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i wanted an advice regarding an adolescence problem i have to work and study a lot ,in my proffesion and i am good at my work, but once in 10 -15 days when i feel stressed,or irritated,because i couid not perform well,as i expected to,and get tired of work,i tend to masturbate even though uptill now i have never been attracted to such things , i have never kept any porn magazines never been affected much by so much bad stuff around in t.v. p.c.etc.nowdays once in 15 days on feeling stressed,iwould watch porn sites on my p.c.,ftv..i am 26 yrs old, have many friends ,both girls and boys,have never indulged in looose talk about girls with my friends,and i like girls if they are good natured ,nice and polite to others,respect their elders,i do get attracted if i see a charming face or a person who loves to smile,but have faith in destiny and dont feel restless now if i could not get to know her ...i really want to know that is it normal that i do this in 10-15 days .whatever i read in papers and hear from my friends i feel that i should not feel so bad as i do ,once i masturbate than for 1-2 days i cannot study as i feel low and feel hesitant to talk to others, to my friends, i have talked about this to my parents and they say that at this age certain thoughts are normal,but than i feel bad that if they were to see me behaving like this than they would feel very hurt,in religious books it is written that it is sinful,but when nowdays i read in papers and listen to my friends when they talk amongst each other i feel that i am better off and that even girls tend to masturbate as dont speak about it. i had been abused as a child and in my teens i would masturbate once in 6months or 3months,earlier i used to keep 1-2 magazines of seminude women butthan i threw them away but nowafter every 15 days,i tend to do it on being stressed, it is not that suddenly i feel attracted to nude girls it is just that when i do it i am irritated inside about not performing well ,could have worked harder,and by this way, knowing that it is not right to behave this way, i do it to relieve the stress,my feelings for a girl does not change and i respect them for their actions,rather than the appearance i look at the soul than the body ,even though girls nowdays are not as simple as earlier . i will be grateful if you could advice me on this as uptill now i did not know whom to talk too and carry a huge burden,i will be grateful if both man and specially a woman can advice me on this ,as i would get to know that is this normal or abnormal and really a bad thing, and i would also get to know a ladies perspective ,and also if i can get to know from girls and boys from my age but would prefer a mature man or a woman advicing me on this and whether am i being a hypocrite in front of others,whatever is in my heart i speak so when i behave like this,i feel hesitant to talk to others and wonder whether the boys and girls of my age and my batchmates also do such things and if they do, howcome it doesnot effect them i stay in india have lots of respect for my culture,i am the only child,dont talk to my friends about these things,they also know my nature and they respect me for that. i am a doc dont have any other bad habits dont smoke dont drink .would be grateful if you could advice me as i will be able to perform better in my work and a huge burden of doing such a thing and feeling low for 1-2 days would not be there in my head...thankingyou.....sorry
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hey there. What your doing is not bad at all. More than likely everyone you know masturbates. It is not a bad thing at all. Stop feeling guilty, i masturbate and i am proud of it. It makes me feel good, relieves stress and when i am with a partner i know what i like better because i have touched myself, so i can tell me partner what is good and bad. If you only masturbate while stressed that is a problem. This might sound crazy but try masturbating more often. This might actually relieve the stress that you have, and then you won't feel like you only do "it" when there is a problem at work. Engage in adult movies or pictures online, there is nothing wrong with that. Especially for someone your age. And above all Do Not Feel Guilty!!! It is not a problem, you are not wierd, dirty, or going to hell becuase of it. Enjoy having that personal time.
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Most guys do this, though some may not admit it. You sound perfectly normal. It sounds like your being too hard on yourself, I'm guessing it's because of the stress. And it does affect people your age, they just do a good job hiding it. Since this bothers you so much, maybe you should find a different means of dealing with stress. Maybe get a massage once a week, or every other week, or something along those lines. I hope you can stop feeling low, and start feeling better about yourself. You good person, and your concern proves it. Some wouldn't even give it a second thought.
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