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How can I tell him? And do I really like him?
There is this boy... lets call him Andy! I really like Andy... but how can I tell him again? I went out with him before because he liked me... but that was only for a day! He has a girlfriend that is like really nice to me and I dont want to break them up... And I dont want his girlfriend to get mad at me and not want to talk to me ever again! I know they love eachother because on their shirts his girlfriend wrote I love Andy and Andy wrote I love (his girlfriend) Just because i am afraid to talk to him does that mean i dont like him? Whenever i talk to him i talk all like flirty but i dont know if we have anything. I really dont want to break him and his girlfriend up but IIIIIII really like him.... I think.... :(....... AHH HELP!!!!
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First of all, you need to figure out if you like him or not. Be honest to yourself, and really think hard about it. But until you figure it out, there is no sense in kiling yourself over him. He's obviously happy about his relationship at the moment, so you should just wait. But don't get too worked up over it. Things will get better over time. If you really like him, you'll let him be, because you should be happy that he's in love and that he's having a good time. No matter how much you might like this guy, you should be happy for him. Hopefully, he'll notice that you care about him so much. And try to be friends with him. He needs at least some sort of hint that you're interested, even if he is already taken.
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Firstly, it's obvious that if these two love-birds are writing "I Love Whoevuh" on their shirts then you are all very young. At the age your at it's very tempting to tell yourself that you KNOW what love is. I hate to sound like your mom by telling you this, but they aren't in love. So, just amend your thinking to say that they like each other.
If your afraid to talk to a guy you like then that means you are 100% normal. It's tough to talk to someone you like because your so afraid to say something dumb. You'll spend a good portion of the next few years of your life figuring out how NOT to sound stupid when you talk to someone you like. And if your normal, your fail A LOT! The best thing to do is remember to be yourself and if you say something dumb so has the guy your talking to, at some time or another.
You have ask yourself what you value more. Do you want to be friends with him and his girlfriend, or do you want to be with him more? On top of that, do you REALLY like him, or do you just find him more attractive because he's with someone else?
If you decide to take him aside one day and tell him how you feel the worst that could happen is he'll tell that he doesn't feel the same way. It'll hurt at first but you'll find youself getting over him so much faster and in the long run you'll feel better.
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Lol, yes, my dear....you do like him. But the problem is not how do you tell him. The problem is, how do you learn to live with not being able to tell him. You say that he's in a relationship at the moment. From your description,it also sounds as if it's going well. Further, you let on that you care a great deal about both parties, you don't want the friend to not like you, and you don't want to break them up. So, why again is it that you want to tell him that you still like him? I think you already knew the answer to this before you asked. I know it's hard, but the best thing you can do right now is be a good friend to them , and if something should happen outside of your control and they DO break up, then you can tell him, when the time is right. Your fear of talking to him doesn't mean you don't like him, in fact it means just the opposite.. you like him a lot. And you know what's going on in your mind and heart, and don't really trust yourself around him. You'll be ok. I'm sure of it.
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Well you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you are dropping hints maybe hes already got it you just dont know. And maybe he hasnt told you because he doesnt want his girlfriend to hear and misinterpret it. Maybe if you call him or pull him aside and ask if he still likes you. That might answer your question. If you dont want to break them up then act friendly and only friendly. Dont drop huge hints like touchy feely. That will really tick off his girlfriend. If you get along with her try starting a conversation with her about him. Become her confidont and then you will find out how she really feels about him and if she likes someone else. You said you think you like him if you are not sure dont put their life through hell and then realize you dont like him. The only thing left to say is follow your heart and then do what it tells you to do.
Hope this helps
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You need some time to get over him. Distract yourself by doing things with friends and just not thinking of him. If you do, think about how crazy he is to not like you. Think of him like Orlando Bloom- hot, but unattainable. Then get over it. No more flirting! That's just plain mean. If you feel like you're completely over him at some point, go ahead and be friends. Until the, hands off. GOod luck!
-Kristen
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I would just stay friends with them. They sound like they got a good thing going. There's no harm in being flirtatious, but don't overdo it. Especially if you're not sure of your feelings. If they can't work it out and break up in the future, then you should find out how you feel about each other.
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