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okay see im 14 and i been hooking up wit this kid whos 18 and we always do things like he fingers me alot and he popped my cherry but i kno that we can neverr really be a couple because of our age difference but i dont really dont care i like doing things with him soo i jus continue to do itt .. is thatt badd???

That's bad.

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i'm not really asking too much for advice, but more of an opinion and what you think. so heres my story (17f&17m):

i dated this guy for 8 months and we broke up the last week of april...he said he doesn't have the same feelings for me. however, we went to prom together and i was laying on this guy cause i wasn't feeling good and he was off doing his own thing...and he got upset at me for that...we both decided that itd be best for us not to talk until summer starts (which is in like a month from now) then he wants to start hanging out again as friends and he said "if its meant to be, it'll be". we started going out during the summer of last year and i was thinking of doing something cute when we hang out to realize why he fell for me last summer. i really love this kid and he treats me right. so what do you think i should do with this whole situation..is there anything that can boost our chances of getting back together?

oh and should i text him first when school ends? and how long should i wait? or should i let him text me?

There's nothing you can really do that will magically make him have the same feelings for you, assuming he doesn't still have them. I would have a hard time hanging out as friends with a girl I dated for 8 months :/ if I didn't still have some feelings.

When school ends, you should text them. Your lives aren't meant to be played as mind games; if you want to hang out, text him. Guys usually don't fool around with reading into such tiny things, unlike a certain gender I know.

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Alright, ill just cut this short and get to the point:

Well i am 15 years old, my boyfriends 15 years old. We both go to the same school. Started going out about 7 months ago + have been since then. We have one of the best fricken relationships i have ever witnessed in my life. I do NOT know what i would be like without him in my life. I love him with all my heart, so much that no one can understand that except me + him. But i have been grounded and havent gotten to see him on the weekends at all for about 3 months now. (Except i see him at school, but still) And usually if that happened with someone else, they would have broken up with me cause they cant wait for me to be ungrounded. But him, no, he has been with me through this all and has stuck with me through it, and still loves me and acts like he always does. And it just makes me so fricken happy that hes like that. Cause of him, i am able to trust people more, and i dont know..i just get this wierd feeling thinking about him all the time..but a good wierd ;) And it feels SO good to know that he loves me and that i have nothing to worry about with him, cause i havent been with him on the weekends cause i usually always am. But in the past, my ex-boyfriends have cheated on me, lied to me, and almost every bad thing you could think of. And thats where i got my trust to dwindle down to almost nothing. So when i met him, (Dominick) I thought this would all happen again and i didnt trust him AT ALL. But once a week or so into our relationship, i got a big wake up call; I realized that he was the only one i could trust and that he was just the right one for me. It was so wierd though, cause i just got this really good feeling and i just realized all this. It was actually kind of cool if you ask me. Like i realized that he was the one i want to spend the rest of my life with + i just love him SO MUCH! But yeah, my real question is..would you call this love? I KNOW im in love but i just wanted some opinoins out there.
Thanks for taking your time to read this + sorry for the length. But thanks ahead of time!

No.

Him not dumping you just because he can't see you on weekdays isn't gentlemanly, it just shows you've been dating your fair share of assholes.

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ok i have these to friends a and b there both guys there fighting over this 1 girl (c) and a)wants to fight b) a) drew this picture of himself and b) b was on the floor and a was up in the air with his fist up punching b then above a it said die he handed to 1 of his friends d and d showed me i took it from d and folded it up and put it in my pocket i then took it to the princeipl do u think that was a good idea

Reword this with names instead of letters, I feel like I'm taking my SATs again.

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like when a guy fancies you, do his pupils get bigger? and is it ALWAYS like that ? cause like im scared this guy doesnt like me cause his pupils stayed small :/ but we werent really that near, there was like 4 feet between us. :/

Doesn't mean anything.

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why do guys like to give anal sex. I know that most girls don't like it but most guys insist on it. I dont understand why though, just the thought of it to me is gross for both parties...so if any guys could answer this question for me...thanks then

I find it disgusting.

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basically i have met a guy that i really like, and really likes me, and i am sure that we will be dating soon. thing is i am a virgin and i know he isn't. he doesnt know this, will he care if i am?

No.

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Is it possible for a girl to have more than one orgasm within a short period of time?

Yea, but positive thinking won't do shit. It's completely biological.

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after my boyfriend stuck it in my butt. nasty creamy white liquid came pouring out my anus.
IM SCARED AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! HELPPPP!

SOS!

This is the greatest question I've ever seen. Ever.

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Can someone please make me a DIV MYSPACE LAYOUT?

I have a picture of what I would like it to look like
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=21erbt5&s=5
Where it says 'Any random picture I want'
That is supossed to be for the box LEXT to that one (The one with the scribbled out word in it)
I accidently typed that there and paint wouldnt let me change it

I typed out the words I'd like written incase my handwritting wasnt readable

I would like the background to be BLACK
With purple, pink, and lime random colors in it
Make my text white please

I'll rate a FIVE once I get the layout

THANKYOUU

How about first the five, then the layout?

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My aunt recently emailed me to ask me if I would pay her monthly house payment as she and her husband have had a difficult year financially. She works in a factory and her husband is a truck driver. Both have had their hours/pay cut due to the recent economy. However, they live in a rather nice home that they built 10 years ago, so I'm sure the house payments are quite high. Twenty years ago, she borrowed money from my mom and never paid it back. This has been a point of contention ever since. I have the money to help, and I know it's the right thing to do, but why do I feel as if I'll never see this money again? Should I give in and give her the money?

No.

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So I'm 15, and pregnant. My mom says I can't keep the baby. She wants me to get an abortion, and at the most an adoption. But I couldn't bring myself to do either. She doesn't want me to keep it! What can I do?
I know it will be hard, and I don't have a job, but before it is born I will be old enough to get a job, and so will my very supporting boyfriend. It's tough, but I have supporting friends, a supporting family, and a supporting boyfriend. But she doesn't want me to have it :( what can I do? What can I tell her?

Mother knows best.

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anyone know what a 17 year old, going into senior year should do this summer?

something that willappear good on my college resume.

Camp counselor it up. Endless material for your essays.

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15/f
Well, like every night now I'll have a sex dream with my crush... I can't stop thinking about it... That dream worried me to because I had gotten pregnant... How should I deal with this? Is it normal? Is there a meaning to it?

Really you should count yourself lucky.

EDIT:

Thank you for totally taking my answer the wrong way. Congratulations.

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where can a 13 year old boy get a job at

The future.

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okay, so my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex yesterday ( i don't need anyone to lecture me about it, i know it's not a good idea) anyways when he pulled out this almost clear liquid came out and we don't really know where it came from, he said it wasnt him....but does male and female cum look the same?

The consistency and color of precum is different from guy to guy, but it's very similar to female cum, yea. If it makes you feel warm inside, maybe it was a mixture of your bodily fluids representing your love and future descendants.

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Ive been in this relationship for over 1 year now, but we never have sex, we never kiss with ne tounge action we never cuddle or do nething like that we argue over stupid things and we now have a baby boy. i dont wanna have to stay with him bcuz of our son or bcuz i feel bad but im just not happy. Hes not abusive in ne way physically or mentally but something just isnt right i need help?

Marriage counseling woohoo!

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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?

Adoption woohoo!

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I just want a second opinion on this.

I'm about to go off to college, so I am trying to not get too attached to my boyfriend of 2 months whom I will inevitably have to break up with some time soon. Anyways, we fool around a lot and sometimes he sticks his penis like halfway inside of me, and he doesn't move it, and I don't let it go in all the way. I still consider myself a virgin, because I think that sex is more physically and emotionally than having a penis half way inside of you. I don't consider what we do to be sex. And I still consider myself a virgin, even though he accidentally popped my cherry once by fingering me. Does anyone agree or disagree?

I just don't think I'm ready to be not a virgin, or to have sex with him, given I won't be able to be with him much longer.

Dick in vagina at all = virginity go bye bye.

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