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a room of her own
hi there- this probably has little in the way to do with relationships, per se, at least of the interpersonal sort, but it has everything to do with work and study. i'm in a bit of a panic... could use some advice on a living situation.
thanks for reading! if you get this twice (if no one replies), i'm sorry :).
i am a med student, so peace and quiet are nice things. pleasant surroundings also important for those few, precious moments at home. i moved into a GORGEOUS loft-style apt in a cool up-and-coming revitalizing-itself kinda neighborhood. my apt has a claw-foot tub, skylights that open to the fall new england air, stainless steel apps and the most gorgeous hardwoods you will ever see. problem is: my house was sold/bought during my lease, and the new owners are pushing a lot of construction through on the 1st fl. they claim it's nearly over, and i will be starting surgery soon (hence not at home as often to bothered by it, maybe..?). but i don't know whether to move or not. i found a new loft-style apt, and it has tons of charm, character, and the building is lovely and well-maintenanced. but it is not the same. the neighborhood is also not as cool, although, it is nice enough. i have to make a decision as i am trying to study for a major licensing exam, and i have allowed this to gnaw away at me. i am at the point of screaming or tearing my hair out with all the various stresses. any thoughts? much appreciated, sorry for the length. thanks!
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Hi, I’m sorry you have to put up with so much noise and distraction, when being a med student is stressful enough.
Your apartment sounds absolutely fantastic and I can see why you can’t find anything else like it. But I think you need to put the whole situation into perspective and look at it in a long term, because at the moment you’re just focusing on the present. So, think of your future. What is your ultimate goal? Is it to become a doctor, surgeon or nurse? If yes, then you have to concentrate on what you need to do to achieve that goal. Right now clearly the whole situation is getting to you and sounds like you’ve reached the breaking point. So, it will most likely affect the way you study and perform during your exams. You’re carrying unnecessary stress and tension which are taking you away from your goal.
I think your future is more important than living in a perfect place at this moment in time. There will be plenty of time for that when you’re established.
I know the other apt is not the same, I know it’s the second best for you, but as you’ve said it’s nice enough isn’t it. So, think calmly about whether you can compromise on the style, design or the location of your apt, or whether you can ‘grin and bear’ the construction at least till the end of your exams. Also remember that if you decide to move, that itself might create added disruption to your study routine. Is it possible to go to someone else’s house for some peace and quiet for awhile till the work done to your house is over? Whatever you decide to do, you have to be comfortable with it. Besides, life is supposed to be difficult! And one day, in 10 years from now you’ll be laughing and reminiscing about these ‘good old student days’. So keep your sense of humor and you’ll be fine.
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