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HOW CAN I HELP MY FRIEND
MY FRIEND ALISA IS A 34 YEAR OLD SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 YOUNG GIRLS. ALISA HAS BEEN GOING DOWN HILL FOR SOME TIME NOW, HER HOUSE IS ALWAYS DIRTY AND SHE SPENDS MOST OF HER TIME LOCK INSIDE HER BATHROOM
SMOKING CRANK. 3 WEEKS AGO SHE GOT A VISIT FROM CPS AND THEY GAVE HER A DRUG TEST - SHE FAILED SO HER CHILDREN WERE SENT TO LIVE WITH ALISA'S DAD AND STEP MOM UNTILL SHE CAN GET ENROLLED INTO A YEAR LONG REHAB PROGRAM. THE PROBLEM IS SHE NOW HAS THE FREEDOM TO RUN THE STREETS WITH OUT DRAGGING HER KIDS ALONG - THATS ALWAYS EASYER TO DO. SHE HASN'T EVEN TRIED TO FIND A PROGRAM YET AND WHEN I ASK HER ANYTHING ABOUT HER PLANS SHE SAYS SHE DOSN'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH DRUGS AND DOSN'T FEEL SHE NEEDS REHAB. SHE SAYS SHE LOVES HER GIRLS AND THAT SHE WILL GO JUST BECAUSE SHE'LL NEVER GET THE KIDS BACK IF SHE DOSN'T.
EVERY WEEK FOR 3 WEEKS SHE HAS PROMISED THAT COME NEXT MONDAY SHE'LL TRUN HER SELF IN TO A CENTER - YET SHE IS STILL NOT THERE.
I'M SO VERY DISAPPOINTED IN HER , IF SHE DECIDES TO JUST LET THE KIDS GO AND STAYS IN THE SHAPE SHE IS IN RIGHT NOW THEN I WANT NOTHING MORE TO DO WITH HER !
WHAT DO YOU THINK I COULD DO TO HELP HER MAKE A WISE DECISION ?
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Well just let her take the time to realize what she is into.. let her know that it will be hard.. but she has to for her kids... but even still she still has to make the choice.. hopefully she is a good enough person to get the right thing done.. talk to her.. and help make plans to get her some help... in the end she will respect u for it.. GOOD LUCK
KYLE
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She has to admit there's a problem. She has to WANT to give up the drugs. Doing it solely to get her kids back won't work because the root of the problem will still be there.
Adiction is a merciless master. The drugs are her god and the only way she will ever overcome this is to CHOOSE the God that saves. That God is Jesus Christ. Worldly methods can help ease the pain like Tylenol relieves a headache, but only Christ can heal the source of her problem.
To help her make a wise decision, get her a bible and point her to Jesus. If YOU don't know Jesus, read the bible yourself first. Start with the book of John. You will be amazed at it's healing power. My husband overcame alcoholism - hasn't had a drop in years. He chose Jesus and his life was transformed.
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ok i had a friend one time who ws addicted to pills all sorts of pills most of the time she didn't even know what she was takeing and one day she was over and was trying to steel some from me they were vikadin they were perscribed to be for a surgrey i had
well when i saw her trying to steel them i had to practicly fight her for them
that when day i actually punched my friend in the face took the pills away from her and then i called the police so they would take her to the hospital to look at her nose then when she got there i told them to give her a drug test so they did and found out wat she was doing so they told her she can either get help or go to jail and she went to a program for 3 years and got cleaned up
about a week after she got back i got a call from her and she wanted to meet me up at the mall so i went ahead and met her
turned out she wanted to thank me for punching her in the face lol and she thanked me for makeing her go to rehab then she actually gave me a bootle of pills she has stowed away at her house and asked me what she should do with them she then asked should i sell them i said no then u are just puting someone else's life in danger so she gave them to me and told me to do what i thought was best with them so i got up went to the bathroom and flushed them and now she hasn't had a problem since then.
let me know how it goes please?
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Hi, I wish I had a friend like you. You're genuinely concerned and you have her best interest at heart. But at the same time, there's only so much you can do for her. One of the biggest problems for a drug addict is to admit that they have a problem in the first place. Until they're prepared to face the truth, no amount of talking or persuasion will get through to them. So, as frustrating as it sounds, it's not up to you to make things better for her. She needs to work that out for herself. So, don't feel guilty or responsible if she doesn't get her act together. Ultimately it's her choice. But meanwhile, let her know you're there for her but also make it clear that you hate what she's doing to herself and her kids. Keep encouraging her to go to a rehab center. Even if she goes there for wrong reasons, it's better than not going there at all. Most of all don't forget to take care of yourself.
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It sounds to me like she hasn't grasped the reality of the situation. Make her realize she's rsking never seeing her girls again. If she still choses the addiction, then maybe the girls are better off living with their father. The only thing I can thing to do is to have a long talk with her about what's important.
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Man this is a difficult one. Babe really there's nothing you can do. In the end this is her choice. You're doing the right thing now by telling her she should be getting some help, and needs to do something about it. Unfortunatlly, it's ultimatly her desision as to whether she wants to get help or not. The best thing you can do in a time like this is let her know what she's losing and what's going to happen to her if she carrys on the road she's going down. I wouldn't reccomend abandoning her just yet. Yes i'm sure it's difficult to take and you don't want to deal with her anymore, but she needs someone to be there for her. You seem like the type of person she needs to be around.. in ceartain cases I think if you and her family got together you could have a court hearing to force her to go get help, although I think it's just a temporary deal and she can get herself out quickly. But where is her family in this, and what do they have to say about the situation?
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