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dont know what to do with my family pt 2
I was the one who got kicked out and i saw the advice and they said to clean the house and stuff.. well i already do that and they dont apprciate it.I also watch my lil sis 24/7 and they are korean and i dont communicate with them well cuz they dont really lisen or try to understand.I try to understand where they come from but alot of times it doesnt make since.But i have tried talkin to them and they tell me to shut up. so i have no place to talk to them and they are barely ever home.I dont know what to do anymore.
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if you are not korean then why don't you try researching korea. or you could try learning to speak korean.Good Luck!
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It sounds as if you live in an extended family with grandparents and other relatives. The way our grandparents were raised is very different than how we in this generation are raised. Try talking with only your mom or dad, whoever symphathises with you better, or even an older cousin or sibling. They might be able to understand your situation better.
Also, see if you can take your sister along when you visit your friends.
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Hi, it sounds like you're having a hard time with your parents. It's good that you've tried to understand where they're coming from, because remember, your parents are also humans with feelings like yours. They might be feeling very insecure about bringing you up in US, instead of Korea. Most likely their beliefs and their way of thinking clash with yours simply because of cultural differences. So when you want to go out and have fun, your parents might just see that as a bad influence and worry about losing you. Why don't you try to take a personal interest in your parents? Ask them about their work, hobbies, favorite films etc. and if possible do simple things together (such as go food shopping with them), rather than you doing something for them or vice versa. Once your parents know that you're interested in and aware of the reasons for some of their feelings, chances are they’ll try to be more aware of yours. Write them a letter if they're always out. Don't assume they know how you feel. Communicate your feelings and explain why you want to do certain things. But never accuse them or blame them. Reassure your parents that you're not going off the rails. It will definitely take time for your parents to accept that you're growing up. But hang in there. They will come around.
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