUST BECAUSE SHE'LL NEVER GET THE KIDS BACK IF SHE DOSN'T.
EVERY WEEK FOR 3 WEEKS SHE HAS PROMISED THAT COME NEXT MONDAY SHE'LL TRUN HER SELF IN TO A CENTER - YET SHE IS STILL NOT THERE.
I'M SO VERY DISAPPOINTED IN HER , IF SHE DECIDES TO JUST LET THE KIDS GO AND STAYS IN THE SHAPE SHE IS IN RIGHT NOW THEN I WANT NOTHING MORE TO DO WITH HER !
WHAT DO YOU THINK I COULD DO TO HELP HER MAKE A WISE DECISION ? (link)
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Hi, I wish I had a friend like you. You're genuinely concerned and you have her best interest at heart. But at the same time, there's only so much you can do for her. One of the biggest problems for a drug addict is to admit that they have a problem in the first place. Until they're prepared to face the truth, no amount of talking or persuasion will get through to them. So, as frustrating as it sounds, it's not up to you to make things better for her. She needs to work that out for herself. So, don't feel guilty or responsible if she doesn't get her act together. Ultimately it's her choice. But meanwhile, let her know you're there for her but also make it clear that you hate what she's doing to herself and her kids. Keep encouraging her to go to a rehab center. Even if she goes there for wrong reasons, it's better than not going there at all. Most of all don't forget to take care of yourself.
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i have liked this guy(lets call him *B*) for about 8 months. he has changed my life completely around. i like him so much, i can talk to him about anything. and he makes me feel like a princess. he is like the ideal guy. except he has changed me and not for the best. before i used to be the sweetest girl who wouldn't make-out with guys a lot. but now all my friends are like to me "god you spend all your time with him now" and their all like "its not my fault.. cuz *B* is kinda controling" Now last nite my bestfriend told me that eventually i am gonna have to choose between haveing *ALL* my good friends or the GUY!.. but i like him soo much!!!!What should i do?? PLEASE HELP ME!
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Hi, you have a responsibility to make sure that there is a BALANCE between how much time you spend with your friends and how much time you spend with your boyfriend.
Your friends must feel left out and hurt, because it sounds like since you started seeing this boy, you don't seem to have time for your friends at all! I'm sure you want to be with this boy as much as possible, but don't neglect your friends because you'll miss them when they're gone. Make time for your friends, let them know you still value their friendship and show them you care. They at least deserve that much. They are still sweet enough to blame your boyfriend and not you for all this. They think he's too controlling. Well, is he? No one has the right to make you choose between friends and a boyfriend. They are all important part of your life and your friends as well as your boyfriend should accept that fact and respect you for it. So, if you can't strike that balance because your boyfriend is too controlling, then it's time to seriously think about if he is really right for you or not. I'm sure you can't even see one tiny fault in him at the moment. But a righy guy will have a positive influence on you because relationship is all about 'give and take'.
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oookkk i need major advice lol cause my friends def. dont give me any. i really like this guy, but he does a lot of stuff i dont like. he smokes a lot, drinks to much (i like to drink but he drinks all the time) and hes just kinda known as a "bad boy". a lot of people tell me i could do a lot better. he gets into trouble a lot and starts fights with people, but im really comfortable with him and i like the way he makes me feel. i dont know what balances out more or if its worth going through stuff he does... and if i should keep being with him cause i really like him but i really dont wanna get stuck in his drama and the stuff he does. i dont want to lead him on either... so if i should get away from him i need to. hes a really nice guy and he has a lot of friends and i know he would never hurt me... but the things he does really bothers me... and i dont like to see him get hurt or get in fights. I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!!
-kelly (link)
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Hi, I'm sure this boy seems exciting and different to other guys and makes you feel special. But focusing on his good points will not make his bad side go away and it certainly in no way excuses his violence or too much drinking etc. Understandably, you're bothered by what he does (anyone would be) and you should not have to compromise your values and morals just so you can be with him. You said you 'don't want to get stuck in his drama', but if you keep spending time with him, that's inevitable. Soon or later, you'll get involved. Sometimes your feelings for him is not enough when it comes to maintaining a relationship, because it's not up to you to stop him from getting hurt or getting into fights. You can't change him against his will. I know we can't choose who we fall for, but that doesn't mean that the person we're attracted to is right or compatible for us. Think very had about whether you can honestly see much future in this relationship.
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in 5th grade i moved up north. and i met this boy named mark, who happened to be my neighbor. the first time i saw him, i had a crush on him. i mean im a girl who never even thought about boys, until i saw him. i found out later he liked me and we went out in 6th grade-- for 9 months, then i broke up with him because he never talked to me like he used to. and he understood where i was coming from, and yet we still liked each other-- a lot. in 7th grade, we went out, and then his friend came riding around the block saying that he didn't want to go out with me. the same year, i decided to give him another chance, but he dumped me again. then there i was sitting there with a broken heart. and i promised myself as well as my best friend that i would never ever go out with him again. well soon enough, in 8th grade, i gave him another chance, i thought he would change-- but he didn't. we went out for about 3-4 months. i was at my neighbor's house, and i found out he liked lisa behind my back. i found this conversation at his house, and it was all this perverted crap with her. i was furious. so of course we broke up-- again. this time was different, we didn't talk for about 3 months. then slowly we started becoming friends again, and 5 more months after that we got closer and i kissed him. and we also cuddled a lot. all my feelings started rushing back. i mean he was the first guy i ever liked, and cared about. a few days later he asked me out-- and i had the guts to say no. it hurt me so bad, because i liked him soo much, but i couldn't stand getting another heart break. that night i found out he started telling people he liked my best friend. my bestfriend & i both knew that he was just trying to get revenge on me because i turned him down. and later we found out that it was all just an act. he was mad at me for awhile, and i didn't blame him for being mad because i would be too. and then we became close friends again, and just recently we have became friends with benefits. he likes this other girl(lets call her *A*). and me too. but A would never go out with him. but now i regret saying no to him, because he is telling people that he will never ask me out again because i rejected him. but i really do like him, im just scared to get hurt again. do you think i should just forget him-- cuz highschool is next year(remember i have to see him everyday of summer because he is my neighbor and friends with my brother). should i give him one last chance? i really need your opinion on this. i have been confused for years, and i just can't seem to let him go. do you have any tips? anything would help at this point.
-confused (link)
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Hi there, what a history you've got with this boy! I am going to be very honest and frank, so it may not be what you want to hear. But here it goes. The answer to your question "do you think I should forget him?" is a big YES. First of all, from what you've said, you already gave him all the chances under the sun as it is and he blew it every time. He does not deserve another chance. Just count the number of times you've been out with this boy and the number of times you’ve been heart broken! Statistics alone are against you! Secondly, he does not sound like a very nice person. As you've said it yourself, he told people he liked your best friend just to get even. Now, it does not matter if he'd meant it or not. The fact remains that he was prepared to put you through all that, just so he could feel better about himself. And that sounds like a very selfish person. He may have been very mad, but if he really cared about you, the way you care about him, he would not have even thought about getting revenge. If it were the other way round, and he rejected you, would you tell people anything to hurt him? I don't think you would, because you like and respect him as a person. So, isn't it clear that he hasn't treated you fairly and with proper respect you deserve? The only things he cares about are his ego and pride. His ego has been dented because you said no to him and he just doesn't like it. He is probably used to getting things his way. He needs a lot of growing up to do and he's not mature enough for you. I'm sure you really like him and I'm sure he may seem like the perfect guy, but it's time to move on. It's not true that you can't let him go. The simple truth is, you're holding on to him because you choose to. No one is forcing you to do anything. So, it's up to you now to make that choice. You're in control.
Remember when two people are meant for each other, you won't be confused, you'll know. So there's another sign you should think about.
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hi there- this probably has little in the way to do with relationships, per se, at least of the interpersonal sort, but it has everything to do with work and study. i'm in a bit of a panic... could use some advice on a living situation.
thanks for reading! if you get this twice (if no one replies), i'm sorry :).
i am a med student, so peace and quiet are nice things. pleasant surroundings also important for those few, precious moments at home. i moved into a GORGEOUS loft-style apt in a cool up-and-coming revitalizing-itself kinda neighborhood. my apt has a claw-foot tub, skylights that open to the fall new england air, stainless steel apps and the most gorgeous hardwoods you will ever see. problem is: my house was sold/bought during my lease, and the new owners are pushing a lot of construction through on the 1st fl. they claim it's nearly over, and i will be starting surgery soon (hence not at home as often to bothered by it, maybe..?). but i don't know whether to move or not. i found a new loft-style apt, and it has tons of charm, character, and the building is lovely and well-maintenanced. but it is not the same. the neighborhood is also not as cool, although, it is nice enough. i have to make a decision as i am trying to study for a major licensing exam, and i have allowed this to gnaw away at me. i am at the point of screaming or tearing my hair out with all the various stresses. any thoughts? much appreciated, sorry for the length. thanks!
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Hi, I’m sorry you have to put up with so much noise and distraction, when being a med student is stressful enough.
Your apartment sounds absolutely fantastic and I can see why you can’t find anything else like it. But I think you need to put the whole situation into perspective and look at it in a long term, because at the moment you’re just focusing on the present. So, think of your future. What is your ultimate goal? Is it to become a doctor, surgeon or nurse? If yes, then you have to concentrate on what you need to do to achieve that goal. Right now clearly the whole situation is getting to you and sounds like you’ve reached the breaking point. So, it will most likely affect the way you study and perform during your exams. You’re carrying unnecessary stress and tension which are taking you away from your goal.
I think your future is more important than living in a perfect place at this moment in time. There will be plenty of time for that when you’re established.
I know the other apt is not the same, I know it’s the second best for you, but as you’ve said it’s nice enough isn’t it. So, think calmly about whether you can compromise on the style, design or the location of your apt, or whether you can ‘grin and bear’ the construction at least till the end of your exams. Also remember that if you decide to move, that itself might create added disruption to your study routine. Is it possible to go to someone else’s house for some peace and quiet for awhile till the work done to your house is over? Whatever you decide to do, you have to be comfortable with it. Besides, life is supposed to be difficult! And one day, in 10 years from now you’ll be laughing and reminiscing about these ‘good old student days’. So keep your sense of humor and you’ll be fine.
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ok, im a 16 almost 17 year old female. i have been datign this guy (Let's Call Him M) for about 2 months. and i love him, i truly do, and he lives in a different town. and about 3 weeks ago my ex (lets call him J) kinda randomly came to see me (we hadnt even talked since december my freshman year...im juss now ending my junior year) so i was excited...me an J were really good friends, then we started hanging out together. he took me to my concert, and i told M about how we were hanging out and he got all jelouse and we almost broke up. btu we are ok now, except, i have realized that i still have lotz of feelingz for J. and i dont know what to do!!!! please help me some one!!!!!!! (link)
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Many people have been faced with similar situation to yours at one time or the other. It feels like it's impossilbe to choose between these two guys because I'm sure you find the qualities, personalities or sense of humour that you love, in each of them. But you have to make a choice because it's not fair on J,you and especially M.
You need to be calm and relaxed to think this situation over. Do you see any future with either of them? One thing that's always helped me is something my mother told me, that true love always puts the other person first. It's an unselfish feeling. It makes you want to give and share with him/her. While infatuation just focuses on yourself and makes you think, 'what does this do for me?'
Well, be honest with yourself and if you just cannot be sure, it's not the end of the world to be without a boyfriend for awhile till you figure out what you want in a relationship. But don't make any rush decision you might regret later.
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I'm 13 years old, a girl, and I go to school with this boy. We are always flirting and I like him a lot. I would like to date him, but he has a girlfriend. He is wonderful, and I would do anything to go out with him. Is there anyway to get him to like me more than her? or some other way for him to dump her and to be with him? Any way for me to be with him is ok, I am open to any suggestions. (link)
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I know how it feels like to find that someone special and wanting to be with that person at all costs. But unfortunately we can't make him/her like us, just as we can't make ourselves like someone else. If you push him and force him to make a choice between you and his girlfriend, you're not giving him or yourself the fair opportunity. I'm sure you want him to want you out of his own choice and like you for who you are. So don't rush it.
If he really likes you, he will leave his girlfriend. Till then try getting to know him as a friend and be yourself. But one thing that bothers me is that he is flirting with you even though he has a girlfriend. So, what stops him from flirting with other girls apart from you or worse, flirting with someone else when you're his girlfriend?
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okay lots of adults say im so pretty and ive had lots of boyfriends even the ones that are superpopular and i am semipopular and every1 knows me but i feel like im ugly cuz some people say i am and then they turn around and be like damn gurl you got a nice butt let me hit that and then there are those who i talk to and we have a good time but they dont wanna go out with me what do i have to do to get boys to like me and how can i attract boys and what is my problem (link)
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From what you've told us, you're measuring yourself totally against what other people say and think of you. So your opinion of yourself is completely based on outside influences which inevitably means (whether consciously or subconsciuosly) you are letting other people control your thinking and feelings therefore your actions too. But what matters most is what you think of yourself. Do you think you're pretty? Do you like who you are? When you know yourself better than anyone else, it won't matter if someone calls you stupid, ugly or weird, because you know the truth. We don't need other people to define who we are.
I know we all care about what others think of us to some extent because we are social animals. But we cannot let that rule our life. Otherwise we would be too self-conscious to do anything. So, try not to take in everything people say to you but learn to be confident with who you are. Confidence is definitely attractive and it will make you look and feel mature and not desperate. And you will find a right boy just for you, rather than any boy.
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i know its ok to not be happy all the time...but what about all the time. I'd hate to say depressed but its coming to that. People look at you funny if you say you have a mental propblem and i cant stand psyco-analasis doctors. I dont like to ask for advice either but what the hell is going to hurt now? Just kinda lost on what to do.. (link)
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I'm glad you've decided to share your feelings with us.
If you're always feeling helpless or worthless or if you think your life is pointless and you've just lost interest/desire to do anything, then you're most likely depressed. But depression is not a mental problem, it's an emotional one. A mental illness is usually a term used where someone basically has lost the ability to use their brains in a proper/normal manner such as schizophrenia. So, that may be the reason why people were giving you funny looks. You do not have to go and see a psychoanalyst if you don't want to. But it's always a good idea to talk to someone you can trust or if not, call a free helpline to figure out where your unhappiness stems from. Many people who are depressed know something's lacking or not quite right. But they just cannot pinpoint their cause of sadness. So they often think it's something out of their control and continue to suffer. But believe it or not, there is always a reason and once you know, you can then ask yourself what has to change in your life to make you feel better. Remember only action will make things better for you. It may seem like too big a mountain to climb, but you will reach the other side. Thousands of people have come through depression and so can you.
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I have finals for school coming up next week and I'm in a studying rage at the moment.
What's the best way to study large amounts of material? And how do I keep from forgetting it all right after I've read it? (link)
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There's no one method of studying that works for eveyone. So think back to what worked for you in the past. But as general rules, keep in mind these points. Concentration is THE key when it comes to studying and remembering what you've learned. So, find a quiet place that is set aside for study such as a public library where there is less distraction (no TV, music, food or anything to keep you off track).
Most likely you have a good idea of what might come up in your finals. So survey your material. Glance through it, looking at subheadings, charts, and so forth, in order to get an overall view of it. Next, make up questions based on chapter titles or topic sentences. (This keeps your mind focused on what you read.) Now read, looking for the answers to these questions. When you have finished each paragraph or section, recite, or tell yourself from memory, what you have read, without looking at the book. And when you have finished the entire textbook etc., review by scanning headings and testing your memory of each section. Write down important points, visualise certain details or draw picutres if it helps you more. When you feel you have an adequate knowledge base to draw on for each topic, move on to the next. Don't leave the most difficult topics till last. And remember to take a short break every hour! Your brain will cope better! Do your best and you'll be fine.
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This really bothers me. My mother-in-law in particular does this. First of all, to those that do this, STOP IT! Nobody knows everything. Just because you know something that someone else does'nt know, that does not make you better or smarter than them. And even if you are smarter, let's say more educated, you can still be respectful when answering a question. This also applies to you advice people. I'll give you an example that happened today with my mother-in-law. She is getting her house painted and I asked her why her house had spots all over it, and she answers in this patronizing way " They have to fill in all the holes and cracks, they can't just leave it like that and slap paint on it. Well excuuuse me. I don't know anything about painting houses, and I told her that I didn't realize that's what they were doing, and she didn't have to make me feel dumb. Then she says that it was a dumb question. She is so rude and hurtful it makes me so angry. If it was me, and I knew about house-painting, and someone asked me this question I would have simply and politely stated that it was spackle to fill in the holes and cracks. I guess some people like to lord it over people even about stupid things just to make themselves feel superior. If this happens again, with her or someone else, can someone give me an example of a good comeback or tell me how to handle myself better? I ended up saying "Thanks for making me feel stupid." Which I'm sure was not the best way to respond. She didn't say anything. Smug people really bug me! (link)
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Do you think you would get along well with your mother-in-law if she didn't make these patronising comments? Probably not, because it seems to be her way of making sure you get the message that she doesn't like you. She could be jealous. She perhaps still can't accept you as a member of her family. Who knows?
I know you're angry and upset understandably because no one wants and deserves to be treated like a fool. But honestly these people are not worth it. Don't stoop to their level by saying something sarcastic back. It may make you feel better but if you do, they'll know they can get to you. Instead, if you still want to say something, calmly tell the other person that there was absolutely no need for them to be patronising, it was a simple enough question and that you do not appreciate being spoken to in that way. Mention the fact that you're both adults, so you should be civil to each other like grown up adults should be. They may come back again with rude and hurtful comments, but at least by doing that they've just proved your point that they're acting childishly.
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Hola. Ok, I have a bit of a problem, I guess you could call it that, anyway. Yeah, so like, my ex boyfriend and I broke up last summer. And, we're just now starting to talk again. He has a new girlfriend, and I'm cool with that. I still care about him, but I feel as though I've moved on (it took me awhile). And, I just want to be friends. But, I always have to initiate conversation. Which, I don't mind too much. And, sometimes he'll talk a lot. Like, when we were dating, but sometimes he'll spend the entire conversation answering me with one word. It kind of frustrates me a little bit, because I would like to be friends with him again. He's a person I admire very much, in a friend kind of way. I tried to confront him about it, he just appologised and started talking more for awhile, but now he's back to one worded answers again. Am I bothering him? Or could it be, that he's just busy doing other things while he's talking to me? I know its something no one, but him can answer for sure. I would just like to know what everyone might think is going on with him. Thanks. (link)
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You said you're just starting to talk again since the break up last summer which was about 8 to 10 months ago.(I don't know exactly when you broke up). So there's a gap of almost a year of not seeing or speaking to each other. And that's a long gap. He'll need time to get used to the new 'just friends' relationship with you. He most likely doesn't know how to act around you just as a friend. It's especially difficult for him because he has a new girlfriend. My guess is he doesn't want to upset both you and his girlfriend. So, he is probably trying to find a middle ground. He won't want to seem too enthusiastic about being with you by talking a lot, just like when two of you were an item, but he also doesn't want to push you away by saying no to the friendship. So give him time and as you said it yourself ask him. It could turn out to be something totally different.
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This is for the ladies to answer, or the guys if you can answer.
Right now I'm working on a new film short and my make-up artist is out of town and the others are already taken. SO ladies my lead actress has a light pimp (acne problem), and well I have but no choice to do the make up myself and I also have to buy the stuff in which I know nothing about.
So here is the question. What type or types of make up can cover her little problem and make her face look extremely smooth? Or anything that will allow hger to glow, what do you suggest.
Thank you and I appreciate your help im my little delema!
Chris
Cspinoza1 fellow Advicenator (link)
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Hi, I'm no make up artist so I can only tell you what I know. A concealer is a good option and to cover up a red spot, look for a more yellow based concealer, because it does a better job in hiding the redness. It also helps to get a good foundation, preferably an oil free one to avoid further break outs. But it's vital that you get the right shade for your lead actress's skin. So when you go shopping for the make up, take her with you. And always test the colour outside in bright day light. Artificial lights in department stores or shops are no good. Simply ask for assistance when you are in a shop and request if your lead actress can try on a couple of shades, go outside with a mirror and the one that disappears in the day light is the right shade. Anyway, they'll be able to help you more with the right products.
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what do you do when your best friend's boyfriend calles you instead of her. (link)
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Well, it all depends on the situation and his intention. Is he calling you as a friend for a chat? After all you are his girlfriend's best friend. But if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you should let him know even if it's an innocent chat between two good friends. Also whenever he calls you tell your best friend about. Then you won't have to feel like you're going behind her back.
Or does he want more? Has he hinted or even actually said he wants to be with you instead of your best friend? If so, then seriously think about where your loyalty lies. You may even like him a lot yourself, but is it worth sacrificing your freindship with your best friend for? Remember best friends are hard to find. Some never even find one in their life time. Whatever the case, honesty really is the best policy. Do not do anything behind anyone's back even if it seems like a good idea. Lies will always catch up with you.
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will jumping on a big trampoline help me to lose weight????
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Any exercise that raises your heart beat, such as running, aerobics or trampolining will burn off calories. But to lose weight you also need to think about what you eat because if you eat more calories than your body uses, you will obviously put on weight. So, for example if you are a woman, your body is said to use around 2000 calories daily just to keep you alive. So to lose weight, you will need to eat less than 2000 calories a day. You can be doing all the jumping on a trampoline in the world but your weight will stay the same, if you keep eating unhealthy, high calorie foods. I don't know how old you are, but unless you are seriously overweight or obese, I would not worry about losing weight. Just eat healthily (include many fruits and vegetables in your meals and avoid fast and junk food)and do moderate exercises 3 to 5 times a week. It's more important to think about your health than simply losing weight.
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Sometimes everything in life seems great.
And five minutes later, it all falls down.
Lately, fewer things seem great and there doesn't seem anywhere to turn to, to escape it all.
I'm starting to drink more often than usual, and cutting my arms so that I become so dizzy that I forget about all my problems.
Some of my friends have called me depressed, but I don't think it's true. I just can't seem to feel any happiness in anything I do anymore.
Is there anything wrong with me?
I'm 15 and a female, in grade 10. (link)
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One of the symptoms of depression is losing interest or not having a desire to do anything. So it definitely sounds like you're suffering from depression. But drinking or self harming is absolutely NOT the way out. It will only make things worse. As you get more and more used to the pain of cutting your arms or getting high on drinks, you will only end up wanting to increase the amount of cutting or drinking to get the same level of sensation. So, stop right now and try to work out what would have to change in the environment to make you no longer feel like hurting yourself. Develop healthy, new ways of coping. TALK to someone about how you feel. You cannot deal with this on your own. You're not alone in feeling life is pointless and certainly you're not alone when it comes to turning to drink or self harm to null the pain. So the help is out there. Your problems may seem too huge to overcome right now, but you will.
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i have a child who is 6 years old and he has a fit of bad behaviour if i say he cant go out he smashs up my home he has learning problems i have taken him to the cam clinic and doctors but they say nothing is wrong with him as he was well behaived while in there rooms buit i need some adivce as i do think there is a problem (link)
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Even though your child has learning problems, it sounds like he is quite clever as he is suddenly well behaved during trips to the doctors etc. I think he knows that doctors, nurses etc. represent an authority figure therefore he becomes quiet. So you need to be more firm with him showing him that you are in charge and that he needs to respect you as his mother. Let NO mean NO and even if your son smashes up your home, don't give in. In time, he will learn to behave when he realises he can't get what he wants by lashing out. It may also be helpful to give him the reason why he can't go out or do certain things rather than telling him. You can still try a different doctor if you want a professional opinion. It could be a good idea to film your son when he is having bad moments, then you can show that to your doctor as a proof.
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Is there anyway I could get a bigger butt? (certain foods I must eat or exercises I must do?) (link)
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Sorry, I don't know what you can eat, drink or do to make your butt bigger. But what I want to know is why on earth do you want a bigger butt in the first place?!? I'm guessing you're a girl, but most women want their butt nice and small. We all tend to want what we don't have and if we're always striving for that perfect body, we'll never stop. I wish my legs were longer and many other things!! Believe me the beauty is really in the eyes of the beholder. For example some people find Gwyneth Paltrow attractive, but others think she's too skinny. Some like Jennifer Lopez with her big butt! But others don't agree. So I say stick with what you've got!
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I am 13 going on 14 and only 5'2 . I am tired of wearing super high heels as my mum hates it when i do this , and on top of that , my crush is about 5'11 !!! . Thats like , 9 whole inches taller than me .Which means that I only reach up till his shoulder , not wearing heels .
( He's 14 going on 15 ) Do you think that i am too short for him ? How can i grow taller ?? ( I know it seems impossible to MAKE myself grow taller , but any special diet suggestions ? ) (link)
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There is no magic cure for anything let alone our height. If there were, everyone would be at their ideal height. It's mostly genetics, if you have tall parents, you'll naturally be tall as well. Playing sports or taking calcium is known to help people grow taller but there's no gurantee. Anyway, you can never be too short for anyone. You're worried about nothing. Look at Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith! She is 5' and he is 6'4!!
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