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Ugh...
Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
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I see you have a lot on your minds right now. Our prayers are with you. My husband and myself have been married 15 years. We would feel so blessed with the opportunity to raise your baby and be parents. I can not have children due to a hysterectomy. You could take a unfortunate event and turn it into a blessing. We are good people. We have good criminal checks and child care clearances. We have a comfortable home and live near a great school. Unfortunately we do not have the $25,000 + dollars for agency adoption. We can provide everyday living expenses and lots of love. Because we do not have huge savings we may never be able to be parents. If we found someone such as yourself who would take the time to get to know us and see that we would make wonderful parents. Then we would be able to pay all legal expenses for an independent adoption. We could even keep in touch should you want after the adoption. If you'd like to know more email flowerchild4ever72@yahoo.com Thanks for taking the time to read this:-)
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It's your option so do what you want. I would say giving it up for adoption is a better option,if you don't have the finanical stability. He's not the one giving birth, you are. In the future use a form of birth control.
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Adoption. 9 months is enough time to find a good family for the kid, and if you aren't in a position to raise a child, thats the best thing you can do for them. There are thousands of couples looking for children who can't have kids but have the means to support them. Giving your kids to an established couple with a stable base is one of the greatest gifts you could give. Its a tough personal sacrifice, but in 20 years you should be able to look back and know you made the best choice possible in the situation.
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What i would do is have the baby, give it a name, and put it up for adoption. It may not be right, but if you don't believe in abortion, that's the next best thing.
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Adoption woohoo!
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You have other options. If you don't want to get an abortion, you don't have to. Don't let him pressure you into something like that. Check into adoption. Find out everything you need to do to put the baby up for adoption. Then take care of yourself. Even though it was your responsibility to be careful, as well as his, I'm sorry this happened to you.
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If your mature enough to have sex you should be mature enough to deal with a baby. And if you are not mature enough to deal with a baby, but are having sex anyway,at least take the proper precautions so that you dont get pregnant.
Do not get an abortion. If your not responsible enough to keep the baby, at least be responsible enough to carry it to term and adopt it to a loving family who IS responsible enough to care for the baby.
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Honey,
If you don't believe in abortion, then you should not let anyone pressure you into having one. You'll feel worse later. But please consider adoption. That would be the best thing for the child, and for you. Because if you are not ready, taking care of a little baby is a lot of work, and it sound like you'll be on your own. Doing all that work, and you life as you know it will be over.
There are families looking for unborn babies that will help and support you throughout the pregnancy. Please consider adoption.
Then please take precautions to prevent pregnancy again. And if your boyfriend is not on board with that, then it would be in your best interest to dump him.
Good luck to you and the baby
- Michele
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Tell him that you dont believe in abortions. It takes 2 people to make a baby so either he has a part in it or not. It sounds like he isnt going to though. Tell him that your keeping the baby. Or you could put it up for adoption but your not for abortions. Dont be afraid to straight up tell him how you feel. Hope i helped =] and if you need anymore advice feel free to go to my column and ask me =]
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Give the baby up for adoption to a loving couple that are financially well off and really want a baby.
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I agree with your decision in not wanting to abort your baby. You should try adoption. There are plenty of good people who would love to have a child but can't.
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Yeah don't have an abortion..lol..um...can you try giving it up for adoption or something?
or maybe if you have some relatives who want a baby...like aunts and uncles that you could give it too...
~Hope I helped!!
*Good Luck!* :)
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