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Still a virgin?
I just want a second opinion on this.
I'm about to go off to college, so I am trying to not get too attached to my boyfriend of 2 months whom I will inevitably have to break up with some time soon. Anyways, we fool around a lot and sometimes he sticks his penis like halfway inside of me, and he doesn't move it, and I don't let it go in all the way. I still consider myself a virgin, because I think that sex is more physically and emotionally than having a penis half way inside of you. I don't consider what we do to be sex. And I still consider myself a virgin, even though he accidentally popped my cherry once by fingering me. Does anyone agree or disagree?
I just don't think I'm ready to be not a virgin, or to have sex with him, given I won't be able to be with him much longer.
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if you love him and he loves you,go ahead and
get married and have kids.But from what i read
you probably will not marry him ,and by the way he is too fast and i guess you dont want a man like that,so go and do what is right!
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It sounds like you're simply afraid of the thought of not being a virgin anymore even though you're not.
Losing your virginity doesn't mean you have to continue to have sexual relations. It doesn't mean that you have to tell anyone that you've lost your virginity either! Sex is personal and you can plead the fifth on anything you feel uncomfortable with (except doctors, who just need to know for health reasons, of course).
Having a penis inside of you--even just a little bit--means you've lost your virginity. Virginity is not an emotional thing. Virginity is actually very physical. Some people argue that if the hymen is intact then the virginity remains--you have no way "out" of this--you have had a penis inside of you (even just a little bit) and you've had your hymen broken.
It's time to deal with the phrase, "No longer a virgin." Like I said, it isn't scary as long as you keep your head on straight. You ARE no longer considered a virgin. If a doctor asked you if you are a virgin and you answered, "Yes," then you would be lying, even if it was unintentional.
Relax.
You've lost your virginity already. Your real answer is, "I'm not sure if I'm ready to CONTINUE having sexual relations with my partner. I am entering a new phase in my life and there seems to be pressure on having more sexual contact than I have been with him. What do you think?"
I think that you're second guessing yourself a lot on this. That coupled with the fact that you are dancing around having lost your virginity means that you probably shouldn't push the sexual contact any further. You sound like you're not ready for what sex fully entails.
Back off of the sexual play and be a teenager. There are plenty of bonding things you and your partner can do that does not involve sexual contact.
So, no...you are no longer a virgin...
but that doesn't mean you have to continue having sexual contact or having more sexual contact than you have been.
Be yourself. Don't give in to what your peers and the media is feeding you. Sex is not all it's cracked up to be anyway.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. Take some alone time and figure out why it's so scary to realize you've already lost your virginity. Lying to yourself doesn't make it come back. I know it can be something to regret but sometimes you have to deal with it and move on in life--no necessarily having more sex, but dealing with what has been done and learning from that experience in a mature manner.
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Honey, you're not a virgin. Your hymen is no longer in tact, and you stick a penis up your vagina once in a while. Honestly, what more do you want? Halfway in..wow. Anyway, I guess it's fine to lie to yourself. Not like you're hurting anyone else.
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Dick in vagina at all = virginity go bye bye.
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I'm sure a lot of people would say you aren't because technically a penis has been inside of you, even if it hasn't been all the way and he hasn't moved it a lot. But I think if you still want the title of being a virgin then it's fine to consider yourself a virgin.
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