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i just can't seem to let him go!
in 5th grade i moved up north. and i met this boy named mark, who happened to be my neighbor. the first time i saw him, i had a crush on him. i mean im a girl who never even thought about boys, until i saw him. i found out later he liked me and we went out in 6th grade-- for 9 months, then i broke up with him because he never talked to me like he used to. and he understood where i was coming from, and yet we still liked each other-- a lot. in 7th grade, we went out, and then his friend came riding around the block saying that he didn't want to go out with me. the same year, i decided to give him another chance, but he dumped me again. then there i was sitting there with a broken heart. and i promised myself as well as my best friend that i would never ever go out with him again. well soon enough, in 8th grade, i gave him another chance, i thought he would change-- but he didn't. we went out for about 3-4 months. i was at my neighbor's house, and i found out he liked lisa behind my back. i found this conversation at his house, and it was all this perverted crap with her. i was furious. so of course we broke up-- again. this time was different, we didn't talk for about 3 months. then slowly we started becoming friends again, and 5 more months after that we got closer and i kissed him. and we also cuddled a lot. all my feelings started rushing back. i mean he was the first guy i ever liked, and cared about. a few days later he asked me out-- and i had the guts to say no. it hurt me so bad, because i liked him soo much, but i couldn't stand getting another heart break. that night i found out he started telling people he liked my best friend. my bestfriend & i both knew that he was just trying to get revenge on me because i turned him down. and later we found out that it was all just an act. he was mad at me for awhile, and i didn't blame him for being mad because i would be too. and then we became close friends again, and just recently we have became friends with benefits. he likes this other girl(lets call her *A*). and me too. but A would never go out with him. but now i regret saying no to him, because he is telling people that he will never ask me out again because i rejected him. but i really do like him, im just scared to get hurt again. do you think i should just forget him-- cuz highschool is next year(remember i have to see him everyday of summer because he is my neighbor and friends with my brother). should i give him one last chance? i really need your opinion on this. i have been confused for years, and i just can't seem to let him go. do you have any tips? anything would help at this point.
-confused
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You've gave him so many chances, and yet he keeps breaking your heart. I honestly don't think he's going to change. Saying no was a good thing, it brought out the real person, him trying to get revenge on you is just pure immature.
You are starting highschool next year, it'll open new doors for you. Maybe you'll find another guy who will make you happy and wont keep breaking your heart. Just remember you deserve to be happy!
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Thiz iz a toughie! OK, first, talk to him. Ask him if he's into you, or just come right out and say you stll like him. Maybe he likes you,too. If so, tell him what you need out of a realationship, and ask him what he needs. Righht it down on a piece of paper and have both of you sighn it. Then, go through the normal dating sceene thang. If more than 2 of you needs were not fufillied, maybe friends is enough.
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DEAR BROKEN HEART
I KNOW THAT THIS MIGHT NOT BE THE THING YOU WANT TO HEAR BUT I THINK YOU SHOULD DUMP HIS BEHIND. WHAT I HAVE CONCLUDED FROM WHAT YOU WROTE IS THIS GUY IS A LIENG CONIEVING LITTLE PERSON. I KNOW YOU HAVE KNOWN HIM FOR A LONG TIME BUT IN THAT TIME HE HAS DISSED YOU TIME AFTER TIME.
SINCERLY:ADVICE GIVER
P.S EMAIL ME TO TELL ME WHAT HAPPENED OR IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO CONVERSE WITH.
dawms2@hotmail.com
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Phew, long question! lol. Well, first off, he probably didn't talk to you when you guys were about to break up because he was bercous/shy. Also how do you know his friend was telling the truth? Also maybe he wasn't trying to get revenge on you. I think you both need to leave your friends out of this and discuss things. Let him know what you feel. I'm guessing you're confused right now. Tell him you don't want to be hurt again, and give him a chance to explain. Take tihngs from there. He might even be pretending to like A to make you jealous! (I know, guys are weird.) Don't obsess over him, and distract yourself if things don't work out. (A day of chocolates, Kleenex, sleeping, and movies usually works.) Good luck!
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Hi there, what a history you've got with this boy! I am going to be very honest and frank, so it may not be what you want to hear. But here it goes. The answer to your question "do you think I should forget him?" is a big YES. First of all, from what you've said, you already gave him all the chances under the sun as it is and he blew it every time. He does not deserve another chance. Just count the number of times you've been out with this boy and the number of times you’ve been heart broken! Statistics alone are against you! Secondly, he does not sound like a very nice person. As you've said it yourself, he told people he liked your best friend just to get even. Now, it does not matter if he'd meant it or not. The fact remains that he was prepared to put you through all that, just so he could feel better about himself. And that sounds like a very selfish person. He may have been very mad, but if he really cared about you, the way you care about him, he would not have even thought about getting revenge. If it were the other way round, and he rejected you, would you tell people anything to hurt him? I don't think you would, because you like and respect him as a person. So, isn't it clear that he hasn't treated you fairly and with proper respect you deserve? The only things he cares about are his ego and pride. His ego has been dented because you said no to him and he just doesn't like it. He is probably used to getting things his way. He needs a lot of growing up to do and he's not mature enough for you. I'm sure you really like him and I'm sure he may seem like the perfect guy, but it's time to move on. It's not true that you can't let him go. The simple truth is, you're holding on to him because you choose to. No one is forcing you to do anything. So, it's up to you now to make that choice. You're in control.
Remember when two people are meant for each other, you won't be confused, you'll know. So there's another sign you should think about.
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Well, you seem confused and I don't blame you. I don't think you should just forget him compteletly, but maybe move on for a change. You have been with him and constantly gotten your heart broken and that't not fair to you. I think you should go to highschool with a fresh new look on guys and ya ofcourse you can keep him in mind because I can tell you still think about him and that's ok. But if I were you, I'd give him a little break and tghink about some other guys. Don't totally ignore him, but you show him you are a changed person. Good luck with this one and tell me how things go!
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I know how u feel it happened to me with this guy named peter and know he likes my friend thats just say {M} There r other fish in the sea and u r going to high school and u can meet someone nice there and the guy u r likeing is obviously never going to change so wait for high school.
hope u like my advise,
oblvr10
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confused is rite lol well if he was the first boy you ever liked and all that stuff hapend between you two yall have defenitly been through alot sence you said no to him and if he did truely like you at the time he asked you back out then he prolly felt as you did a hurt heart because he was rejected but sence you are "friends with benifits" and he likes this other girl that seems to want nothing to do with him if you like him and thank you could trust him again with out him screwing up just remember every one makes mistakes if you like him you should forgive him for what he has done in the past and give it a shot ask him back out or something try to make thangs work but llike i said forgive you may forgive him but you will never forget the pain he put you through its pretty good that you are his neighbor you know keep a close watch on him lol i hope every thing works out for the best between you to <3 all my love
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What I would do is give him one last chance...sure they say third time's a charm...but looks like that didnt' work with you. What I would do is give him one last chance...be the best you could be to him but don't be controlling. Show him how much you care about him. If he hurts you again--Don't let it show. Make him think that it's nothing to you. Soon he will find out what he is doing is stupid and childish and he will stop.
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You deffinatley need to let him go. He broke up with you 4 or 5 times in 4 years. It will be hard to say no to him during the summer because he will be right there. Try to find someone else. Or, make a list of all the bad things he's done to break your heart. Put this list somewhere you will always see it. When you feel yourself starting to like him again, read the list, and you will remember what a jerk he is. Then eat some chocolate. It always works.
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